Square Peg Round Hole

Timothy Eldred
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Ever feel like you don't fit? Like you can't be real? In other words, you have to fake it because you're not accepted as your true self. Yeah, that seems about right. And ridiculous.Every day people from every background—not just you—put on masks to make it through life. Talk about exhausting. But we keep doing it because no one wants to talk about the insanity of it even though it keeps us from being our best.Well, that's about to change.Welcome to Square Peg Round Hole with ​Timothy Eldred, writer, speaker, and friendly disrupter of the status quo on a mission to end aloneness and help people live and lead with authenticity in an artificial world.

  1. 2 DAYS AGO

    Ep. 27 | Why You're Stuck (And It's Not What You Think)

    You've tried the programs. Hired the coaches. Read the books. Set the goals. And something still won't move. The personal development industry has a very convenient explanation for that: you. Your mindset. Your discipline. Your willingness to do the work. They're wrong. And in this episode, Tim Eldred names the thing nobody in that industry wants to say out loud—because saying it blows up the business model. The reason most transformation efforts fail isn't bad ideas or weak willpower. It's that they're being applied to a body that isn't ready to receive them. A nervous system stuck in survival mode can't build new habits. Can't think creatively. Can't change. The biology won't allow it. Tim breaks down the science—without the jargon—and gives you four specific inputs that speak directly to your survival system. No purchase required. The Shift releases March 15. Pre-order on Amazon. SHOW NOTES Why does lasting change feel impossible—even when you're doing everything right? In this episode, Tim Eldred goes after the real reason: not your character, not your discipline, not your willingness to do the work. The problem is biological. When your nervous system is stuck in survival mode—fight, flight, or freeze—the brain regions you need to build habits, regulate emotions, think clearly, and actually change are neurologically offline. Not impaired. Offline. Tim breaks down: Why the personal development industry is built on a loop that protects itself by blaming you The science behind why mindset-first approaches have a ceiling (and why nobody selling them will tell you) What polyvagal theory and The Body Keeps the Score actually mean for your daily life — in plain English Four nervous system inputs that bypass your thinking brain entirely: morning light, coherent breathing, cold exposure, and blood sugar regulationThis isn't wellness content. These are interventions that speak directly to the survival system no amount of mindset work has been able to reach. Try this tomorrow morning:  → Get outside within the first hour of waking — 5 to 10 minutes of sunlight on your face  → Eat 30g of protein before coffee  → Three minutes of coherent breathing: 6 seconds in, 6 seconds out Your body will start to respond before your mind understands why. Researchers mentioned in this episode: Dr. Stephen Porges — Polyvagal TheoryDr. Bessel van der Kolk — The Body Keeps the ScoreDr. Andrew Huberman — Stanford, circadian and nervous system researchThe Shift — Tim's new book — releases March 15, 2026. Pre-order here. Want early access and behind-the-scenes content before launch? Join the launch team. Connect with Tim:  Substack: Square Peg Round Hole Send us a text message. We'd love to hear from you! Thanks for listening. Please follow on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. You can learn more about Tim here.

    39 min

  2. 6 DAYS AGO

    Ep.26 | You've Been Working on the Wrong System

    After an extended absence, Tim is back—and he's not coming back empty-handed.  A brain aneurysm. A rare nerve condition. A body that stopped cooperating. And 35 years of knowing how to help people change—none of it working when he was the one who needed to change. That's where this starts. In this episode, Tim tells the full story he's never told: what broke down, what he found in the science, and what he spent two years building in response. The core insight changed everything he thought he knew about transformation — and it might change how you think about why you're stuck. If you've been doing everything right and something still feels off, this one's for you. In this episode: Why Tim disappeared—and why it mattersGlossopharyngeal neuralgia, a brain aneurysm, and the moment his frameworks failed him in real timeThe science: polyvagal theory, somatic research, and why the body decides what's possible before the mind gets involvedWhy you cannot build sustainable change on a dysregulated nervous systemThe S.H.I.F.T. framework—what it is and where it came fromMentioned: The Shift by Timothy Eldred—pre-order now, releases March 15 → theshiftplan.com Dr. Stephen Porges—Polyvagal Theory, Dr. Bessel van der Kolk—The Body Keeps the Score, Dr. Lisa Feldman Barrett—How Emotions Are Made. Join the Launch Team timothyeldred.com | theshiftplan.com Send us a text message. We'd love to hear from you! Thanks for listening. Please follow on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. You can learn more about Tim here.

    13 min
  3. Ep.25 | Finding True Identity with Guest Beth Abbott

    09/05/2024

    Ep.25 | Finding True Identity with Guest Beth Abbott

    In this conversation, Tim talks with Beth Abbott who shares her journey of hitting rock bottom and finding redemption. She discusses the events that led to her national news coverage, including a DUI accident that injured pedestrians. Beth opens up about her struggles with depression, PTSD, and hiding her sexuality. She talks about the pressure she felt to meet others' expectations and how she used alcohol and desensitization as coping mechanisms. She discusses the internal battle between her heart and head, where her heart knows she is a good person but her head doubts her worth. The conversation highlights the importance of seeking help and finding one's true identity. Send us a text message. We'd love to hear from you! Thanks for listening. Please follow on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. You can learn more about Tim here.

