MissPerceived

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Leah Ruppanner is a no-nonsense Sociologist from the University of Melbourne on a mission to dispel society’s biggest and most divisive gender myths. In MissPerceived, Leah will tackle pervasive questions and draw upon decades of academic research and evidence to debunk the gender myths that benefit no one - showing that women aren’t better than men at seeing mess or multitasking, and that men aren’t bumbling caregivers who can’t change a diaper or find the keys. MissPerceived will show how as a society we use these myths to explain gender inequality and maintain the status quo. Leah doesn’t shy away from tough topics and touches on all those messy conversations about life including sex, relationships, work, parenting, and self-help. MissPerceived showcases how we got here, where we need to go next, and how to get there. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  1. 6 days ago

    The Hidden Mental Load of Grandparents Raising Grandchildren

    What happens when caregiving never ends — when you cared for your siblings as a child, your own children as an adult, and now your grandchildren in older age? In this episode of MissPerceived, Professor Leah Ruppanner discusses Grandmothering While Black: A 21st Century Story of Love, Coercion, and Survival by Lashonda Pittman, a powerful book based on interviews with over 75 Black grandmothers in Chicago raising their grandchildren. Leah unpacks the historical legacy of racism and family separation that shapes these caregiving arrangements today, the difference between multi-generational and “skipped generation” families, and the immense mental load these grandmothers carry while navigating broken welfare, healthcare, and housing systems — sometimes even having to hide the fact that grandchildren live with them just to access resources. Leah connects this research to a much bigger question about care in every country: what do we lose when caregiving is coerced rather than chosen, and what would it look like if systems — not individual women — carried more of that weight? Chapters: 00:00 Introduction — a book that stayed with Leah all weekend  02:16 Who is Lashonda Pittman, and what is Grandmothering While Black?  04:35 The historical legacy of removing children from Black and Indigenous families  06:53 Multi-generational vs. “skipped generation” families  08:56 Navigating broken systems: welfare, housing, and hidden caregiving  11:07 “There’s no break in the care” — a lifetime of caregiving across generations  13:00 Judy’s story: “I’m ready for a life”  13:31 What we lose when care is coerced instead of chosen  14:30 Sweden’s approach: care systems designed to free people, not trap them  15:30 A bigger question: why do we force caregivers to trade their ambitions? Resources Mentioned: 📘 Grandmothering While Black: A 21st Century Story of Love, Coercion, and Survival by Lashonda Pittman  📘 Drained: Reduce Your Mental Load to Do Less and Be More by Professor Leah Ruppanner  🏛️ Better Life Lab — Story Fellows Program Stay Connected with Leah: Instagram: @prof.leahruppanner  Instagram: @lightenlab  TikTok: @prof.leahruppanner  Website: https://www.leahruppanner.com Don’t miss an episode! Subscribe now: /@missperceivedpodcast About MissPerceived: MissPerceived is a weekly podcast hosted by Professor Leah Ruppanner, sociologist and author of Drained. Each week, Leah breaks down the gender myths and social systems shaping our lives — from mental load and caregiving to work, relationships, and identity. No PhD required. Just come hang out. As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases. This description contains affiliate links. #MissPerceived #Caregiving #GrandparentsRaisingGrandchildren #MentalLoad #Drained #ProfLeahRuppanner Follow Leah: @prof.leahruppanner Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  2. 18 Aug

