Where Did I Go...?

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Where Did I Go? is about the quiet identity crisis that so often comes with motherhood—and the slow, beautiful, messy process of finding your way back to yourself. Whether you’re in the thick of new motherhood, riding the waves of matrescence, creeping toward perimenopause, or just feeling a little lost in the demands of everyday life—this space is for you.

  1. Friendship, freedom and finding yourself at the skatepark with The Board Mums Club

    HÁ 22 H

    Friendship, freedom and finding yourself at the skatepark with The Board Mums Club

    Hey — grab a cuppa and settle in. This episode is a heartwarming, kick-in-the-pants reminder that motherhood doesn’t have to mean the end of you. Zoe and Claire, founders of The Bored Mums Club, walk us through how two friends turned a midlife identity slump into a joyful, messy, welcoming community at the skate park. We talk loneliness, matrescence (that endless process of becoming and re-becoming yourself), and how playfulness can heal and reconnect us to who we once were — and who we still want to be. These women show up each week at the skatepark with a group of other mums, armed with scraped shins, wobbly knees, and huge cheer squads, proving that trying something new is an act of radical self-kindness. If you’ve ever thought, “I could never,” you’ll love the practical, gentle encouragement here: bring a friend, join a club, or DM someone online. Do the thing that makes your heart sing! Most clubs are full of beginners, and honestly, everyone’s too busy enjoying themselves to notice you fumble — and if they do, they’ll probably help you up. This episode is both a warm hug and a dare — to reclaim fun, build a modern village of women across ages and stages, and model curiosity for the kids watching. It’s about permission: you can be playful, take up space, learn new things, and reinvent yourself at any age. By the end you’ll feel seen, a little braver, and ready to try something that scares you — because the reward isn’t perfection, it’s the friends, confidence, and surprise joy you find along the way.

    58min
  2. The motherhood penalty: £125,000 lost and how we fix it with Joeli Brearley

    9 DE NOV.

    The motherhood penalty: £125,000 lost and how we fix it with Joeli Brearley

    AHHH this is a big one!! In this week's episode, I sit down with the legend herself, Joeli Brearley, founder of Pregnant Then Screwed and now Growth Spurt, one of the UK's most relentless advocates for parents in the workplace. After being fired by voicemail two days after announcing her pregnancy, Joeli turned her personal story into a movement, one that has changed laws, secured billions in government investment, and supported hundreds of thousands of mothers. And the timing couldn't be better. Brand new ONS data just dropped showing that mothers lose £65,000 in the five years after their first baby, and £125,000 if they have three children. When people say "of course you'll earn less, just be grateful you have a baby," what they're actually saying is your financial freedom doesn't matter. But Joeli's here to tell you: it absolutely does, and it doesn't have to be this way. This conversation isn't just about documenting the problem—it's about the solutions. From why parental leave is the single biggest lever we have to change everything, to why companies that hide caregiving are shooting themselves in the foot, to what Growth Spurt is doing to support the return-to-work transition that breaks so many of us. This is essential listening for every working mother who's been told she should just accept less.

    38min
  3. "Welcome to the Workstyle Revolution!": Reimagining work for the reality of modern motherhood with Lizzie Penny

    2 DE NOV.

    "Welcome to the Workstyle Revolution!": Reimagining work for the reality of modern motherhood with Lizzie Penny

    As working mothers, we're told that flexible working is the solution. Work from home two days a week. Do compressed hours. Start at 10am instead of 9am. But if these solutions actually worked, why do we still feel like we're constantly drowning? Why are we still apologizing for our lives? Why does the motherhood penalty persist? Flexible working has been around for more than 70 years, yet employment gaps for mothers aren't closing. We're not failing...the system is. In this episode, I sit down with Lizzie Penny, mother of three and cofounder of the Workstyle Revolution, a charity on a mission to create a world of work without bias. Lizzie's story is a masterclass in why we need to stop tweaking the edges of an outdated system and start demanding something entirely different. Lizzie introduces the concept of "work style"—NOT flexible working, but a fundamental reimagining of how we measure value, productivity, and contribution in the workplace. She explains why mothers are actually the most productive workers (yes, there's data!), why you shouldn't have to apologise for going to your child's school play, and how the complexity of our lives is our superpower, not our weakness. This conversation will change how you think about your worth at work and give you the language and permission to start advocating for what you actually need to thrive, not just survive, as a working mother.

