Being Human

Dr. Gregory Bottaro
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At the CatholicPsych Institute, we're doing something new when it comes to therapy. In the Being Human podcast, Dr. Greg Bottaro, Founder and Director of the CatholicPsych Institute, shares with you his vision for Catholic therapy and a revolutionary approach that is focused, finally, on what it means to be human.

  1. You Are Not Your Feelings: From Borderline Chaos to Inner Coherence

    2D AGO

    You Are Not Your Feelings: From Borderline Chaos to Inner Coherence

    Breathing exercises help. But they have a ceiling. For someone whose interior world is constant emotional chaos, no amount of skill-building will reach the level where real healing happens. In this episode, Dr. Greg unpacks what actually transforms borderline patterns — not DBT techniques or symptom management, but the kind of sustained, stable relationship that reorganizes the subconscious and restores a coherent sense of self. Key Topics: Why skills like DBT can help but can't replace what's actually missing What it feels like to be subject to your emotions rather than the one having them Why healing looks like forming a continuous "I" — not feeling better in the moment How a consistent, stable relationship quietly rewires the interior life over time Why the same patterns that made life chaotic can become a superpower in healing What it means to move from surviving to true encounter — and why that distinction matters Learn More: Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation Previous episode in this series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: Ep. #271: Forgive, Explode, Repeat: Humanizing Borderline Personality with St. John Paul II Ep. #270: I Hate You, Don't Leave Me: The Chaos of the Disorganized Attachment Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary Stop Walking on Eggshells – A guide for navigating relationships affected by borderline personality patterns Want to go deeper into discernment? Explore our Discernment of Spirits course. Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

    1h 2m
  2. Forgive, Explode, Repeat: Humanizing Borderline Personality with St. John Paul II

    MAR 24

    Forgive, Explode, Repeat: Humanizing Borderline Personality with St. John Paul II

    Forgive. Explode. Repeat. That's the cycle — and no matter how much effort goes into the repair, it keeps starting over. In this episode, Dr. Greg explores why genuine healing can't happen inside the cycle itself, what "walking on eggshells" misses about the person suffering, and how St. John Paul II's vision of the human person restores dignity to everyone caught in these patterns. Key Topics: Why repair doesn't actually heal — and what's really driving the reset Why calm can feel more threatening than crisis What "walking on eggshells" gets right and what it leaves out How the rupture-repair cycle creates the illusion of intimacy without building it Why both people in the pair end up losing themselves How Catholic anthropology sees the person beneath the pattern Learn More: Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation Previous episode in this series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: Ep. #270: I Hate You, Don't Leave Me: The Chaos of the Disorganized Attachment Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary Person and Act by Karol Wojtyla (Pope St. John Paul II) Stop Walking on Eggshells – A guide for navigating relationships affected by borderline personality patterns Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

    56 min
  3. I Hate You, Don't Leave Me: The Chaos of the Disorganized Attachment

    MAR 17

    I Hate You, Don't Leave Me: The Chaos of the Disorganized Attachment

    "I love you… now go away." That's the kind of chaos disorganized attachment creates. It's not drama or manipulation. It's deep inner turmoil that makes love feel dangerous and safety hard to trust. In this episode, Dr. Greg explores how childhood wounds shape these push-pull patterns, why closeness can feel threatening even when love is real, and how disorganized attachment helps make sense of borderline personality patterns. Key Topics: Why someone can put you on a pedestal one day and tear you down the next How childhood wounds create push-pull patterns that feel impossible to escape Why closeness can feel like a threat, even when love is real How disorganized attachment helps explain borderline personality patterns Why these patterns are rooted in inner turmoil, not simple manipulation How healing begins by making sense of the chaos instead of being swallowed by it Learn More: Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation Previous episode on attachment theory:  Ep. #63: Attachment Theory: What It Is, What It Isn't, and How It Affects Your Relationships Previous episode in this series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary Stop Walking on Eggshells – A guide for navigating relationships affected by borderline personality patterns Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment Follow Us on Socials:   Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

    38 min
  4. BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation

    MAR 10

    BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation

    Borderline personality patterns are often misunderstood and mislabeled—but beneath the surface is a painful struggle shaped by identity instability, emotional overwhelm, and the exhausting push–pull between fearing abandonment and fearing annihilation. In this episode, Dr. Greg brings clarity and compassion to this pattern, offering language and hope for anyone who recognizes these dynamics in themselves or in someone they love. Key Topics: Why borderline patterns are so often misunderstood The exhausting push–pull between fearing abandonment and fearing annihilation How identity instability fuels intense relationship dynamics Why emotions can feel overwhelming and all-consuming Why conflict and drama can start to feel like proof of connection How integration and truth open the path toward healing Learn More: Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Pattern: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Pattern: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary Stop Walking on Eggshells – A guide for navigating relationships affected by borderline personality patterns Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment Follow Us on Socials:   Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

    53 min
  5. What Free Love Ought to Mean: Healing Codependent Wounds and Learning to Love Freely

