Doing Life with Ken and Tabatha

Ken Claytor and Tabatha Claytor

Hey, what’s up fam. We’re Ken and Tabatha, and we’re so glad you found our YouTube page. We always pray, “God, let the people who need this channel find this channel.” So, if you’re here, you’re an answer to prayer. We have one major goal. We want to help you grow in love with God and grow in love with the people God has placed in your life. The way we do that is simple. We take what we’ve learned and we share it. We’ve been married for 26 years, and we always jokingly say it’s been the best 24 years of our lives. The first two years were pretty bad. We had all the classic problems: silent treatments, weaponized sex, a lack of communication skills, financial pressures, and more. But we learned tools and principles from God’s Word that helped us turn our marriage around. Now we’re happy to say we’re best friends. That’s why people ask us all the time, “Do you have a special anointing for marriage?” And our answer is always the same. No, we just have tools. This channel is our way of paying those tools forward to you, because we really believe that with the right tools, there’s no marriage and no relationship that can’t get better. This is primarily a marriage and relationships channel, but it’s not just that. It’s also a personal growth channel, because we believe when you get better, the marriage gets better. So, get ready to have some fun. We’re going to talk about our highs, our lows, and everything in between. Honestly, you’ll probably learn more from our mess-ups than you will from our mountaintop moments. Enjoy the journey, and share this with somebody, because we believe sharing is caring, and caring is sharing. New episodes every Thursday at 3PM EST. Peace.

  1. 2 DAYS AGO

    Breaking Ungodly Soul Ties | How to Break Soul Ties & Be FREE!

    Send us Fan Mail We name the difference between healthy and unhealthy soul ties, then get honest about why certain relationships keep pulling us back even when they hurt. We walk through spiritual and practical steps to break ungodly connections and close with a renouncing prayer for healing and freedom.  • defining soul ties as emotional, mental, and will-level bonding  • healthy soul ties in marriage, family, mentorship, and godly friendship  • unhealthy soul ties formed through manipulation, trauma bonding, and emotional dependence  • Tabatha’s testimony of breaking ties with words and obedience  • how trauma and sexual abuse can create lingering attachment and shame  • why sexual purity matters and how sexual sin creates bondage  • how unbroken past connections can affect dating and marriage  • signs you may have an unhealthy soul tie including comparison, guilt, confusion, and stalking social media  • why people stay in toxic relationships and how self-worth gets targeted  • safety, community, and practical help for leaving abusive relationships  • a step-by-step framework to acknowledge, repent, forgive, cut access, renounce, and renew your mind  • a guided renouncing prayer and declarations for peace, healing, and a clear path forward  I want you to just take a moment, comment in the section below. Let us know the soul ties that you’ve had, how you’ve overcome them, what you need prayer for, and share this with other people.  If you’re new to our podcast, make sure you hit the subscribe button or the alert icon.  You can get your tickets right now. And the website is in the show notes.  GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875 Support Our Ministry:  https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions:  i...

    38 min
  2. 14 MAY

    David's Heart | Developing a Heart That God Promotes

    Send us Fan Mail We talk about why God promotes trustworthy people over simply gifted people, using David’s life to show what a heart after God actually looks like under pressure. We unpack honor, repentance, private integrity, and worship as the habits that keep your heart clean when influence grows.  • David’s origin story as the overlooked shepherd anointed for leadership  • why time with God shapes a worshipful heart  • repentance as the key difference between David and Saul  • honoring leadership offices without excusing sin  • resisting gossip, slander, and platform-building through criticism  • guarding your heart from a culture of demonizing and outrage  • practical steps for a heart God can promote, including private integrity and serving first  • healing from wounds so you don’t bleed on innocent people  • choosing obedience over popularity and worshiping through warfare  If you enjoyed today, make sure that you subscribe if you're not subscribed already.  GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875 Support Our Ministry:  https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions:  i...

