AboutCONSENT™

AboutCONSENT™, Rosalia Rivera

Weekly informational, inspirational & motivational episodes about: Consent education, sex positivity, body safety for kids, healing, sexual autonomy, orgasm equality, survivor support and advocacy, and current events. Join me in having an open, transparent and inspirational dialogue about all of these important topics that will move the sexual empowerment movement forward!

  1. Episode 57: Breaking The Frame- Exposing Family Secrets While Healing Generational Trauma

    2025-07-03

    Episode 57: Breaking The Frame- Exposing Family Secrets While Healing Generational Trauma

    Episode 57Duration: 56:28 Host: Rosalia Rivera  Guest: Amanda MustardContent Warning: This episode contains frank discussions about sexual abuse, incest, and family trauma. Please take care of yourself while listening. Key Topics DiscussedThe complexity of family abuse: Moving beyond black-and-white narratives to understand the messy reality of being abused by someone you loveNormalization within families: How abuse becomes normalized when no one knows how to address itBreaking generational cycles: The courage required to be the first person in a family to speak upThe role of religion: How spiritual bypassing can both harm and help survivorsComplicity vs. survivorship: Understanding the difference between enabling and survivingThe power of acknowledgment: Why being seen and heard can be more healing than criminal justicePrevention perspectives: How speaking up earlier could protect more childrenTherapeutic journey: The importance of professional mental health support throughout the healing processKey Takeaways with Timestamps[00:00-02:00] Introduction and film trailer audio Amanda's background as a photojournalist turned filmmakerThe personal nature of exposing family trauma[02:00-08:20] Film Overview and Purpose What "Great Photo, Lovely Life" is aboutWho the film was made for: survivors and those impacted by child sexual abuseMoving beyond simplified narratives of abuse[08:20-13:15] The Decision to Document Why Amanda chose to film such personal family traumaUsing journalism tools to investigate her own familyThe power of having the perpetrator acknowledge his actions[13:15-21:11] The Normalization Process How abuse became normalized in Amanda's familyLeaving home and gaining perspective on her childhoodUsing photojournalism skills to seek truth within her family[21:11-28:37] Family Dynamics and Relationships The impact on Amanda's relationship with her motherNavigating co-dependency and the desire to "fix" family membersThe role of survival mode in preventing healing[28:37-35:53] Religion and Spiritual Bypassing How evangelical faith both helped and hindered healingThe problematic nature of forced forgivenessUnderstanding religion as both toxic and helpful for coping[35:53-42:19] The Complexity of Perpetrators Why people who abuse can still be charming and lovedHow this complexity makes prevention more difficultThe importance of understanding grooming behaviors[42:19-47:19] Justice and Healing Options Why criminal justice isn't always what survivors wantThe power of acknowledgment over prosecutionIntroduction to restorative justice alternatives[47:19-52:34] Resources and Next Steps Discussion guide created with Johns Hopkins Moore CenterUpcoming projects addressing cultural reactions to the filmThe importance of professional therapeutic support[52:34-End] Closing Thoughts Practicing compassion while maintaining boundariesUnderstanding that everyone is carrying unseen traumaThe ongoing work of breaking generational cyclesAbout AmandaAmanda Mustard is an award-winning photojournalist turned filmmaker, born and raised on a Christmas tree farm in rural Pennsylvania. She spent over a decade as a photojournalist based between Cairo and Bangkok, working for prestigious outlets including The New York Times, National Geographic, and the Associated Press. Her HBO documentary "Great Photo, Lovely Life" represents an eight-year journey examining decades of sexual abuse within her own family. Connect with Amanda: Website: amandamustard.comFilm Website: greatphotolovelylife.comResources Mentioned  Film and Discussion Guide"Great Photo, Lovely Life" - Available on HBO MaxExtended Discussion Guide - Available through Johns Hopkins Moore CenterCrisis and Support ResourcesNational Sexual Assault Hotline (RAINN): 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) or online.rainn.orgCrisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 or crisistextline.orgNational Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 988 or suicidepreventionlifeline.orgSAMHSA National Helpline: 1-800-662-4357 or samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helplineAdult Survivor ResourcesRAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network): rainn.org - comprehensive resources for adult survivors1in6: 1in6.org - support specifically for men who experienced sexual abuse as childrenNational Center for Victims: victimsofcrime.org - trauma recovery resourcesSurvivors Network of those Abused by Priests (SNAP): snapnetwork.org - support for institutional abuse survivorsAdult Survivors of Child Abuse (ASCA): ascasupport.org - peer support and healing resourcesTherapy and Healing ResourcesPsychology Today Therapist Directory: psychologytoday.com/us/therapists - find trauma-specialized therapistsEMDR International Association: emdria.org - find EMDR therapists for trauma treatmentThe Body Keeps the Score Resources: besselvanderkolk.com - trauma-informed healing approachesTrauma Recovery Network: traumarecoverynetwork.org - comprehensive trauma treatment resourcesFamily and Relationship SupportNational Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 or thehotline.org - for family violence situationsAl-Anon Family Groups: al-anon.org - support for families affected by trauma and dysfunctionAdult Children of Alcoholics & Dysfunctional Families: adultchildren.org - healing from family traumaPrevention and Education OrganizationsJohns Hopkins Moore Center for Prevention of Child Sexual Abuse: publichealth.jhu.edu/moore-centerMoore Center Response to Great Photo, Lovely LifeDarkness to Light: d2l.org - prevention education and trainingStop It Now:  stopitnow.org  - prevention resources for families and communitiesHost InformationRosalia Rivera hosts AboutCONSENT™ Podcast, which sparks conversations about prevention, healing, and justice to end child sexual abuse while creating consent culture for current and future generations. The podcast provides a safe, shame-free, and judgment-free space for both survivors and those who support them. Connect with the Show: Instagram: @consentparentingPodcast: @aboutconsentpodcastNext Steps for ListenersWatch "Great Photo, Lovely Life" on HBO MaxAccess the discussion guide through the Moore CenterShare responsibly - Consider content warnings when sharingSeek support if the content brings up personal traumaConsider professional help for your own healing journeyPractice compassion in your own family dynamicsIf you found this episode valuable, please share it with others who might benefit. Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and tag @consentparenting and @aboutconsentpodcast on social media with your biggest takeaways. Let's keep building safer spaces—one conversation at a time.

