Not From Here

Jaafar Issa
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You don't feel like you belong here, you go home and don't feel like you belong there either. Congratulations, you're not from here. Join the club.

  1. 2 days ago

    Muslim Chaplain: I Watched Hundreds Of People Die & They All Regret The Same Things

    What do people say when they know they're dying? Dr. Naveed Baig was the first hospital imam in Denmark's history. He spent 15 years at the bedsides of the dying and served as a prison chaplain to men society gave up on. He has watched hundreds of people take their final breath. We flew to Copenhagen to find out what they told him. Most of us live like death is far away. We stay harsh on ourselves, fear God instead of loving Him, hold grudges we plan to fix later, and chase things the dying say never mattered. This episode is about fixing that before it's your turn. In this episode: * What the dying actually regret, and why it's never their sins * Why we grew up fearing an angry God, and the image that replaced it * The final words of a terminally ill woman that changed his faith * What happened when a two-year-old's life support was turned off * Can a murderer be forgiven, and can he forgive himself? * Why "have sabr" can hurt someone who is grieving * Why prisoners turn to Islam behind bars * Sunni or Shia? Why nobody asks at the end Sponsors: 🔑 Ali Rida Team: https://soldbyrida.com/ 🛏️ Detroit Furniture: https://detfurniture.com/ ☕️ Detroit Perk Coffee: https://detroitperk.com/ Download the app: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/detroit... ⚖️ Hall Makled: https://www.hallmakled.com/ +1 (313) 788-8888 Connect with Naveed: https://www.instagram.com/naveed.baig.1975/?hl=en https://www.linkedin.com/in/naveed-baig-392a9731/ Connect with Jaafar: https://www.instagram.com/podnotfromhere/ https://twitter.com/JaafarrIssa https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaafar-issa-8046a419b/v 
00:00 Intro
01:19 Who do you see in the mirror?
04:31 Be gentle with yourself: the harshness we inherited
11:57 Becoming Denmark's first hospital imam
16:38 What hospital staff never understood about Muslim patients
23:38 The room where a child's machine was turned off
27:43 What the dying confess
33:53 Why we learned to fear God instead of love Him
39:04 The mother who was tired of hearing "have sabr"
42:47 Families who scream at the imam
47:33 "I'm going to meet my Beloved"
49:13 Inside the prison: first prayers and unforgivable sins
53:15 Can a murderer forgive himself?
1:00:13 How deathbeds changed his view on Islam
1:02:52 "Our boat is sinking": the divide killing us
1:05:02 What actually matters at the end

    Muslim Chaplain: I Watched Hundreds Of People Die & They All Regret The Same Things

  2. 28 Jul

    The Marriage Advice Abused Women Get From Our Religious Leaders Is Worse Than You Think

    Dr. Sameera Ahmed is a licensed clinical psychologist and the founder of The Family & Youth Institute, one of the leading research organizations on Muslim mental health in America. For 25 years, she's been in the room with Muslim couples, seeing what actually happens in our marriages behind closed doors. In this episode, she reveals why the fights are never about what we think they're about, and shares what she's witnessed with her own eyes when abused wives went to religious leaders for help. In this conversation, we talk about: * The one question behind almost every fight in a marriage * In-laws, financial abuse, and the real top 5 causes of conflict in Muslim marriages * The intimacy disconnect between husband and wife * What she witnessed sheikhs tell emotionally abused wives * The premarital step that dramatically lowers divorce rates * The point where a marriage is truly beyond saving Sponsors: 🏠Venture Title Agency: https://vtclosings.com/ ☕️ Detroit Perk Coffee: https://detroitperk.com/ Download the app: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/detroit... ⚖️ Hall Makled: https://www.hallmakled.com/ +1 (313) 788-8888 Connect with Dr. Sameera: https://www.instagram.com/drsameeraahmed/ https://www.instagram.com/thefyi_org/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/thefyi-sameera-ahmed/ https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-family-youth-institute/ Connect with Jaafar: https://www.instagram.com/podnotfromhere/ https://twitter.com/JaafarrIssa https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaafar-issa-8046a419b/v 00:00 - Intro 01:34 - Who is Dr. Sameera Ahmed? 04:19 - The perfect families you see are struggling 08:23 - It’s not about the dishes 13:18 - Ads 14:33 - The cycle that pushes couples apart 18:30 - Why love doesn't conquer all 26:38 - The telepathy expectation ruining marriages 29:25 - The #1 cause of conflict: In-laws 39:51 - What financial abuse looks like 47:13 - The intimacy disconnect between husbands and wives 49:53 - Red flags she catches before the wedding 52:40 - Ads 53:29 - The real work starts after the wedding 57:55 - What sheikhs told abused wives in front of her 01:06:32 - The hardest year of every marriage 01:10:32 - The point where a marriage can't be saved 01:16:12 - The questions our community needs to stop asking 01:21:36 - Why educated women can't find husbands 01:25:20 - Is she scared for Muslim marriages?