    40 min
  3. 7 MAY

    How To Heal A Broken Marriage

    Send us Fan Mail A marriage can look “fine” on paper and still feel dead in the day to day. If you’re living in the same house but the air feels cold, the talks are short, trust is thin, and intimacy feels complicated, we want to give you real hope and real tools. We tell the truth about our own early years, including the season when Ken privately planned a divorce, the confusion and immaturity that made small issues feel unfixable, and how depression and anxiety impacted Tabitha’s ability to connect. We also share what changed everything: inviting God into the center of the marriage and letting Him work on us first, not just “fix” our spouse. That shift is where healing starts, because a restored marriage is built on transformed hearts, not better arguments. From there, we get practical about marriage restoration: how to become the hero in the home, how to rebuild trust through consistent patterns instead of big promises, and how to communicate without attacking so you can finally talk about hard things without blowing up. We also dig into why many couples keep treating symptoms while the real root stays untouched, and why counseling, wisdom, and steady effort over time matter more than quick emotional moments. We close with five clear keys to heal a broken marriage and a prayer for anyone hanging on by a thread. If this helped you, subscribe, share it with someone who needs hope, and leave a comment with what stood out most so we can hear your story. GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875 Support Our Ministry:  https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions:  i...

    43 min
  4. 30 APR

    Hypocrisy Is Keeping You Stuck (Here’s How to Break Free) | “God Wants The Real You”

    Send us Fan Mail We define hypocrisy as stage acting and name how it keeps us bound when our image matters more than our integrity. We connect the cost to marriage, family, and spiritual witness, then walk through clear steps and prayers that help us live honest and free.  • Defining hypocrisy as pretending outwardly without inward growth  • Freedom versus bondage through shame, guilt, insecurity, fear, and addiction  • Separating real faith declarations from fake performance  • Why hypocrisy harms marriages, kids, friendships, and our witness  • Church as a hospital for honest people  • How hypocrisy shows up in marriage through unequal standards  • Acts 5 and the warning of Ananias and Sapphira  • Couples conspiring to hide problems and why it backfires  • Building wise accountability with trusted mentors and pastors  • Signs of slipping into hypocrisy like defensiveness and people pleasing  • Practical steps to get free including repentance and integrity  • Renouncement prayer and a closing prayer for freedom  make sure that you hit the subscribe button, hit the alert icon so that you can be the first to get the content. We want you to share today with other people. You can find all of that out at kenandabitha.com.  GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875 Support Our Ministry:  https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions:  i...

    32 min
  5. 23 APR

    One of The Biggest Relationship Killers: Blame Shifting

    Send us Fan Mail We get real about how blame shifting turns a struggling marriage into a dead-end and why owning your part is the first move toward change. We connect Scripture, self-awareness, and practical habits so you can stop living as the victim in every story and start growing on purpose.  • why every struggling relationship has blame shifting somewhere  • what “own your part” looks like even when you feel 95% right  • becoming the hero in the home instead of matching foolishness  • what blame shifting sounds like in everyday arguments  • Adam and Eve as the first blame shift  • how victim mentality keeps people stuck  • a candid talk on emotional abuse claims and getting wise counsel  • the role of self-awareness and security in hard conversations  • practical steps like reflecting, apologizing right, and seeking accountability  • repentance as change not just confession  Make sure that you share. If you're new to our podcast, hit the subscribe button. If you're on YouTube, hit the alert icon. Go over to Kenandtabatha.com. Get your ticket now.  GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875 Support Our Ministry:  https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions:  i...

    29 min
  6. 16 APR

    The Kind Of Love A Wife Deserves

    Send us Fan Mail A lot of men were never taught how to be a husband. You can be loyal, hardworking, and faithful, yet still leave your wife feeling alone in the same house. We get honest about the gap between providing and loving, and we talk about why isolation is one of the fastest ways a man loses his confidence, his clarity, and his ability to lead well. Ken and Tabitha Claytor unpack biblical marriage through a practical lens: headship is not dictatorship, it is responsibility. We explain what “covering” should feel like to a wife, why mutual submission takes strength, and how a husband’s leadership really begins when he comes home. We also address a common blind spot in Christian relationships: paying bills and “not cheating” is not the finish line. A wife needs emotional safety, affection, attention, reassurance, quality time, and to feel chosen again and again. We also define spiritual leadership without the hype. It’s not about performing religion, it’s about seeking God, making wise decisions, setting vision for your family, and building shared goals and values so your home has a clear direction. Along the way, we call out the “nothing box” distractions that keep men stuck and we share 10 practical ways to love your wife with humility, tenderness, and Ephesians 5:25 self-sacrificial love. If you know a man who needs a reset, send this to him. Subscribe for new episodes every Thursday, share this with your circle, and leave a review so more marriages can find help. GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875 Support Our Ministry:  https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions:  i...

