Anchored Leadership: For Business Owners Ready to Lead and Not Just Manage

Kari Lotzien

For established service business owners who are ready to move from being the person everything runs through to being the leader who built something that runs without them. Anchored Leadership goes deep on what it actually takes to lead well. Host Kari Lotzien brings her experience as a business coach and former clinic owner to real conversations about leadership development, team building, delegation, and building a sustainable business without burning out.

  1. 84 - Nobody Is Asking You the Right Questions

    3D AGO

    84 - Nobody Is Asking You the Right Questions

    Most business coaching falls into one of two camps. Hustle culture: scale faster, push harder, your only limit is your mindset. Affirmation culture: you're amazing, you've got this, here's your permission slip. Neither one asks the hard question. And for established owners who have already done the work of building something real, neither one is actually enough. In this episode, Kari gets honest about the gap she sees in the coaching and leadership development space, why the hardest person to lead in your business is you, and what it actually looks like when someone asks the question that makes you go quiet for ten seconds before you answer. That pause? That's where the real work happens. Key Topics Discussed: The Two Dominant Coaching Styles (and Their Limits) Kari breaks down what she sees as the two most common approaches in the coaching space: hustle culture and affirmation culture. Why “More” Isn’t Always the Right Answer For owners past the startup phase, the challenge is rarely effort or discipline. The real question becomes: Am I focused on the right thing? Kari highlights how few frameworks actually pause long enough to ask this and why that gap matters. The Power of the Right Question (and the Silence That Follows) The most impactful coaching doesn’t come from giving answers, it comes from asking the kind of question that makes someone stop and think. Kari explains why that 10–20 second pause is not a problem to fix, but a signal that someone is accessing deeper clarity. The Hardest Person to Lead Is You Leadership isn’t just about managing a team or improving communication. Kari challenges listeners to look inward- at patterns, habits, and decisions that are often running on autopilot.  A Real Example of Misaligned Growth Through a client story, Kari illustrates how a strong, logical growth strategy can still be the wrong decision if it doesn’t align with the life the owner is trying to build. Practical Ways to Create Better Thinking Space This isn’t about overanalyzing everything. Kari shares simple, practical shifts: taking a breath before responding, allowing silence in conversations, using open-ended “what” questions, and resisting the urge to jump in with answers too quickly. If you’ve been feeling like the usual advice (work harder, think bigger, stay positive) isn’t quite enough anymore, this episode offers a different perspective. Not more tactics, not more validation, but a deeper level of reflection. The kind that changes how you lead, how you decide, and ultimately how your business supports your life.   Listen and subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify - start building a business that works for you, not just because of you. Find the hours you didn't know you were losing and get the Time Leak Toolkit:  https://kari-lotzien.mykajabi.com/pl/2148756811. For capable, experienced business owners who are always busy but never feel caught up. You want to know exactly where your time is disappearing and more importantly how you can get it back.  Work with Kari:  Anchored Leadership Academy Private Business and Leadership Coaching Contact Kari Lotzien | Be the Anchor:  Website: BeTheAnchor.ca Facebook: BeTheAnchorLtd Instagram: BeTheAnchor.ca Linked In: Kari Lotzien Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    23 min
  2. 83 - The Shift: Designing Your Business To Fit Your Life Today

