The Self Led Woman Podcast: emotional eating and nervous system healing for self-leadership

Megan Darnell
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The Self-Led Woman is a podcast about emotional eating, the experiences that shape our relationship with food, and the path back to self-leadership.These conversations explore emotional eating beneath behaviour, through trauma, the nervous system, nourishment, and lived experience, with deep respect for the intelligence of the body and what it learned to do to keep you going.This is a space for understanding, relief, and reconnecting with your inner world.Hosted by Megan Darnell, Internal Family Systems therapy practitioner and psychedelic-assisted therapy facilitator.

  1. 13 hrs ago

    Episode 40: Comparison, Belonging and Coming Home to Yourself | Part 2

    If you haven't listened to episode 39 yet, start there. This one picks up where that one left off. Last week I talked about comparison as a nervous system response and belonging as a biological need. This week I want to talk about what's actually on the other side of all of that. What it looks like when you stop trying to become someone else and start coming home to yourself. And I'm going to get into some things that might surprise you. Like why getting dressed in the morning is a nervous system practice. Why wearing clothes that don't fit your actual body puts you in a low grade state of tension all day. How colour analysis and a ChatGPT styling thread completely changed the way I shop and get dressed. And what a memory of being ten years old in my grandma's bathroom putting on makeup for the first time has to do with all of it. But underneath all of that is something more important. The difference between dressing, eating, moving, and showing up from a place of shame and urgency versus doing all of those things from a place of clarity and alignment. What it actually feels like to make self-led decisions. And why coming home to yourself isn't about discipline or optimisation or becoming a better version of you. It's just about remembering what was always yours to begin with. The waitlist for Breaking the Emotional Eating Cycle is now open. Women who join before launch receive founding member pricing.

  2. 23 Aug

    Episode 39: Comparison, Belonging and Coming Home to Yourself | Part 1

    Comparison isn't about vanity. It never was. It's about belonging. It's about safety. It's about what your nervous system learned was acceptable, what got praised, what got rejected, and what got mirrored back to you when you were too young to question any of it. In part one of this two part episode, I'm talking about why the drive to fit in, to measure yourself against other women, to shrink or perform or become someone you were never meant to be, is not a character flaw. It's biology. And it goes deeper than most conversations about comparison ever go. I talk about what estrogen actually does to teenage girls and why dressing exactly like your friends was never shallow, the nervous system reason belonging feels like survival because it genuinely was, what happens when that adaptation never gets questioned and follows you into adulthood, why two women can eat the exact same thing and have completely different experiences in their bodies, and what oestrogen decline in later life is actually revealing about the anger that was always there. I also share one of the most profound experiences of my life. A therapeutic MDMA journey in 2022 that took me back through every wound I'd ever carried around my body, my mother, and other women. And what happened the Monday morning after that changed something in me that I don't think will ever go back. Part two comes next week. The waitlist for Breaking the Emotional Eating Cycle is now open. Women who join before launch receive founding member pricing.

  3. 16 Aug

    Episode 38: Why Ignoring Your Cravings Makes Emotional Eating Worse, Not Better

    You wanted the chocolate. You chose the rice cake instead. And an hour later you were still thinking about the chocolate and probably ate more than you would have if you'd just had it in the first place. This episode is about why that keeps happening. Not because you lack discipline, but because of how your brain's seeking system actually works, and what it means when a woman learns, early in life, that her desires aren't something she's allowed to trust. Megan breaks down the neuroscience of cravings and the dopamine seeking system, why food substitutes keep you stuck in the cycle rather than breaking it, how the "good girl" pattern shows up in the way you relate to food and your own desires, and what it actually looks like to reach a place where food just doesn't have that grip anymore. This isn't about eating whatever you want all the time. It's about understanding what's actually underneath the craving and why that changes everything. Ready to do the deeper work? Book a free consultation with Megan here: https://megandarnell.as.me/?appointmentType=69722155 Breaking the Emotional Eating Cycle — Megan's self-paced course — is coming soon. Join the waitlist now and receive founding member pricing. The lowest price it will ever be. https://www.megandarnell.com.au/waitlist

  4. 9 Aug

    Episode 37: Tired of Being Good | Fawning, the Nervous System and Reclaiming Your Body With Kallie Klug