    56 min
  2. Ep 56 Gambiling With Kids Lives

    2025-04-23

    Ep 56 Gambiling With Kids Lives

    In this eye-opening episode, I discuss Meta's platforms and their impact on young users' safety and wellbeing. Despite public messaging about prioritizing safety, internal research and whistleblower testimonies reveal alarming gaps in protection that expose children to sexual predators, harmful content, and dangerous interactions. I examine Meta's business decisions when faced with implementing life-saving safety features, how their algorithms can create harmful content "bubbles," and most importantly, what parents and advocates can do to demand accountability and change! Key Takeaways with Timestamps [00:00] Introduction The reality behind Meta's safety promisesThe personal impact on families and young users[04:15] The Statistics vs. Public Messaging Internal research findings Meta tried to hideDisturbing statistics about unwanted sexual advances and discrimination[10:30] Real-World Consequences Stories of suicide following online harassmentImpact on mental health, eating disorders, and substance abuse[17:45] The Algorithmic Problem How engagement-focused algorithms promote harmful contentMeta's research on content "bubbles" and escalating harm[23:30] Predator Playground Internal acknowledgments of safety gapsResults of investigations and test accounts[32:15] Profit Over Protection Business decisions that prioritized engagement over safetyRejected safety features that could save lives[40:00] Taking Action as Parents and Citizens The multi-organization petition to Mark ZuckerbergThree key demands for platform safety[48:30] What Parents Can Do Now Immediate steps to protect your children onlineResources for families affected by online harm[54:45] Final Thoughts & Call to Action How to support the Design It For Us campaignResources for those affected by online harassmentInstagram is Full of Openly Available AI Generated Child Abuse Content: Pulitzer Center Article SIGN THE PETITION HERE!!! Online Safety Resources: Child Online Protection Resources: https://www.commonsensemedia.org/privacy-and-online-safetyhttps://www.connectsafely.org/resources-for-parents/Mental Health Support: Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741https://www.hhs.gov/sites/default/files/sg-youth-mental-health-social-media-advisory.pdfReport Online Exploitation: National Center for Missing & Exploited Children CyberTipline: https://report.cybertip.org/FBI Internet Crime Complaint Center: https://www.ic3.govParent Education: https://www.waituntil8th.org/https://digitalwellnesslab.org/

    31 min
  3. Ep 55 [Part 2] The Cost of Silence: The Le Scouarnec Case with guest Mié Kohiyama

    2025-03-17

    Ep 55 [Part 2] The Cost of Silence: The Le Scouarnec Case with guest Mié Kohiyama

