Love Yourself Loudly

Nina Polyne

Welcome to Love Yourself Loudly — where self-love isn't a concept. It's a practice. I'm Dr. Nina — a couples psychologist and energetic connector by nature. I ask a lot of questions, I live my life in color, and I've never been very good at playing small. This is where we have the real conversations — about how we love ourselves, how we show up in our relationships, and how we give ourselves full permission to take up space — boldly, unapologetically, without explanation. We also get curious about why that's so hard. Why speaking kindly about ourselves can feel somehow wrong. Why confidence gets mistaken for arrogance, why being sure of yourself gets treated like a character flaw, why we've been taught that humility and self-worth can't coexist — and whether any of that was ever actually true. This isn't about telling you how to live. It's an open invitation to explore — together — what it actually means to choose yourself, and to hold your self-respect and your humility in the same hands without apologizing for either. Real dialogue, honest depth, and a space that meets you exactly where you are. No fluff. No performance. New brief episodes every Sunday. Follow the show so you never miss what's coming. And remember: you deserve to love yourself loudly — and don't be sorry about it. --- 📌 **A note before you dive in:** Love Yourself Loudly is educational and personal development content. It is not therapy, counseling, or mental health treatment, and nothing shared here should be used as a substitute for professional support. Listening to this podcast does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you're going through something heavy, please reach out to a licensed professional who can truly hold space for you. You deserve that support. 🆘 In crisis? **Call or text 988** (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) — available 24/7. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  1. 18 hr ago

    Why Compliments Make You Uncomfortable and How to Finally Just Say Thank You

    Someone compliments you, and before they even finish the sentence you are already saying oh, this old thing. In this episode, Dr. Nina Polyné breaks down why compliments make you uncomfortable, what deflecting praise says about your self worth, and how receiving is a self love practice most of us were never taught. If thank you is the hardest sentence you say all week, this one is for you. “Thank you is a complete sentence.” Sit with these after you listen: What’s your signature deflection move, and who taught it to you?What compliment have you received that you never actually let land?This week, can you say thank you, full stop, and just breathe? DISCLAIMER The content shared on Love Yourself Loudly is for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not therapy, counseling, or a substitute for professional mental health care. Listening to this podcast does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you are in crisis or need support, please call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) or contact a licensed professional in your area. Connect with Dr. Nina Polyné: All links (Linktree): https://linktr.ee/loveyourselfloudlymedia Podcast Instagram: @loveyourselfloudlypodcast (https://www.instagram.com/loveyourselfloudlypodcast/) Personal Instagram: @drninapolyne (https://www.instagram.com/drninapolyne/) Personal LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/dr-nina-polyné-48494934a Creative Direction, Producing + Editing by Dr. Nina Polyné ⚡ Audio/Visual Engineering & mix by Joel Edinberg @joeledinberg (https://www.instagram.com/joeledinberg/) Podcast Advisor: Marisa Bramwell, MBA https://solas-creative.com/ Remember: Loving yourself loudly is a daily practice. Embrace your imperfections, honor your emotions, and speak your truth with confidence. Start today, unapologetically. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  2. 16 Aug

    Am I Just the Audience? How to Stop People Pleasing and Speak Up for Yourself

    When was the last time someone asked how you were doing and actually waited for the answer? In this episode, Dr. Nina Polyné breaks down why the reliable one, the listener, the strong friend always ends up in the audience seat, what the fawn response has to do with your silence, and how to interrupt kindly without feeling rude. If you are the one who always listens and never gets asked, this episode is your permission slip to take up space. “Every time you wait to be asked, you hand your worth to someone who may not be capable of curiosity. And waiting will not make them capable.” Sit with these after you listen: In which relationship are you most often the audience? Name the actual person.What happened to you this week that you haven’t told anyone, only because nobody asked?What would you say tomorrow if you didn’t wait for an invitation? DISCLAIMER The content shared on Love Yourself Loudly is for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not therapy, counseling, or a substitute for professional mental health care. Listening to this podcast does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you are in crisis or need support, please call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) or contact a licensed professional in your area. Connect with Dr. Nina Polyné: All links (Linktree): https://linktr.ee/loveyourselfloudlymedia Podcast Instagram: @loveyourselfloudlypodcast (https://www.instagram.com/loveyourselfloudlypodcast/) Personal Instagram: @drninapolyne (https://www.instagram.com/drninapolyne/) Personal LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/dr-nina-polyné-48494934a Creative Direction, Producing + Editing by Dr. Nina Polyné ⚡ Audio/Visual Engineering & mix by Joel Edinberg @joeledinberg (https://www.instagram.com/joeledinberg/) Podcast Advisor: Marisa Bramwell, MBA https://solas-creative.com/ Remember: Loving yourself loudly is a daily practice. Embrace your imperfections, honor your emotions, and speak your truth with confidence. Start today, unapologetically. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  3. 9 Aug