    What if the thing keeping you stuck in your relationship with food, your body, and other people isn't a lack of willpower, but a nervous system response that's been running since childhood? In this episode I sit down with Kallie Klug, certified somatic practitioner, yoga teacher, and author of Tired of Being Good, a nervous system map for reclaiming your body after a lifetime of fawning. Kallie's work sits at the intersection of somatic trauma therapy, the fawn response, and the deeply intelligent ways our bodies learn to keep us safe. We talk about what fawning actually is and why it goes so much deeper than people pleasing, how good girl conditioning physically reshapes the nervous system and the structure of the body, the powerful parallel between fawning and eating disorders and why both require us to learn a new relationship with something we can never fully cut out, what fawning feels like in the body and how to start recognising it in real time, sexual fawning and what it looks like to slowly come back to presence and pleasure, and why the path forward isn't about stopping fawning altogether but about closing the gap, one small moment at a time. This conversation also gets beautifully personal. We talk Taylor Swift, cysts, rage, and what it actually feels like to start letting yourself be seen. Find Kallie: Website and courses: https://stan.store/kalisomatics Instagram and TikTok: @kalisomatics Podcast: Your Own Medicine Podcast  Book: Tired of Being Good available on Amazon The waitlist for Breaking the Emotional Eating Cycle is now open. Women who join before launch receive founding member pricing. Disclaimer: This episode contains discussions around trauma responses, body image, disordered eating, sexual fawning, and nervous system dysregulation. Please engage gently. This podcast is not a substitute for professional support.

    Episode 37: Tired of Being Good | Fawning, the Nervous System and Reclaiming Your Body With Kallie Klug

  5. 2 Aug

    Episode 36: Your Cravings Might Be Older Than You Think - Epigenetics, Ancestral Trauma and Emotional Eating

    What if the urge to reach for food when you're not physically hungry isn't just about today? What if it's older than that — much older? In this episode Megan explores one of the most fascinating and undertalked pieces of the emotional eating conversation. The intelligence your body is carrying that has nothing to do with willpower and everything to do with thousands of years of human survival. She talks about epigenetics — the science of how trauma and experience actually alter the way our genes are expressed — and what that means for the patterns you've been trying to change. Including the remarkable research on Holocaust survivors and what was found in the bodies of their children and grandchildren. She also reframes the moment you find yourself standing at the fridge at 10pm. Not as a failure. Not as a loss of control. But as a smoke alarm going off. A signal from a part of you that has been trying to get your attention for a long time. And she walks you through a simple practice — one breath, one question, one moment of turning toward instead of away — that can begin to change your relationship with that part entirely. Your body is not broken. It is not your enemy. It is the most sophisticated intelligent system you will ever have access to. It's been trying to tell you something. This episode will help you start to hear it. Breaking the Emotional Eating Cycle — Megan's self-paced course — is coming soon. Join the waitlist now and receive founding member pricing. The lowest price it will ever be. You can join the waitlist here

  6. 26 July

    Episode 35: Why Emotional Eating Isn't a Willpower Problem - An Open Letter to Women Who Are Ready to Hear the Truth

    This episode is for every woman who has been trying harder than anyone around her knows — and still can't make it stick. Who has reset more times than she can count, spent years on the merry-go-round of starting over, and quietly wondered what is actually wrong with her. Nothing is wrong with you. In this episode Megan shares her own 30-year story — what kept her on the merry-go-round, what she tried, and what nobody ever asked her until she finally asked it herself. She breaks down why emotional eating has nothing to do with willpower or discipline, what it actually is, and what becomes possible when you finally heal it at the root. This is not another plan. This is not more advice about what to eat or how to try harder. This is the conversation underneath all of it. If you have been waiting for someone to just say it out loud — this one is for you. Breaking the Emotional Eating Cycle — my self-paced course — is coming soon. Join the waitlist now and receive founding member pricing. This will be the lowest price it will ever be. Join here

  7. 19 July

    Episode 34: What Ozempic Is Actually Doing to Your Brain | GLP-1s, Food Noise and Nervous System Healing