    The Cost of Silence: The Le Scouarnec Case [Part 2] Host:Rosalia Rivera Guest:Mié Kohiyama Duration:58:44 Release Date:March 16, 2025 Episode SummaryIn this powerful continuation of The Cost of Silence, we dive deeper into the horrifying case of Joël Le Scouarnec, one of France’s most prolific child sex abusers. Joining us is Mié Kohiyama, a French journalist, survivor, and leading activist in the fight against child sexual violence. Mié shares her groundbreaking legal battle that challenged France’s statute of limitations laws, revealing how institutional silence allows abuse to persist for decades. We also explore the shocking judicial failures that enabled Le Scouarnec’s crimes, the devastating impact of repressed memory on survivors, and the urgent need for systemic change. This episode is a call to action—for justice, reform, and survivor advocacy. Trigger Warning: This discussion contains references to child sexual abuse, repressed memory, and institutional failures. Please prioritize your well-being and use the provided resources if needed. Key Takeaways with Timestamps[00:00] Introduction Recap of Part 1 and why this case mattersIntroducing guest Mié Kohiyama[03:15] Mié Kohiyama’s Story Her personal experience with abuse and repressed memoryLegal battle against France’s statute of limitations[08:42] Statute of Limitations & Justice Delayed Why survivors struggle to seek justiceThe need for legal reform in cases of child sexual abuse[15:30] Judicial & Institutional Failures How France’s legal system failed to protect victimsThe role of hospitals, law enforcement, and courts in enabling abuse[21:10] CSAM & Digital Exploitation Why child sexual abuse material (CSAM) isn’t taken seriously enoughHow law enforcement overlooked Le Scouarnec’s early offenses[27:45] The Trauma of Discovery The impact of repressed memories on survivorsHow victims were retraumatized by law enforcement’s handling of the case[33:20] Family & Institutional Silence Why families protect perpetrators over victimsThe role of cultural attitudes and systemic cover-ups[40:00] The Urgent Need for Reform Abolishing statutes of limitations for child sex crimesEducating institutions on trauma-informed approaches[46:55] Call to Action How listeners can support survivors and advocate for changeResources for survivors and alliesAbout Mié Kohiyama: Mié Kohiyama is a French-trained journalist and a dedicated child rights activist with over a decade of advocacy experience. As a survivor of child sexual violence (CSV), she made history as the first survivor in France to appeal to the Supreme Court on the issue of the statute of limitations and repressed memory. Since then, she has been a key figure in the collective movement to end CSV in France. Her activism contributed to major legal victories, including the establishment of a legal age of consent in France and the extension of the statute of limitations for sexual crimes against minors to 48 years. However, the fight to abolish these limitations entirely is still ongoing. Mié is also the author of Le Petit Vélo Blanc, written under the pseudonym Cécile B, in which she shares her journey as a survivor and activist. In 2022, she joined the Brave Movement and now serves as an executive member. Instagram: www.instagram.com/miekohiyamaX: x.com/MiKohiyamaLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/mie-kohiyamaSurvivor Resources: Global Help Lines: https://www.bravemovement.org/get-helpU.S. Healing Resources + Survivor Support: https://metoomvmt.org/explore-healing/https://metoomvmt.org/how-can-we-help-you/U.S. Victims Advocacy https://trynova.org/About Child Trauma https://www.nctsn.org/what-is-child-trauma/about-child-trauma

    59 min
  4. Ep 54 [Part 1] The Cost of Silence: The Le Scouarnec Case

    2025-03-16

    Ep 54 [Part 1] The Cost of Silence: The Le Scouarnec Case

    The Cost of Silence – The Le Scouarnec Case (Part 1)Host: Rosalia Rivera Duration: 18:22 Release Date: March 16, 2025 Episode Summary In this gripping episode, we dive into the harrowing case of surgeon Joël Le Scouarnec, one of France’s most notorious serial child sex abusers. His decades-long history of abuse was shrouded in silence, concealed by institutions that failed to act. We examine the systemic failures that enabled his crimes, the courageous survivors who broke their silence, and the larger implications for child protection laws and medical accountability. Through expert insights and survivor testimonies, this episode sheds light on how abuse thrives in secrecy—and what must change to prevent future tragedies. Key Takeaways with Timestamps [00:00] Introduction Overview of the case and its significanceWhy this story needs to be told[03:15] Who Was Joël Le Scouarnec? Background on the surgeonHis career and how he gained access to victims[08:42] The First Red Flags: Early Complaints Ignored Accounts of early warning signsHow institutions protected him instead of victims[15:30] The Victims Speak Out The first survivor to break the silenceHow others came forward and the impact of their testimonies[21:10] The Investigation Unfolds How police uncovered the shocking extent of his crimesThe discovery of his private journals and what they revealed[27:45] The Trial and Verdict What happened in courtThe justice survivors received—and what was left unanswered[33:20] Institutional Silence: How Systems Enable Abuse Why hospitals and institutions failed to actThe larger implications for medical and legal accountability[40:00] What Needs to Change? Policy changes that could prevent similar casesThe role of public awareness and survivor advocacy[46:55] Final Thoughts & Call to Action How listeners can support survivorsResources for those affected by abuseSurvivor Resources: Global Help Lines: https://www.bravemovement.org/get-helpU.S. Healing Resources + Survivor Support: https://metoomvmt.org/explore-healing/https://metoomvmt.org/how-can-we-help-you/U.S. Victims Advocacy https://trynova.org/About Child Trauma https://www.nctsn.org/what-is-child-trauma/about-child-trauma

