MissPerceived

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Leah Ruppanner is a no-nonsense Sociologist from the University of Melbourne on a mission to dispel society’s biggest and most divisive gender myths. In MissPerceived, Leah will tackle pervasive questions and draw upon decades of academic research and evidence to debunk the gender myths that benefit no one - showing that women aren’t better than men at seeing mess or multitasking, and that men aren’t bumbling caregivers who can’t change a diaper or find the keys. MissPerceived will show how as a society we use these myths to explain gender inequality and maintain the status quo. Leah doesn’t shy away from tough topics and touches on all those messy conversations about life including sex, relationships, work, parenting, and self-help. MissPerceived showcases how we got here, where we need to go next, and how to get there. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  1. 22 HRS AGO

    Why Dinner Time Feels So Hard: The Mental Load Behind Every Meal | MissPerceived

    Why does figuring out what's for dinner feel so exhausting — every single night? In this episode of MissPerceived, Professor Leah Ruppanner breaks down exactly why dinner time is one of the biggest mental load pain points she hears about across her research and interviews. Spoiler: it's not just about the food. Dinner time activates all eight mental load types simultaneously — from life organization and safety to magic making and dream building — and it's happening inside a food system that is increasingly broken and putting the pressure squarely on parents to fix it. If dinner feels heavier than it should, this episode explains exactly why. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction — why dinner is a mental load disaster 02:23 How the eight mental load types map onto dinner time 02:40 Mental load type 1: Life organization — do you have everything you need? 04:39 Mental load types 2 & 3: Relationship hygiene and emotional support at the table 06:58 Mental load type 4: Magic making — when dinner goes gloriously right 08:00 Anticipating what could go wrong — and chasing the magic anyway 08:30 Mental load type 5: Dream building — dinner as connection time 09:14 Mental load types 6 & 7: Safety and food allergies — when the stakes are life or death 11:35 Mental load type 8: The broken food system and parental guilt 13:51 Why trad wife nostalgia makes sense — and why it's a trap 15:00 Lobbying against nutritious food — and why you're left to solve it alone 16:05 What to do: share the load, use AI, let the kids cook, let go of control 18:25 Is dinner time a doom drain or a magical moment for you? Resources Mentioned: 📘 Drained: Reduce Your Mental Load to Do Less and Be More 🧠 Free Mental Load Assessment — https://www.lightenlab.com Stay Connected with Leah: TikTok: @prof.leahruppanner Email: getcrafty@audiocrafty.com Follow Leah: @prof.leahruppanner Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    20 min

  2. 19 MAY

    How to Do a Mental Load Audit (And Finally Get Your Energy Back)

    You can't fix what you can't see. In this episode of MissPerceived, Professor Leah Ruppanner walks you through the Mental Load Audit — the step-by-step tool at the heart of her book Drained that helps you figure out exactly where your mental energy is going, who's getting it, and whether it's actually aligned with your goals and dreams. This isn't about changing the world or adding more to your plate. It's about getting ruthlessly clear on your spend, dropping what doesn't deserve your energy, and finally starting to work toward what actually matters to you. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction — Drained is out in the world! 02:17 Why telling overwhelmed people to "change the world" is unfair 03:30 What the mental load actually is — a quick refresher 04:33 The three characteristics: invisible, boundaryless, enduring 05:00 Step 1 of the Mental Load Audit — are you in burnout? 05:45 Step 2 — where is your mental load energy going across the 8 types? 06:55 Credits vs. debits — which parts of your mental load fill you up vs. drain you? 07:30 Who is getting your energy — and do they deserve it? 08:30 People pleasing as a mental load drain 09:12 Who goes on the bench — and who gets evicted 09:45 Step 3 — get clear on your dreams, goals and ambitions 10:30 Mental load loves, mental load drops, and mental load mores 11:33 Real example: does a messy house actually matter? 13:57 Understanding your partner's mental load through the lens of their dreams 16:20 You can do this audit alone — you don't need your partner's buy-in 17:30 How to start the conversation from the dream, not the fight 18:19 It's all in the book — worksheets, chapters, and the online appendix Resources Mentioned: 📘 Drained: Reduce Your Mental Load to Do Less and Be More 🧠 Free Mental Load Assessment — https://www.lightenlab.com Stay Connected with Leah: TikTok: @prof.leahruppanner Email: getcrafty@audiocrafty.com Don't miss an episode! Subscribe NOW: /@missperceivedpodcast Follow Leah: @prof.leahruppanner Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    20 min

  3. 12 MAY

    Maycember Is Real: The Mental Load Spike No One Warned You About

    Have you heard of #Maycember? It's the viral term capturing what parents — especially moms — experience every May: a relentless pile-on of teacher gifts, summer camp signups, end-of-year events, school correspondence on overdrive, and the pressure to make everyone feel celebrated before the school year ends. In this episode of MissPerceived, Professor Leah Ruppanner breaks down why this isn't just a busy season — it's a mental load spike driven by broken systems, eroded safety nets, and a culture that asks individual parents to solve what should be collective problems. If you're feeling overwhelmed right now, this episode will validate exactly why. Follow Leah: @prof.leahruppanner Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    16 min