    APR 28

    83 - The Shift: Designing Your Business To Fit Your Life Today

    There comes a point in business where the question quietly shifts. It’s no longer just about growth, efficiency, or what the next opportunity is, it becomes something deeper: is this still right for me? In this episode, Kari reflects on a pattern she’s seeing across experienced business owners, and in herself. Beneath conversations about time, systems, and leadership, there’s a quieter layer emerging. A shift from building and pushing forward…to listening, adapting, and intentionally designing what comes next. This is not about starting over. It’s about recognizing that the version of success you built your business on may not fully fit the person you’ve become. Key Topics Discussed: The underlying question many business owners are facing: Am I still building the right thing for who I am now? How learning evolves as you grow - shifting from structured, external input to slower, more reflective, experience-based insight The difference between chasing growth and intentionally designing a business that fits your life Why high-performing owners often default to old patterns, and how awareness allows you to interrupt them earlier What it really means to adapt at this stage of business, when life, relationships, and energy all carry more weight The shift from building systems for efficiency to building systems that create ease and sustainability How holding things more loosely allows your team, systems, and decisions to actually work better The role of a steady nervous system in making strong, grounded leadership decisions Understanding the natural rhythm of leadership, when to push, when to act, and when to step back and reflect A deeper look at what it means to be “anchored” as a leader - not perfect, but aware, steady, and intentional This episode is an invitation to pause not to slow everything down, but to create just enough space to hear your own thinking again. Because at this stage, the answers you’re looking for are rarely found in another strategy or framework. They come from being honest about what fits now, what no longer does, and what you actually want to build moving forward. Listen and subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify - start building a business that works for you, not just because of you. Find the hours you didn't know you were losing and get the Time Leak Toolkit:  https://kari-lotzien.mykajabi.com/pl/2148756811. For capable, experienced business owners who are always busy but never feel caught up. You want to know exactly where your time is disappearing and more importantly how you can get it back.  Work with Kari:  Anchored Leadership Academy Private Business and Leadership Coaching Contact Kari Lotzien | Be the Anchor:  Website: BeTheAnchor.ca Facebook: BeTheAnchorLtd Instagram: BeTheAnchor.ca Linked In: Kari Lotzien Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    27 min
  3. 82 - Caring for Aging Parents When You're the One Everyone Leans On with Nurse Advocates Pam Dunwald and Linda Kritikos

    APR 14

    82 - Caring for Aging Parents When You're the One Everyone Leans On with Nurse Advocates Pam Dunwald and Linda Kritikos

    What happens when you’re leading a business, supporting a team, and suddenly stepping into the role of caregiver for an aging parent? In this episode, Kari sits down with nurse advocates Pam and Linda of Nurse Advocate Consulting to unpack one of the most emotionally and logistically complex seasons many business owners face. This is not just about healthcare; it’s about leadership under pressure. They share real stories from decades of experience supporting families through Alzheimer’s, cancer, and unexpected health crises. You’ll hear what most families aren’t prepared for, why the system feels overwhelming, and how to navigate it without losing yourself or your business, in the process. If you’re part of the “sandwich generation” or know this season is coming, this conversation will give you both clarity and relief. Key Topics Discussed: Why caring for aging parents often catches business owners off guard The emotional load of guilt, uncertainty, and responsibility, and how to navigate it The hidden complexity of healthcare systems, insurance, and care coordination How to divide responsibilities within families (like you would in a business) Practical strategies to protect your time while still showing up for your family Why systems, communication, and planning are essential in caregiving The importance of including your loved one in decision-making What advance directives and healthcare power of attorney really mean, and why they matter How to avoid crisis-mode decision-making with proactive planning The role of a healthcare advocate and how they can support your family This is one of those seasons that asks more of you than you expected and not just as a business owner, but as a human being. If you take nothing else from this conversation, let it be this: you don’t have to figure it all out in the middle of a crisis. Start the conversations. Put a few simple systems in place. Ask for support sooner than you think you need it. Because the goal isn’t to carry all of this perfectly, it’s to navigate it in a way that protects your capacity, honours your family, and allows you to keep leading your business without losing yourself in the process. Listen and subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify - start building a business that works for you, not just because of you.   Connect with Pam and Linda and learn more about her incredible work here: Website: www.yournurseadvocateconsulting.com/about-us/ Podcast:www.podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/healthcare-redefined-advocating-for-aging-adults-and/id1834004821 LinkedInLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/your-nurse-advocate-consulting-llc/ Instagram: www.instagram.com/yourrnadvocate/ Facebook: www.facebook.com/YourRNAdvocate/ YouTube: www.youtube.com/@yournurseadvocateconsulting/ Read their book “Cracking the Hospice Code: Your Nurse Advocates Debunk the Top 10 Misconceptions of Hospice” Find the time you need right now. The Time Leak Toolkit   Work with Kari:  Anchored Leadership Academy Private Business and Leadership Coaching Contact Kari Lotzien | Be the Anchor:  Website: BeTheAnchor.ca Facebook: BeTheAnchorLtd Instagram: BeTheAnchor.ca Linked In: Kari Lotzien Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    47 min
  4. 81 - Your Availabiilty is Costing More than You Realize / Time Management for Overwhelmed Owners