    There's a conversation happening right now about weight loss medications. And almost everyone is either for them or against them. But that's not the conversation I'm interested in. What I'm curious about is what's actually happening in the brain and the nervous system when people take these medications. Because when you start looking at the research, what you find isn't just about appetite. It's about regulation. It's about what it feels like when a system that has been running on threat and scarcity for years finally gets a different signal. In this episode I explore the neuroscience behind food noise, emotional eating, and why for some people GLP-1 medications like Ozempic and Wegovy create something that feels less like appetite suppression and more like finally being able to breathe. We get into how the brainstem and hypothalamus work and why trauma shapes them, what dysregulation actually is and what it feels like from the inside, why food noise is not about food and not about willpower, what the research says about how GLP-1s are changing brain activity in the reward system, and why some people describe feeling regulated for the first time in their lives. This episode is for anyone who has ever felt like their brain just works differently. Like they're fighting something that no one else seems to be fighting. Because there's a biological explanation for that. And understanding it changes everything. The waitlist for Breaking the Emotional Eating Cycle is now open. Women who join before launch receive founding member pricing. Disclaimer: This episode contains discussions around emotional eating, binge eating, body image, trauma, and weight loss medications including GLP-1s such as Ozempic and semaglutide. Please engage gently. This content reflects published research and personal perspective. It is not medical advice and does not recommend for or against any medication. Please consult a qualified healthcare professional before making any medical decisions. If you are struggling with an eating disorder or severe distress around food or your body, please seek support from a qualified healthcare professional. References 1. Childhood trauma and the HPA axis Murphy, F., Nasa, A., Cullinane, D., Raajakesary, K., Gazzaz, A., Sooknarine, V., Haines, M., Roman, E., Kelly, L., O'Neill, A., Cannon, M., & Roddy, D.W. (2022). Childhood Trauma, the HPA Axis and Psychiatric Illnesses: A Targeted Literature Synthesis. Frontiers in Psychiatry, 13, 748372. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyt.2022.748372 2. Early trauma, HPA axis dysregulation, and eating disorders Cascino, G., et al. (2024). Early traumatic experiences and the hypothalamus-pituitary-adrenal axis in people with eating disorders: A narrative review. Psychoneuroendocrinology, 159, 106665. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.psyneuen.2023.106665 3. GLP-1 and reward system related disorders (food, alcohol, drugs) Eren-Yazicioglu, C.Y., Yigit, A., Dogruoz, R.E., & Yapici-Eser, H. (2021). Can GLP-1 Be a Target for Reward System Related Disorders? A Qualitative Synthesis and Systematic Review Analysis of Studies on Palatable Food, Drugs of Abuse, and Alcohol. Frontiers in Behavioral Neuroscience, 14, 614884. https://doi.org/10.3389/fnbeh.2020.614884 4. Hindbrain GLP-1 neurons and projections to the hypothalamus (Journal of Neuroscience 2024) Randolph, A.B., Zheng, H., & Rinaman, L. (2024). Populations of hindbrain glucagon-like peptide 1 (GLP1) neurons that innervate the hypothalamic PVH, thalamic PVT, or limbic forebrain BST have axon collaterals that reach all central regions innervated by GLP1 neurons. Journal

  8. 12 July

    Episode 33: Your Body Never Meant You Any Harm | Somatic Healing, Body Image and Eating Disorder Recovery With Dr. Ann Saffi Biasetti

    What if the body you've been at war with has actually been trying to protect you this whole time? In this episode, I'm joined by Dr. Ann Saffi Biasetti, transpersonal psychologist, somatic psychotherapist, and author of Your Body Never Meant You Any Harm, releasing July 21st 2026. Ann has been working in the space of eating disorders and trauma recovery for over 35 years, and this conversation is one I've genuinely been looking forward to. We talk about why so many women feel like their bodies have failed them, where that belief actually comes from, and what it really means to come back into relationship with your body rather than continuing to fight it. Ann shares her own journey back to embodiment through illness, yoga therapy, and years of clinical work, and the research that became the foundation of her new book. We also get into the difference between self-compassion and self-kindness, why hunger and fullness cues are actually high level skills that take time to rebuild, how to start listening to your body when you feel completely disconnected from it, and the simple question Ann gives her clients that starts to change everything. This one goes deep in the best possible way. Find Dr. Ann Saffi Biasetti: Website: www.anembodiedlife.com Befriending Your Body Program www.befriendingyourbodyprogram.com Instagram: @anembodiedlife  Get Ann's book - Your Body Never Meant You Any Harm: https://amzn.to/4njxbhp  https://www.shambhala.com/authors/a-f/ann-saffi-biasetti/your-body-never-meant-you-any-harm-9781645474418.html The waitlist for Breaking the Emotional Eating Cycle is now open. Women who join before launch receive founding member pricing. Disclaimer: This episode contains discussions around eating disorders, body image, disordered eating, and trauma recovery. Please engage gently. This podcast is not a substitute for professional support, therapeutic care or medical advice.

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The Self-Led Woman is a podcast about emotional eating, the experiences that shape our relationship with food, and the path back to self-leadership.These conversations explore emotional eating beneath behaviour, through trauma, the nervous system, nourishment, and lived experience, with deep respect for the intelligence of the body and what it learned to do to keep you going.This is a space for understanding, relief, and reconnecting with your inner world.Hosted by Megan Darnell, Internal Family Systems therapy practitioner and psychedelic-assisted therapy facilitator.

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