Virtual Kitchen Table

Erin

We’d like to welcome you to the Virtual Kitchen Table. We are Hayley from Taking a Kinder Path, Erin from Ever Learning and Ashley from Ashley as Mama and Storytime Shelves. We’re gathering to have conversations about family life and home education, most specifically unschooling, which is sometimes known as self-directed education or, as we sometimes refer to it, whole life learning, consent-based education or natural learning. We’ll be sharing experiences and ideas, learning as we go through relaxed conversation. We hope you’ll pull a chair up to the table and join us.

  1. 19/11/2025

    Episode 48: Taking a Kinder Path to the Holiday Season – Planning Together with our Kids

    Based on a core section of Hayley’s blog post, Taking a Kinder Path to the Festivities: For You, Your Children and the Planet, we discuss kind and collaborative approaches we can take to the holiday season  With two holiday season discussions behind us, we weren’t sure how much there was left to talk about. It turns out that was no problem!  We had some in-depth conversation about planning WITH our kids rather than just for them, Santa Claus (or not – and all kinds of things in between), gift-giving and the differences between the receiver choosing and the giver choosing, what keeping things “simple” means and how that isn’t always about material things, giving grace and openness to those we’re spending time with, dealing with different convictions within our family and how to be kind to ourselves.  There are lots of our own stories in this one: Our own childhood background with Santa, what gift-giving looked like in our families of origin versus with our own families, how to avoid resentment and overload, whether we need to take on making the traditional meal simply because we are mothers and many more.  This is a content-packed episode. Come join us! Resources:   Taking a Kinder Path to the Festivities for You, Your Children and the Planet Virtual Kitchen Table Episode 17: Being Intentional about the Holidays – Ideas for Thoughtful Families Virtual Kitchen Table Episode 32: Being Intentional About the Holidays – Finding a Fit for Our Families Christmas Customs: Weaving Together Faith and Festivity and Whether to “Do Santa” Virtual Kitchen Table Episode 37: Nurturing our Well-Being Through Creative Practices  Virtual Kitchen Table Episode 41: Creative Kids, Creative Parents Dealing with Conflict at Christmas: Taking a Kinder Path Living Joyfully Network

    2h 30m
  2. 22/10/2025

    Episode 46: The Imagination we Lack When it Comes to Education: The Kindergarten Years

    We Discuss:   Kindergarten in the past in comparison to now (each sharing memories of our own start of school) Sharing stories of our child’s start to the school years  The awareness of making a mistake being unacceptable and when/how that begins The longing to belong and not be rejected as a subconscious survival mechanism  The normalization of separation of young children from their families  The discomfort of separation from a parent being labelled “ separation anxiety”  How reluctance to go to nursery school or kindergarten can be about more than separation anxiety, but also just the particular environment not being a right That, even though we have gained so much information about child development in the last few decades, we have moved farther away from having kindergarten set up in a way that actually fits that development  What might be behind the resistance to making a change for our children and opting out of the school system – so many families are struggling but the it’s hard to make the change  That the comment “readiness for school”  is often more about a child being able to handle it then being an environment where they would optimally thrive How uncomfortable it is to make a choice that’s different from the masses How just knowing one other homeschool family can make the difference and offer some sort of framework for living outside of the system How school is not just the specific hours the children are there but all the pieces around it like special events, friends, etc Kids who appear to enjoy school or go along with it, but aren’t necessarily thriving in the way they might with a more individualized environment Really well thought out baby, toddler, and preschool programming, and resources, and the wish that they extended into the school years A mix of public and private offerings  Inclusive and exclusive homeschool activities – the trickiness of finding belonging yet also a group that is sometimes small or limited enough to work for our kids  Flexible, community-friendly schools  Flexible, community-based learning  The capacity and energy needed to build and maintain community  The possibility of parents whose kids are older offering their time, resources and presence to younger families  Whether kindergarten is necessary  What other community-based ways there might be to curate  That early learning and development are much more nuanced than the concrete concepts and skills that are most commonly talked about Early social-emotional intelligence and critical thinking and the everyday, natural interactions that provide a model  The importance of kids feeling safe in order to learn and develop to their full potential    Resources: High School Diplomas, College Degrees, and Future Careers: Is There More Than One Way?  Erin from Ever Learning and Missy Willis from Let ‘em Go Barefoot Practical Ideas for Building and Contributing to Community, Virtual Kitchen Table, Episode 29 Homeschooling Community: Finding, Sustaining and How it Evolves, Episode 15 Choice in Education: Living and Learning in Community, Episode 3 Are Unschoolers Bringing Back Vintage Kindergarten? – Missy Willis from Let’em Go Barefoot I’m just so glad he didn’t sit on the line. – Kara S. Anderson

