Calm and Confident Leader Podcast

Jason Stonehouse

Lead with Clarity. Conquer Stress. Maximize Your Impact. The Calm & Confident Leader Podcast helps high-performing executives, professionals, and influencers shift from reactive & overwhelmed to intentional & unshakable. The real game-changers in leadership aren’t external, they’re internal: resilience, emotional mastery, & stress-proof leadership. Hosted by Coach, Strategist, and Author Jason Stonehouse, this podcast blends 30 years of leadership with a Master’s in Counseling to deliver real, practical, and sometimes humorous insights to help you lead with clarity, courage, and confidence.

  1. S4-Episode 7-Emotional Health in Leadership-Randy Lyman

    2D AGO

    S4-Episode 7-Emotional Health in Leadership-Randy Lyman

    What if the reason you still feel stuck isn’t your strategy, but the emotional patterns running underneath it? In this episode of The Calm and Confident Leader, host Jason Stonehouse sits down with entrepreneur, physicist, and emotional intelligence expert Randy Lyman for a powerful conversation about the hidden emotional dynamics that shape leadership, decision-making, and fulfillment. After building multiple eight-figure businesses and reaching financial success, Randy realized something surprising. He had achieved the goals, but still felt disconnected and unfulfilled. That discovery launched him into a deeper journey of emotional awareness, authenticity, and what he calls “The Third Element.” Together, Jason and Randy unpack why so many leaders suppress emotions in the name of strength, how unhealed emotional wounds quietly influence our reactions, and why emotional health is not weakness, but one of the greatest leadership advantages available. You’ll also hear practical insights on:• Recognizing emotional patterns before they sabotage relationships• The difference between reacting and responding• Why teams struggle with communication and decision-making• A simple four-step framework for making better decisions as a leader• How emotional awareness creates calmer, more confident leadership• Why vulnerability actually increases trust and influence This conversation is thoughtful, practical, and deeply relatable for leaders who have ever felt successful on the outside while quietly struggling on the inside. Learn more about Randy Lyman and his work at RandyLyman.com You can also connect with host Jason Stonehouse and explore coaching resources at JasonStonehouse.com If this episode encouraged you, share it with someone who could use it, and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode of The Calm and Confident Leader.

    37 min
  2. S4-Episode 6-Working Together Enneagram-Joey Schewee

    MAR 24

    S4-Episode 6-Working Together Enneagram-Joey Schewee

    Why is this person so difficult to work with? You've asked it. Every leader has. And the answer probably isn't what you think. Most of us assume difficult people are just... difficult. Wrong personality. Bad fit. Too much drama. But what if the real problem is that you're trying to fix behavior when the actual issue is motivation? Those are two completely different problems, and they require two completely different solutions. In this episode, Jason Stonehouse sits down with Joey Schewee, management consultant, executive coach, and longtime Enneagram expert, to talk about what's actually driving the friction on your team. Joey has spent 30 years helping leaders get past surface-level personality typing and into the harder, more useful question: why do people do what they do? Her new book, When Working Together Doesn't Work, is essentially a field manual for leaders who are tired of the same team problems showing up in different people. In this conversation, Jason and Joey dig into why self-awareness has to come before team awareness, what it means to lead from your dominant center (doing, feeling, or thinking), why those high-action "motor" types rise quickly and sometimes crash hard, and the one practical thing you can do to stop reacting to behavior and start getting curious about motivation. If you lead people, this one is worth your time. Connect with Joey Schewee:LinkedIn: Joey ScheweeInstagram: @EnneagramParentsWebsite: wesolutions.life Get the book: When Working Together Doesn't Work by Joey Schewee, available on Amazon. If this episode added value, do two things: share it with a leader who needs it, and subscribe so you don't miss what's coming next.

