Needed to Hear That!

Pondoff's Anonymous Network, Chaz Franke, Chris Pondoff
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“Needed to Hear That” hosted by Chaz and Pondoff, brings real conversations about mental health into real life. Therapist Chaz Franke and Chris Pondoff talk anxiety, trauma, recovery, relationships, and the ongoing work of becoming healthier humans. No clinical jargon, no fake positivity… just honest dialogue, grounded insight, and conversations that meet people where they actually are. Part of the Pondoff Network.

  1. 16 HRS AGO

    We’re All Beginners | Feeling Stuck, Comparison & Finding Your People

    This week on Needed To Hear That, the conversation starts with wrestling conventions, anime communities, Buff Bagwell’s amputated leg, and Mick Foley nostalgia… before slowly unfolding into something much deeper: why so many of us feel stuck. Chris and Chaz unpack the pressure to constantly improve, achieve, evolve, and “figure it out” — and how comparison quietly steals our ability to recognize growth while it’s happening. From body image and recovery to spirituality, depression, therapy, and social media, they explore the difference between genuine curiosity and self-criticism, and why patience with yourself is a lot harder than it sounds. The episode dives into ideas like beginner’s mind, complacency versus contentment, the fear of the unknown, and the importance of finding spaces where you actually feel seen. Along the way, there are stories about wrestling fandoms, Dungeons & Dragons, anime conventions, Buddhist parables, recovery meetings, and why “having too many irons in the fire” may or may not be a personal attack. Funny, thoughtful, surprisingly emotional, and full of the kind of conversations that make you stop and examine your own inner dialogue — this one is about learning that maybe being “stuck” doesn’t mean you’ve stopped moving after all.

    1hr 15min

  2. 8 MAY

    Why We Keep Stepping On Hot Coals

    On this episode of Needed To Hear That, Chaz and Chris start off talking about surviving a “bachelor week,” hockey goalies, meditation groups, and the chaos of bouncing between golf tournaments, OTB's, trivia nights. They eventually land in a much deeper conversation about codependency, boundaries, and why so many people struggle to let other people own their own emotions.They unpack what codependency actually means beyond the buzzword version of it, and why it often comes from love, fear, survival, and wanting desperately to keep the people around you okay. Chaz explains how codependency can show up in subtle everyday ways—struggling to say no, feeling responsible for someone else’s happiness, or believing you need other people to be regulated before you can feel settled yourself.There’s also an honest look at:Why boundaries are often misunderstood as selfish instead of loving.How addiction, mental health struggles, and family dynamics can quietly create codependent patterns over time.The fear people feel when they stop trying to “fix” or control someone else.Why helping someone and controlling someone can sometimes look dangerously similar.The difference between creating conditions for change…versus believing you can force change.Bruce Springsteen stories, Buddhist teachings, and why humans keep “stepping on the same hot coals” hoping this time will somehow feel different.Along the way, they talk about recovery, therapy, emotional regulation, meditation, anonymous support groups, and the uncomfortable reality that sometimes the healthiest thing you can do is let someone else be responsible for themselves.This episode is less about having perfect boundaries and more about recognizing the fear underneath them—why saying no can feel terrifying, why so many people lose themselves trying to care for others, and how healing often starts by admitting you can’t control everything…even when you really wish you could._____________________Illinois Recovery Center:⁠ https://illinoisrecoverycenter.com/⁠Find us on Facebook, Instagram, & YouTube.⁠  / pondoffsanonymous⁠  ⁠  / pondoffsanonymous⁠  ⁠   / @pondoffsanonymous

    1hr 9min

  3. 1 MAY

    What Actually Recharges You?