    The Golden Shadow: Why You Hide Your Gifts and How to Claim Them

    Ever felt that hot, uncomfortable rush of jealousy when another woman shines, then judged yourself for feeling it? Dr. Nina Polyné unpacks the psychology of envy through Carl Jung's golden shadow: the traits you can't stop noticing and admiring in other women are often gifts you own but haven't claimed yet. This episode turns jealousy of other women into a compass for your own self worth, with psychology and one very honest pedicure story. In this episode: The pedicure story that made Dr. Nina realize her judgment of a stranger's directness was actually envy in disguise, and what that reframe taught her about claiming her own gifts.Carl Jung's golden shadow, explained in plain language: why the qualities you envy most in other women often already live inside you, unclaimed.The real difference between envy and admiration, and why that hot, contracted feeling is information, not proof you're a bad person.Real examples of golden shadow traits that got mocked before they became gifts, from Ms. Rachel's voice to Missy Elliott's originality.A simple practice for claiming your own greatness out loud, with no disclaimer and no apology attached.Why your body might cringe at the thought of complimenting yourself, and why that cringe is exactly where the growth lives.This week's Loud Challenge: catching yourself mid deflection and finishing the sentence without an apology. “That cringe you just felt? That's the episode.” Sit with these after you listen: Whose light triggers you the most right now, and what's the exact quality you can't look away from? Where does that quality already live in you, even in a small or early form? What would it sound like to claim it out loud today, no disclaimer, full stop? Connect with Dr. Nina Polyné: All links (Linktree): https://linktr.ee/loveyourselfloudlymedia Podcast Instagram: @loveyourselfloudlypodcast (https://www.instagram.com/loveyourselfloudlypodcast/) Personal Instagram: @drninapolyne (https://www.instagram.com/drninapolyne/) Personal LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/dr-nina-polyné-48494934a Creative Direction, Producing + Editing by Dr. Nina Polyné ⚡ Audio/Visual Engineering & mix by Joel Edinberg @joeledinberg (https://www.instagram.com/joeledinberg/) Podcast Advisor: Marisa Bramwell, MBA https://solas-creative.com/ Remember: Loving yourself loudly is a daily practice. Embrace your imperfections, honor your emotions, and speak your truth with confidence. Start today, unapologetically. DISCLAIMER The content shared on Love Yourself Loudly is for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not therapy, counseling, or a substitute for professional mental health care. Listening to this podcast does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you are in crisis or need support, please call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) or contact a licensed professional in your area. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  4. 2 Aug

