Playing The Fool

Jarna Saunders
  • 5.0 (6)
  • SELF-IMPROVEMENT

Welcome to the PLAYING THE FOOL Podcast, I am your host Jarna Saunders. I am a proud as fuck Life and Relationship Coach and personal development nerd, with a HUGE passion to get every single woman in the arena of their own lives.  I have over 10 years’ experience coaching 100's of women and couples. I've been where you may be right now: for years I sat on the side-lines of my life, stuck in fear, in my head, in the past of that ONE TIME I was put back in my corner and I let it cripple me with fear. That was until one day when the PAIN of staying hidden was too much to take and I made the choice to get my butt in  the ARENA of MY OWN life. To take the risk of looking like a beginner, looking silly and GOD forbid looking like a FOOL. My promise to you is to show up here in all my parts and seasons with my heart proudly on my sleeve, gate keeping nothing but asking us all to WALK OUR GOD DAM ARSES out of the corners we were never born to exist in. Let's Play.

  1. 1 DAY AGO

    Episode 33: The Accountability Gap: Navigating "The Gap" in Relationships

    In this episode of Playing The Fool, I try something new and answer relationship questions sent in by my incredible community.   I start by talking about the “accountability gap” a dynamic where one partner is expressing the emotional impact of something while the other is focused on defending their intention. When this happens, couples often end up having two completely different conversations, leaving both people feeling unheard and in deep frustration.   I also explore how defensiveness in relationships can often come from shame, not a lack of care. For some people, hearing that they hurt their partner can quickly translate into feeling like they are the problem, which can trigger justification or shutdown instead of understanding.   I share insights from my work with women and couples, and why healthy relationships require two people willing to reflect, take accountability, and grow together.   And as always we keep going back into the EGO, what it is, what it isn’t and how we all have one.   Relationships are so challenging for so many of us as we were often never modelled what healthy and safe adult communication looks like in the home. If this feels like something that you struggle with and would like support to learn how to show up for yourself in a more effective way then have a look at the way we can work together in Tender and Relation Ship Coaching.   It really is life changing when you say YES to DOING this work.  If you’re ready to create something deeper, safer and more honest I would love to work with you inside Tender or through Relationship Coaching. For more relationship wisdom and practical tips, follow Dr. Rachel @heydrrachel.

    50 min

  2. 4 MAR

    Episode 32: Relationships: Asking, Receiving, and Fighting for Connection

    In this episode, I’m talking about the real work of relationships. The beautiful parts, the messy middle, and the growth that’s required when two people choose each other long term. Shane and I recently celebrated 13 years of marriage, and it had me reflecting, not just on us, but on what LOVE actually is and what it isn’t and the courage it takes to be in the work together. It’s not perfection.   It’s not avoiding conflict.   And it’s not one person doing all the emotional heavy lifting. (This is so frikin common) For a long time, many women have quietly carried that weight, wondering if they’re too sensitive, too demanding, or somehow the problem.   And I just don’t believe that anymore. Healthy relationships require brave women AND brave men.   Men who are willing to reflect, communicate, take ownership of their parts in the relationship and grow. Women who feel safe enough to ask for what they need without shrinking themselves.    Connection isn’t built by one person trying harder. It’s built when two adults show up in their bodies, with their egos in the back seat of the relationship.    If you’ve ever felt like you’re working overtime to hold everything together and the resentment and disconnection keeps building then this is for you.  If you’re ready to create something deeper, safer and more honest I would love to work with you inside Tender or through Relationship Coaching.

    38 min

  3. 25 FEB

    Episode 31: The Dishes Challenge: Identity, Ego & Becoming the Woman Who Finishes the Loop

    When my dishes are done, I wake up calmer, more regulated, and proud of myself. It's like this warm hug to go to bed too. Why, because the dishes SUX to do at the end of the day when you just want to stop. This is an invitation to notice what comes up for you and become the woman who follows through. ✨ Start tonight. ✨ Commit to all 7 days — not just when it feels easy. ✨ Post the photo without explaining yourself. ✨ Notice what comes up, the stories you make it mean. ✨  Tag me so I can see you and celebrate you. @jarnasaunders ✨Share this episode to your stories and tell me what part hit. ✨ Send it to a friend who you know is really "going through it". ✨  Leave a review if this resonated — it helps more women find this work. It sounds simple right. It’s not.  Doing the dishes triggers the teenager in us that “can’t be bothered.” Posting it triggers the part of us that doesn’t want to be seen or misunderstood. But this isn’t about dishes. It’s about identity. It’s about finishing we I start. It’s about building self-trust, this is how we find those posckets of joy babe.  And if you want deeper support inside this work join me in Tender or Relationship Coaching.

    41 min

  4. 18 FEB

    The Drop In 💫

    This drop-in meditation is a space to pause, soften, and come home to yourself. It’s not about clearing your mind or getting it right, it’s about reconnecting.  Whether you’re feeling scattered, stuck, or just need to catch your breath, this is your invitation to land gently in your body, to listen in, and to return to the part of you that’s always been steady beneath the noise.  Come back to centre. Come back to you.

