Couplehood

Allison Villa
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In the Couplehood podcast, you’ll learn key communication strategies that will help you speak your truth and share with your partner in a loving and constructive way. Hosted by Allison Villa - a registered psychotherapist and relationship expert - with a mission to empower parents to make their romantic relationship a priority. We’ll dive deep into the reasons why so many couples let the little things brew in their relationships — and how you can face these proactively to avoid putting your couple in the breakdown lane. You’ll discover why self-care can actually be the key to having a harmonious relationship and how easy it can be to schedule it into your day — even as a busy parent!

  1. Taking Pause. Permission To Go Inwards.

    2021-10-25

    Taking Pause. Permission To Go Inwards.

    “Let this be your permission to go inwards and listen to the answers that are already within you.”  —  Allison Villa   Hello dear friends - some bittersweet news to share…   This will be the final episode of the Couplehood podcast. (I may return once again or re-direct my energy into other projects...we shall see!)   After much reflection, I’ve decided to take a pause on many aspects of my work life.   In this episode, I share why I’ve come to this decision, the passage that inspired me to go inwards, as well as some reflection questions to help you reflect on your own journey.   Over the past 20 months, my work as a psychotherapist has given me great purpose. Supporting my clients through mental health challenges has been a great privilege. On a personal level, this past year and a half has brought a lot of personal change. Our family moved from Toronto, where we lived for 20 years, and are now living 2 hours north, in the countryside. The home that we’ve been building for the past year, will be ready for us to move into in January. I want to be intentional with finding our flow as a family in this new space.   In‌ ‌this‌ ‌episode of Couplehood,‌ ‌you’ll discover:‌ Why Allison is taking a pause on recording new episodes The passage that inspired this change The balance between “doing” and “being” Reflection questions for you Thank you for being on this Couplehood journey with me! Stay in touch by joining my email list - this is the best way to stay in touch, as I won’t be on social media very much moving forward. This is not a goodbye - it’s “see you soon”! Big Love, Allison “Children have the most beautiful way of both being and doing. They are able to run with the wind. Let them be your greatest teachers and guides along this journey.” —  Allison Villa Links:‌ ‌ Quiz: What's Your Relationship Season? [join my email list here] https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/5f984bffa2c7af0014e9a0b7 Work With Me: https://www.allisonvilla.com Follow Me on Instagram: https://instagram.com/allison__villa  Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review!

    13 min

  2. 2021-10-18

    Simple Ways To Show Love Every Day

    “The day to day moments are just as meaningful as the date nights you have.” —  Allison Villa How do we show love every day, when family life is so full-on? I get this question a lot. This is why I created the Love.Every.Day. series every Tuesday on Instagram...and now, also on the podcast! Love.Every.Day tips are simple yet powerful ways to show your love to each other. If you’ve been around for a while, you’ll know how much I advocate showing your kids what a loving relationship looks like, because how you love each other today lives on for generations. Let’s continue to build an army of parents who are creating honest + sustainable relationships. These tips are a gentle reminder that on those busy family days, it’s still possible to show your kids what love looks like in action. In‌ ‌this‌ ‌episode of Couplehood,‌ ‌you’ll discover:‌ How Love.Every.Day. impacts your kidsWhy showing your love everyday is so importantSome tips to help you get started showing and receiving Love.Every.Day. “Children want to feel purposeful and they like having a sense of responsibility, like they are part of the team. So let them. —  Allison Villa  ‌ Highlights:‌ ‌ 00:38  Setting an example of love 01:40  Get some sleep 03:00  Be playful 04:03  Create a centerpiece 05:30 Play games 06:28  Meal plan together! 09:40  Recap  ‌ Links:‌ ‌ Quiz: What's Your Relationship Season? https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/5f984bffa2c7af0014e9a0b7  Work With Me: https://www.allisonvilla.com Follow Me on Instagram: https://instagram.com/allison__villa  Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review!