    Burnout Recovery 101: What to Do on Your Mental Health Leave

    You finally took the mental health leave, so why does resting feel more uncomfortable than working? In this episode, Dr. Nina Polyné breaks down why your nervous system can't go from go mode to zero, what burnout recovery actually requires, and how to build a gentle daily structure that helps you rest without guilt. If your stress leave turned into a to do list, this episode is your permission slip to stop. In this episode: Why stepping away from work brings up guilt and shame, and how the "burden" belief keeps high achievers from ever really taking mental health leave.The two ways rest turns into another project, over scheduling it or collapsing into total shutdown, and why both block real burnout recovery.Nervous system regulation 101: the exit ramp metaphor for why your body can't go from go mode to zero without reading calm as unsafe.A simple 3 anchor structure for your day off: one thing you love, one thing for your body and intuition, and one scheduled block of rest without guilt.Why discomfort in stillness isn't a flaw but old wiring, and how to let it surface gently instead of numbing it.Where the belief that your needs make you a burden actually started, often long before your current job. “You spent years being dedicated to the system. This is you re-learning how to be dedicated to yourself.” Sit with these after you listen: Where did you first learn that your needs make you a burden? What are you afraid you'll feel if you truly slow down? What's one thing from this leave that you refuse to give back? Connect with Dr. Nina Polyné: All links (Linktree): https://linktr.ee/loveyourselfloudlymedia Podcast Instagram: @loveyourselfloudlypodcast (https://www.instagram.com/loveyourselfloudlypodcast/) Personal Instagram: @drninapolyne (https://www.instagram.com/drninapolyne/) Personal LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/dr-nina-polyné-48494934a Creative Direction, Producing + Editing by Dr. Nina Polyné ⚡ Audio/Visual Engineering & mix by Joel Edinberg @joeledinberg (https://www.instagram.com/joeledinberg/) Podcast Advisor: Marisa Bramwell, MBA https://solas-creative.com/ Remember: Loving yourself loudly is a daily practice. Embrace your imperfections, honor your emotions, and speak your truth with confidence. Start today, unapologetically. DISCLAIMER The content shared on Love Yourself Loudly is for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not therapy, counseling, or a substitute for professional mental health care. Listening to this podcast does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you are in crisis or need support, please call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) or contact a licensed professional in your area. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  5. 26 Jul

    How to Say No Without Explaining Yourself: Boundaries for Women, Guilt After Saying No & Protecting Your Peace

    She said no. No cushion, no apology, no explanation. And he decided she was the villain. If you've ever felt guilty after a clean no, or softened a boundary just to keep the peace, this episode is your permission slip. Psychologist Dr. Nina Polyné breaks down why women are conditioned to apologize for every no, and how to sit peacefully inside someone else's wrong story about you. In this episode: The babysitter day: the two-syllable "no" that turned Dr. Nina into the villain of a story she never auditioned for"Apologetic Essence": the dialect women learn so they never have to say a bare no, and where that conditioning comes fromWhat a bad reaction to your no actually reveals: a person who respects your right to say no does not punish you for itWhy your solitude is not a public resource, especially for moms, and why protecting your alone time is self-loveThe advanced boundary skill: letting someone keep a wrong story about you without going back to defend yourselfWhy the guilt after a clean no is not your conscience, it's a social contract you never signed “Loving yourself loudly sometimes sounds like a no without an apology attached.” Sit with these after you listen: Is there a no you've been softening or apologizing for that didn't need any of that?Is someone's reaction to your boundary making you question whether the boundary was okay? What do you know, separate from their reaction?What would a clean, cushion-free no look like for you this week? Free workshop: The Daily Gaze, a guided mirror work practice for self-love and self-compassion. Watch it free here: https://love-yourself-loudly-podcast.kit.com/723d2719e0 Connect with Dr. Nina Polyné: All links (Linktree): https://linktr.ee/loveyourselfloudlymedia Podcast Instagram: @loveyourselfloudlypodcast (https://www.instagram.com/loveyourselfloudlypodcast/) Personal Instagram: @drninapolyne (https://www.instagram.com/drninapolyne/) Personal LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/dr-nina-polyné-48494934a Creative Direction, Producing + Editing by Dr. Nina Polyné ⚡ Audio/Visual Engineering & mix by Joel Edinberg @joeledinberg (https://www.instagram.com/joeledinberg/) Podcast Advisor: Marisa Bramwell, MBA https://solas-creative.com/ Remember: Loving yourself loudly is a daily practice. Embrace your imperfections, honor your emotions, and speak your truth with confidence. Start today, unapologetically. DISCLAIMERThe content shared on Love Yourself Loudly is for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not therapy, counseling, or a substitute for professional mental health care. Listening to this podcast does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you are in crisis or need support, please call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) or contact a licensed professional in your area. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  6. 19 Jul

    Why Is It So Hard to Ask for Help? Hyper-Independence, Strong Friend Syndrome & Learning to Receive Support