    53min
  4. 'You've been tricked!' Raising boys who smash stereotypes with Lauren Currie

    14 DE SET.

    'You've been tricked!' Raising boys who smash stereotypes with Lauren Currie

    How do we raise kind, thoughtful boys in a world that still tells them they have to be tough? What happens when we realise the systems we’ve grown up in don’t serve any of us... including our children? In this episode, I sit down with the brilliant Lauren Currie, author, advocate, founder of UPFRONT, and mum to a young son. Lauren’s new children’s book, Taylor Meets The Trick, gives families a simple, hopeful way to spot gender stereotypes (“the trick”) and have real conversations about fairness, kindness, and confidence. We explore: How to raise boys who see beyond gender roles and lead with empathy Everyday ways the patriarchy shows up in parenting (and how to call it out) Why the language we use with our kids matters more than we think How children can become the teachers when it comes to spotting bias The subtle ways adults are “tricked”... and how to unlearn them Lauren also shares how she’s raising her son to question stereotypes without shame, what she’s had to unlearn herself, and how parents can make these conversations part of everyday life without it feeling heavy. Whether you’re a parent, caregiver, teacher, or simply someone who wants to help create a fairer, softer future, this episode will give you ideas, language, and a lovely story to share with the children in your life. Resources & links Taylor Meets The Trick – Order the book here Connect with Lauren on Instagram and LinkedIn Learn more about UPFRONT: weareupfront.com

    38min
  5. Finding your village in a digital world with Kate Westlund Tovsen

    7 DE SET.

    Finding your village in a digital world with Kate Westlund Tovsen

    Motherhood is full of contradictions. You’re never truly alone -- kids, partners, colleagues are always nearby -- yet it can feel like one of the loneliest seasons of life. In this conversation, I sit down with Kate Westlund Tovsen, communications consultant and founder of The Society of Working Moms (SOWM), to talk about why working motherhood so often feels isolating and what it takes to build the kind of community we all crave. Kate shares the story behind creating SOWM, an online Slack-based community designed to be a real village for women navigating both careers and motherhood. We dig into the surprising ways digital connections can become lifelines, how to overcome the hesitation of engaging in online spaces, and why vulnerability is the secret ingredient to building real support. We also explore: Why motherhood can feel more isolating than expected—even when you’re surrounded by people. The value of connecting with women at different stages of life and motherhood. How digital communities can replicate the generational wisdom that many of us are missing. Practical ways to use your voice, share what you need, and start building your own village. Stories of how small acts of honesty and courage sparked meaningful connection inside SOWM. If you’ve ever felt like your “village” is missing, this episode is for you. Whether online or offline, connection is possible, and it often starts with one brave step. Links and resources: Connect with Kate on LinkedIn Learn more about The Society of Working Moms: working-moms.com

    34min
  6. “We’ve normalised not feeling okay” Alison Campbell on why so many mothers are burning out

    29 DE AGO.

    “We’ve normalised not feeling okay” Alison Campbell on why so many mothers are burning out

    Hello and welcome back to the penultimate episode of Season 1 of WDIG? If you’ve been feeling foggy, exhausted, or like everything’s a little heavier than it should be, this episode is for you. Alison Campbell, founder of Unburnt, talks honestly about why working mums are especially at risk of burnout, how the expectations of an “always-on” culture quietly stack the pressure, and why none of this is your personal failure. Alison shares her own wake-up story and explains why normalising constant overwhelm is exactly what keeps people stuck. If you want practical, doable tools (not more toxic productivity pep talks), you’ll love the micro-habits Alison walks through in this episode.  This is a conversation about naming the load instead of carrying it alone. Permission to stop pushing through, to ask for help, and to carve out space for yourself. If you’re drowning in the idea that you must do it all, this episode gently reminds you: you’re not failing, you’re being let down by unsustainable expectations. It might not always feel this way, but you DO have choices and there ARE  manageable ways to stay unburnt. Want to go deeper? Alison’s work is at getunburnt.com and she shares practical tips on LinkedIn under Alison Campbell. Now, take a breath, and let's get into it.

