Second Breaks

Lou Blaser

Coffee chats with people I want to learn from — about life, work, becoming, and figuring things out (often in midlife, but not always). Hosted by Lou Blaser. About The Host: Lou Blaser is a corporate escapee turned writer, podcast host, and resident philosopher-next-door. She writes We’re All Getting Older — a newsletter about joy, purpose, and figuring out what matters now. She’s also the author of Break Free: The Courage to Reinvent Yourself and Your Career. loublaser.substack.com

  1. 22/05/2025

    236. An Invitation to Delight

    What is delight, really? Not just happiness, not quite joy, but something sparkier and more surprising. In this episode, I talk with writer and yoga therapist Alex Lovell, whose essay “Delight: A Radical Invitation” caught me at just the right time. We explore what makes delight feel different from other emotions, how we can (maybe?) invite more of it into our lives, and why it matters, especially when the world feels heavy. This is a conversation about delight, yes — but also about presence, burnout, bittersweet memories, emotional vocabulary, and squirrels. (Really.) ABOUT MY GUEST: Alex Lovell, Ph.D., is a Yoga Therapist, a Political Psychologist, and the Writer of the Substack publication, Life as I See It. Alex helps you reclaim that hidden space so that you can navigate life feeling anchored, renewed, and at peace. IN THIS EPISODE: - The difference between joy, happiness, and delight - Why slowing down might actually start with noticing - Presence as more than just “being in the moment” - Emotional memory and why your body sometimes cries before your brain knows why - The limits of control and the quiet power of choosing where our energy goes - Delight as an act of resistance — and a path back to ourselves Check out the full show notes for this episode here: https://loublaser.substack.com/p/236-alex-lovell • • • • • Subscribe to We're All Getting Older — it’s like sitting at the kitchen table with strong coffee and real good questions: https://loublaser.substack.com Connect with Lou Blaser on Substack: https://substack.com/@loublaser Connect with Lou Blaser on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/loublaser/ Get full access to We're All Getting Older at loublaser.substack.com/subscribe

    42 min

  2. 20/02/2025

    235. Steer. Don't drift.

    Matthew Long, retired Navy officer and writer at Beyond the Bookshelf, joins me in this conversation about planning for a major life change. Too often, we drift into the next thing simply because it’s familiar. In this conversation, Matthew explains how he avoided this drift and planned his post-retirement life after a long career in the Navy. ABOUT MY GUEST: Matthew Long spent 24 years on active duty in the Navy before retiring in 2024. His civilian life is all about being a reader, a writer, and spending a lot of time with his dog, Lola. He resides in Tennessee with Jannette, his wife of 22 years, and their 17-year-old daughter, while their eldest son is off to college. IN THIS EPISODE: - The challenges of transitioning from a structured career to an open-ended future - How Matthew approached his retirement beyond just the financial side - The blueprint process he used to get clear on his next steps - Changes in family dynamics and household roles post-retirement - How Matthew is putting his blueprint into action—and what his next chapter looks like Check out the full show notes for this episode here: https://loublaser.substack.com/p/235-matthew-long • • • • • Subscribe to We're All Getting Older, a newsletter about living a vibrant & fulfilling life so we can die happy later: https://loublaser.substack.com Connect with Lou Blaser on Substack: https://substack.com/@loublaser Connect with Lou Blaser on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/loublaser/ Get full access to We're All Getting Older at loublaser.substack.com/subscribe

    35 min

  3. 23/01/2025

    234. Eschewing Comfort Zones, Playing, and Staying Youthful

    I am joined by Yvonne Marchese, whose boundless energy and fearless approach to trying new things always inspire me. In this lively conversation, Yvonne shares her secrets to staying energized, curious, and playful in midlife (and beyond). ABOUT MY GUEST: Yvonne Marchese is a former actress turned photographer, podcaster, author, age-agitator, and person who encourages us all to live and age playfully. On Instagram, you will often find her posting clips of her rollerskating or doing fun, playful things and just celebrating her midlife. IN THIS EPISODE: - How Yvonne’s “beginner’s mindset” keeps her excited about life - Her leap into photography, roller skating, and even writing a book - Overcoming fear, self-doubt, and the little voice that says, “You can’t” - Why surrounding yourself with inspiring people is a game-changer - And her plans to lean into playfulness in 2025 Check out the full show notes for this episode here: https://loublaser.substack.com/p/234-yvonne-marchese • • • • • Subscribe to We're All Getting Older, a newsletter about how to live now so we can die happy later: https://loublaser.substack.com Connect with Lou Blaser on Substack: https://substack.com/@loublaser Connect with Lou Blaser on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/loublaser/ Get full access to We're All Getting Older at loublaser.substack.com/subscribe

    38 min
  4. 233. When The Scary Thing Becomes The Thing You Love

    22/12/2024

    233. When The Scary Thing Becomes The Thing You Love

    I’m back! The podcast has been on hiatus since August, which has given me the time to plan the way forward. In this episode, I talk about rocks versus pebbles (you know that story, right?) and how that analogy has helped me define the future of this podcast. I also discuss how the podcast complements We’re All Getting Older (the main publication) and what you can expect from January onward. • • • • • Subscribe to We're All Getting Older, a newsletter about how to live now so we can die happy later: https://loublaser.substack.com Connect with Lou Blaser on Substack: https://substack.com/@loublaser Connect with Lou Blaser on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/loublaser/ Get full access to We're All Getting Older at loublaser.substack.com/subscribe

    11 min
  5. 232. What's happening? Why are we pausing?

