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Welcome to a space where birth, motherhood and matrescence are spoken about honestly, openly &without the filters. I’m Tanika — a conception, pregnancy & post partum doula + mum currently preparing for life with two under two. Through this podcast, I share the conversations, reflections and guidance I wish every woman had access to as she moves from pregnancy into motherhood. Inside each episode we explore pregnancy, birth preparation, postpartum recovery, nervous system support and the emotional transformation of becoming a mother. Some episodes are solo reflections from my own journey, while others feature conversations with birth workers, health professionals and women sharing their real birth stories. This podcast is here to help you feel informed, embodied and deeply supported — whether you’re preparing for birth, navigating postpartum or simply craving more honest conversations about motherhood. Think of it as sitting in a women’s circle, where birth is respected, motherhood is honoured and no question is too small!! 🩷

  1. 9 HRS AGO

    Doing Everything Right but Still not Pregnant?

    Here’s the truth most women aren’t being told when TTC: you can be doing everything right- tracking ovulation, taking the supplements, eating clean yet still not falling pregnant. Because fertility is not just physical.It’s nervous system, emotional safety, identity and energy. In this episode, we go deeper than surface level fertility advice and explore the energetic leaks that could be silently blocking conception- the ones no one talks about. If you’ve been trying to conceive and feeling frustrated, confused or like your body is “not working,” this conversation will land in your body in a powerful way. Why focusing only on ovulation tracking and supplements isn’t enoughThe hidden ways your energy may be leaking without you realisingHow chronic stress and a disregulated nervous system impact fertilityThe connection between feeling safe in your body and your ability to conceiveSubconscious fears around pregnancy, birth and postpartumIdentity shifts: why becoming a mother can feel both desired and confrontingThe impact of past experiences (miscarriage, trauma, heartbreak) on the womb spaceOvergiving, burnout and why your body may not feel resourced to create lifeHow to start closing the leaks and calling your energy backFollow my Instagram for more doula / pregnancy content through the week! ⁠@tanikalace⁠ Follow my TikTok for BTS of mum life⁠ @tanikalace⁠ Apply to share your conception journey, birth or postpartum sotry here https://tally.so/r/D4ee7Z UPCOMING EVENTS ⁠09.05.26 Held: A circle for Mamas (Gympie)⁠ ⁠30.05.26 Held: A circle for Mamas (Sunshine Coast)⁠

    17 min

  2. 3 DAYS AGO

    I Experienced Both: Induction vs Spontaneous Labour

    In this episode, we dive into the raw reality of experiencing both an induced labour and a spontaneous labour and how two completely different birth experiences shaped postpartum, recovery and motherhood. After a first birth that began with an induction following reduced movements and ended in a caesarean, Renee shares how she went into her second pregnancy deeply informed, educated and determined to achieve a VBAC. But despite spontaneous labour beginning naturally, her birth took an unexpected turn when her baby was found to be malpositioned at 10cm, leading to another emergency caesarean and her newborn being rushed to special care. We talk about: Induction vs spontaneous labour contractions VBAC preparation and advocacy Hospital birth and decision making Emergency caesarean birth Birth trauma and postpartum recovery Missing the golden hour Having a baby in special care The emotional impact of birth on postpartum Navigating 2 under 2 after caesarean births Holding gratitude and grief at the same time This episode is for any woman navigating birth expectations, postpartum healing or processing a birth that didn’t unfold the way she imagined. Whether you’re preparing for birth, hoping for a VBAC, recovering from a caesarean or entering motherhood again with more awareness, this conversation will make you feel deeply seen. Thank you Renee for coming on the podcast and sharing your birth story. Follow my Instagram for more doula / pregnancy content through the week! ⁠@tanikalace⁠ Follow my TikTok for BTS of mum life⁠ @tanikalace⁠ Apply to share your conception journey, birth or postpartum story here https://tally.so/r/D4ee7Z UPCOMING EVENTS ⁠30.05.26 Held: A circle for Mamas (Sunshine Coast)⁠