    45 min
  7. 9 APR

    Why Am I Still Single? | What If Waiting Is God's Protection

    Send us Fan Mail “Why am I still single?” can feel like a question with teeth, especially when everyone else’s highlight reel is scrolling past your face. We get honest about the pressure, the loneliness, and the quiet fear that something must be wrong with you, then we confront the biggest lie head-on: you are not unworthy, undesirable, or behind. We believe your relationship status does not determine your value, and we want you grounded in that truth before you ever say yes to dating, engagement, or marriage. We also talk about what’s making modern singleness harder: social media comparison, unrealistic expectations, and turning marriage into an idol. A spouse is a gift, not a savior, and expecting marriage to fix emptiness is a fast track to disappointment. Instead, we unpack how faith works while you wait, why God’s timing matters, and how waiting can actually be preparation and protection. Sometimes what feels like rejection is God shielding you from the wrong person and shaping you for the right one. Then we get extremely practical with dating advice for Christians: stop letting loneliness choose your relationships, clarify boundaries, stop entertaining red flags, and stop dating potential. If you keep choosing the wrong person, we challenge you to bring wise voices into your process and let trusted counsel help you see what you’ve been missing. We also talk about “becoming who you want to marry” spiritually, emotionally, financially, and mentally, building a full life now, and keeping purity strong because your future deserves a healthy you. If this helped you breathe again, subscribe, share it with a friend who’s waiting, and leave a review so more people can find the show. GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875 Support Our Ministry:  https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions:  i...

    34 min
  8. 26 MAR

    How To Get Promoted (What Bosses Look For)

    Send us Fan Mail The promotion you want might be carrying more than you think. We get honest about what “next level” really means, because promotion is not only a raise or a new title, it is pressure, visibility, responsibility, and accountability. If you’ve ever watched someone move up faster than you, felt stuck in your role, or wondered what leaders are actually looking for, this conversation is a clear, practical reset.  We talk about promotable character and why trust beats talent when it’s time to choose who advances. Ken and Tabitha unpack what it looks like to embrace hard instead of dodging it, build mental toughness without losing tenderness, and stay emotionally steady when the assignment stretches you. We also dig into the people side of leadership development: chemistry, humility, and why many promotions come through your ability to lead and develop others, not just your individual skill.  You’ll walk away with actionable promotion tips you can apply immediately at work, in ministry leadership, or anywhere you want to grow: become excellent at your current assignment, solve problems without being asked, bring solutions instead of complaints, ask for feedback, lead without authority, upgrade your skills, and protect integrity by avoiding gossip, shortcuts, bitterness, and comparison. If you’re serious about career growth and spiritual growth, this one is built to challenge you and help you level up.  Subscribe, share this with a friend who’s hungry to grow, and leave a review so more leaders can find the show. What’s one trait you know you need to build before your next promotion? GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875 Support Our Ministry:  https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions:  i...

    42 min

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Hey, what’s up fam. We’re Ken and Tabatha, and we’re so glad you found our YouTube page. We always pray, “God, let the people who need this channel find this channel.” So, if you’re here, you’re an answer to prayer. We have one major goal. We want to help you grow in love with God and grow in love with the people God has placed in your life. The way we do that is simple. We take what we’ve learned and we share it. We’ve been married for 26 years, and we always jokingly say it’s been the best 24 years of our lives. The first two years were pretty bad. We had all the classic problems: silent treatments, weaponized sex, a lack of communication skills, financial pressures, and more. But we learned tools and principles from God’s Word that helped us turn our marriage around. Now we’re happy to say we’re best friends. That’s why people ask us all the time, “Do you have a special anointing for marriage?” And our answer is always the same. No, we just have tools. This channel is our way of paying those tools forward to you, because we really believe that with the right tools, there’s no marriage and no relationship that can’t get better. This is primarily a marriage and relationships channel, but it’s not just that. It’s also a personal growth channel, because we believe when you get better, the marriage gets better. So, get ready to have some fun. We’re going to talk about our highs, our lows, and everything in between. Honestly, you’ll probably learn more from our mess-ups than you will from our mountaintop moments. Enjoy the journey, and share this with somebody, because we believe sharing is caring, and caring is sharing. New episodes every Thursday at 3PM EST. Peace.

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