The Trauma Nerd

Helen Billows
  • 5.0 (7)
  • MENTAL HEALTH

Most trauma content online is either too clinical to be useful or too vague to be trusted. This is neither. The Trauma Nerd is a podcast about trauma, intergenerational wounding, trauma therapy, EMDR, and the science behind why the brain responds the way it does.  Hosted by Helen Billows — registered psychologist, EMDRAA-accredited EMDR consultant, and founder of a full-time trauma therapy practice in Adelaide, South Australia. Expect clinical honesty, zero shortcuts, and a host who thinks she's funnier than she actually is. Rigour, but make it cute — that is, clinically accurate, accessible, and actually useable.  New episodes fortnightly.

Episodes

  1. 31 MAR

    You Know It's Not True. So Why Does It Still Feel True?

    You've had the insight. Someone laid out a completely airtight case for why the belief you hold about yourself is wrong. You saw it, you agreed, it made total sense. And then absolutely nothing changed.  This is not a you problem.  It's actually a clue, and it's telling you something specific about what kind of belief you're dealing with. Because not all beliefs work the same way, and if you don't know which one you're up against, you can spend years doing the right work in the wrong place.  Some beliefs live in the body and the nervous system. Some live in the intellect. They formed differently, they feel different, and they need completely different things to shift. Throwing logic at a trauma-encoded belief is like trying to argue someone out of a panic attack (completely useless, FYI).  This episode covers:  • Why you can have perfect insight and still feel exactly the same, and what that's actually telling you  • The difference between trauma encoded beliefs and learned worldview beliefs  • Why some people can do 50 sessions of therapy, understand everything, and still feel like their irrational beliefs are true  • How to tell which layer you're working with  • Why the gap between knowing and feeling isn't a flaw in your thinking, it's diagnostic information  If you've ever wondered why you keep arriving at the same realisation without anything actually shifting, listen now. Get The Reality Audit Here — a free resource listing the most common distorted beliefs from dysfunctional environments, with the accurate version alongside each one. https://www.helenbillows.com/the-reality-audit 🎙️ Listen on Spotify, Apple or Youtube 📩 Join the mailing list Follow Helen: @helenbillows | @thetraumanerd

    18 min

  2. 17 MAR

    Feel Guilty All the Time? You're Taking Too Much Pie.

    Do you have a chronic case of the guilts? You're probably carrying more than your share. Most people assume responsibility is simple: either it's your fault or it isn't. But that binary rarely gets you to the truth. It distorts what actually happened and creates guilt that was never yours to carry. This episode covers: Why feeling responsible isn't the same as being responsibleHow the Responsibility Pie works and how to use itWhy chronic guilt is often a sign you're carrying slices that were never yoursWhy accurate responsibility matters — for your relationships and your self-respectIf guilt is your default setting, listen now. 🎙️ Listen on Spotify, Apple or Youtube 📩 Join the mailing list Follow Helen: @helenbillows | @thetraumanerd

    17 min

  3. 3 MAR

    "I Didn't Mean It Like That!" — Why Impact Beats Intention

    You've heard it. You've probably said it. "I didn't mean it like that." And maybe that's true. But it doesn't matter as much as you think it does. This episode unpacks one of the most common damaging patterns in relationships — confusing intention, outcome and responsibility. Good intentions don't erase harm. They don't replace an apology. And when "I didn't mean it" becomes the default response to someone's hurt, it stops being a clarification and starts being a dismissal. This episode builds on the previous one. If you haven't listened to that yet, start there. This episode covers: Why good intentions and real harm can both be true at the same timeHow "I didn't mean it" becomes a way of avoiding accountabilityWhat a genuine apology actually requires — and why most don't clear the barWhy the impact of your actions is your responsibility, regardless of your intentIf you've ever had your hurt dismissed because someone "didn't mean it" — or done the dismissing yourself — listen now. 🎙️ Listen on Spotify, Apple or Youtube 📩 Join the mailing list Follow Helen: @helenbillows | @thetraumanerd

    13 min

  4. 17 FEB

    "Hurt People Hurt People." Great. Now Let's Talk About Accountability.

    You've seen it everywhere. On social media, in the comments, maybe even from people who should probably know better. "Hurt people hurt people."  The intention behind it isn't wrong, but somewhere along the way it became a get-out-of-jail-free card. And that's where Helen has a problem with it. Understanding someone's pain and excusing their behaviour are not the same thing — and conflating them causes real harm. This episode makes the case that accountability isn't the opposite of compassion. It's actually part of it. This episode covers: Why empathy and accountability aren't in competitionHow "hurt people hurt people" gets used to avoid consequencesWhat it actually looks like to hold both compassion and responsibility at the same timeWhy letting people off the hook isn't kindness — for them or for youIf you've ever felt guilty for being hurt by someone who was also hurting, listen now. 🎙️ Listen on Spotify, Apple or Youtube 📩 Join the mailing list Follow Helen: @helenbillows | @thetraumanerd

    27 min

  5. 3 FEB

    WTF is EMDR?

    You've heard of EMDR. Maybe your therapist mentioned it, maybe you're on a waitlist for it, maybe you keep seeing it online and wondering if it's actually legit or another wellness trend with good branding. This episode is the honest, no-shortcuts explanation you've been looking for. Helen Billows — registered psychologist, EMDR therapist, and EMDR consultant — breaks down what EMDR actually is, how it works neurologically, and what happens in the room during a session. She covers the Adaptive Information Processing model, why trauma memories get stuck in the first place, and what a processed memory actually feels like from the inside. No finger-waggling mysticism. A clear, evidence-based explanation from someone who does this for a full-time job. If you're considering EMDR, currently in it, or tired of not understanding what people mean when they talk about trauma processing — start here. 🎙️ Listen on Spotify, Apple or Youtube 📩 Join the mailing list Follow Helen: @helenbillows | @thetraumanerd

    26 min

  6. 6 JAN

    Welcome to The Trauma Nerd Podcast

    Some people knit. Helen reads trauma research for funsies. And now you get the good bits, without spending your nights googling. The Trauma Nerd is where evidence-based psychology meets the real experience of trauma, EMDR, and what actually happens inside the therapy room. Hosted by psychologist and EMDR consultant Helen Billows, this show covers complex concepts without losing the human underneath them. Episodes run under 30 minutes. No shortcuts, no oversimplification, no wellness faff. If that sounds like what you've been looking for, hit follow. 🎙️ Listen on Spotify, Apple or Youtube 📩 Join the mailing list Follow Helen: @helenbillows | @thetraumanerd

    1 min
  • 6 Episodes

Ratings & Reviews

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About

Most trauma content online is either too clinical to be useful or too vague to be trusted. This is neither. The Trauma Nerd is a podcast about trauma, intergenerational wounding, trauma therapy, EMDR, and the science behind why the brain responds the way it does.  Hosted by Helen Billows — registered psychologist, EMDRAA-accredited EMDR consultant, and founder of a full-time trauma therapy practice in Adelaide, South Australia. Expect clinical honesty, zero shortcuts, and a host who thinks she's funnier than she actually is. Rigour, but make it cute — that is, clinically accurate, accessible, and actually useable.  New episodes fortnightly.

Information

  • Creator
    Helen Billows
  • Years Active
    2K
  • Episodes
    6
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Helen Billows
  • Show Website
    The Trauma Nerd

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