    33 min

  3. 3 MAY

    Birth Plan vs Birth Preparation

    Women Don’t Need a More Birth Plan… They Need This | Birth Preparation, Positive Birth Experience & Doula Support So many women spend hours creating the “perfect” birth plan only to feel overwhelmed, disappointed or out of control when birth doesn’t go to plan. In this episode, we’re shifting the conversation around birth preparation and what actually creates a positive, empowered birth experience. As a doula, I see it all the time — it’s not the lack of a birth plan that leaves women feeling disconnected from their birth but it’s the lack of inner preparation, nervous system support and the ability to navigate the unknown. This is where your birth compass comes in. Inside this episode, we explore: - Why traditional birth plans can leave women feeling disempowered - The key difference between a rigid plan vs a flexible, intuitive birth compass - How to prepare for an unmedicated birth, hospital birth, or induction without fear -The importance of nervous system regulation in labour and birth -How to stay grounded, calm and connected when birth takes an unexpected turn - What actually creates a positive birth experience (no matter the outcome) - How to advocate for yourself and make aligned decisions during labour This episode is for you if you’re: Pregnant and preparing for birthWanting a natural birth, home birth or empowered hospital birth Feeling anxious about labour and unsure how to prepare Looking for holistic birth preparation and doula support Wanting to trust your body and feel confident going into birth Whether you’re planning your first baby or preparing for another birth, this episode will help you move beyond control and into true birth confidence, trust and empowerment. Because birth isn’t something you control, it’s something you learn to navigate. Follow my Instagram for more doula / pregnancy content through the week! ⁠@tanikalace⁠ Follow my TikTok for BTS of mum life⁠ @tanikalace⁠ Apply to share your conception journey, birth or postpartum story here https://tally.so/r/D4ee7Z UPCOMING EVENTS 09.05.26 Held: A circle for Mamas (Gympie) 30.05.26 Held: A circle for Mamas (Sunshine Coast)

    12 min

  4. 30 APR

    Can You Still Feel Empowered After 2 Emergency C-Sections?

    You can’t control birth, but you can soften into it. She went into birth certain.Certain she would have a natural, drug-free water birth.Certain she could do it. What she didn’t expect was meeting the version of herself who couldn’t do it the way she planned. After 4 days of labour, sterile water injections and an emergency c-section the physical experience was only part of it. The real impact was her identity collapse. Because no one talks about this part:When your birth plan becomes who you believe you are and then birth asks you to surrender everything. In this episode, we speak honestly about: The illusion of control in labourWhy rigid birth plans can create deeper sufferingThe emotional and psychological impact of emergency c-sectionsVBAC expectations and facing birth again after traumaWhy softening, not controlling is true power in birthThis is for the woman who feels like she “failed” her birth.This is for the woman gripping tightly to one outcome.This is for the woman who needs to hear you didn’t actually do anything wrong. Birth is not something you conquer.It’s something you meet. Thank you Lorena for sharing your story, it was empowering and a beautiful conversation. Follow Lorena's podcast !! The Pooch Podcast Follow my Instagram for more doula / pregnancy content through the week! ⁠@tanikalace⁠ Follow my TikTok for BTS of mum life⁠ @tanikalace⁠ Apply to share your conception journey, birth or postpartum story here https://tally.so/r/D4ee7Z UPCOMING EVENTS ⁠09.05.26 Held: A circle for Mamas (Gympie)⁠ ⁠30.05.26 Held: A circle for Mamas (Sunshine Coast)⁠

    22 min

  5. 26 APR

    What Happens in Each Phase of Labour? A Doula’s Birth Guide

    What really happens in each phase of labour? In this episode, I’m walking you through the stages of labour from a doula’s perspective so you know exactly what to expect from early labour, active labour, transition, pushing and the placenta birth phase. So much birth fear comes from not knowing what’s normal. When you understand the rhythm of labour, every sensation starts to make sense. Instead of spiralling when contractions change, intensity builds or transition hits, you can meet each phase with more trust, softness and confidence. Inside this episode, we cover: what early labour really feels likehow to know when active labour has begunwhat to expect during transitionwhy the “I can’t do this” moment is often a powerful sign of progressthe instinctive pushing phasethe sacred placenta and golden hour stagethe emotional shifts women commonly move through during labourThis is the episode I want every pregnant woman and her birth partner to listen to before labour begins, so they can understand what’s happening in the body and trust the process instead of fearing it. Whether you’re planning a home birth, hospital birth, VBAC, water birth or physiological birth, this episode will help you feel grounded in the wisdom of your body. Follow my Instagram for more doula / pregnancy content through the week! ⁠@tanikalace⁠ Follow my TikTok for BTS of mum life⁠ @tanikalace⁠