    Return-to-Office Is Pushing Women Out of Work

    When employers demand that people return to the office full-time, who pays the biggest price? In this episode of MissPerceived, Professor Leah Ruppanner responds to a listener whose partner is being called back into the office — and whose family is already feeling the consequences. Leah explores what the research says about remote and flexible work, why it became essential for so many mothers’ employment during the pandemic, and why return-to-office mandates risk pushing women out of the workforce again. But flexibility is not a simple fix. Leah unpacks the flexibility paradox: working from home can help women stay employed and manage caregiving, but it can also stretch the workday into early mornings, late nights, and an exhausting always-on cycle of paid work, parenting, housework, and guilt. She also explains the unequal career trade-offs families make. Too often, women make career compromises “for the family,” while men are encouraged to accelerate their careers as breadwinners — even when both parents genuinely want more time with their children. The result is a gendered mental load, unequal long-term earnings, and a system that asks mothers to hold work and family together at once. Chapters: 00:00 A listener asks: What happens when a partner is called back to the office? 01:30 Why return-to-office mandates can hurt women’s careers 02:20 Before COVID, men had greater access to remote and flexible work 03:00 The pandemic’s “exposure effect” — proving work could happen outside the office 04:39 How flexible work helped mothers remain employed 06:44 Why working from home is essential — and why it is not enough 07:30 The flexibility paradox: a resource that expands the workday 09:06 Remote work, maternal guilt, and never being able to clock out 10:00 The career trade-offs women make “for the family” 11:25 Why men and women often make different work decisions for the same family 13:44 Flexible work helps dads care more — without sacrificing their careers 14:30 Class differences in who can access flexibility and who faces job disruption 15:30 The gendered mental load of holding work and family together Research Mentioned: 📘 For the Family: How Class, Gender, and the Family Shape Women’s Work by Sarah Damaske 📚 Research by Professor Heejung Chung on the “flexibility paradox” 📊 Research by Leah Ruppanner, Kristin Landevar, Katie Collins, William Scarborough, Lauren Ryan, and Brendan Churchill on flexible work, caregiving, and employment 📘 Drained: Reduce Your Mental Load to Do Less and Be More by Professor Leah Ruppanner Stay Connected with Leah: Instagram: @prof.leahruppanner Instagram: @lightenlab TikTok: @prof.leahruppanner Website: https://www.leahruppanner.com Don’t miss an episode! Subscribe now: /@missperceivedpodcast Follow Leah: @prof.leahruppanner Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  3. 11 Aug

    You Can’t “Strengths-Based” Your Way Out of a Broken System

    What does a strengths-based approach actually mean — and when does it become another way of asking people to solve impossible problems alone? In this episode of MissPerceived, Professor Leah Ruppanner responds to a listener’s thoughtful question about why her work focuses so much on structural barriers, inequality, and the systems that make life heavier. Leah explains the value of identifying your strengths, resources, resilience, and community support — but also why strength alone cannot fix unaffordable childcare, inaccessible healthcare, discrimination, or a broken labor market. Through research on LGBTQIA+ families, the Mental Load Audit, and the sociological tension between structure and agency, Leah explores how we can use our existing strengths while still demanding collective solutions. You are powerful, resilient, and capable — but you were never meant to carry structural problems by yourself. Chapters: 00:00 A listener asks: Where is the strengths-based approach? 01:30 What “strengths-based” actually means 02:23 Strengths-based vs. deficit-based thinking 03:00 The Mental Load Audit as a practical strengths-based tool 04:46 LGBTQIA+ families, shared experience, and community as a resource 07:06 The problem with “just try harder” 08:00 Why individual resilience can’t solve structural inequality 09:19 Structure and agency: what is yours to carry — and what is not? 10:00 Asking for help, sharing the burden, and building coalitions 11:42 Why lived experience is valuable research and knowledge 12:30 How we change systems without carrying the whole world alone Resources Mentioned: 📘 Drained: Reduce Your Mental Load to Do Less and Be More 🧠 Free Mental Load Assessment — Lighten Lab 📱 Follow along on Instagram for research insights and mental-load tools Stay Connected with Leah: Instagram: @prof.leahruppanner Instagram: @lightenlab TikTok: @prof.leahruppanner Website: https://www.leahruppanner.com Don’t miss an episode! Subscribe now: /@missperceivedpodcast About MissPerceived: MissPerceived is a weekly podcast hosted by Professor Leah Ruppanner, sociologist and author of Drained. Each week, Leah explores the gender myths and social systems shaping our lives — from mental load and caregiving to work, relationships, and identity. No PhD required. Just come hang out. #MissPerceived #MentalLoad #StrengthsBasedApproach #Sociology #Drained #ProfLeahRuppanner #SocialChange Follow Leah: @prof.leahruppanner Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  4. 4 Aug

    Why Women Use AI Less at Work (And Why That Really Matters)