    MAR 31

    81 - Your Availabiilty is Costing More than You Realize / Time Management for Overwhelmed Owners

    If you pride yourself on being available, responsive, and always there for your clients and team… this episode might challenge you. Because what feels like great leadership - being approachable, overdelivering, always saying yes, might actually be the reason you feel constantly pulled, behind, and unable to step into true leadership. In this episode, Kari breaks down the subtle (and very human) ways business owners train their clients and teams to treat their time, and how those patterns quietly create overwhelm, inconsistency, and even resentment. This is not about becoming rigid or unavailable. It’s about becoming aligned. If you’ve ever felt like you can’t catch up, can’t step away, or can’t get to the “big picture” work your business needs…this episode will help you see why. Key Topics Discussed: Why constant availability is not the same as strong leadership How you unintentionally train clients and team members to use (and misuse) your time The difference between planned time vs. pulled time, and why it matters How overdelivering can quietly create inconsistency and confusion in your business The hidden ways leaders undermine their own systems and team expectations Why your team culture is shaped by what you model - not what you say How small, “harmless” exceptions lead to long-term overwhelm and resentment What shifts as you move from service provider > manager > leader Why leadership requires protected, focused time, and how most owners lose it A simple 3-day audit to uncover where your time is actually going At some point, this stops being about time management and starts being about leadership. Not the kind that looks good on paper, but the kind that holds under pressure. You don’t need to become less supportive, less generous, or less available - you just need to become more consistent. Because the truth is, your business will always rise or fall to the standard you model. And when you start protecting your time with the same care you’ve been giving everyone else, you don’t just get your hours back, you finally create the space to lead the business you’ve worked so hard to build. Listen and subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify - start building a business that works for you, not just because of you. Work with Kari:  Anchored Leadership Academy Private Business and Leadership Coaching Contact Kari Lotzien | Be the Anchor:  Website: BeTheAnchor.ca Facebook: BeTheAnchorLtd Instagram: BeTheAnchor.ca Linked In: Kari Lotzien Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    13 min
  5. 80 - Your Calendar is Lying to You

    MAR 17

    80 - Your Calendar is Lying to You

    One of the most common things small business owners say is: “I just need more time.” But what if the real issue isn’t the big commitments on your calendar, it’s the small moments that quietly steal your attention throughout the day? In this episode of Be the Anchor, Kari invites you to take a closer look at where your time is actually going. Many entrepreneurs plan well, set priorities, and build thoughtful to-do lists, yet still end the day feeling like nothing meaningful moved forward. The truth is that the biggest drains on your time rarely show up on your calendar. Instead, they appear as quick questions, interruptions, late meetings, and small tech distractions. Individually, they seem harmless, but together they create the feeling that your day disappeared. Kari explores the idea of “time leaks” - tiny gaps where minutes slip away unnoticed. When you become aware of these patterns, you can start reclaiming time for leadership, strategy, and meaningful work. You’ll also learn how reclaiming just 15 minutes a day can add up to more than 60 hours in a year, enough to change how you run your business and your life. This episode isn’t about productivity hacks. It’s about awareness first. Once you see where your time is leaking, you can make better decisions about where your attention belongs. If you’ve ever ended the week wondering where your time went, this episode is for you. Key Topics Discussed: Why your calendar doesn’t tell the full story about where your time goes The hidden impact of tiny interruptions throughout your day The concept of “time leaks” and why they matter more than big commitments The difference between planned time and pulled time in your business Three common traps that quietly steal your attention How reclaiming just 15 minutes a day can give you back over 60 hours a year If you’ve been feeling like there’s never enough time, this episode is an invitation to slow down and take an honest look at where your minutes are actually going. The goal isn’t to become more productive overnight or to squeeze more into your day. It’s simply to become aware of the small leaks that quietly drain your time and energy. When you start to notice those patterns, even reclaiming fifteen minutes a day can create meaningful space - for leadership thinking, for strategy, or simply for a little more breathing room in your life. Your time is one of your most valuable resources, and learning to protect it is one of the most important leadership skills you can build. During this episode, Kari introduces The Time Toolkit, a simple and structured process designed to help business owners identify where their time is actually going. The toolkit walks you through a short four-day audit to help uncover the small interruptions and patterns that quietly steal your time. In less than an hour of total work, many business owners discover opportunities to reclaim five or more hours per month. You can find the Time Toolkit link here: Listen and subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify - start building a business that works for you, not just because of you.   Work with Kari:  Anchored Leadership Academy Private Business and Leadership Coaching Contact Kari Lotzien | Be the Anchor:  Website: BeTheAnchor.ca Facebook: BeTheAnchorLtd Instagram: BeTheAnchor.ca Linked In: Kari Lotzien Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    20 min
  6. 79 - Why Work Life Balance is Failing Us and What Actually Works with Steven Langer

