Cultivating H.E.R. Space: Uplifting Conversations for the Black Woma‪n‬ Terri Lomax & Dr. Dominique Broussard

Does your partner often think that people are out to get them or take advantage of them? On one hand this a valid experience of being Black but when combined with certain other traits this could be a sign of narcissism. In today’s episode, Terri and Dr. Dom take a look at some of the questions from Dr. Ramani’s quiz in her book, Should I Stay or Should I Go?: Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist. Listen in to see if you or someone you know fits this description and tune in next week to hear from Dr. Ramani on strategies to end the narcissistic relationship.



Quote of the Day:

We live in a world of romance and rescue, where many believe love will conquer all, and that the more we endure unacceptable behavior, the more likely that we can “fix” our relationships. It doesn’t always work that way—despite what the fairy tales tell us.

-Dr. Ramani Durvasula



Is Your Partner a Narcissist?

This quiz from the Dr. Ramani Durvasula of Should I Stay or Should I Go? can help you determine the answer.



TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom

Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri

Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary



Resources:

Melanin and Mental Health

Therapy for Black Girls 

Psychology Today

Therapy for QPOC



Where to find us:

Twitter: @HERspacepodcast

Instagram: @herspacepodcast

Facebook: @herspacepodcast

Website: cultivatingherspace.com


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Lady, are you ready to stop hustling for your worthiness and become the victor in your story? It is time for us to stop dimming our light and focus on shining and soaring! We are not defined by where we come from and as Bryan Stevenson notes, “ Each of us is much more than the worst thing we’ve ever done.” In today’s episode, listen in as Dr. Dom and Terri discuss how shame shows up in our lives. They also provide us with the internal and external compasses we can create to put shame in its place.



Quote of the Day:

"You either walk inside your story and own it or you stand outside your story and hustle for your worthiness."

-Brene Brown

How to Put Shame In Its Place


Bring shame into the light.

Become attuned to the script of your inner dialogue.

Develop greater inner compassion with yourself.

Become a “witness to” and mourn your wounds.

Forgive yourself for feelings, thoughts, or actions of your “former selves."


TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom

Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri

Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary



Resources:

Melanin and Mental Health

Therapy for Black Girls 

Psychology Today

Therapy for QPOC



Where to find us:

Twitter: @HERspacepodcast

Instagram: @herspacepodcast

Facebook: @herspacepodcast

Website: cultivatingherspace.com


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The mother-daughter relationship is a complex one. Some of us have beautiful relationships with our mothers in which they are one of the most trusted people in our inner circle. However, what happens if you have a complicated, distant, or estranged relationship with your mother? What are the feelings that come up for you? How can you support a friend who does not have a close relationship with their mother? In this episode, Dr. Dom and Terri discuss Terri’s relationship with her mother and the steps she took to heal from the estrangement. “You can’t heal what you don’t reveal.”-Terri



Quote of the Day:

“In troubled families, abuse and neglect are permitted; it's the talking about them that is forbidden.”

-Unknown



How to Be Happy and Whole When You are Estranged From Your Mom


Be real about your feelings

Establish boundaries

Ritualistic clearing

Grieving the vision you had for the relationship

Filling your life with the mother energy your mom is unable to provide

Remember that hurt people hurt people; your mom is human




TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom

Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri

Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:

Melanin and Mental Health

Therapy for Black Girls 

Psychology Today

Therapy for QPOC

Where to find us:

Twitter: @HERspacepodcast

Instagram: @herspacepodcast

Facebook: @herspacepodcast

Website: cultivatingherspace.com


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How do you define family? Is it based on your relatives, people you have chosen as family, or some amalgamation of the two? Today Dr. Dom and Terri are discussing the complexities of navigating familial relationships and what happens when we decide those relationships are abusive or not in alignment with who we are. The ladies also provide us with tips on how to cultivate community family or community when we are not physically and/or emotionally close to our family of origin.



Quote of the Day:

“Family is where you're meant to be most free. Don't let blood chain you down.”

-Unknown

How to Cultivate Community When You're Not Close to Your Family


Get clarity

Identify your why

Identify your ideal family

Heal and forgive

Work on your communication skills

Meditate and manifest your chosen family




TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom

Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri

Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary



Resources:

Melanin and Mental Health

Therapy for Black Girls 

Psychology Today

Therapy for QPOC



Where to find us:

Twitter: @HERspacepodcast

Instagram: @herspacepodcast

Facebook: @herspacepodcast

Website: cultivatingherspace.com


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Black don’t crack...or does it? What is your relationship with aging? What aspects of the aging process are within our control? In today’s episode, Terri and Dr. Dom examine the science, the common stereotypes, and our perceptions of the aging process for Black women. While this episode only scratches the surface, make sure you are consulting your spiritual, physical, mental, and financial health providers to ensure your aging process is moving in alignment with your values.



Quote of the Day:

Black don't crack... "This conventional wisdom opens up the door for ageism and discrimination based on looks under the guise of black empowerment."

- Kimberly Foster



TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom

Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri

Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary



Resources:

Melanin and Mental Health

Therapy for Black Girls 

Psychology Today

Therapy for QPOC



Where to find us:

Twitter: @HERspacepodcast

Instagram: @herspacepodcast

Facebook: @herspacepodcast

Website: cultivatingherspace.com


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Lady, if you have any young people in your life this episode is definitely for you! Today Terri and Dr. Dom are joined by the incomparable Dr. Alfiee to talk about the mental health issues of BIPOC youth, young adults, and young at heart. This is a conversation full of honesty and realness to not only understand the toxic systems mental health providers navigate to how these same providers prioritize being a safe space for youth and young adults. The powerful gems Dr. Alfiee shares with us are a small portion of the wisdom she provides through her various projects.

Donate to the AAKOMA Project 



Quote of the Day:

"If we stopped saying 'we know what works' (because we actually don't from the way we traditionally 'science') and started asking, 'what works for you?' THEN build TOGETHER from that shared understanding, then we'd see some real positive changes."

-Dr. Alfiee



Where to Find Dr. Alfiee:

@dralfiee and @aakomaproject  – on Twitter, IG and Facebook

@couchedincolor – on Twitter and Facebook

@couchedincolorpod – on Instagram

Alfiee (Dr. Alfiee) Breland-Noble and AAKOMAProject - on LinkedIn

TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom

Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri

Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary



Resources:

Melanin and Mental Health

Therapy for Black Girls 

Psychology Today

Therapy for QPOC



Where to find us:

Twitter: @HERspacepodcast

Instagram: @herspacepodcast

Facebook: @herspacepodcast

Website: cultivatingherspace.com


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Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/her-space/support