Selfish Parenting

Chance' Hindir-Lane
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Welcome to Selfish Parenting - where we flip the script on everything society tells you about being a "good parent."I'm Chance Hinder-Lane (@hindirlane), and I'm here to tell you that what society calls selfish, we call sustainable parenting.Tired of the guilt? Done with the burnout culture? Ready to stop people-pleasing your way through parenthood? You're in the right place.This isn't your typical parenting podcast filled with shoulds and shouldn'ts. We're here to give you permission to:  Hire help without guilt  Prioritize your career AND your kids Say no to activities that drain you  Invest in your mental health and identity  Maintain adult relationships and interests  Spend money on yourself  Set boundaries that actually workEvery episode, we dive deep into the "selfish" behaviors that research shows actually make you a better parent. From working mothers to stay-at-home parents demanding respect, from therapy to solo vacations - we're covering it all with science, sass, and zero shame.Because here's the truth: Taking care of yourself IS taking care of your family.New episodes drop every Monday at 7am Follow @hindirlane for daily doses of sustainable parenting content

Episodes

  1. 15 DEC

    4. The Truth About “Broken Homes” | A Domestic Violence Survivor’s Story feat. Wadzanai Karanja

    This episode contains graphic depictions of domestic violence. Listener discretion is advised. If you or someone you know needs help, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233, or text “START” to 88788. Leaving isn’t the hard part. It’s admitting to yourself that what you’ve been calling “home” has been hurting you. In this episode, I sit down with Wadzanai Karanja, a domestic violence survivor and single mother, to talk about the red flags she didn’t yet know to name, the years of isolation that kept her far from help, and the moment she chose safety over staying. We also break down the research that debunks the idea that children need two parents under one roof to thrive, and dig into what emotional safety, stability, and real community support actually look like for single mothers rebuilding their lives on their own terms. Wadzanai Karanja is a survivor, a mother, and a passionate voice for women choosing safety over expectation. Her story is a powerful reminder that protecting your child sometimes begins with protecting yourself. Resources mentioned: Journal of Marriage and Family: Longitudinal study on children leaving high-conflict homes (1,400 participants)American Psychological Association: Resilience in stable single-parent householdsNational Center for Health Statistics: Maternal education as a protective factorIn this episode, we cover: The early red flags of coercive controlHow isolation and fear keep women from leavingWhy many “traditional” family norms harm more than they helpWhat the research says about single-parent stabilityHow community becomes a lifeline for survivorsA parenting truth that might change how you view “broken homes”Hosted by Chancé Hindir-Lane, Selfish Parenting is the honest, empowering podcast that challenges the myth of self-sacrifice in motherhood. Each episode explores identity, partnership, and the balance between nurturing your family and yourself. Connect with Me: Instagram Shop My LTK YouTube - Chancè YouTube - Selfish Parenting TikTok

    1h 10m

  2. 1 DEC

    3. The “Right Choice” Myth | Why Both Working & Stay-at-Home Mothers Matter

    From the “boss babe” stereotype to the “trad wife” trend, social media has a lot to say about what it means to be a good mother, and it can be tempting to compare and measure these mothers against each other. In this episode, I want to explore why both working mothers and stay-at-home mothers are valid. I’m unpacking the research that shows the benefits of both, sharing my own experiences following each path, and empowering you to set boundaries and practice self-care no matter which path you choose. Resources mentioned: Harvard Business Review: "Learning from Mum: Cross-National Evidence Linking Maternal Employment and Adult Children's Outcomes" (2015)University of Michigan Institute for Social Research: Attachment and Parental Availability StudyDevelopmental Psychology Meta-Analysis: Maternal Employment and Child OutcomesIn this episode, I cover: The benefits of being a stay-at-home parentThe benefits of being a working parentHow both paths support your family financiallyHow to choose the best path for you and your familyAction steps to ask for help and set boundaries as a motherMy motherhood hot take that might surprise youHosted by Chancé Hindir-Lane, Selfish Parenting is the honest, empowering podcast that challenges the myth of self-sacrifice in motherhood. Each episode explores identity, partnership, and the balance between nurturing your family and yourself. Connect with Me: Instagram Shop My LTK YouTube - Chancè YouTube - Selfish Parenting TikTok