    1 hr
  4. Ep.24 | Two Words: Slow Down

    09/03/2023

    Ep.24 | Two Words: Slow Down

    You don’t want to miss this episode. In my opinion anyway (but I’m biased). Clearly, I’ve been away from the microphone for a few weeks—much longer than even I expected for sure. But I’ve had good reason. And the lessons I’ve been learning during this hiatus have only helped to strengthen what I’ve been wanting to say to my loyal listeners as I talk openly about my recent experiences.  As you can ascertain from the title, my emphasis is simple: slow down. Sounds easy. It’s not. It requires a deliberate decision every day. But if we would adhere to this logic, we’d improve our lives and the lives of the people around us—the whole world to be honest. I can’t encourage you enough to listen and apply. If you’re interested in finding a greater sense of connection and belonging in your life, this is the best 25 minutes you can spend today. I promise! Send us a text message. We'd love to hear from you! Thanks for listening. Please follow on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. You can learn more about Tim here.

    26 min
  5. Ep.23 | Move Your Ass

    01/12/2022

    Ep.23 | Move Your Ass

    Sometimes life feels insurmountable. Those are the moments when you don't believe you have the strength or stamina to overcome the obstacles in your path—the seasons when you seriously consider giving up. You're not alone. We all face seasons in life when molehills feel like mountains. But there's always hope if we will learn to pause long enough to catch our breath and recalibrate to do the climb that lies ahead of us. When you don't feel confident or capable, you should tell yourself a different story with a better ending than the one you imagine. In this episode, I want to share some ABCs to help motivate you to keep moving. Send us a text message. We'd love to hear from you! Thanks for listening. Please follow on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. You can learn more about Tim here.

    22 min
  6. Ep.22 | Bet On Yourself

    27/10/2022

    Ep.22 | Bet On Yourself

    "If it doesn't bring you peace, profit, or purpose, then don't give it your time, energy, or attention." —Unknown I posted that quote on social media over the last few days. As you might suppose, the response was affirming. Because it just makes sense, right?  So why does such simple wisdom appear to be so difficult to implement in our lives? Why do we give our time, energy, and attention away so easily? I tackle these questions in this episode and attempt to offer some practical suggestions that can provide perspective we can all implement. Send us a text message. We'd love to hear from you! Thanks for listening. Please follow on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. You can learn more about Tim here.

    28 min
  7. Ep.21 | Is Your Pain Self-Inflicted?

    13/10/2022

    Ep.21 | Is Your Pain Self-Inflicted?

    No one likes to admit the possibility they might create the majority of their own problems or that they are the source of their own pain. Even considering the idea is slightly embarrassing. Or shameful. But is it true? I hate to be the one to tell you, but it’s true. Most of our pain is self-inflicted. Deliberately? Not usually. Inadvertently? Most likely. Until we even ponder that possibility, we'll continue to suffer unnecessarily in areas completely within our control. This is true for both our internal and external battles. And it's especially true for our relational challenges and well-being. Our personal struggles—private and public—are more solvable than we can imagine when we learn to recognize the signs of emotional self-harm. In this episode, Timothy Eldred unpacks three easily-remedied, self-harm behaviors that can improve your life once you learn to recognize the signs. They might be easier to change than you think. - - - SHOW NOTES During the episode, Tim addresses some self-harm behaviors. Here's a list of the three he mentions and a few more to consider for your life: PretendingSharing with people who can't support you*Not asking for what you need*Judging yourself harshlyBeing inauthenticThinking negatively about yourselfPreoccupying yourself with other people's livesExpecting things to be perfectAllowing fear to stop youChoosing to remain silentComplaining without changing what you can control*If you have thoughts or questions about any of these behaviors, please send an email to: podcast@timothyeldred.com.  We may address them in a future episode for everyone's benefit. Your voice matters, and we always appreciate hearing from you. - - - Here are additional resources you may want to read for insight into this issue: https://myonlinetherapy.com/emotional-self-harm/https://themighty.com/topic/self-harm/types-of-self-harmhttps://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/speakingoutaboutselfinjury/2020/6/can-self-harm-be-emotionalhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/happiness-is-state-mind/201908/emotional-self-harm-people-pleasing-can-ruin-your-happinessSend us a text message. We'd love to hear from you! Thanks for listening. Please follow on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. You can learn more about Tim here.

    26 min
  8. Ep.20 | Shut Up and Relax

    30/09/2022

    Ep.20 | Shut Up and Relax

    Does that title sound a bit harsh? Well, it is certainly abrupt. Why? Because sometimes there's no sugarcoating the truth. And the truth can hurt. But there are times we need someone to speak boldly and get our attention. That's what I hope to do for us in this episode.  My goal is to both challenge and encourage us all to remember the power we possess—the power of choice. We can choose what we listen to. And who we listen to. We have control over our minds and our mouths. So instead of getting all wound up with all the news and noise of the world and believing the worst about ourselves and others, perhaps it's time to learn to wind down. Especially in light of the growing anxiety people are experiencing today. So shut up and relax isn't just a title. It's a prescription to reclaim your life. Send us a text message. We'd love to hear from you! Thanks for listening. Please follow on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. You can learn more about Tim here.

    21 min
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Ever feel like you don't fit? Like you can't be real? In other words, you have to fake it because you're not accepted as your true self. Yeah, that seems about right. And ridiculous.Every day people from every background—not just you—put on masks to make it through life. Talk about exhausting. But we keep doing it because no one wants to talk about the insanity of it even though it keeps us from being our best.Well, that's about to change.Welcome to Square Peg Round Hole with ​Timothy Eldred, writer, speaker, and friendly disrupter of the status quo on a mission to end aloneness and help people live and lead with authenticity in an artificial world.

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  • Creator
    Timothy Eldred
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    28
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © 2026 Timothy Eldred | 1:1 Solutions Group
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    Square Peg Round Hole