    MAR 3

    What Free Love Ought to Mean: Healing Codependent Wounds and Learning to Love Freely

    Even if you're Christian — even if your spouse is a genuinely good person — you can still feel deeply unfulfilled. In this episode, Dr. Greg explores how asking another person to carry your identity, security, and worth turns love into survival — and leaves both people depleted. Key Topics: How misplaced dependence slowly erodes love Why identity collapses when relationships become sources of self-worth The difference between free self-gift and anxious attachment How to properly order your love Learn More: Pilgrimage to Poland - Learn more about this interior journey with St. John Paul II Summit of Integration 2026 - Sign up to learn more about this year's event! Healing Retreat in Wyoming - Learn more about our upcoming retreat experience. Being Human episodes on the Dependent Defense Pattern: Ep. #267: Not All Satisfaction Is Good: Understanding Codependency As Relationship Cancer Ep. #266: You're Giving Too Much! Uncovering How Anxiety Disguises Itself as Holiness Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Gaudium et Spes - Pastoral Constitution on the Church in the Modern World by Pope Paul VI Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment Follow Us on Socials:   Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

    58 min
  6. Not All Satisfaction Is Good: Understanding Codependency As Relationship Cancer

    FEB 24

    Not All Satisfaction Is Good: Understanding Codependency As Relationship Cancer

    What if you're mistaking something emotionally dangerous for love? In this episode, Dr. Greg tackles a painful but common pattern: relationships that look close, committed, and appear to be flourishing, yet quietly trap both people in fear, dependence, and anxiety.  Key Topics: Why both partners can feel "happy" even as the relationship becomes unhealthy How codependency distorts the kind of free, fruitful relationships God calls us to Why awareness and willpower aren't enough to break these cycles – and what we can do to heal them Learn More: Pilgrimage to Poland - Learn more about this interior journey with St. John Paul II Being Human episodes on the Dependent Defense Pattern: Ep. #266: You're Giving Too Much! Uncovering How Anxiety Disguises Itself as Holiness Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Person and Act by Karol Wojtyla (Pope Saint John Paul II) Love and Responsibility by Karol Wojtyla (Pope Saint John Paul II) Discernment of Spirits - Learn more through the lens of Catholic anthropology and Catholic mindfulness Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment Follow Us on Socials:   Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

    56 min
  7. You're Giving Too Much! Uncovering How Anxiety Disguises Itself as Holiness

    FEB 17

    You're Giving Too Much! Uncovering How Anxiety Disguises Itself as Holiness

    What if the reason you feel anxious, resentful, or exhausted from "doing the right thing" isn't a lack of generosity—but anxiety hiding behind virtue? This episode explores the crucial difference between authentic Christian self-gift and giving that's really about survival, revealing how true sacrifice should expand freedom, not erase you. Key Topics: The difference between Christian self-gift and anxiety-driven giving Why humility is not the same as self-erasure How attachment wounds can fuel overgiving How dependent and narcissistic patterns reinforce each other Why true love always increases freedom Learn More: Love and Responsibility by Karol Wojtyla (Pope John Paul II) Casti Connubii (Encyclical of Pope Pius XI on Christian Marriage) Being Human episode on the Dependent Defense Pattern: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment Follow Us on Socials:   Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

    1h 7m
  8. Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing: A Deep Dive into the Dependent Defense Pattern

    FEB 10

    Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing: A Deep Dive into the Dependent Defense Pattern

    Have you ever felt safer letting someone else decide—not because you didn't care, but because choosing for yourself felt overwhelming or even dangerous? Dr. Greg explores the dependent defense pattern and why giving up agency can feel like survival—until healing restores the freedom to exist, choose, and love. Key Topics: Why dependency isn't just fear of being alone—but fear of not existing alone How proximity can start to feel like survival Why some people lose touch with what they want, like, or dream about How dependency can quietly shape marriages, families, and faith And how healing doesn't erase need—it restores freedom Learn More: Being Human episodes on narcissistic personality patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary Ep. #262: Spiritual Narcissism: Exposing the Sneaky Way We Use Religion as a Pattern of Protection Ep. #263: Holiness and Narcissism Ep. #264: IFS, JP2 and Narcissism Is Leadership of the Family a Man's Job? (Being Human, Ep. #201) Correcting Aquinas: JP2's Truth Bomb on Gender and Human Dignity (Being Human, Ep. #197) Being Human episodes on Parts Work:  Ep. #34: A New Theory! w/a Catholic Lens Ep. #35: Why Do I Feel Like I Have Conflicting Thoughts? w/ Dr. Peter Malinoski Ep. #49: Internal Family Systems & External Family Tensions  Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment Follow Us on Socials:   Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

    56 min
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At the CatholicPsych Institute, we're doing something new when it comes to therapy. In the Being Human podcast, Dr. Greg Bottaro, Founder and Director of the CatholicPsych Institute, shares with you his vision for Catholic therapy and a revolutionary approach that is focused, finally, on what it means to be human.

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  • Creator
    Dr. Gregory Bottaro
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2026
  • Episodes
    273
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Show Website
    Being Human

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