    Are you using AI at work — or quietly avoiding it? In this episode of MissPerceived, Leah digs into new research showing that women are about 25% less likely than men to adopt generative AI tools in their jobs. She explains what that means for careers, organizations, and the “brain” of AI itself, and why low female adoption could make AI less accurate for women’s experiences worldwide. Leah walks through findings from Harvard Business School on global gender gaps in AI use, explores how unsupervised learning means our data is literally training the AI brain, and shows what happens when most of that data comes from men and from rich, English‑speaking countries. She also unpacks the mental load behind women’s hesitation: environmental worries, ethics, stereotypes that say women who use AI are “less competent,” and the pressure to prove your worth without help. Finally, she shares her own experience using AI, why it sometimes feels like “beautiful nonsense,” and asks what kind of future of work we actually want. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction — are you using AI at work? 01:30 Future of Work Lab: automation vs. AI (what’s the difference?) 02:17 Harvard Business School findings: women 25% less likely to use AI tools 04:36 How your data trains the AI brain — and what happens when women are missing 06:56 Global gaps: rich countries, English speakers, and who AI really “sees” 07:30 Career consequences when women don’t adopt AI at the same rate 08:00 Organizational losses when only some workers use AI 08:50 Environmental and ethical worries as part of women’s mental load 09:16 Code for Good Now study: women seen as less competent when they use AI 11:45 Occupational sorting: why some jobs see more AI than others 12:30 Leah’s own experience: when AI makes her brain “lazy” 13:51 Generational differences: Millennials, Gen Z, Gen Alpha and tech skepticism 14:30 What kind of future of work do we actually want — and who gets to shape it? Follow Leah: @prof.leahruppanner Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  5. 28 July

    I Was Just Diagnosed With Breast Cancer. Please Stop Saying These 5 Things.

    When someone you love gets a cancer diagnosis, you want to say the right thing — but often, what comes out does the opposite. In this very personal episode of MissPerceived, Professor Leah Ruppanner steps away from the research for a moment to talk about her own recent diagnosis of breast cancer, and the wildly inappropriate (but often well‑intentioned) things people say in response. She shares the five big “please don’t”s she keeps hearing — plus what actually helps when someone is living through cancer or another serious chronic illness. This isn’t about shaming anyone. Leah talks about the times she’s said these exact things to friends, why they come from fear and grief, and how we can all do better at holding space, dumping love in instead of out, and making it easier (not harder) for the person at the center of the storm. Chapters: 00:00 Why this episode is different — Leah’s breast cancer diagnosis 02:28 Don’t tell me about someone else’s cancer story (especially the worst‑case ones) 04:36 Why other people’s stories shift the spotlight away from the person who’s sick 05:30 Don’t ask “what stage is it?” or quiz my screening history 06:59 The hidden message in “when was your last mammogram?” 09:22 When my diagnosis triggers your own fear: sharing your medical history 11:25 “I have a good feeling, you’ll be fine” — why that shuts down real feelings 13:46 Questioning medical advice when you’re not the oncologist 16:03 What actually helps: holding space, listening, asking what’s needed 18:14 Learning to slow down, receive care, and feel the collective love What to say instead (Leah’s script you can steal): “This sucks. I’m so sorry you’re going through this.”“What do you need right now?”“How can I help?”“You don’t have to respond, but I’m thinking of you and I love you.”“I can call anytime — you don’t have to pick up.”Resources Mentioned: 📘 Drained: Reduce Your Mental Load to Do Less and Be More 🧠 More on the mental load and chronic illness in other MissPerceived episodes Stay Connected with Leah: Instagram: @prof.leahruppanner TikTok: @prof.leahruppanner Email: getcrafty@audiocrafty.com Website: https://www.leahruppanner.com Follow Leah: @prof.leahruppanner Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  6. 21 July