  4. 5 MAY

    Let Them: Why Letting Go and Delegating Feels So Hard

    In this episode of Missperceived, Leah paints a painfully familiar picture: you finally hand off a task—signing the permission slip, managing a parent’s medication, organizing a meal—and instead of feeling lighter, you feel more anxious. You worry they’ll forget, won’t follow instructions, or won’t do it the way you know would make your child or parent feel truly cared for. Leah unpacks why delegation is so emotionally loaded, especially for women who’ve been set up as default caregivers for kids, partners, friends, coworkers, and aging parents. She connects this to a growing care crisis, where more and more women are being squeezed between supporting their own households and looking after older relatives, often at the cost of their paid work and wellbeing. Drawing on her book Drained: Reduce Your Mental Load to Do Less and Be More and her “audit” tool, she shares how to decide what to hand off, who to trust with it, and—crucially—how to stop tracking and overthinking once you’ve delegated, so other people actually get the chance to step up and grow. Follow Leah: @prof.leahruppanner Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    13 min

  5. 28 APR

    Do Some People Just Have More Bandwidth? How to Grow Your Capacity (Without Burning Out)

    In this episode of MissPerceived, Leah celebrates that Drained: Reduce Your Mental Load to Do Less and Be More is finally out—and dives into a question readers keep asking her: do some people simply have more bandwidth than others, and is it possible to grow your own capacity without destroying yourself in the process? She explains why she thinks of all the invisible planning, worrying, and coordinating you do as a finite resource, not an endless well, and shares what she’s hearing from new “invisible work” collaboratives she’s convening in London, DC, and beyond. Leah explores why some people seem naturally able to carry more, how age and life stage shape your personal bandwidth, and how you might actually expand your capacity by cutting out pointless drains and getting more efficient at the thinking work that really matters to you and your family. If you’ve ever wondered why you feel tapped out while someone else looks like they’re “handling it all,” this episode offers a new, more compassionate way to understand your limits—and what you can do with the energy you have. Follow Leah: @prof.leahruppanner Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    11 min

  6. 21 APR

    How Your Job Follows You Home (and Back Again)

    In this episode, Leah finally pulls back the curtain on a piece of her research she hasn’t fully shared yet: the mental load at work and how it travels both directions between your job and your home. Drawing on her book Drained: How to Reduce Your Mental Load to Do Less and Be More and prior research with colleagues at the University of Melbourne, she explains why the mental load is not just “to-do lists” or cognitive labor, but invisible, boundaryless, emotional thinking work you carry everywhere you go. Leah walks through the eight types of mental load and invites you to look at how they show up differently in your work life versus your home life, using insights from her Lighten Lab assessment tool. She highlights what her studies are finding about dads in particular: men are often thinking intensely about safety and “dream building” for the family, trying to show up as better, more emotionally present fathers than their own dads while also compartmentalizing work so it doesn’t bleed into home. The twist? When men feel justified in investing in their own dreams and rest, many women are still running everything behind the scenes—fueling resentment and burnout. This episode gives you language to see your work mental load clearly and to start rebalancing it in your own life. Follow Leah: @prof.leahruppanner Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    18 min

  7. 14 APR

    Breast Cancer, Big Dreams, and the Mental Load of Complex Care

    Right before launching her book Drained: Reduce Your Mental Load to Do Less and Be More, Leah found a lump in her breast on vacation and was diagnosed with breast cancer. In this deeply personal episode, she shares what it feels like to carry the emotional thinking work of a serious health crisis on top of everyday life: worrying about your child’s future, your career, your dreams, and everyone else’s feelings while trying to process your own. Follow Leah: @prof.leahruppanner Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    22 min

  8. 7 APR

    Harsh Truth: Your Parents Can’t Fix This For You

    In this episode, Leah says the quiet part out loud: your parents (and older generations) are probably not the people who can help you solve your biggest life problems right now. Drawing on themes from Drained: Reduce Your Mental Load to Do Less and Be More, she unpacks why the world you’re managing—pandemics, political instability, climate anxiety, precarious work, AI, and always-on social media—is fundamentally different from the one they came of age in. She explores what happens when you go looking “up” or “down” generations for support and end up with blame, outdated advice, or total misunderstanding instead of comfort. Leah talks about the mental load of carrying your own crises and doing relationship repair across generations, and offers a compassionate reframe: stop asking people to understand a world they don’t live in, and start finding the people who can actually see you, support you, and tell you what you most need to hear—you’re doing a great job. Follow Leah: @prof.leahruppanner Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    16 min
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Leah Ruppanner is a no-nonsense Sociologist from the University of Melbourne on a mission to dispel society’s biggest and most divisive gender myths. In MissPerceived, Leah will tackle pervasive questions and draw upon decades of academic research and evidence to debunk the gender myths that benefit no one - showing that women aren’t better than men at seeing mess or multitasking, and that men aren’t bumbling caregivers who can’t change a diaper or find the keys. MissPerceived will show how as a society we use these myths to explain gender inequality and maintain the status quo. Leah doesn’t shy away from tough topics and touches on all those messy conversations about life including sex, relationships, work, parenting, and self-help. MissPerceived showcases how we got here, where we need to go next, and how to get there. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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  • Creator
    Audiocrafty
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    107
  • Rating
    Clean
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