    You say nobody shows up for you. But are you letting anyone know you need them to? If asking for help feels impossible, if you go quiet in your hardest moments and only share once you're back on solid ground, this one is for you. Psychologist Dr. Nina Polyné unpacks hyper-independence as a trauma response, and why letting yourself be supported is one of the most radical acts of self-love. In this episode: Two truths at once: some people in your life genuinely aren't showing up, and you may not be letting anyone inThe strong friend who goes silent: why we hide what we're going through until it becomes a footnote six weeks laterDr. Nina's groceries story: what happened when she named an actual need to a friendly acquaintance, and the vulnerability of asking for something specificWhy hyper-independence is not a character strength; it's a trauma response your nervous system learned to keep you safeThe biology of receiving: how accepting support regulates your nervous system and buffers stressHow to build a tolerance for receiving with small, slightly uncomfortable steps (not terrifying ones) “Receiving is not weakness. It is not burden. It is part of what it means to be human.” Sit with these after you listen: Is there something you're going through right now that nobody knows about? What's keeping it there?Think of someone who would want to show up for you. Have you given them the chance?Are you protecting yourself, or closing yourself off from something you actually want?What is one small thing you could let someone do for you this week? Free workshop: The Daily Gaze, a guided mirror work practice for self-love and self-compassion. Watch it free here: https://love-yourself-loudly-podcast.kit.com/723d2719e0 Connect with Dr. Nina Polyné: All links (Linktree): https://linktr.ee/loveyourselfloudlymedia Podcast Instagram: @loveyourselfloudlypodcast (https://www.instagram.com/loveyourselfloudlypodcast/) Personal Instagram: @drninapolyne (https://www.instagram.com/drninapolyne/) Personal LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/dr-nina-polyné-48494934a Creative Direction, Producing + Editing by Dr. Nina Polyné ⚡ Audio/Visual Engineering & mix by Joel Edinberg @joeledinberg (https://www.instagram.com/joeledinberg/) Podcast Advisor: Marisa Bramwell, MBA https://solas-creative.com/ Remember: Loving yourself loudly is a daily practice. Embrace your imperfections, honor your emotions, and speak your truth with confidence. Start today, unapologetically. DISCLAIMERThe content shared on Love Yourself Loudly is for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not therapy, counseling, or a substitute for professional mental health care. Listening to this podcast does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you are in crisis or need support, please call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) or contact a licensed professional in your area. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  7. 12 Jul

    Why Do I Stay When I Know It's Time to Leave? Burnout, the Freeze Response & Loving Yourself When You Feel Stuck

    You already know. Some part of you has known for a while, about the relationship, the job, the situation that stopped fitting a long time ago. So why are you still there? In this episode, psychologist Dr. Nina Polyné explains why staying too long is not weakness, it's biology, and how to love yourself in the stuckness, even when you can't yet see what comes next. In this episode: The fair metaphor: why we keep buying tickets long after the lights dim, and how the sunk cost fallacy keeps us stuckFight, flight, freeze: why feeling stuck in a job or relationship is often a nervous system response, not a character flawWhat intuition actually sounds like (the Sunday dread, the stomach drop) and why burnout turns the volume all the way down on your inner voiceWhy vacation never fully works when chronic stress is your baseline, and the truth about rest guiltAmbivalence as a choice: reframing "I'm trapped" into "I'm navigating a hard season with intention"Five small practices for loving yourself while you're still in it, including one real rest day and one thing that's just yours “You can't hear your own voice in a room that never gets quiet.” A note before you listen: this episode speaks to emotionally stagnant relationships and situations where leaving is a choice. If you are in an abusive relationship, please know that staying is not a personal failing. Your safety comes first, and help is available. National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) | thehotline.org | Text START to 88788 Sit with these after you listen: Is there something in your life right now where you already know, but you haven't said it out loud yet?What would it mean to give your nervous system one real day of rest this week? Not a guilty one, a real one.What is one small thing you could do, just for you, that has nothing to do with being productive?If staying is your choice right now, what would it feel like to own that instead of just endure it? Free workshop: The Daily Gaze, a guided mirror work practice for self-love and self-compassion. Watch it free here: https://love-yourself-loudly-podcast.kit.com/723d2719e0 Connect with Dr. Nina Polyné: All links (Linktree): https://linktr.ee/loveyourselfloudlymedia Podcast Instagram: @loveyourselfloudlypodcast (https://www.instagram.com/loveyourselfloudlypodcast/) Personal Instagram: @drninapolyne (https://www.instagram.com/drninapolyne/) Personal LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/dr-nina-polyné-48494934a Creative Direction, Producing + Editing by Dr. Nina Polyné ⚡ Audio/Visual Engineering & mix by Joel Edinberg @joeledinberg (https://www.instagram.com/joeledinberg/) Podcast Advisor: Marisa Bramwell, MBA https://solas-creative.com/ Remember: Loving yourself loudly is a daily practice. Embrace your imperfections, honor your emotions, and speak your truth with confidence. Start today, unapologetically. DISCLAIMERThe content shared on Love Yourself Loudly is for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not therapy, counseling, or a substitute for professional mental health care. Listening to this podcast does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you are in crisis or need support, please call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) or contact a licensed professional in your area. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  8. 5 Jul

    Why Can't I Feel Satisfied With What I've Done?