    26 min
  3. S4-Episode 5-Connecting Across Differences-James Borishade

    MAR 10

    S4-Episode 5-Connecting Across Differences-James Borishade

    What if the person on your team who frustrates you the most isn’t the problem… but the clue? In this episode of the Calm and Confident Leader Podcast, host Jason Stonehouse sits down with Dr. James Borishade, author of Connecting Across Differences, to unpack why so many leaders struggle with conflict and communication, and what they might be missing. Dr. Borishade brings a fascinating perspective shaped by leading in high tension environments, serving as CEO of Circle Urban Ministries, becoming the first African American CEO in the challenge course and zip line industry, and helping organizations rethink how people work together. Together, Jason and James explore a powerful idea. What if the behaviors that irritate us in others are actually rooted in their story, their experiences, and even their unique design? In this conversation you’ll discover: • Why many relational struggles begin with the belief that something is wrong with us• The difference between God designed uniqueness and emotional immaturity• How trauma and personal stories shape workplace behavior• Why the silent tension in a team can be more dangerous than open conflict• Practical ways leaders can create environments where people feel safe enough to be honest• A powerful shift from employing people to deploying them into the roles where they thrive This episode is packed with practical leadership wisdom about navigating differences, asking better questions, and building teams where diverse perspectives actually strengthen the organization instead of tearing it apart. Links mentioned in this episode Jason Stonehousehttps://jasonstonehouse.com Dr. James Borishadehttps://borishade.com Circle Urban Ministrieshttps://circleurban.org Book: Connecting Across Differences (available wherever books are sold, including Amazon) If this episode encouraged you or helped you think about leadership in a new way, share it with a friend or a colleague who could benefit from the conversation. And be sure to subscribe to the Calm and Confident Leader Podcast so you don’t miss any of the great content coming your way.

    24 min
  4. S4- Episode 4-Enough for Today-Donna Barber

    FEB 24

    S4- Episode 4-Enough for Today-Donna Barber

    Have you ever felt like you’re leading… while quietly wondering if you’re lost? What do you do when you’re not where you used to be, not yet where you thought you’d be, and the map feels a little blurry? In this episode of The Calm and Confident Leader, Jason Stonehouse sits down with writer, educator, and leadership developer Donna Barber, author of Enough for Today: 40 Reflections for Surviving the Wilderness. Together, they explore the leadership reality we don’t talk about enough, the wilderness seasons. Not the dramatic collapse.Not the highlight reel success.But the in-between. Donna shares what gets stripped away in the wilderness. The props. The image management. The illusion that leaders are somehow above the earthquake while everyone else feels the tremors. She offers a powerful reminder that leadership does not require superhuman strength. It requires honesty, humility, and the courage to admit we are in it too. You’ll hear them unpack: What wilderness seasons reveal about our fears, insecurities, and misplaced hopes How to face fear instead of letting it quietly run the show Why perception often fuels fear more than reality How to rediscover God in ordinary moments, not just big spiritual events The danger of victim thinking and the freedom that comes from owning your role in change This conversation moves from fog to responsibility, from fear to agency, and from waiting on change to becoming it. Because here’s the thing. You are not just surviving your season.You are being formed in it. Hosted by Jason Stonehouse, leadership coach and counselor, with guest Donna Barber, writer, educator, co-founder of The Voices Project, and author of Enough for Today. Resources mentioned: voices-project.orgdonnambarber.comjasonstonehouse.comIf this episode resonated with you, share it with another leader who might be navigating their own wilderness. And be sure to subscribe so you don’t miss a single episode of The Calm and Confident Leader.

    25 min
  5. S4-Episode 2-Lead-Don't React-Jimmy Burroughes

    JAN 27

    S4-Episode 2-Lead-Don't React-Jimmy Burroughes

    Ever feel like your whole job is just reacting to other people’s bad decisions with a smile? Like you’re less of a leader and more of a glorified problem sponge? In this episode, we’re flipping that script. Host Jason Stonehouse sits down with leadership expert and former British military officer Jimmy Burroughes, who’s led in combat zones and corporate chaos and somehow lived to write a book about it. Together, we unpack how leaders get stuck in the hamster wheel of hyper-responsiveness and more importantly, how to get off without everything catching fire. This one’s for the leaders who are tired of being everyone's backup plan. Jason and Jimmy dig deep into why so many leaders spend their days putting out fires instead of moving anything forward and what to do about it. You’ll learn: Why your constant availability might be the most expensive thing in your organization How to diagnose whether you’re dealing with a skill, will, or blind spot problem on your team The simple question that could save you hours of meeting time: “What do you suggest?” Why doing $20 tasks when you’re paid to solve $500 problems is killing your momentum Practical ways to cut through the noise, build trust, and lead with clarity even if your team isn’t “there” yet And yes, we talk about why most people are promoted into leadership roles without ever being taught how to lead. Being the best at the job doesn’t mean you’re the best at leading others doing the job. This episode will challenge your assumptions, simplify your strategy, and help you get your time, energy, and sanity back. Links from the episode: Jimmy’s website: www.jblhighperformance.com Jimmy’s book: Beat Burnout Ignite Performance Jason’s leadership tool: www.TotalPackagePlaybook.com More from Jason: www.JasonStonehouse.com Listen now. Share with a fellow leader. And make sure to subscribe so you don’t miss future episodes. Because leadership is hard enough. You shouldn’t have to do it alone.