    The Marriage Advice Abused Women Get From Our Religious Leaders Is Worse Than You Think

  3. 13 Jul

    School Safety Director: "We Are on the Verge of Losing Our Kids!"

    Danielle Elzayat is the Director of Health, Safety and Security at Dearborn Public Schools, the third largest district in Michigan. Keeping 20,000 students safe is her job. But she'll tell you the work that actually protects kids doesn't happen in a school building. It happens at home. And as a mother of three, she's lived every word of it. This conversation is about : * Why parents have become the biggest risk to their own kids * The vaping epidemic in schools and who's actually buying the vapes * Why kids lie and why parents choose to believe them * Losing authority at home: how kids play parents against each other * The anxiety generation and why we stopped teaching kids to push through * Making your kids work, spoiling them, and the culture of entitlement Sponsors: 🏠Venture Title Agency: https://vtclosings.com/ ☕️ Detroit Perk Coffee: https://detroitperk.com/ Download the app: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/detroit... ⚖️ Hall Makled: https://www.hallmakled.com/ +1 (313) 788-8888 Connect with Danielle: https://www.instagram.com/danielle_elzayat/ Connect with Jaafar: https://www.instagram.com/podnotfromhere/ https://twitter.com/JaafarrIssa https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaafar-issa-8046a419b/v 0:00 Intro 1:47 Who Do You See in the Mirror? 5:00 What Keeping 20,000 Kids Safe Really Means 10:41 The Biggest Risk to Our Kids Is the Parents 12:34 Phones, Social Media & Tracking Your Kids 22:48 Losing Authority at Home & in the Classroom 33:14 The Vaping Epidemic in Our Schools 40:48 Marijuana, Denial & the Police Officer's Warning 45:29 Of Course Your Kids Lie to You 53:20 Anxiety & Refusing to Quit 1:06:30 Schools Educate, Parents Raise 1:11:35 Making Good Humans 1:15:47 A Generation That Can't Take Care of Us

    School Safety Director: "We Are on the Verge of Losing Our Kids!"

  4. 5 Jul

    Modest Fashion Is Not Really Modest, Life After Divorce, & Women Losing Confidence | Zahraa Berro

    Zahraa Berro is the founder of Zahraa The Label, one of the biggest modest fashion brands in America. She went from making $12 an hour to selling millions in hijabs and modest clothing, becoming one of the most recognized hijabi entrepreneurs and content creators in the Muslim community. Then, at the peak of her success, she stepped away from influencing completely. In this episode, Zahraa opens up about the marriage she knew was over from day one, rebuilding her confidence after divorce as a single mom of two, meeting her husband and marrying someone from outside of her culture within three weeks. We also discuss: * The truth about modest fashion and why most of it isn't actually modest * Life after divorce and rebuilding confidence from zero * Marrying outside her culture and breaking taboos around cross-cultural marriage * Hiring a feminine energy coach and manifesting her husband Sponsors: 🛏️ Detroit Furniture: https://detfurniture.com/ ☕️ Detroit Perk Coffee: https://detroitperk.com/ Download the app: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/detroit... ⚖️ Hall Makled: https://www.hallmakled.com/ +1 (313) 788-8888 Connect with Zahraa: https://www.instagram.com/zahraa_hberro/ https://www.youtube.com/@ZahraaBerro Connect with Jaafar: https://www.instagram.com/podnotfromhere/ https://twitter.com/JaafarrIssa https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaafar-issa-8046a419b/v 00:00 - Intro 01:43 - Who is Zahraa Berro? 05:26 - Growing up with high expectations 10:28 - How a Karbala trip changed everything 16:55 - Ads 18:07 - The burdens Allah gives you 21:10 - The viral video that started it all 24:45 - Divorce feels like death 28:52 - Romanticizing life after divorce 39:25 - Why kids don't fix a marriage 45:43 - How Zahraa met her Husband 52:45 - Ads 53:31 - The feminine energy coach 01:07:27 - Why she quit influencing 01:13:06 - What modest fashion gets wrong