    18 min
  5. Ep 53 Grooming Uncovered: What Every Parent Needs to Know

    2025-02-13

    Ep 53 Grooming Uncovered: What Every Parent Needs to Know

    Host: Rosalia Rivera Guest: Anna Sonoda, licensed clinical social worker and author of Duck Duck Groom: Understanding How a Child Becomes a Target Duration: 50:04 Release Date: February 12, 2025 Key Takeaways with Timestamps[00:00] Welcome & Introduction I introduce my guest, Anna Sonoda, and share why her book, Duck Duck Groom, is an essential read for parents. [02:22] Anna’s Background & How She Started This Work Anna talks about her journey as a clinical social worker and what led her to work with sex offenders. She explains how sitting face-to-face with offenders gave her insights into their thought processes and behaviors. [04:34] What Grooming Really Looks Like Anna breaks down the four stages of grooming—flattery, favoritism, forbidden fruits, and fear—and explains why most predators don’t fit the "creepy stranger" stereotype. [07:11] The Limitations of the Sex Offender Registry We discuss why relying on the sex offender registry isn’t enough and why most predators never end up on it. [12:31] How Groomers Target Parents First Predators don’t just groom children—they groom adults too. Anna explains the tactics offenders use to build trust with caregivers to gain access to kids. [20:13] How Offenders Groom Entire Communities We talk about the ways predators manipulate entire social circles, making it difficult for people to believe allegations when they arise. [26:55] Red Flags & Early Warning Signs Anna shares key behaviors to watch for, both in adults and children, that could indicate grooming. [32:46] The Power of Showing Up We discuss why parental presence is one of the strongest protective factors against abuse and why being the “unpredictable parent” can deter predators. [36:08] Peer-on-Peer Abuse is Rising—Here’s What You Need to Know Anna highlights the alarming rise in peer-on-peer abuse and how easy access to pornography is shaping harmful behaviors among kids. [41:44] How to Talk to Kids About Grooming & Body Safety We go over practical ways to start age-appropriate conversations with kids about staying safe, recognizing red flags, and setting boundaries. [46:34] Where to Find Anna’s Book & Final Thoughts Anna shares where listeners can find Duck Duck Groom and her additional resources for parents and survivors. Anna Sonoda's Book: Duck Duck Groom: Understanding How a Child Becomes a Target is available on Amazon.Anna Sonoda's Website: For more resources and information, visit Anna Sonoda's official website.Additional Resources: Anna has been featured in various interviews and podcasts discussing child safety and grooming prevention. You can find these appearances on her "Listen and Watch Here" page.annasonoda.com annasonoda.com amazon.com

    50 min
  6. Ep 52 Online Safety For ALL Ages in 2024

    2024-07-18

    Ep 52 Online Safety For ALL Ages in 2024

    Links mentioned in this episode: BARK Technologies Titania Jordan on Instagram About Titania Jordan: Titania Jordan is the Chief Marketing Officer and Chief Parent Officer of Bark Technologies, an online safety company that helps keep kids safe online and in real life. A renowned thought leader on digital parenting, Titania has contributed to pieces in the Wall Street Journal, Forbes, Huffington Post, Fox Business, Daily Mail, USA Today, Vogue, and more. Her first book, Parenting in a Tech World, was published in 2020 and quickly became a bestseller on Amazon. Titania was also featured in the 2020 documentary Childhood 2.0. She also frequently appears as a subject matter expert on nationally broadcasted programs such as the TODAY Show, Steve Harvey, The Doctors, CBS This Morning, Good Morning America, Fox News, Sirius XM Radio, and CNBC. In 2017, Titania founded a Facebook group where parents could come together and get advice on raising kids in the digital age, share stories, and learn the latest news about social media. It now has more than 300,000 members and is growing rapidly. One of her favorite childhood memories is her dad asking her to “figure out this new computer thing” (i.e., read the Microsoft Windows 3.0 user manual) in the early ‘90s and later teaching him to navigate the wild west of the early internet that would eventually turn into the online world we know today. When she’s not busy trying to make the world a safer place for kids, Titania enjoys painting with her son. For the latest news regarding parenting in a tech world, you can follow her on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and yes, TikTok as well. For a link to Titania’s recent media appearances, visit Bark in the News.

    47 min
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Weekly informational, inspirational & motivational episodes about: Consent education, sex positivity, body safety for kids, healing, sexual autonomy, orgasm equality, survivor support and advocacy, and current events. Join me in having an open, transparent and inspirational dialogue about all of these important topics that will move the sexual empowerment movement forward!