    2h 44m
  3. 23/06/2025

    Episode 43: Financially Accessible Homeschooling – How Do We Offer our Children an Abundant Life?

    Does homeschooling have to cost a lot of money?  We tap into this topic with Anne from @obytheby and Eclectic Kids and come to the conclusion that living richly and abundantly is indeed possible without expensive classes, outings and materials. We agree that sometimes we might choose those things but that as we slow down, observe and integrate other things into our days, they don’t seem as necessary or even desired. *This isn’t a conversation that suggests that everyone wants to or can homeschool, either financially or otherwise. It’s an opportunity for us to sift through how home education can be simplified and enjoyed at a much lower cost than people might imagine and that while that still might not make it possible for ALL people, it might make it possible for MORE people. Something that comes up throughout the conversation is the role that gradual deschooling plays in becoming more comfortable with living simply.  We’d love you to tune in and hear our thoughts. If you have links to additional free, low-cost or Pay What You Can resources, please send them our way via Comments or the Ever Learning email and we’ll get a running list going.  Resources:   @obytheby Eclectic Kids Eclectic Kids Explore Birdbound Abundant Homeschooling Doesn’t Need to Cost a Lot of Money – Ever Learning How Much Novelty Do Our Kids Need? – Episode #11: Virtual Kitchen Table Episode  Fear of Missing Out – Episode #26: Virtual Kitchen Table Episode  Easy Peasy Homeschool All in One Homeschool High School The Good and the Beautiful  Khan Academy Virtual Kitchen Table Community

    2h 46m
  4. 02/06/2025

    Episode #42: What to Do When We Feel Like a Rubbish Parent: 13 Steps to Dealing with Parenting Doubt

    Sometimes we all feel we’ve missed the mark with our kids and it’s not a great feeling. What might be helpful during those times? In this conversation, we return to follow up on the discussion from Episode #40: Feel Like a Rubbish Parent? Nine Things to Remember When You Feel Like a Rubbish Parent and weave in some action steps as well as explore many related thoughts. We invite you to join us! Both of these conversations are based on Hayley’s blog posts of the same titles. You can link in the Resources to read the full posts. Resources: What to Do When You Feel Like a Rubbish Parent: 13 Steps to Dealing With Parenting Doubt – Taking a Kinder Path Episode #40: Feel Like a Rubbish Parent? 9 Things to Do When You Doubt your Parenting Who I Am: The Words I Tell Myself by Susan Verde, Peter H. Reynolds (Illustrator) Birdbound Lulastic Hippyshake Ever Learning – Being Conscious of the External Processor: How Being Aware of the Way our Child Makes Decisions Can Help Us Avoid Getting Tangled Up 19 Benefits of a Good Cry: The Comforting Case for Crying (and Why it’s Good for Us) – Taking a Kinder Path Virtual Kitchen Table Community Joy lists : A Home Education Essential (what they are, why you should have one and how to get started). – Taking a kinder path Self-soothing checklists : the secret to raising our mood and energy levels fast – Taking a kinder path Create a calming kit to help you cope (45+ ideas to get started right now) – Taking a kinder path

    2h 28m

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We’d like to welcome you to the Virtual Kitchen Table. We are Hayley from Taking a Kinder Path, Erin from Ever Learning and Ashley from Ashley as Mama and Storytime Shelves. We’re gathering to have conversations about family life and home education, most specifically unschooling, which is sometimes known as self-directed education or, as we sometimes refer to it, whole life learning, consent-based education or natural learning. We’ll be sharing experiences and ideas, learning as we go through relaxed conversation. We hope you’ll pull a chair up to the table and join us.