    22 min

  6. 23 APR

    The Pressure to Have the ‘Right’ Birth Is Breaking Mothers

    What happens when your birth experiences look completely different… but both change you just as deeply? In this powerful and honest conversation, we explore two very different birth journeys- a C-section at 37 weeks after a missed breech diagnosis and a later “natural” induced birth that came with its own unexpected challenges. This episode goes beyond the surface of how babies are born and dives into what these experiences actually teach us about motherhood, trust and the pressure women feel to have a certain kind of birth or postpartum journey. We talk about: Trusting your intuition during pregnancy and birthNavigating medical systems and missed diagnosesThe emotional reality of C-section recoveryThe truth about “natural birth” expectationsBirth trauma, healing and postpartum recoveryWhy a supported and emotionally well mother is the foundation of a healthy familyThis is a conversation every mother needs to hear especially if your birth didn’t go to plan or you’ve ever questioned if your experience “counts.” Because the truth is…It’s not about how you give birth.It’s about how you are held through it. Whether you’ve had a C-section, vaginal birth, induction or are preparing for your own birth, this episode will leave you feeling seen, validated and deeply reminded of what truly matters in motherhood. Thank you Victoria so much for this beautiful conversation, honouring you. Follow my Instagram for more doula / pregnancy content through the week! ⁠@tanikalace⁠ Follow my TikTok for BTS of mum life⁠ @tanikalace⁠ Apply to share your conception journey, birth or postpartum sotry here https://tally.so/r/D4ee7Z UPCOMING EVENTS ⁠09.05.26 Held: A circle for Mamas (Gympie)⁠ ⁠30.05.26 Held: A circle for Mamas (Sunshine Coast)⁠

    30 min

  7. 19 APR

    The Subconscious Patterns Women Carry Into Birth & Postpartum

    The subconscious patterns you carry into birth and postpartum shape far more than your mindset, they shape your entire experience of motherhood. In this powerful episode, we explore the hidden beliefs, nervous system conditioning and emotional imprints that pregnant women and new mums often bring into labour, birth and the postpartum period without even realising it. From people pleasing in birth to hyper independence in postpartum, to the deep fear that your body can’t be trusted, these subconscious patterns often influence how safe you feel to surrender, receive support, advocate for yourself and truly rest as a new mother. If you’re pregnant, preparing for birth, navigating postpartum or simply wanting to break generational cycles in motherhood, this episode will help you uncover the deeper patterns shaping your experience. We dive into: subconscious beliefs about birth and motherhoodnervous system patterns in labour and postpartumpeople pleasing, control and body distrusthyper independence in new mumsbreaking generational motherhood cyclespreparing emotionally for birth and postpartumhow subconscious healing supports a positive birth experienceThis is for the woman who knows birth and postpartum are more than physical events — they are sacred initiations that reveal the deepest layers of who we are. Follow my Instagram for more doula / pregnancy content through the week! ⁠@tanikalace⁠ Follow my TikTok for BTS of mum life⁠ @tanikalace⁠

    26 min

  8. 16 APR

    Positive First Birth Story: Jaundice & Feeding Struggles

    In today’s episode, we’re diving into a deeply honest and empowering first birth story that every pregnant woman and first time mum needs to hear. My beautiful guest shares how she moved through a fast, positive first labour, arriving at the hospital already 6cm dilated before experiencing the natural water birth she had hoped for. We talk about the mindset shifts, birth preparation and feeling informed enough to trust her body as labour progressed quickly. But this conversation doesn’t stop at the birth. We also unpack the part so many women are not fully prepared for- the immediate postpartum days. From navigating the emotional reality of not feeling fully supported as a first time mum, to the unexpected challenges of newborn jaundice, phototherapy and feeding issues. This episode speaks to the side of postpartum that can deeply complicate what we imagine will be “postpartum bliss.” If you are pregnant, preparing for your first baby, hoping for an empowered birth or wanting a more realistic understanding of the postpartum transition, this conversation will help you feel informed, grounded and far less alone. Inside this episode we explore: a positive and empowering first birth story the power of birth education and preparation what it feels like when postpartum doesn’t go to plan newborn jaundice and feeding struggles why support after birth matters just as much as birth preparation itself what first time mums truly need in the early days This is the kind of story that reminds women: birth is only the beginning and how you are held afterwards matters deeply. Thank you Mattia for sharing so courageously. Follow my Instagram for more doula / pregnancy content through the week! ⁠@tanikalace⁠ Follow my TikTok for BTS of mum life⁠ @tanikalace⁠ Apply to share your conception journey, birth or postpartum story here - https://tally.so/r/D4ee7Z

    22 min
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Welcome to a space where birth, motherhood and matrescence are spoken about honestly, openly &without the filters. I’m Tanika — a conception, pregnancy & post partum doula + mum currently preparing for life with two under two. Through this podcast, I share the conversations, reflections and guidance I wish every woman had access to as she moves from pregnancy into motherhood. Inside each episode we explore pregnancy, birth preparation, postpartum recovery, nervous system support and the emotional transformation of becoming a mother. Some episodes are solo reflections from my own journey, while others feature conversations with birth workers, health professionals and women sharing their real birth stories. This podcast is here to help you feel informed, embodied and deeply supported — whether you’re preparing for birth, navigating postpartum or simply craving more honest conversations about motherhood. Think of it as sitting in a women’s circle, where birth is respected, motherhood is honoured and no question is too small!! 🩷

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    Tanika Lace
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