    15/08/2024

    232. What's happening? Why are we pausing?

    Some things are changing around here, and I wanted to share the thought process, where I'm coming from and what's next for the podcast.   Please be sure to subscribe to We're All Getting Older, to hear about future releases. We're All Getting Older is a weekly publication that explores living a fulfilling and meaningful second half of our lives. FOOTNOTES Slowing Down Time ------------ Connect with Lou Blaser on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/loublaser/ Subscribe to We're All Getting Older: https://loublaser.substack.com/ Work With Lou Blaser: https://www.loublaser.com/bookacall Support the Show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/secondbreaks Thank you! Get full access to We're All Getting Older at loublaser.substack.com/subscribe

    8 min
  6. 231. Answer The Call And Write Your First Book with Jen Louden

    01/08/2024

    231. Answer The Call And Write Your First Book with Jen Louden

    This episode is brought to you by We're All Getting Older, a publication and a community for midlifers who want to get better as they get older. I am joined by writing coach and bestselling author Jen Louden. In this episode, we chat about the aspirations many midlife individuals have to write a book. Jen emphasizes the importance of recognizing the desire to write, distinguishing it from the desire to master the craft. We discuss the benefits and challenges of writing groups, finding the right mentors, and the emotional vulnerability of sharing one's work. We also talked about how to find and work with book coaches. Jen offers practical advice for aspiring writers, encouraging them to embrace their creative journey and find joy in the process. GUEST LINKS Jen Louden's webpage: https://jenniferlouden.com/Why Bother: Discover The Desire For What's NextJen Louden on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jenlouden/Jen Louden on Substack: https://jenniferlouden.substack.com/ FOOTNOTES Author Accelerator: https://www.authoraccelerator.com/matchmeCaroline Knapp memoirs: https://amzn.to/4fqtt0P and https://amzn.to/4frxmCYTara Westover memoir: https://amzn.to/3WoBStb ------------ Connect with Lou Blaser on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/loublaser/ Subscribe to We're All Getting Older: https://loublaser.substack.com/ Work With Lou Blaser: https://www.loublaser.com/bookacall Support the Show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/secondbreaks Thank you! Get full access to We're All Getting Older at loublaser.substack.com/subscribe

    48 min
  7. 230. Un-hurrying Grief

    11/07/2024

    230. Un-hurrying Grief

    This episode is brought to you by We're All Getting Older, a publication and community for midlifers who want to get better as they get older. Grief is a universal experience, yet it is deeply personal and unique to each individual. In this episode, I continue the conversation about grief and explore the relationship and connection between grieving and liminal spaces, how our behavior about liminality applies to grieving, and the "tasks to be done" during this particular — often painful — liminal period.  Find the essay version of this episode on We're All Getting Older: https://loublaser.substack.com/ FOOTNOTES Ep 229: Can we talk about grief? With Charlene LamEp 226: The Purpose of Liminal Spaces ------------ Connect with Lou Blaser on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/loublaser/ Subscribe to We're All Getting Older: https://loublaser.substack.com/ Work With Lou Blaser: https://www.loublaser.com/bookacall Support the Show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/secondbreaks Thank you. Get full access to We're All Getting Older at loublaser.substack.com/subscribe

    13 min
  8. 229. Can We Talk About Grief? with Charlene Lam

    20/06/2024

    229. Can We Talk About Grief? with Charlene Lam

    This episode is brought to you by We're All Getting Older, a publication and a community for midlifers who want to get better as they get older. I am joined by Charlene Lam, grief coach, speaker, and founder of the Grief Gallery. This is a wide-ranging conversation about "processing" our grief after the death of a loved one. We talked about the common feelings that show up during the grieving process, like guilt and regret. We discussed the topic of "moving on," what that even means, and how to differentiate between "normal grieving",  situations when you may need help, and the spectrum of care. Charlene also shared her unique approach to dealing with the belongings of our loved ones and how to reclaim the narrative and the stories we would like to remember and tell about them. GUEST LINKS Charlene Lam's website: https://www.charlenelam.com/Charlene Lam on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/curating_grief/ FOOTNOTES The Year of Magical Thinking by Joan Didion ------------ Connect with Lou Blaser on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/loublaser/ Subscribe to We're All Getting Older: https://loublaser.substack.com/ Work With Lou Blaser: https://www.loublaser.com/bookacall Support the Show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/secondbreaks Thank you! Get full access to We're All Getting Older at loublaser.substack.com/subscribe

    53 min
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Coffee chats with people I want to learn from — about life, work, becoming, and figuring things out (often in midlife, but not always). Hosted by Lou Blaser. About The Host: Lou Blaser is a corporate escapee turned writer, podcast host, and resident philosopher-next-door. She writes We’re All Getting Older — a newsletter about joy, purpose, and figuring out what matters now. She’s also the author of Break Free: The Courage to Reinvent Yourself and Your Career. loublaser.substack.com

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  • Creator
    Lou Blaser
  • Years Active
    2017 - 2025
  • Episodes
    366
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Lou Blaser
  • Show Website
    Second Breaks