    You finish the project, get the promotion, hit the milestone. And within thirty seconds your brain is already asking what's next. If you're a high achiever who can't feel satisfied no matter what you accomplish, it's not ingratitude. It's perfectionism, hustle culture, and a pattern nobody ever taught you to break. In this episode, psychologist Dr. Nina Polyné explains why your wins never land and how to build the skill of self-celebration. In this episode: The high achiever hamster wheel: why your wins barely land for thirty seconds before your brain jumps to the next thingPerfectionism is a mountain with no peak: why the summit keeps moving and satisfaction never arrivesThe three layers of never feeling enough: your gap-seeking brain, the systems built on hustle culture, and the generational patterns you absorbed watching people who never sat downWhy grad school, medicine, law, tech, and corporate life are structured to make rest feel irresponsible and celebration feel prematureThree small, doable practices for burnout-prone achievers: the 24-Hour Rule, saying “I did that” out loud, and keeping a private Win FileWhy self-celebration is a skill you can practice, and one of the most radical acts of self-love “Satisfaction isn't something you find at the peak. It's something you practice on the way up.” Sit with these after you listen: What's one thing you've done recently that you never actually stopped to celebrate? Drop it in the comments.What would it feel like to sit in a win for a full 24 hours before moving to the next thing?What if satisfaction isn't something you find, but something you practice?And from the episode: who was the person growing up who never sat down? Connect with Dr. Nina Polyné: All links (Linktree): https://linktr.ee/loveyourselfloudlymedia Link to Free Daily Gaze Workshop: https://love-yourself-loudly-podcast.kit.com/723d2719e0 Podcast Instagram: @loveyourselfloudlypodcast Personal Instagram: @drninapolyne Personal LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/dr-nina-polyné-48494934a Creative Direction, Producing + Editing by Dr. Nina Polyné ⚡ Audio/Visual Engineering & mix by Joel Edinberg @joeledinberg Podcast Advisor: Marisa Bramwell, MBA https://solas-creative.com/ Remember: Loving yourself loudly is a daily practice. Embrace your imperfections, honor your emotions, and speak your truth with confidence. Start today, unapologetically. DISCLAIMER The content shared on Love Yourself Loudly is for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not therapy, counseling, or a substitute for professional mental health care. Listening to this podcast does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you are in crisis or need support, please call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) or contact a licensed professional in your area. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Welcome to Love Yourself Loudly — where self-love isn't a concept. It's a practice. I'm Dr. Nina — a couples psychologist and energetic connector by nature. I ask a lot of questions, I live my life in color, and I've never been very good at playing small. This is where we have the real conversations — about how we love ourselves, how we show up in our relationships, and how we give ourselves full permission to take up space — boldly, unapologetically, without explanation. We also get curious about why that's so hard. Why speaking kindly about ourselves can feel somehow wrong. Why confidence gets mistaken for arrogance, why being sure of yourself gets treated like a character flaw, why we've been taught that humility and self-worth can't coexist — and whether any of that was ever actually true. This isn't about telling you how to live. It's an open invitation to explore — together — what it actually means to choose yourself, and to hold your self-respect and your humility in the same hands without apologizing for either. Real dialogue, honest depth, and a space that meets you exactly where you are. No fluff. No performance. New brief episodes every Sunday. Follow the show so you never miss what's coming. And remember: you deserve to love yourself loudly — and don't be sorry about it. --- 📌 **A note before you dive in:** Love Yourself Loudly is educational and personal development content. It is not therapy, counseling, or mental health treatment, and nothing shared here should be used as a substitute for professional support. Listening to this podcast does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you're going through something heavy, please reach out to a licensed professional who can truly hold space for you. You deserve that support. 🆘 In crisis? **Call or text 988** (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) — available 24/7. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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