    Title:What Actually Recharges You?Show Notes:On this episode of Needed to Hear That, Chaz and Pondoff start off dodging storms and talking about hail damage—but quickly land somewhere deeper: burnout, compassion fatigue, and the quiet question a lot of people don’t know how to answer...what actually helps you feel like yourself again?They unpack the difference between real self-care and the watered-down version we see online, and why something as simple as sitting in bed watching TV with someone you love might be more meaningful than anything that looks “productive.”There’s also an honest look at:- Why people in helping roles, recovery, or caregiving roles get drained—and how that doesn’t mean something’s wrong with them- The fear of being “selfish”…and how that fear keeps people stuck- Why starting therapy, asking for help, or making any real change can be messy, slow, and full of false starts- The pressure to optimize everything—even rest—and why that backfires- How many people don’t actually know what they enjoy anymore…and how to start figuring that outAlong the way, they talk about codependency, boundaries, recovery, therapy, and the strange reality that doing something good for yourself can sometimes feel scarier than helping someone else.This one’s less about fixing everything and more about noticing what gives you energy, what drains it, and whether you’ve ever really been given permission to find out.Key Moments:- Storm talk, selfish prayers, and real-life perspective- Feedback on the podcast and being present- Compassion fatigue in recovery and helping spaces- What self-care actually means, and why people hate the term- Fear of being selfish vs. learning to take care of yourself- Why therapy and change take multiple tries- The importance of small wins: making the call, showing up, trying again- What it means to like something vs. wanting to be liked- Finding simple ways to recharge and learning to trust themSponsors:McKelvey Insurance Grouphttp://mckelveyins.comCall Evan McKelvey at 618-623-0080LightSourcehttp://findyourlightsource.com

    1 hr
  4. You Already Have Everything You Need

    24 APR

    You Already Have Everything You Need

    Today on Needed to Hear That, Chris and Chaz talk about spirituality, recovery, humility, and the parts of healing that can feel genuinely terrifying.After a trip to Asheville for the Addiction Professionals of North Carolina conference, the conversation moves from treatment work and the helpers who keep showing up, to the danger of building our own beliefs by tearing someone else’s down. They talk about recovery programs, therapy styles, 12-step language, Buddhism, higher power, surrender, and why words like “powerless” can feel scary before they feel freeing.The episode also gets into spiritual humility — the idea that maybe the whole point is not pretending to have it all figured out. From the symbolism of Hotei Buddha to the fear and mystery inside religious and spiritual practice, this one is about learning to sit with what we don’t know, and maybe realizing we already carry more than we think.Also discussed:- Asheville, APNC, and Christian Slater- Being educated by the people you’re trying to help- Why bad experiences don’t always define an entire treatment center- CBT, Buddhism, and spiritual immaturity- 12-step recovery and fear around “God language”- Powerlessness, surrender, and the scariest day of getting help- Sacred daily rituals- One day at a time as more than white-knucklingThe Pondoff’s Anonymous Podcast Network is sponsored by McKelvey Insurance Group.Visit https://mckelveyins.comThis episode of Needed to Hear That is brought to you by LightSource Psychotherapy.Visit http://findyourlightsource.com

    1hr 22min
  5. Teen Pain Isn’t “Just a Phase”

    17 APR

    Teen Pain Isn’t “Just a Phase”

    In this episode of Needed to Hear That, Chaz and Pondoff get into what it really means to take young people seriously. The conversation starts with trauma, recovery, and the power of hope, then moves into the emotional world of adolescents, where heartbreak, rejection, friendship, identity, and social pressure can feel absolutely massive...because to them, they are. Instead of brushing that off as drama or rebellion, Chaz makes the case that these years are full of real pain, real development, and real opportunities to listen better. They also talk about therapy as a safe space, why authenticity matters with teens, how social media turns ordinary struggles into public ones, and why labeling everything as “rebellion” misses the point. This one is for parents, helpers, recovering former teenagers, and anybody who could use a better framework for understanding what young people are actually going through. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast and Its Purpose 01:59 Stories of Trauma and Recovery 04:45 Creating Safe Spaces for Healing 07:51 The Importance of Hope in Recovery 10:53 Understanding Adolescent Emotions 17:08 Navigating Teenage Relationships 25:23 The Impact of Social Media on Youth 32:02 The Role of Authenticity in Therapy 39:47 Understanding Adolescent Rebellion 42:04 The Role of Therapy in Adolescent Development 46:44 Redefining Rebellion: A Developmental Perspective 49:45 The Adolescent Brain: Myths and Realities 52:21 Navigating Young Adulthood: Lessons from Experience 01:01:51 The Importance of Listening to Young Voices Sponsors: McKelvey Insurance Group https://www.mckelveyins.com LightSource Psychotherapy https://findyourlightsource.com

