Sturdy Girl

Jess Heiss

Join Jess Heiss, body image and performance coach, for conversations around body image, self-confidence and resilience (both mental and physical). Learn how to stop letting your appearance hold you back from living the big, rad life that you deserve.

  1. 14/11/2025

    71. Body Image and the Holidays: How to Protect Your Peace

    Family comments. Food talk. Holiday photos.  It’s supposed to be “the most wonderful time of the year,” but for a lot of us, it’s also one of the most triggering. In this episode, Jess shares practical and compassionate ways to protect your peace during the holidays — without missing out on the moments that matter. You’ll learn how to recognize body image triggers, set boundaries that actually work, and re-center on what this season is really about: connection, presence, and joy. We’ll cover: Why emotions are heightened during family gatherings (and how that impacts body image)How to prepare for comments or conversations that throw you off balanceHelpful reframes for food, movement, and self-talk during the holidaysWhat it means to stay grounded in your values when everyone else is spiralingPractical “sturdy strategies” for navigating this season with more ease and compassionReferences: Fredrickson, B. L., & Roberts, T. (1997). Objectification theory: Toward understanding women’s lived experiences and mental health risks. Psychology of Women Quarterly.Festinger, L. (1954). A theory of social comparison processes. Human Relations.Avalos, L., Tylka, T. L., & Wood-Barcalow, N. (2005). The Body Appreciation Scale.Wood-Barcalow, N. L., Tylka, T. L., & Augustus-Horvath, C. L. (2010). “But I like my body”: Positive body image characteristics and a holistic model for women.Neff, K. D. (2003). Self-compassion: An alternative conceptualization of a healthy attitude toward oneself. Send Us A Message! So, hit subscribe and we'll chat on Friday. Join the Sturdy Girl community on Instagram HERE. Connect with Jess HERE. Stay Sturdy, friends.

    18 min
  2. 07/11/2025

    70. Busy Isn’t a Badge: How to Stay Sturdy When Life Gets Full

    You don’t need more discipline — you need better entry points. In this episode, we talk about what it means to stay sturdy when life gets full — and why lowering the barrier to entry matters more than chasing perfect consistency. You’ll learn how to work with your capacity instead of against it, how “busy” became a badge of honor, and how to use the minimum effective dose to keep your goals alive when energy is low. We’ll cover: Why frequency builds more success than perfection ever couldHow to lower the barrier to entry so showing up feels doable, not dauntingThe difference between full seasons and busy ones — and how to know which you’re inHow to find the minimum effective dose for workouts, habits, and recoveryReal strategies for staying grounded when motivation disappearsReferences: Bellezza, S., Paharia, N., & Keinan, A. (2017). Conspicuous consumption of time: When busyness and lack of leisure time become a status symbol. J. of Consumer Research.Lally, P., et al. (2010). How are habits formed: Modelling habit formation in the real world.Kaushal, N., & Rhodes, R. (2015). Exercise habit formation and its impact on physical activity maintenance.Gollwitzer, P. M. (1999). Implementation intentions: Strong effects of simple plans.Wood, W., & Neal, D. T. (2007). A new look at habits and the habit-goal interface.Clear, J. (2018). Atomic Habits. Send Us A Message! So, hit subscribe and we'll chat on Friday. Join the Sturdy Girl community on Instagram HERE. Connect with Jess HERE. Stay Sturdy, friends.

    14 min
  3. 24/10/2025

    68. What 'I Feel Fat' Really Means

    Ever catch yourself saying “I just feel fat”? You’re not alone — and you’re also not actually describing your body. In this episode, Jess breaks down what that phrase really means, why our brains default to body-bashing language, and how to decode the emotion underneath it. You’ll learn about the psychology of body-image disruptions, body talk, and emotional regulation, plus three sturdy, practical strategies to help you respond with compassion instead of criticism. Because “fat” isn’t a feeling — it’s a story your brain tells when something else needs attention. In this episode: Why “I feel fat” often follows emotional or situational triggersWhat research says about body talk and body-image fluctuationsA 4-step “Sturdy Translation Practice” you can start using todayThree sturdy strategies: translate your body talk, move to process emotions, and reality-check your body perceptionsReferenced research: Cash, T.F. (2008). Cognitive-Behavioral Perspectives on Body ImageFredrickson, B.L. & Roberts, T.A. (1997). Objectification TheoryPiran, N. & Teall, T. (2012). Body Connection & Body Image DisruptionsTylka, T.L. & Wood-Barcalow, N.L. (2015). Body Appreciation Scale–2Hall, K.D. et al. (2016). Body Fat Change DynamicsBatra, P. et al. (2015). Hormonal & Fluid Changes Across the Menstrual CycleSawka, M.N. et al. (2007). Water Retention & Hydration PhysiologyOrbé-Austin, L. (2018). “When We Say We Feel Fat…” Psychology TodaySend Us A Message! So, hit subscribe and we'll chat on Friday. Join the Sturdy Girl community on Instagram HERE. Connect with Jess HERE. Stay Sturdy, friends.

    16 min
  4. 17/10/2025

    67. Body Positive Cliches Vs Self-Compassion

    Tired of being told to “just love your body”?  In this episode, Jess unpacks why body-positive slogans often fall flat — and what the research actually says helps you build a more peaceful, realistic relationship with your body. You’ll learn the difference between body positivity (the movement) and positive body image (the mindset), why self-compassion is a more effective approach than toxic positivity, and three practical ways to start treating your body with respect — even on the hard days. 💪 Topics covered:  • The real roots of body positivity (and how it got co-opted)  • What self-compassion actually does for body image  • Why “just love yourself” can backfire  • Three sturdy, science-backed practices you can try this week Referenced research: Raque et al. (2023) – Pathways by Which Self-Compassion Improves Positive Body ImageWollast et al. (2025) – Self-Objectification and Social Media: Role of Self-CompassionCannavò et al. (2024) – Body Surveillance and Self-CompassionBarron et al. (2021) – Fitspiration vs Self-Compassion Content EffectsMills et al. (2022) – Integrating Shame, Positive Body Image, and Self-CompassionBrown, B. (2012) – Daring Greatly: “Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change.”Send Us A Message! So, hit subscribe and we'll chat on Friday. Join the Sturdy Girl community on Instagram HERE. Connect with Jess HERE. Stay Sturdy, friends.

    21 min

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Join Jess Heiss, body image and performance coach, for conversations around body image, self-confidence and resilience (both mental and physical). Learn how to stop letting your appearance hold you back from living the big, rad life that you deserve.