    MAR 3

    79 - Why Work Life Balance is Failing Us and What Actually Works with Steven Langer

    In this conversation, Kari sits down with keynote speaker and author Steven Langer to challenge the idea that work-life balance is the goal. Steven makes the case that balance is a trap: it frames work and life as competing forces, sets an unrealistic 50/50 standard, and leaves high performers stuck in guilt and pendulum-swinging. Instead, Steven introduces work-life coherence, a practical way of living and leading where your work and life fit together and make sense for the season you’re in. Using relatable analogies (the seesaw, the sailing captain, and the hill vs. plateau), they unpack how to create space for complexity, protect your “fulcrum” (health), and lead teams (especially remote teams) with intention, clarity, and trust. Key Topics Discussed: Why chasing “balance” can increase stress, guilt, and burnout The difference between balance and coherence (and why it actually works) How to shift your days from default to intention, without a full life overhaul The real cost of interruptions and why leaders need protected deep work time How “my door is always open” can quietly sabotage leadership capacity The “hill vs. plateau” test for intense seasons: when to push vs. when to redesign What real culture looks like (it’s not yoga-at-lunch or a pizza party) A simple reframe: letting others help you is giving them a gift How recognition impacts engagement and why it often doesn’t “land” Why leadership is lonely at the top…and lonelier in the middle How to build culture and clarity when leading remote or hybrid teams A sailing analogy for leading through stormy seasons: tighten lines, trust the course If work-life balance has felt like a hamster wheel with a guilt soundtrack, this episode offers a better target: coherence, a way to lead and live that makes sense for the season you’re in, while protecting the health and systems that make your success sustainable. Listen and subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify - start building a business that works for you, not just because of you. As an international keynote and TEDx speaker, Steven cuts through the noise to shift how audiences think about wellness. Blending powerful stories, data, and practical insight, he inspires meaningful change. Steven doesn’t just motivate, he equips audiences with clear, authentic tools they can actually use. Whether speaking to executives, frontline teams, or leaders, people leave feeling seen, understood, and ready to lead and live with intention. His keynotes tackle real-world pressures and offer actionable ways to build healthier workplaces and more coherent lives. If you want clarity and forward momentum, Steven Langer delivers. Connect with Steven and learn more about his incredible work here:www.wellbydesign.cawww.linkedin.com/in/steven-langer-b9b64945 Get his book here: wellbydesign.ca/coherence-compass-book   Work with Kari:  Anchored Leadership Academy Private Business and Leadership Coaching Contact Kari Lotzien | Be the Anchor:  Website: BeTheAnchor.ca Facebook: BeTheAnchorLtd Instagram: BeTheAnchor.ca Linked In: Kari Lotzien Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    59 min
  7. 78 - Why Leaders Avoid Hard Conversations (and Why It Costs You More Than You Think)

    FEB 17

    78 - Why Leaders Avoid Hard Conversations (and Why It Costs You More Than You Think)