    52min
  7. Postpartum or perimenopause? How to know what the heck is going on with your body with Emma Thomas

    17 DE AGO.

    Postpartum or perimenopause? How to know what the heck is going on with your body with Emma Thomas

    Just as you begin to reclaim your identity post-motherhood, sneaky symptoms like brain fog, hot flashes, and anxiety start knocking on your door. Is it hormone havoc, burnout, fatigue, or...perimenopause? Join me for a candid chat with the lovely Emma Thomas, who's on a mission to unravel the mysteries of the messy middle of life for women everywhere. Emma, founder of The Triple Shift and host of the Middling Along podcast, has pivoted in her career to become a menopause educator, helping women regain control and clarity through the middle bit of life.  Why should you listen to this episode? Because no one really prepares us for the hormonal rollercoaster that can hit just as we’re trying to get our footing back after having kids. This conversation will help you understand what’s going on in your body, what to look out for, and how to get the support you need. It’s practical, reassuring, and full of the kind of insight that helps you take your power back. About this week's guest, Emma Thomas: Emma Thomas is the Founder of The Triple Shift and Managing the Menopause. She is also the host of the Middling Along Podcast.    For 30 years Emma worked in academic publishing with many well-known brands with roles spanning business development, strategy, business process optimization, change and transformation, and internal communications. In 2021 she set up her podcast and has now interviewed dozens of midlife wellbeing and menopause experts, inspiring women who have undergone midlife reinventions, and tackled topics relating to multigenerational workforces and ageism in the workplace.  In 2022 she founded Managing the Menopause, which works with companies to help them become menopause-supportive employers, and after training at Henley Business School she set up The Triple Shift, her coaching practice. Holding Up The Sky is her latest venture, with burnout expert Lisa Tyler, helping women navigate their 'midlife collision' without cracking up.    You can find out more about Emma and the brilliant work she does here: www.thetripleshift.org www.managingthemenopause.com   www.holdingupthesky.com www.middlingalong.com  Or connect with Emma on Linkedin

    53min
  8. What If We’d Known? Rich Baish on Postpartum Psychosis and Parenting Through Grief

    2 DE AGO.

    What If We’d Known? Rich Baish on Postpartum Psychosis and Parenting Through Grief

    TW: A quick note before we begin, this episode includes a conversation about suicide and maternal mental health, so if you're in a vulnerable place, please take good care of yourself while listening and take a look in the show notes for some links to places where you can get some support if and when you need it. This week, I’m talking to my old friend Rich Baish about something no family should ever have to go through: losing a new mum to postpartum psychosis. Rich tragically lost his wife Alex to postpartum psychosis just a few weeks after their second daughter was born. In this conversation, he shares what happened, what the warning signs were and what he wishes he’d known at the time. We also talk about what it means to grieve while raising young children, how he’s rebuilt a life he never asked for, and why he’s now working to make sure other families don’t slip through the cracks. Postpartum psychosis affects 1–2 in every 1,000 new mums. It can come on suddenly, even if there’s no history of mental illness, but it is treatable, if acted on fast enough. This is a conversation about maternal mental health, yes, for sure, but it's also a conversation about fatherhood, about friendship, about resilience, and above all about love. It's absolutely heartbreaking, but it's also strangely hopeful because what Rich shows us is that even in the darkest of times, it is possible to keep going, to keep showing up, to hold space for what was, while also making space for what comes next. If you’re pregnant, postpartum, or supporting someone who is, please give it a listen. It might just save a life. Resources and Support If you or someone you love might be experiencing symptoms of postpartum psychosis, it is a medical emergency. Don’t wait. Go straight to A&E (UK) or the Emergency Room (US). The sooner help is given, the better the outcome. UK Resources Action on Postpartum Psychosis (APP): The UK’s only charity dedicated to supporting women and families affected by postpartum psychosis. Offers peer support, information, training for healthcare professionals, and bereavement services. NHS information on Postpartum Psychosis Samaritans – 116 123 (24/7) or chat online any time PANDAS Foundation – Support for postnatal depression and other perinatal mental health challenges US Resources Postpartum Support International (PSI): Extensive resources including a helpline, online support groups, and provider directories. PSI Helpline 998 Lifeline: Call or text 988 for 24/7, confidential support

    48min
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Where Did I Go? is about the quiet identity crisis that so often comes with motherhood—and the slow, beautiful, messy process of finding your way back to yourself. Whether you’re in the thick of new motherhood, riding the waves of matrescence, creeping toward perimenopause, or just feeling a little lost in the demands of everyday life—this space is for you.

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