    16 min

  5. 11 FEB

    Episode 30: "Hair by Jarns, Jarna Speaking": Where it all Began, My heart on A Page (AKA A Podcast)

    Recognising your growth, honouring your story, and who you’re becoming. In this episode, I take a moment to slow down and reflect on the journey that has brought me here. This is the 61st Call of The Hardest of Bar, and that alone is something worth having a moment with. So often we rush straight onto the next thing without ever truly recognising what we’ve created and how far we have come. I open up about my own path, from hairdressing to coaching, and the moments of uncertainty, courage, and identity shifts that came with having the belief to follow my heart. This is a snippet of my story and how my love for seeing women been so in love with themselves and who the be in this world has always been in me.  Personal development doesn’t just change you, it changes your relationships, your standards, your choices, and the way you show up in the world. At the heart of this episode is a simple invitation: recognise yourself. See what you’ve survived. See what you’ve created. See who you’re becoming. And if you feel called, share your story. Because when one woman is brave enough to tell the truth about her journey, it gives permission for others to do the same. This work is never really finished. We keep growing, keep learning, keep becoming. And I’m so glad you’re on this path with me Find me on Instagram: jarnasaunders

    50 min

  6. 4 FEB

    Episode 29: Love, Courage and Trust: But What Comes First?

    The Heart Is the Bar is an invitation into this work. A 12-week container where trust, courage, and self-love stop being concepts and start becoming lived experiences. If this episode stirred something in you, if these questions are already whispering (or shouting), this is your sign. You don’t have to do this alone. Join the incredible community of women and start now. DOORS CLOSE SUNDAY THE 8TH OF FEBRUARY.  The Heart is the Bar This episode was inspired by a powerful moment from our recent Heart is the Bar Event.  At the heart of it all was one foundational question: What actually comes first, trust or love? We explored how courage is the starting point. The courage to show up. The courage to say yes. The courage to choose yourself, even when it feels uncomfortable or unfamiliar and like you are letting people down. When we work the muscle of courage, something beautiful happens, trust begins to form. Trust in yourself. Trust in your inner knowing. And from that place, love naturally follows. One of the questions I asked the women was: Can you have trust without love? Most said yes. But can you have love without trust? Most said no. And if there’s no trust… is what we’re calling love actually love at all? These are the kinds of conversations we sit inside during this work,  not to be right or wrong, but to feel into what is true for you. To listen for what feels alive in your body. To gently unravel the stories you’ve been living inside and decide whether they still fit and what choice you can make now. This is the energy of this next 12-week journey. It feels solid, grounded, foundational, anchored deeply in the heart, with a powerful current of femininity running through it. Real women. Big hearts. Honest conversations. A willingness to meet yourself where you are and walk forward with courage. Find me on Instagram: jarnasaunders Or my Website .

    56 min

  7. 29 JAN

    Episode 28: Crying Over Car Mats: Triggers, Hormones & Choosing Who I’m Becoming

    The Heart is The Bar, Doors Close Sunday the 8th. 12 weeks of radical Responsibility, Action and Alignment. For the woman who is sick and tired of her own b******t stories of "why not now" and is ready to let herself truly feel happy and peace from the inside out. If you’re done surviving and ready to start living, this is the place babe. We begin Monday, 9th of February. In this episode of the Playing the Fool podcast I reflect on my emotional journey, exploring themes of comfort, childhood wounds, and personal growth. I discusses the impact of recent experiences, including my HUGE feelings about Shane's choice of car mats, and how they triggered deeper emotional responses related to my sense of safety and comfort.   talk into the importance of understanding triggers, tour EGO'S, taking radical responsibility for how our life looks and feels, and the transformative power of coaching and community support.  Yes some hard truths so we can all  make the choices to keep showing all the way up.

    1 hr

  8. 21 JAN

    Episode 27: Our Ego Isn't the Enemy: The Episode my Ego Wants Me To Delete.

    In this episode of Playing The Fool, I talk about ego, what it actually is, why it exists, and how it’s been quietly running so many of our lives without us even realising it. I share honestly about my own ego, the parts of me that were controlling, reactive, angry, people-pleasing, perfectionistic, and deeply afraid. Not to shame those parts, but to finally understand them and the fact that they exist for a really good reason. Our ego isn’t here to ruin our lives. It came in when we were young to keep us safe from pain, rejection, grief, and feeling unlovable. The problem isn’t that we have an ego, the problem is when we’re adults and it’s still in the driver’s seat of our lived without us even realising. This episode is about learning how to own all of our parts, stop judging ourselves so harshly, and start re-parenting the parts of us that never learned another way. If this episode resonates with you then so will The Heart is the Bar. Doors are closing very soon. The Heart is The Bar. 12 weeks of walking yourself out of corners you were never born to exist in. If you’re done surviving and ready to start living  then this is your invitation to say yes!!  We Begin Monday the 9th of February. Ready to choose YOU?  Join the Get On Your Mat Challenge! Love Jarna x

    52 min
See All (40)

Trailer

5
out of 5
6 Ratings

About

Welcome to the PLAYING THE FOOL Podcast, I am your host Jarna Saunders. I am a proud as fuck Life and Relationship Coach and personal development nerd, with a HUGE passion to get every single woman in the arena of their own lives.  I have over 10 years’ experience coaching 100's of women and couples. I've been where you may be right now: for years I sat on the side-lines of my life, stuck in fear, in my head, in the past of that ONE TIME I was put back in my corner and I let it cripple me with fear. That was until one day when the PAIN of staying hidden was too much to take and I made the choice to get my butt in  the ARENA of MY OWN life. To take the risk of looking like a beginner, looking silly and GOD forbid looking like a FOOL. My promise to you is to show up here in all my parts and seasons with my heart proudly on my sleeve, gate keeping nothing but asking us all to WALK OUR GOD DAM ARSES out of the corners we were never born to exist in. Let's Play.

Information

  • Creator
    Jarna Saunders
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    40
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Playing The Fool
  • Show Website
    Playing The Fool