    If you tend to avoid conflict, smooth things over, or jump in to fix problems yourself, this episode is for you. As your business grows, tension and discomfort don’t mean something is broken; they’re signs that your business is evolving. In this episode of Be the Anchor, Kari explores the critical (and often uncomfortable) shift from being a capable problem-solver to becoming a true leader. You’ll learn why avoiding hard conversations keeps you stuck in reaction mode, how fixing problems for your team actually limits their growth, and what leadership looks like when responsibility is shared instead of absorbed. This episode is a continuation of the recent conversation about becoming the bottleneck in your business and what it really takes to move from management into confident, sustainable leadership. Key Topics Discussed: Why conflict and tension are not signs of failure but indicators of growthThe predictable stages of business ownership: provider → manager → leaderHow “being helpful” can quietly keep you stuck fixing instead of leadingThe hidden cost of avoiding hard conversations in your businessWhy leadership is about developing people, not preventing problemsA real-world example of addressing performance issues without micromanagingHow naming standards and impact builds ownership and accountabilityWhy asking questions is more powerful than giving answersThe role of space, calm, and regulation in effective leadership conversationsYou’re not behind. You’re evolving. Learning how to lead through discomfort calmly, clearly, and without carrying everything yourself is one of the most important shifts a business owner can make. And you don’t have to figure it out alone. If this episode resonated, let it be an invitation, not to push harder, but to pause. To step back just enough to lead forward. Listen and subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify—start building a business that works for you—not just because of you.   Work with Kari:  Anchored Leadership AcademyPrivate Business and Leadership CoachingContact Kari Lotzien | Be the Anchor:  Website: BeTheAnchor.caFacebook: BeTheAnchorLtdInstagram: BeTheAnchor.caLinked In: Kari Lotzien Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    19 min
  8. 77 - Leaders Don't Need More to Do (They Need Altitude)

    FEB 3

    77 - Leaders Don't Need More to Do (They Need Altitude)

    If you’ve built a strong reputation, hired good people, and still feel like everything runs through you - this episode is for you. In this continuation of last week’s conversation, Kari dives into what happens after you realize you’ve become the bottleneck in your business. Not because you’re doing something wrong, but because leadership has quietly been squeezed into the margins of your day. This episode explores why clarity doesn’t come from trying harder, working faster, or stacking better systems on top of an already full plate. It comes from something most business owners avoid: creating space. Key Topics Discussed: Why being deeply involved in the day-to-day makes it nearly impossible to lead wellThe hidden cost of making leadership decisions “in the margins”How service-based owners end up holding two full-time jobs: revenue generator and leaderA real story from Kari’s own business, and the moment she realized her leadership was the constraintWhy your team may feel uncertain or disengaged even when everything “looks fine”The renovation analogy that perfectly explains why growth feels so hard at this stageWhy peers, perspective, and protected space are essential for the next level of leadershipHow slowing down can feel uncomfortable and why it’s often the most productive move you can makeLeadership at this stage isn’t about becoming more efficient, more productive, or more resilient. It’s about recognizing that the way you’ve been operating (the pace, the proximity, the constant availability) is no longer serving the business or the people in it. If you’re feeling worn down, unclear, or quietly frustrated, that’s not a personal failing. It’s information. It’s a signal that leadership needs space, not squeezed into the margins between clients, emails, and late-night notes. You don’t need all the answers right now. You don’t need a perfect plan. What you need is altitude. Space to think. Space to see patterns. Space to lead with intention instead of reacting in real time. And most importantly, you don’t have to do that alone. Leadership gets lighter, clearer, and more effective when it’s done in the right rooms, with people who understand the weight you’re carrying. If this episode resonated, let it be an invitation, not to push harder, but to pause. To step back just enough to lead forward. Listen and subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify—start building a business that works for you—not just because of you.   Work with Kari:  Anchored Leadership AcademyPrivate Business and Leadership CoachingContact Kari Lotzien | Be the Anchor:  Website: BeTheAnchor.caFacebook: BeTheAnchorLtdInstagram: BeTheAnchor.caLinked In: Kari Lotzien, Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    16 min
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For established service business owners who are ready to move from being the person everything runs through to being the leader who built something that runs without them. Anchored Leadership goes deep on what it actually takes to lead well. Host Kari Lotzien brings her experience as a business coach and former clinic owner to real conversations about leadership development, team building, delegation, and building a sustainable business without burning out.