    Is Upward Mobility Dead? How Parenting Styles Shape Your Kids’ Future

    Are you secretly preparing your kids for downward mobility? In this episode of MissPerceived, Professor Leah Ruppanner asks a huge question many parents are quietly wrestling with: is upward mobility dead, and what does that mean for how we raise our children? Drawing on Annette Lareau’s classic research on concerted cultivation and natural growth, Leah unpacks how different parenting styles map onto class, opportunity, and mental load — and why so many parents feel stuck between dreaming big for their kids and just trying to make ends meet. She explores why upper‑middle‑class parenting can feel like relentless investment and optimization, how working‑class and poor parents create more freedom and magic in kids’ everyday lives, and what newer research shows about what all parents think “good parenting” should look like. Most importantly, she asks whether constantly raising the bar is helping our children, or just burning everyone out in a system no individual family can out‑parent. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction — is upward mobility dead? 01:30 Preparing kids for downward mobility: what parents are saying 02:27 Mental load, money stress, and families who are just making ends meet 03:00 Annette Lareau’s research: concerted cultivation vs. natural growth 04:46 What concerted cultivation looks like in everyday family life 07:04 Natural growth: rules for safety, freedom for play, kids’ worlds without adults 09:30 The upsides and downsides of each parenting style 10:30 Patrick Ishizuka’s studies: what all parents agree is “good parenting” 11:52 Why mothers hold themselves to harsher standards than fathers 13:23 The pressure to invest in everything — and why you can’t out‑parent billionaires 14:11 How to bring more fun, freedom, and lower stakes back into childhood 15:29 What works in your culture and family? Leah wants to hear from you Resources Mentioned: 📘 Drained: Reduce Your Mental Load to Do Less and Be More Follow Leah: @prof.leahruppanner Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  7. 14 July

    When Your Brain Works Differently: Neurodiversity and the Mental Load

    What if your brain works differently from everyone else’s — and you’re still expected to carry the same invisible load for your family, work, and life? In this episode of MissPerceived, Professor Leah Ruppanner explores how neurodivergent folks (ADHD, OCD, bipolar, and beyond) experience the mental load in uniquely complex and often heavier ways. She breaks down the seven stages of the mental load, shows where things get especially hard when you’re prone to rumination, catastrophizing, or forgetting, and explains why social norms demanding perfection make all of this even more overwhelming. Leah also shares what she’s learned from interviews and from living with a partner who has ADHD, and offers a gentler way forward: more compassion, more curiosity, shared systems, and dropping what doesn’t actually need your brain’s limited energy. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction — neurodiversity and the mental load 01:00 What the mental load really is (beyond a to‑do list) 02:41 When your brain works differently: distraction, rumination, worst‑case thinking 05:03 The seven stages of the mental load: identify, remember, strategize, decide, delegate, execute, monitor 07:24 How ADHD, OCD, and other neurodivergences change each stage 09:41 Social norms that demand perfection — especially from women 11:55 Why this becomes a recipe for disaster (and it’s not your fault) 13:00 Using the Mental Load Audit: what to drop, delegate, and reduce 14:22 Conversations that help: explaining how your brain works to your family 16:00 Compassion, curiosity, and building better systems together Resources Mentioned: 📘 Drained: Reduce Your Mental Load to Do Less and Be More 🧠 Free Mental Load Assessment — learn your 8 mental load types Stay Connected with Leah: Instagram: @prof.leahruppanner TikTok: @prof.leahruppanner Email: getcrafty@audiocrafty.com Website: https://www.leahruppanner.com Don’t miss an episode! Subscribe NOW: /@missperceivedpodcast Follow Leah: @prof.leahruppanner Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  8. 7 July

    The Truth About Care: What Americans Get Wrong About Child & Aged Care

    Most people say care is valuable. They believe childcare workers and home care aides are skilled and that governments and employers should help pay for care. But when you ask them what care actually costs — or what high-quality care really looks like — they are wildly off. In this episode of MissPerceived, Professor Leah Ruppanner breaks down a new report from New America's Better Life Lab on what she calls the "care disconnect": the gap between how we feel about care and what we actually know about its price, quality, and impact on families. From US childcare costs and state-to-state differences to aged care, disability, and a Swedish example that will make you want to move tomorrow, Leah shows why we don't understand care until we're in it — and why that has huge consequences for our mental load and our future. Follow Leah: @prof.leahruppanner Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Leah Ruppanner is a no-nonsense Sociologist from the University of Melbourne on a mission to dispel society’s biggest and most divisive gender myths. In MissPerceived, Leah will tackle pervasive questions and draw upon decades of academic research and evidence to debunk the gender myths that benefit no one - showing that women aren’t better than men at seeing mess or multitasking, and that men aren’t bumbling caregivers who can’t change a diaper or find the keys. MissPerceived will show how as a society we use these myths to explain gender inequality and maintain the status quo. Leah doesn’t shy away from tough topics and touches on all those messy conversations about life including sex, relationships, work, parenting, and self-help. MissPerceived showcases how we got here, where we need to go next, and how to get there. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    120
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