Betrayed & Stayed

Monica Humpal, MCC
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Betrayed & Stayed is a podcast for men and women who have experienced the devastation of infidelity—and have chosen to stay and rebuild. Hosted by Rev. Monica Humpal, a betrayed spouse turned Master Certified Coach, this podcast offers honest conversations about healing, trust, grief, forgiveness, boundaries, and what reconciliation really looks like after an affair. No sugar-coating. No quick fixes. Just real talk, practical wisdom, and hope for those walking the long road forward.

  1. 1 MAY

    10: Smart Steps to Follow Before Reconciling After Infidelity

    Should you reconcile after discovering betrayal? You may want to, but should you? It's oftentimes a scary situation to navigate because there are no guarantees that reconciliation will ultimately end in a healthy, happy marriage. It may very well end in further betrayal. As we deal with the fallout of devastation and obliterated trust we are left with not knowing what to do. We love them. We want to believe them when they seem so remorseful. But is reconciliation the right choice? There are no black and white answers to this as every situation is unique. BUT there are smart steps you can follow to help you navigate your decision making process. The key is to be intentional about your choice. Take smart, intentional steps. I hope this episode will help you as you work your way through this.

    40 min

  2. 21 APR

    9: Inside the Mind of An Unfaithful Man (Part 2)

    This is a PART 2 of a conversation that has been asked for over and over again from my listeners, clients, and Facebook group members. Finding an unfaithful person willing to be vulnerable and honest with a conversation such as this was challenging, but the wait was worth it to have Eric join us and share his story and insights. This was a two hour interview that has beens split into two parts so be sure to listen to part 2 (released one week after this episode is published). Be sure to check out Eric's info below and reach out if you or someone you know is an unfaithful man seeking support. GUEST INFO Eric Lintz: Coach, Mentor Enlifted Level 2 Coach, Assistant Coach with Man2Man, Founder of OnceACheater Eric's life unraveled after betraying his wife and blowing up his marriage and family. As the fallout intensified, shame and despair took hold, and he began to believe suicide was the only way to end the pain. A friend stepped in and urged him to attend an intensive workshop. It was there Eric took ownership of his healing and began the slow, painful process of rebuilding his life, his marriage, and his family. Over time, he developed the durability needed to face himself honestly and change. Today, Eric helps men rebuild after betrayal, secrecy, and relational damage. He guides them through ownership, honesty, and consistent change, helping them build the emotional durability needed for lasting transformation. His work is anchored in a simple truth: if you change, everything will change for you. Connect with Eric at: https://onceacheater.com **Are you a betrayed spouse looking for support? I give free consultations and would love to show you how coaching can help. Schedule with me today at https://monicahumpal.com/appointments/ #unfaithful #betrayed #betrayal #affairrecovery #affair #cheating #betrayaltrauma #podcast #affairrecoveryforthebetrayed #marriage #healingafterbetrayal #reconciliation

    53 min

  3. 15 APR

    8: Inside the Mind of An Unfaithful Man (Part 1)

    This is a conversation that has been asked for over and over again from my listeners, clients, and Facebook group members. Finding an unfaithful person willing to be vulnerable and honest with a conversation such as this was challenging, but the wait was worth it to have Eric join us and share his story and insights. This was a two hour interview that has beens split into two parts so be sure to listen to part 2 (released one week after this episode is published). Be sure to check out Eric's info below and reach out if you or someone you know is an unfaithful man seeking support. Guest Info Eric Lintz: Coach, Mentor Enlifted Level 2 Coach, Assistant Coach with Man2Man, Founder of OnceACheater Eric's life unraveled after betraying his wife and blowing up his marriage and family. As the fallout intensified, shame and despair took hold, and he began to believe suicide was the only way to end the pain. A friend stepped in and urged him to attend an intensive workshop. It was there Eric took ownership of his healing and began the slow, painful process of rebuilding his life, his marriage, and his family. Over time, he developed the durability needed to face himself honestly and change. Today, Eric helps men rebuild after betrayal, secrecy, and relational damage. He guides them through ownership, honesty, and consistent change, helping them build the emotional durability needed for lasting transformation. His work is anchored in a simple truth: if you change, everything will change for you. Connect with Eric at: https://onceacheater.com

    1hr 3min

  4. 1 APR

    7: Stop Doing the "Pick Me" Dance During Affair Recovery

    After infidelity, it's easy to slip into what I call the "pick me" dance… trying harder, giving more, being easier to love, all in an effort to feel chosen again. In this episode, we're not talking about why you do it. You already know. We're talking about how to stop. You'll learn how to recognize when you're over-functioning in the relationship, how to meet your partner's needs without abandoning yourself, and how to shift out of anxious, approval-seeking behavior into something much more grounded and powerful. Because here's the truth: You don't rebuild a relationship by competing for your place in it. We'll walk through: What "pick me" behavior actually looks like in real life How to catch yourself in the moment before you self-abandon The difference between healthy effort and fear-based over-giving How to stay rooted in your self-respect while the relationship is being rebuilt If you're tired of feeling like you're the one doing all the emotional work… this episode will help you reset. You are not here to win them back. You are here to decide if this relationship is still worthy of you. I can help you with this and more challenges you may be experiencing through affair recovery. Book a free consultation: https://app.delenta.com/ta/@monicahumpal

    28 min

  5. 15 MAR

    6: Do Men & Women Experience Betrayal Differently?