    1hr 13min
  6. We Live in Story

    10 APR

    We Live in Story

    In this episode, Chris and Chaz start with the very real aftermath of Chaz and Holly’s car accident, then turn that moment into something bigger: a conversation about why stories matter. They talk about family stories, the people who make us feel seen, the way self-compassion can change the stories we tell about ourselves, and why testimony, spirituality, and recovery all depend on honest human connection. It’s a thoughtful, grounded episode about how we make meaning out of chaos...and how sharing our stories can help other people feel less alone. Shout out to our sponsors: McKelvey Insurance Group http://www.mckelveyins.com/ LightSource https://findyourlightsource.com/ Timestamps: 00:00 The Car Accident Experience 08:38 The Importance of Storytelling 15:22 Lessons from Family Storytelling 22:15 The Impact of Interest in Others 29:06 Navigating Personal Stories and Self-Compassion 33:18 Reflections on Personal Stories and Legacy 36:29 The Importance of Sharing Stories 39:58 The Power of Personal Testimonies 42:05 Storytelling in Spirituality and Religion 47:41 The Role of Story in Recovery 52:52 The Evolution of Personal Narratives 57:22 Universal Themes in Human Stories 01:01:10 The Need for Connection Through Storytelling

    1hr 6min
  7. 12 Years Sober: Returning to Yourself

    3 APR

    12 Years Sober: Returning to Yourself

    Some commitments are loud, but the ones that change us most are often quiet. In this conversation, Chaz and Chris reflect on sobriety, grace, and the small daily choices that keep us pointed toward the life we want to live. What unfolds is a grounded look at how real change happens—not through perfection or speed, but through ordinary acts of returning, again and again, to what matters most. They explore self-care beyond the buzzword, talking honestly about burnout, community, spiritual practice, shame, and the long process of learning what it actually feels like to be yourself. This episode is a reminder that healing is rarely a straight line, and that recommitment is not failure—it is often the deepest form of courage. 00:00 Celebrating Commitment: A Journey of Sobriety 05:48 The Nature of Commitment: Grace and Action 12:29 Crawling Before Running: The Importance of Small Steps 18:40 Self-Care: A Commitment to Understanding Yourself 24:07 The Power of Incremental Change: Building Resilience 30:23 Finding Joy: Rediscovering What Makes You Happy 37:39 Exploring Movement and Self-Connection 40:06 The Importance of Community and Trying New Things 43:40 Spiritual Practices and Their Accessibility 45:50 The Healing Power of Returning to Self 56:23 Recommitment and Overcoming Shame 01:01:20 The Challenge of Committing to Less 01:07:22 Finding Simplicity in Self-Care Thanks to our sponsors, McKelvey Insurance — https://www.mckelveyins.com and LightSource Psychotherapy — https://www.findyourlightsource.com

    1hr 10min
  8. Shame Can’t Survive the Light

    27 MAR

    Shame Can’t Survive the Light

    In this episode of Needed to Hear That, Chaz and Chris get into a heavy but deeply helpful conversation about parenting fears, attachment, shame, secrecy, vulnerability, and the kind of consistency people need in order to feel safe. They start with the fear that can come with loving a child in a world where addiction and mental health struggles are real, and talk about what it means to be a steady, safe presence for the people you love. From there, the conversation moves into the deeper emotional terrain of secrecy and shame, how those experiences get carried for years, and why being seen by the right people can begin to loosen their grip. Later, Chaz unpacks the difference between guilt and shame, why secrecy can become part of a person’s identity, and how vulnerability gets blocked when someone believes that being fully known would mean being rejected. Chris brings it back to recovery, connection, and community, naming how isolation feeds addiction while honest connection helps people heal. This episode is thoughtful, grounded, and full of insight about what helps people feel safe enough to come out of hiding, stay connected, and keep moving toward healing. Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction and Sponsorships 01:44 Parenting Fears and Conversations on Addiction 15:56 The Impact of Secrets and Shame 29:04 Vulnerability vs. Shame 54:57 The Importance of Community and Availability Sponsors: Needed to Hear That is sponsored by McKelvey Insurance Group and LightSource. McKelvey Insurance Group https://www.mckelveyins.com Call Evan McKelvey at 618-623-0080 LightSource https://findyourlightsource.com

    1hr 9min
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“Needed to Hear That” hosted by Chaz and Pondoff, brings real conversations about mental health into real life. Therapist Chaz Franke and Chris Pondoff talk anxiety, trauma, recovery, relationships, and the ongoing work of becoming healthier humans. No clinical jargon, no fake positivity… just honest dialogue, grounded insight, and conversations that meet people where they actually are. Part of the Pondoff Network.

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  • Creator
    Pondoff's Anonymous Network, Chaz Franke, Chris Pondoff
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    15
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Pondoff's Anonymous Network, Chaz Franke, Chris Pondoff
  • Show Website
    Needed to Hear That!

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