    35 min

  3. 17 NOV

    2. More Than a Paycheck: What a Modern Provider Actually Looks Like feat. Julien Lane

    If you have a great relationship with your father, I bet that the thing that’s most important to you about that bond isn’t that he provided for your family financially. It was his emotional support and intentional presence that made that relationship special. And who else would be a better guest to talk about fatherhood than my husband, Julien Lane? You might know him as “Homey” (if you know, you know), but Julien is the true embodiment of modern fatherhood. From holding space for our family’s feelings and helping us emotionally regulate, to modeling what it looks like to be a supportive husband, we talk about all things fatherhood in the year 2025. Resources mentioned: Father Involvement and Children's Academic Achievement - Journal of Marriage and Family, 2016Book Rec: Fair Play by Eve RodskeyThe Fair Play Deck: A Couple's Conversation Deck for Prioritizing What's ImportantSome key takeaways from this episode include: Being a present father is about WAY more than your financial contributions. When you spend time being invested - and I mean emotionally invested and physically present - in your kids’ lives, it improves their development and leads to a healthy bond well into their adulthood.According to this study, children with highly involved fathers scored 15% higher on cognitive development tests. Sons showed 35% better emotional regulation. Daughters had 27% higher self-esteem. Our biggest tip for being a more intentional father? Learn the mental load without being asked. Get to know your family’s daily, weekly, and monthly routines and rhythms. How can you take ownership of some of those routines?Hosted by Chancé Hindir-Lane, Selfish Parenting is the honest, empowering podcast that challenges the myth of self-sacrifice in motherhood. Each episode explores identity, partnership, and the balance between nurturing your family and yourself. Connect with Me: Instagram Shop My LTK YouTube - Chancè YouTube - Selfish Parenting TikTok

    1h 2m

  4. 3 NOV

    1. Permission to Be Selfish: The Framework

    Welcome to the Selfish Parenting Podcast! If you are feeling burnt out on parenthood and like these kids have got to go, you just walked into the right party! In this episode, I’m kicking off this podcast with why I named the podcast Selfish Parenting (and if that name gave you pause… keep listening!), my four-part Selfish Parenting Framework, and the research-backed evidence that being a happy, fulfilled parent leads to raising happy, fulfilled, and pretty successful kids. 🤎 We’d love to hear from you! Send us your parenting questions and hot takes at selfishparenting@gmail.com! Our favorite submissions will be featured on the show. Resources mentioned: Happy Mothers, Successful Children: Effects of Maternal Satisfaction on Child Outcomes* by Dimitrios Nikolaou | The Ohio State UniversityUrbanSitter Childcare and Home Care ServicesPoplin Laundry ServiceSome key takeaways from this episode include: A study at The Ohio State University found that a 10% increase in maternal happiness predicts social skills improvement equivalent to a $62,000 annual income increase. Okay numbers!!It is crucial to maintain your identity outside of motherhood. That’s why it’s one of the pillars of the Selfish Parenting Framework. It is such a gift to show your kids what it looks like to be a multi-passionate adult and pursue all those passions while your kids are young.When it comes to outsourcing, start small. You don’t need to start with a full-time nanny and a personal chef. Hire a babysitter for a couple hours a day, a few days a week, so you can have some time for self-care.Hosted by Chancé Hindir-Lane, Selfish Parenting is the honest, empowering podcast that challenges the myth of self-sacrifice in motherhood. Each episode explores identity, partnership, and the balance between nurturing your family and yourself. Connect with Me: Instagram Shop My LTK YouTube - Chancè YouTube - Selfish Parenting TikTok

    42 min

  5. 1 NOV

    Welcome to Selfish Parenting with Chancè Hindir-Lane

    Hosted by Chancé Hindir-Lane, Selfish Parenting is the honest, empowering podcast that challenges the myth of self-sacrifice in motherhood. Each episode explores identity, partnership, and the balance between nurturing your family and yourself. Connect with Me: Instagram Shop My LTK YouTube - Chancè YouTube - Selfish Parenting TikTok

    1 min

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Welcome to Selfish Parenting - where we flip the script on everything society tells you about being a "good parent."I'm Chance Hinder-Lane (@hindirlane), and I'm here to tell you that what society calls selfish, we call sustainable parenting.Tired of the guilt? Done with the burnout culture? Ready to stop people-pleasing your way through parenthood? You're in the right place.This isn't your typical parenting podcast filled with shoulds and shouldn'ts. We're here to give you permission to:  Hire help without guilt  Prioritize your career AND your kids Say no to activities that drain you  Invest in your mental health and identity  Maintain adult relationships and interests  Spend money on yourself  Set boundaries that actually workEvery episode, we dive deep into the "selfish" behaviors that research shows actually make you a better parent. From working mothers to stay-at-home parents demanding respect, from therapy to solo vacations - we're covering it all with science, sass, and zero shame.Because here's the truth: Taking care of yourself IS taking care of your family.New episodes drop every Monday at 7am Follow @hindirlane for daily doses of sustainable parenting content

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    Chance' Hindir-Lane
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  • Episodes
    5
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    © 2025 Selfish Parenting
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