The Essential Man Podcast

Soma Miller

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The Essential Man offers raw conversations, real stories, and proven practices to help you face your fears, break free from outdated patterns, and align your life with what matters most. Host Soma Miller guides men in building clarity, courage, and consistency so they can lead with strength and purpose—in their relationships, work, and communities.

24/10/2025

The Mother Wound & Creating Healthy Polarity —with Damien Bohler

In this live conversation, Soma Miller and relationship mentor Damien Bohler explore how attachment, agency, and communion shape modern intimacy. They dive into: The link between polarity and attachment patterns How to slow down and “feel each other” in conflict The unspoken mother wound carried by men Why sovereignty and vulnerability must coexist for love to thrive 🎧 Plus: Soma shares details on the upcoming Sexual Self-Discipline Challenge (Nov 1 – 30) and Elemental Retreat (Nov 21 – 23)—two immersive opportunities to deepen your practice of embodied masculinity.

50 min
15/10/2025

Relational Masculinity & the Art of Embodiment with GS Youngblood

When a man learns to stay grounded in the heat of emotion, everything changes.In this episode, I talk with GS Youngblood — author of The Masculine in Relationship and The Art of Embodiment — about how men can develop the nervous-system capacity, emotional intelligence, and leadership required to create real connection with women. We explore the three pillars of the masculine blueprint — presence, structure, and safety — and how to practice them in everyday life.If you’re tired of abstract ideas about polarity and want something practical, this one’s for you. Link to sign up for the Elemental Men's Initiation weekend in Ashland, OR : https://www.theessentialman.net/elemental-retreat

45 min
30/09/2025

Leadership, Healing, and the New Masculine Paradigm — with Zack Alexander

In this conversation with Zack Alexander, we explore how personal healing and leadership are inseparably linked. Zack shares his journey through childhood trauma, illness, and disillusionment with traditional systems, and how those struggles became the foundation for his path as a men’s guide and leadership mentor. We talk about: The “wounded healer” path and why pain can be a portal to purpose How to move from ego-driven leadership into servant leadership The role of self-regulation, resilience, and nervous system health in leading others Why men need brotherhood and community to embody integrity Rethinking masculinity in a time of cultural collapse and renewal This is a grounded conversation about what it takes to become a man who doesn’t just chase titles or external validation, but builds capacity to serve, create safety, and lead with presence. To apply for the upcoming Elemental 12-week training go here: https://schedulingtheessentialman.as.me/reset

49 min
16/09/2025

Masculinity, Pleasure, and Reclaiming Sexual Integrity — with Cam Fraser

In this conversation with Cam Fraser—certified sex coach, sexologist, and former tantric yoga teacher—we explore the cultural stigma men carry around pleasure, the difference between gratification and embodied erotic experience, and why most men are stuck in performance-driven sexuality. We unpack locker-room bravado, the influence of pornography, how to move from outcome-based sex into connection, and what it takes to become a more grounded, curious, and present lover. Cam offers a vision of masculinity that embraces pleasure without shame—making us better partners, fathers, and men. For more about the Elemental virtual cohort go to: https://www.theessentialman.net/elemental-2

49 min
03/09/2025

The Gift of Grief and Emotional Resilience — with Joshua Wenner

In today’s conversation with Joshua Wenner, we go deep into the territory that most men avoid—grief, loss, and emotional vulnerability—and show how these are not weaknesses but gateways to strength, clarity, and authentic leadership. Joshua has spent more than 20 years helping men, high achievers, and first responders develop emotional resilience. His documentary The Gift of Grief captures this work, and in this episode he shares the practices that help men re-regulate their nervous systems, reconnect to their hearts, and step into embodied presence. Gift of Grief Film https://giftofgrieffilm.com/ K4 Men https://www.k4men.com/ Free Email Course: Foundations of Embodied Masculine Practice https://www.theessentialman.net/foundations-course Follow my long-form essays on Substack: https://substack.com/@somaverse Apply for Elemental: my 12-week men’s program + retreat https://www.theessentialman.net/elemental This is for men who are done compromising who they are just to be loved, validated, or accepted. Because until you do the deep internal rewiring of your nervous system and belief patterns, you’ll keep chasing it. Elemental is a crucible for transformation. Over 12 weeks, you’ll step into the man who knows he has options, is desired by the feminine, and holds power and boundaries without apology. A man who commands respect—not by force, but because he lives with integrity, honors his truth, and owns his value from the inside out. If you’re ready to stop proving you’re enough and finally embody it, the link to apply is in the notes above.

