31 episodes

The Live Kidfree podcast explores the joy and strife of a kidfree life.

Some of us are confidently kidfree while others feel unsure or insecure. Whether being kidfree is a choice, a consideration or an unfortunate circumstance, this conversation is for you, because it’s about you. And it’s not always easy being you.

Join me in elevating the narrative that defines us.

Live Kidfree Rachel J

    • Society & Culture

The Live Kidfree podcast explores the joy and strife of a kidfree life.

Some of us are confidently kidfree while others feel unsure or insecure. Whether being kidfree is a choice, a consideration or an unfortunate circumstance, this conversation is for you, because it’s about you. And it’s not always easy being you.

Join me in elevating the narrative that defines us.

    The reverence of motherhood [re-release]

    The reverence of motherhood [re-release]

    Motherhood is revered to a degree that is impossible to ignore. 
    At a basic level, reverence is recognition for moms, similar to recognition at a job or in any other role that a woman plays in society. At the extreme, reverence is a creepy exaltation and glorification of the role of Motherhood. Those who live kidfree hear it all the time: “you’d be a great mom!” as if it’s the most valuable contribution we can possibly make and the highest honor to which we would be crazy not to aspire.
    One reason people rever mothers, is because on some level, we acknowledge how much motherhood can really suck, and we rever their ability and willingness to endure the suck.

    • 18 min
    Why living kidfree is a privilege, not a right [re-release]

    Why living kidfree is a privilege, not a right [re-release]

    In some societies, and increasingly in the US, women don’t have the right to control their bodies, they don’t have reproductive choices, they have no agency over the role they play in society, and their safety and security and status depend on their fertility.  Privilege is something that we often don’t consciously see unless we’re looking for it. If you are a person of any degree of privilege, once you start to understand what that privilege looks like and you actively start looking for it, you will find it absolutely everywhere you look. Where choosing to live kidfree may not be a universal right, it is a universal privilege, and I’ll explain three reasons why.
    You can be safe You can support yourself financially You can do things other than have babies In this episode, I dive into why having the ability to choose to live kidfree as a woman is a privilege that is both beautiful and badass.

    • 18 min
    Childfree love is love too

    Childfree love is love too

    Love is love.
    This slogan has become synonymous with LGBTQ acceptance and equality. It means that all forms of love are equal and valid and beautiful, no matter who you are and who you love. Despite your personal beliefs, this slogan is, at its core, a rather obvious and indisputable statement of equality.
    As childfree people, we are often told by parents that we will never experience true love because we don’t have children, that we will never know what love means because we don’t have children. This is one of the most common and probably one of the most hurtful put-downs parents will throw at us.
    So, in honor of Valentine’s Day, I am reminding you, childfree people, is that our love, is love too. That our love matters, that it is just as powerful and valid and valuable and beautiful as parents’ love. This episode is short and sweet and full of positive affirmations, I hope you enjoy!

    • 4 min
    5 reasons I think the US birth rate is declining

    5 reasons I think the US birth rate is declining

    According to the CDC, the US birth rate hit a record low in 2020 to a level that the Brookings Institution calls “considerably below replacement levels for the foreseeable future.” While the US population is still increasing, the rate of growth has slowed dramatically: it dropped 4% from 2019-2020 to 1.6 children per woman.
    This episode explores five reasons why I personally think preferences are changing towards fewer or no children:
    Women have money Motherhood can suck Life is expensive Our worlds are bigger Societal strife

    • 19 min
    3 ways to create a boss kidfree life

    3 ways to create a boss kidfree life

    At the beginning of 2021, when I was setting my intentions, I told myself that I would build such a boss kidfree life that no one, not even me, would ever question me again.
    For far too long I have struggled with inner conflict about my choice to live kidfree, but the pandemic really validated my perception that a traditional nuclear family life can be miserable and stressful and unsustainable. I have seen countless expressions of gratitude and relief pouring out of the childfree community ever since covid intensified early last year as we collectively witnessed the nightmare that parents continue to suffer from and suffocate under.
    As 2021 fades to black, I thought it was a good time to reflect on what a boss kidfree life actually means to me, so I’m sharing three aspects of how I personally think about it. These are more philosophical and spiritual things, almost like guiding principles more so than lifestyle-related aspects of a boss kidfree life.
    They are:
    Letting go of attachments Not trying to change other people Not playing into obligations

    • 16 min
    A kid is like a box of chocolates

    A kid is like a box of chocolates

    Being childfree is a choice and lifestyle that can inspire immediate and visceral emotional responses from people, while other lifestyles or pursuits are not particularly scrutinized or triggering. A person who aspires to be a parent is viewed as normal and wholesome, while a person who aspires to live kidfree is often viewed as neither normal nor wholesome.
    I view people who react to childfree people with judgement and indignance and disdain as, essentially, basic. In reality, most people lack the intelligence, introspection, curiosity and awareness needed to manage their own thoughts and emotions around the idea of living kidfree: they simply get triggered and react with fear and emotion rather than reason.
    In an effort to further normalize our lifestyle, I came up with three analogies that I think may be useful when trying to process your decision to live kidfree or when helping others understand why you might want your life to look different from theirs.

    • 14 min