    Modest Fashion Is Not Really Modest, Life After Divorce, & Women Losing Confidence | Zahraa Berro

  5. 22 Jun

    Born Deaf: "I Taught Myself To Speak By Putting My Hands On People's Throats!"

    Sophia was born profoundly deaf in both ears, and almost everyone decided early what she'd never be able to do, from the doctors to the deaf community itself. This episode is what happened when she refused to accept it, starting with a memory from before she could speak a single word that she says she'll never forget. The way she learned to communicate is only the beginning. Sophia has been rejected, written off, and pushed to a place she's never talked about publicly until now, and what she did next is the reason this one is worth your time. Sponsors: 🛏️ Detroit Furniture: https://detfurniture.com/ ☕️ Detroit Perk Coffee: https://detroitperk.com/ Download the app: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/detroit... ⚖️ Hall Makled: https://www.hallmakled.com/ +1 (313) 788-8888 Connect with Sophia: https://www.instagram.com/sofitbysophia/ Connect with Jaafar: https://www.instagram.com/podnotfromhere/ https://twitter.com/JaafarrIssa https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaafar-issa-8046a419b/v 0:00 Intro 1:27 Who is Sophia & born deaf 12:56 Teaching herself to speak by feeling vibrations 20:08 The teacher who abused her, and the years she couldn't tell anyone 26:47 "Why me?" and belonging to neither world 37:33 60 rejections and the job that wouldn't promote her 41:31 The college professor who humiliated her 45:57 Cancer and divorce on the same day 53:54 Her lowest point, and what pulled her back 1:03:22 A sixth sense, and the excuse she can't stand 1:14:17 What she'd tell the little girl on the hill

    Born Deaf: "I Taught Myself To Speak By Putting My Hands On People's Throats!"

  6. 14 Jun

    Cheating, Porn, and the Secrets We Keep From Our Partners: What Betrayal Really Is

    Most marriages don't fall apart over one big betrayal, they unravel quietly, with two people blaming each other instead of the bond between them. In this episode of Not From Here, couples therapist Hamed Fatahian breaks down attachment, betrayal, intimacy, and what it actually takes to repair a marriage. We get into: * How childhood attachment shapes the way you love, trust, and fight with your partner * The negative cycle every couple gets stuck in (and how to break it) * What actually counts as cheating (it's not what you think) * Why men cheat more than women, and how affairs really start * Pornography in marriage and the expectations it creates * Whether a relationship can survive an affair and why forgiveness comes last * Why couples drift apart after kids, and how to reconnect * The two minutes a day that can save a marriage Hamed Fatahian is a licensed marriage & family therapist certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy, with over a decade helping couples across cultures and faiths. Sponsors: 🏠Venture Title Agency: https://vtclosings.com/ ☕️ Detroit Perk Coffee: https://detroitperk.com/ Download the app: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/detroit... ⚖️ Hall Makled: https://www.hallmakled.com/ +1 (313) 788-8888 🏠Venture Title Agency: https://vtclosings.com/ Connect with Hamed: https://www.instagram.com/hfatahianmft/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/hfatahiantehran/ Connect with Jaafar: https://www.instagram.com/podnotfromhere/ https://twitter.com/JaafarrIssa https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaafar-issa-8046a419b/v 00:00 Intro 02:08 Why your whole life runs on relationships 07:09 What attachment really is and how childhood forms it 20:29 How your childhood shows up in your marriage 22:38 The cycle every couple gets stuck in 33:13 What actually counts as cheating 44:36 You're not the problem, your relationship is 50:53 Why couples fight about the same thing forever 59:10 The soulmate myth & why marriage is only step one 1:03:33 Can a marriage survive an affair? 1:12:50 Why men cheat more than women 1:17:46 The truth about porn in marriage 1:26:12 The spouse who won't open up 1:32:43 Two minutes a day that save a marriage 1:35:51 When the baby comes and the marriage "dies" 1:44:22 The biggest takeaways 1:52:31 A therapist who goes to therapy