55 min
19/08/2025

Healing the Gender Divide — with Fabienne Annick

In today’s episode, I sit down with Fabienne Annick, host of All The Good Men Podcast, to explore how we can bridge the divide between men and women. We cover the emotional wounds of polarity, the traps of the “nice guy,” and how we can step into embodied masculine leadership with integrity and depth. You’ll also hear about my new free email course, The Foundations of Embodied Masculine Practice, available for a limited time—sign up link in the show notes. Plus, spaces for my hybrid Elemental men’s program + retreat are filling fast. I believe this blend of online integration and in-person community offers the best of both worlds—deep transformation with support and structure. ➡ Schedule an Elemental application call here If this conversation lands for you, please subscribe and leave a rating—it helps other men discover these teachings. Timestamps 04:20 – Introduction & why the masculine divide matters 09:40 – Fabienne’s path: All The Good Men and what inspired it 17:05 – What women really mean by "Where are all the good men? 24:30 – Breaking out of the “nice guy” script 32:20 – Healing polarity: Emotional depth, authority & presence 40:05 – Embodied masculine leadership: lessons for men today 48:50 – Why shadow work and integration change relationships 56:35 – Co-creating safety and polarity between men and women

54 min
15/08/2025

Owning Your Darkness — with David Sutcliffe

Episode Description Actor-turned-Core Energetics practitioner David Sutcliffe joins me for a deep dive into the Dark Masculine — exploring how to own your shadow, work with sexual energy, and reclaim authentic power. We talk about the danger of suppressing desire, how to channel healthy aggression, and why radical self-expression transforms relationships. We also get into David’s conversation with Andrew Tate, masculinity in the public eye, and how embodiment work can dismantle shame. Resources & Links: Learn more about David’s work: davidsutcliffe.com Apply for Elemental: our 12-week hybrid group program weaving shadow work, emotional mastery, and the Five Elements framework — includes a nature immersion in the Pacific Northwest. Now enrolling: www.theessentialman.net/elemental Timestamps 00:00 – Intro: Why men must face the Dark Masculine 07:45 – From acting to Core Energetics 16:30 – Shadow work, sexual energy, and the courage to feel 28:05 – Healthy aggression in intimacy and leadership 42:10 – David’s conversation with Andrew Tate 57:40 – Embodiment practices for reclaiming power 1:09:15 – Closing reflections

48 min
14/08/2025

Exploring Dark Eros & the Dark Masculine with Alex Mischka

In this episode, I sit down with Alex Mischka to explore the raw, often-misunderstood terrain of Dark Eros and the Dark Masculine—and the transformative potential these forces hold for personal growth, intimacy, and self-actualization. We dive into the myths and misconceptions surrounding the Dark Masculine, the role of shadow integration in relationships, and how avoiding these deeper aspects of ourselves can limit our capacity for connection and authenticity. Alex shares stories and tools from his work helping men and women reclaim their disowned desires and step into a fuller, more embodied version of themselves. Whether you’re curious about shadow work, seeking more depth in your relationships, or ready to explore the edges of your own desire, this conversation will invite you into a richer understanding of your power and your humanity. Connect with Alex Mischka: 🌐 alexmischka.com Timestamps: 00:00 – Introduction 04:12 – Defining Dark Eros 09:48 – Misconceptions about the Dark Masculine 17:35 – Shadow integration and relationship growth 25:22 – Power, vulnerability, and desire 34:10 – Practices for exploring your own Dark Masculine 42:56 – Closing reflections and resources

45 min

The Essential Man offers raw conversations, real stories, and proven practices to help you face your fears, break free from outdated patterns, and align your life with what matters most. Host Soma Miller guides men in building clarity, courage, and consistency so they can lead with strength and purpose—in their relationships, work, and communities.

Creator

Soma Miller
Years Active

2021 - 2025
Episodes

14
Rating

Explicit
Copyright

© Soma Miller
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The Essential Man Podcast