    I have been waiting so long to have this conversation with a betrayed man. As a coach that primarily works with women, I have had one long-term betrayed male client. And I noticed some differences with how he processed betrayal and how I had processed my own betrayal. They were subtle differences, but differences nonetheless. And, if the comments on my channel from betrayed men have taught me anything, is that they have their own distinct voice and they deserve to hear from someone who gets it! My guest, Dan, is a betrayed man who reconciled with his wife following her infidelity. He coaches betrayed men and has a passion for helping men heal and grow through the grief and trauma of an affair. He is thoughtful, wise, and shares his story with us. I hope this is a helpful conversation for you! GUEST INFO Dan Fritsch— Coach, Firefighter, Mentor  Enlifted Level 2 Coach, and founder of Resilient‑Rebuild Dan is a leader in the fire service, Enlifted Level 2 Coach, and founder of Resilient-Rebuild. Adopted as an infant and shaped by decades of shame, control, and fear of abandonment, his life was turned upside down in 2019 when his wife asked for a divorce and revealed a painful truth that reflected years of disconnection in their marriage. That heartbreak became the fire that forged his transformation. Today, Dan helps men and women rebuild after betrayal, heartbreak, and identity collapse—guiding them into self-trust, emotional clarity, and embodied leadership. He's also the host of Man2Man – Relationship Support for Men, a private community for men ready to stop hiding and start leading. Dan guides you through the fire and into renewal, resilience, and the grounded presence to lead your life with power Connect with Dan at https://www.resilient-rebuild.com/ #affairrecovery #affairrecoveryforthebetrayed #affair #betrayal #betrayaltrauma #betrayaltraumarecovery #infidelity #infidelityinmarriage #reconciliation #marriage #coaching

    47 min

  6. 12 MAR

    5: How to Stop Reliving the Affair

    Are you stuck replaying the affair in your mind? If you're experiencing intrusive thoughts after cheating, graphic "mind movies," obsessive replay, or nighttime anxiety, this episode is for you. After infidelity, your brain goes into protection mode. The constant images, comparisons, and worst-case scenarios aren't proof you're obsessed. They're a trauma response. Many betrayed partners experience symptoms similar to PTSD after infidelity. In this episode, you'll learn: Why intrusive thoughts after cheating feel so intense Why your brain fills in missing details Why nighttime spirals are common after betrayal How to calm your nervous system Practical tools to stop reliving the affair You don't stop intrusive thoughts by forcing them away. You reduce them by helping your body feel safe again. If you're trying to heal after infidelity, rebuild trust, or quiet betrayal trauma triggers, this conversation will help. Subscribe for more support on healing after cheating, reconciliation, and nervous system recovery. You are not crazy. You are responding to trauma. And it can get better. I can help you with this and more challenges you may be experiencing through affair recovery. Book a free consultation: monicahumpal.com

    38 min

  7. 7 MAR

    Bonus Episode: Don't Believe Everything You Hear About Infidelity

    We hear so many things about infidelity on social media. The good, the bad, and the ugly. Some of it is mostly true. Some is just nonsense. And most is based on opinions that come from personal experience. Either way, what we hear impacts us and we need to be ever cautious about what we choose to believe and what we don't.   #betrayal #betrayaltrauma #emotionaltrauma #betrayaltraumarecovery #marriage #healingafterbetrayal #infidelity #infidelitystory #affairrecovery #affair #affairrecoveryforthebetrayed

    19 min

  8. 15 FEB

    4: Rebuilding Trust After Infidelity

    After infidelity, many betrayed partners want to trust again — but find they simply can't. In this episode, we talk about why trust doesn't return through promises, reassurance, or willpower, and what actually helps rebuild trust after betrayal. Rebuilding trust is not a decision or a feeling. It's a process your nervous system learns over time. In this episode, you'll learn: Why forcing yourself to trust backfires The difference between trust as a feeling and trust as a process What real transparency looks like (and when it becomes harmful) The behaviors that rebuild trust over time Common mistakes betrayed partners make during trust repair If you're staying after infidelity but still feel guarded, hypervigilant, or unsure whether trust will ever return, this episode will help you understand what's happening — and what actually works. Trust isn't restored overnight. It's rebuilt through consistency, accountability, and repair. Work with Monica: https://app.delenta.com/ta/@monicahumpal

    37 min
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Betrayed & Stayed is a podcast for men and women who have experienced the devastation of infidelity—and have chosen to stay and rebuild. Hosted by Rev. Monica Humpal, a betrayed spouse turned Master Certified Coach, this podcast offers honest conversations about healing, trust, grief, forgiveness, boundaries, and what reconciliation really looks like after an affair. No sugar-coating. No quick fixes. Just real talk, practical wisdom, and hope for those walking the long road forward.

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  • Creator
    Monica Humpal, MCC
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    13
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2025
  • Show Website
    Betrayed & Stayed

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