    37 min
  6. S4-Episode 1-Trusted to Change - Kim Bohr

    JAN 20

    S4-Episode 1-Trusted to Change - Kim Bohr

    What if the biggest barrier to innovation in your organization isn't a lack of ideas but a lack of trust? Most leaders say they want change. They want innovation, creativity, teams that take initiative. But when someone actually steps up to try something new, the response is usually some version of "Wait, did you get approval for that?" We've created systems that demand permission slips for experimentation, and then we wonder why nothing actually changes. On this episode, host Jason Stonehouse interviews Kim Bohr, President and COO of SparkEffect, architect of the Trust Elasticity framework, and a leader with over 25 years of experience guiding organizations through leadership transitions, AI rollouts, and messy restructures. Kim helps executive teams lead through disruption without losing their people in the process, and she doesn't deal in theory or aspirational vision statements. She's all about what actually works when you're trying to shift culture, build trust, and create space for people to fail forward without getting crushed. Jason and Kim dig into why so many change initiatives collapse under their own weight, what it really takes to move from talking about innovation to actually doing it, and how leaders can stop micromanaging outcomes and start trusting their teams to figure things out. They explore the difference between building a culture of permission and building a culture of trust, why failure has to be safe before experimentation becomes possible, and how to lead change when you don't have all the answers yet. If you've ever felt stuck between wanting your team to take ownership and feeling terrified when they actually do, this conversation will challenge how you think about control, risk, and what it means to lead in the middle of uncertainty. Links mentioned in this episode: Connect with Kim Bohr: kimbohr.comhttps://sparkeffect.com/calmandconfident/Courage to Advance podcast webpage. If this episode challenged your thinking, share it with another leader who needs to hear it. And don't forget to subscribe so you never miss a conversation that helps you lead with clarity and confidence.

    38 min
  7. S3-Episode 33-Confident, Not Polished-Amos Balongo

    2025-12-13

    S3-Episode 33-Confident, Not Polished-Amos Balongo

    What if the polished version of you is actually keeping you from real influence? In this powerful episode, host Jason Stonehouse sits down with Amos Balongo, global leadership coach and communication expert who's trained everyone from senior military commanders to Fortune 500 executives. Amos challenges one of the biggest lies in leadership culture: that you need to fake confidence until you make it. Amos breaks down why authenticity beats polish every single time, comparing "fake it till you make it" to building a house on eggshells. He reveals that the longest distance between two points is actually a shortcut, and that real communication power comes from genuinely believing in what you're saying. This isn't about sounding good, it's about being real. This conversation digs into why so many leaders know their stuff but still struggle to communicate clearly, the difference between confidence and performance, and why people can sense when you're not genuinely passionate about what you're talking about. Jason and Amos explore practical ways to communicate with authenticity, how to connect across generational divides in team meetings, and why asking better questions beats demanding confirmation every time. If you've ever walked into a meeting trying to sound confident but ended up winging it with PowerPoint slides and a prayer, this episode will help you find your real voice, the one people actually trust and remember. Links: Amos's website: amosbalongo.comJason's coaching resources: jasonstonehouse.comFree growth resource: totalpackageplaybook.comKnow a leader who needs to stop performing and start connecting? Share this episode with them, and subscribe to the Calm and Confident Leader podcast for conversations that cut through the noise.

    23 min

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Lead with Clarity. Conquer Stress. Maximize Your Impact. The Calm & Confident Leader Podcast helps high-performing executives, professionals, and influencers shift from reactive & overwhelmed to intentional & unshakable. The real game-changers in leadership aren’t external, they’re internal: resilience, emotional mastery, & stress-proof leadership. Hosted by Coach, Strategist, and Author Jason Stonehouse, this podcast blends 30 years of leadership with a Master’s in Counseling to deliver real, practical, and sometimes humorous insights to help you lead with clarity, courage, and confidence.