The Inner Work with Daniela Marin

Psychology, depth, and the courage to grow
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A podcast for people ready to do the real work. Daniela Marin, Licensed Mental Health Clinician, explores the patterns, beliefs, and wounds that shape your life, and what it actually takes to change them from the inside out. djma89.substack.com

Episodes

  1. Why You Don’t Want Friends in Your 30s

    6 days ago

    Why You Don’t Want Friends in Your 30s

    When connection starts feeling like another responsibility. A raw episode on friendship burnout, loneliness, nervous system capacity, and why adult connection can feel so heavy. We’ll explore why you may crave friendship but feel exhausted by texts, plans, emotional availability, and being seen — and how to ask the deeper question: What kind of connection can my current life actually hold? Get full access to Daniela Marin at djma89.substack.com/subscribe

    15 min
  2. You Don’t Want a New Life. You Want Relief.

    20 May

    You Don’t Want a New Life. You Want Relief.

    A lot of adults fantasize about moving away, starting over, disappearing for a while, or becoming a completely different version of themselves. But sometimes the fantasy is not really about escape. Sometimes it is about relief. In this episode, I talk about why we crave a new life when we are exhausted, what those fantasies reveal about our unmet emotional needs, and why changing your circumstances does not always change the inner patterns you carry with you. Because the fantasy may be escape. But the need is relief. And the inner work is learning how to build a life you don’t constantly need to run away from. Get full access to Daniela Marin at djma89.substack.com/subscribe

    12 min
  3. The Adult Things You Avoid Are Ruining Your Peace

    13 May

    The Adult Things You Avoid Are Ruining Your Peace

    The emails. The bills. The hard conversations. The appointments. The decisions. Avoidance feels good for a second, until it starts making your life heavier. In this episode, I talk about why adults avoid the things they know they need to face, how avoidance keeps you stuck, and one simple 5-step process to start facing reality without attacking yourself. Get full access to Daniela Marin at djma89.substack.com/subscribe

    8 min
  4. Your 30s Aren’t a Crisis. They’re a Warning.

    6 May

    Your 30s Aren’t a Crisis. They’re a Warning.

    In this episode, I talk about why your 30s can feel so physically, mentally, and emotionally intense. Maybe you are not getting old or falling apart. Maybe your body, mind, and mood are finally asking you to live with more care, responsibility, and self-trust. This is a conversation about inner work, nervous system awareness, emotional maturity, and learning how to become the adult your life needs. Get full access to Daniela Marin at djma89.substack.com/subscribe

    8 min

  5. 29 Apr

    Why Your Relationships Keep Ending the Same Way

    Most people think they have bad luck in love. What they actually have are unexamined love patterns. This episode shows you how those patterns form: and how to finally interrupt them. Get full access to Daniela Marin at djma89.substack.com/subscribe

    14 min
  6. How to Show Up When You Don’t Feel Like It

    22 Apr

    How to Show Up When You Don’t Feel Like It

    What do you do when you do not feel motivated, disciplined, or in the mood for your life? In this episode, we talk about the adult skill of showing up anyway — for your work, your kids, your body, your home, and your future. This is about becoming reliable, not perfect, and learning how to stay consistent even on the days you feel tired, busy, overwhelmed, or low. Get full access to Daniela Marin at djma89.substack.com/subscribe

    16 min
  7. No One Is Coming To Save You

    15 Apr

    No One Is Coming To Save You

    There’s a moment in adulthood that changes everything. It’s the moment you realize that no one is coming to regulate you, fix your life, or carry your weight. And how you understand that moment will either keep you stuck… or move you forward. In this episode, we break down what this actually means in real life — not in a harsh or overwhelming way, but in a grounded and stabilizing one. Because most people are not struggling because life is too much. They’re struggling because they’re still waiting. Waiting for clarity.Waiting to feel ready.Waiting for things to calm down. And while they’re waiting… life is already happening. What we cover Why “no one is coming” feels so heavy — and why it actually makes sense The gap between your life responsibilities and your internal capacity How emotional overwhelm shows up in everyday adult life The difference between waiting and self-leadership The 3 core shifts 1. RegulationLearning how to handle your emotional reactions in real time, instead of avoiding, shutting down, or overreacting. 2. ResponsibilityRecognizing where you already know what needs to change — and what you’re still participating in. 3. Self-leadershipStopping the search for someone to take over, and building the ability to hold your own life. Get full access to Daniela Marin at djma89.substack.com/subscribe

    13 min
  8. You’re Not Self-Sabotaging the Way You Think

    8 Apr

    You’re Not Self-Sabotaging the Way You Think

    You’re not just sabotaging your life. You’re proving something. That things won’t last.That it’s not safe.That you’re not enough. And your reactions are quietly working to make that true. In this episode, I break down self-verification — the hidden pattern behind self-sabotage — and why you keep repeating things you consciously want to change. Once you hear this, you won’t see your patterns the same way again. Get full access to Daniela Marin at djma89.substack.com/subscribe

    13 min

  9. 1 Apr

    You Didn’t Ruin It. You Just Felt 8 Again.

    Most people think they “self-sabotage” because something is wrong with them. But what if the problem isn’t you…it’s the environment you were shaped in? In this episode, I break down one of the most important patterns I see in my therapy room: The type of home you grew up in may be driving how you react as an adult. We’ll explore four childhood environments that often lead to self-sabotage:– Chaos that makes calm feel unsafe– Emotional absence that makes closeness overwhelming– Performance-based love that makes success feel threatening– Early loss that makes happiness feel temporary And the question that changes everything:How old did you feel in that moment? Because a lot of the time, it’s not your adult self making the decision.It’s a younger version of you trying to protect you. This episode will help you recognize the pattern — and start separating who you are now from who had to survive back then. Get full access to Daniela Marin at djma89.substack.com/subscribe

    16 min

  10. 25 Mar

    Why Your Brain Sabotages The Good Stuff

    Have you ever ruined something great—a relationship, a promotion, or a moment of peace—and felt completely ridiculous afterward? You’re not broken, and you aren’t “weak.” Your brain is simply running on old software. In this psycho-education session, I break down why your nervous system often chooses familiarity over positivity. We’ll explore: * The Prediction Error: Why your amygdala freaks out when life actually goes well. * The Low Road vs. High Road: How to stop reacting before your “adult brain” can get online. * Your Sabotage Signature: How to identify the physical “alarm” in your body. * The 3-Step Rewire: A simple framework (Awareness, Contradiction, Repetition) to update your brain for the life you have now, not the one you survived then. Get full access to Daniela Marin at djma89.substack.com/subscribe

    14 min
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A podcast for people ready to do the real work. Daniela Marin, Licensed Mental Health Clinician, explores the patterns, beliefs, and wounds that shape your life, and what it actually takes to change them from the inside out. djma89.substack.com

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