    Cheating, Porn, and the Secrets We Keep From Our Partners: What Betrayal Really Is

  7. 9 Jun

    11 Lessons After 4 years Of Podcasting

    Four years ago I started this podcast with no audience and no idea what I was doing. Today it's the first episode in the new studio.** So I pulled the 11 lessons four years behind the mic actually taught me. A few I'd stake my life on. A few sound wrong until you hear me out. We start with why embarrassment is the price of entry and end with why the joy in life was never about you. Sponsors: 🏠Venture Title Agency: https://vtclosings.com/ 🛏️ Detroit Furniture: https://detfurniture.com/ ☕️ Detroit Perk Coffee: https://detroitperk.com/ Download the app: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/detroit... ⚖️ Hall Makled: https://www.hallmakled.com/ +1 (313) 788-8888 Connect with Jaafar: https://www.instagram.com/podnotfromhere/ https://twitter.com/JaafarrIssa https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaafar-issa-8046a419b/va 00:00 Intro 01:18 Embarrassment is the price of entry 03:34 You are never going to feel ready 09:25 bite off more than you can chew then figure out how to chew it 10:56 overthink the effort not the result 13:31 research your childhood 15:35 leaving home destroys you before it builds you back up 19:44 feeling disappointed in your life is a very good thing 21:14 political views are different from religious views 24:49 AI will wipe us out 26:33 death is very peaceful 28:45 the joy in your life doesn't come from you

    11 Lessons After 4 years Of Podcasting

  8. 25 May

    The Unexpected Rise Of Qahwah House & The Plant That is Destroying Yemenis | Ibrahim Alhasbani

    Ibrahim Alhasbani is the founder of Qahwah House, the first Yemeni coffee shop in America and the brand that put Yemeni coffee on the global map. His family has been growing coffee in the mountains of Yemen for eight generations, and in this conversation he breaks down why Yemen is the real birthplace of coffee and what building Qahwah House looked like when nobody believed in the idea. We also get into the harder stuff, the plant destroying the Yemeni community that nobody wants to talk about, and what it's going to take to save the next generation. Sponsors: 🏠Venture Title Agency: https://vtclosings.com/ ☕️ Detroit Perk Coffee: https://detroitperk.com/ Download the app: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/detroit... ⚖️ Hall Makled: https://www.hallmakled.com/ +1 (313) 788-8888 Connect with Ibrahim: https://www.instagram.com/ibrahimalhasbani/ Connect with Jaafar: https://www.instagram.com/podnotfromhere/ https://twitter.com/JaafarrIssa https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaafar-issa-8046a419b/v 00:00 — Intro 05:50 — Yemen, the Birthplace of Coffee 11:35 — Why He Took It Personal 18:37 — Ad 19:56 — Nobody Believed in the Idea 29:31 — What Makes Yemeni Coffee Different 33:52 — Inside the Process 43:30 — When Everyone Started Copying Him 50:57 — Khat: The Plant Killing Yemen 1:08:13 — Saving the Next Generation 1:15:05 — Ad 1:15:46 — A Message to Young Yemenis 1:28:09 — If Coffee Disappeared Tomorrow 1:34:57 — Building a Hundred-Year Company 1:36:55 — Losing His Mother

    The Unexpected Rise Of Qahwah House & The Plant That is Destroying Yemenis | Ibrahim Alhasbani
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You don't feel like you belong here, you go home and don't feel like you belong there either. Congratulations, you're not from here. Join the club.

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  • Creator
    Jaafar Issa
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    131

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