    11 min

  3. 2021-10-11

    10 Lessons from 10 Years of Parenthood

    “The best measure of your parenting is your child’s happiness.” —  Allison Villa Have you ever stopped to think about what lessons you have learned in parenthood?  Recently, I’ve celebrated a huge milestone in my life; 10 years of motherhood.  In today’s episode of Couplehood, I took some time to reflect on what I’ve learned in my 10 years of parenting and what I would tell myself 10 years ago when I began my motherhood journey.  As you listen, I encourage you to reflect on your own parenting journey and write down the lessons that you’ve learned along the way. I find it helpful to find compassion for my younger self, as a new mother, and I hope that you share that grace with yourself as well. In‌ ‌this‌ ‌episode of Couplehood,‌ ‌you’ll discover:‌ What the true measure of your parenting isHow your childhood plays a role in your children’s childhoodWhat to do when you make a mistake as a parentHow important your relationships with your partner and your friends are in your parenthood journey  “Our children are our mirrors and they reflect our own inner-child wounds that may still need healing. Let your children be your guide to keep going inwards and understanding yourself.” —  Allison Villa  ‌ Highlights:‌ ‌ 01:36  You can’t get an A in parenting  02:57  Repair ruptures  03:50  Make time for yourself 04:38  Grief and growth  05:10  Make your own choices 05:55  Your children’s childhood is their’s 07:46  Prioritize your couple 08:40  Friendships will change 09:30  Vacation 10:54  Change direction   ‌ Links:‌ ‌ Quiz: What's Your Relationship Season? Work With Me Follow Me on Instagram Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review!

    13 min
  4. Baby Shower vs. Blessing Way

    2021-10-04

    Baby Shower vs. Blessing Way

    “A Blessing Way is traditionally when multi-generations come together to celebrate & support the mother-to-be before baby’s arrival.” —  Allison Villa Today’s episode of the Couplehood podcast is for those of you that are expecting, or have someone in your life that’s expecting. We’re going to cover the difference between a Baby Shower and a Blessing Way. If you’ve never heard of a Blessing Way - don’t worry - I’m going to fill you in! I recently hosted a Blessing Way that had a unique twist from the traditional ceremony. This one celebrated both the mother and father-to-be - such a beautiful way to honour and support their couple as they transition into parenthood.  A great reminder that you can design a Baby Shower or Blessing Way, in whatever way is right for you, your family, and your community. In this episode, I provide you with some ideas that you can use in planning your own Blessing Way, and simple touches to personalize it to your needs.  In‌ ‌this‌ ‌episode of Couplehood,‌ ‌you’ll discover:‌ ‌ What is a Blessing Way Ideas &  details about the ceremonyHow you can host your own “In the circle, you are  accessing your heritage and the generations that live within you.” —  Allison Villa  ‌ Highlights:‌ ‌ 00:23  The Couplehood Podcast 01:10  What is a baby shower? 02:27  What is a blessing way? 05:17  Ideas for your blessing way 07:10  Guests 09:30 Affirming words 10:00  Lighting candles  12:47  Recap  ‌ Links:‌ ‌ ‌ Work With Me: Follow Me on Instagram Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review!

    14 min
  5. From Cautious To Courageous

    2021-09-27

    From Cautious To Courageous

    “I want our kids to see the support we give each other. You can have differences, but still be loving and supportive of each other.” —  Sarah Today’s episode is part of my limited Sandbox Spotlight series, which features interviews with real-life couples talking about their real-life experiences navigating the 4 Relationship Seasons, developing better communication skills, and deepening their connection. If you haven’t listened to my episodes on the Relationship Seasons, I recommend you check them out first! My guests for this episode are Sarah and Steve. They have been together for 14 years and have 4 children, ages 9, 7, 4, and 2. Sarah and Steve are currently in the Coping Season (or Connected Season, depending on who took the quiz!). Over the past year they have had multiple external factors pulling their time and energy,  including home renovations, a  life-changing bicycle accident, and Steve’s new work as a freelancer, just to name a few. With so many life events happening all at once, it’s naturally been difficult to carve out the time needed to focus on themselves as a couple. Having awareness around the Relationship Seasons and using the tools they learned through Couple’s Sandbox has helped them remember that seasons ebb and flow and the Coping Season doesn’t last forever.  In our conversation, Sarah and Steve share how they moved past their initial hesitations around joining Sandbox (group calls can seem scary!), and how they now look forward to connecting with the other couples in the community. It has been a source of relatable connection and normalizes the challenges that every couple goes through, plus it prompts meaningful conversation with each other! In‌ ‌this‌ ‌episode of Couplehood,‌ ‌you’ll discover:‌ ‌ How Sarah and Steve say that awareness around the Relationship Seasons has helped themWhy being the Couple Sandbox community is so important How modelling and normalizing struggles that all couples benefit your whole family “You have to be at ease with yourself before you can be at ease with each other.” —  Steve  ‌ Highlights:‌ ‌ 00:24  The Sandbox Spotlight 01:50  Sarah and Steve 33:00  Gratitude  ‌ Links:‌ ‌ ‌ Work With Me: https://www.allisonvilla.com Follow Me on Instagram: https://instagram.com/allison__villa  Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review!

    35 min
  6. Moving, Homeschooling & Renovating: Allison & Arjan Reflect

    2021-09-20

    Moving, Homeschooling & Renovating: Allison & Arjan Reflect

    “You don’t need to know how it’s going to unfold. You just need to take the first step.”  — Allison Villa  In this episode we are continuing the Couple’s Sandbox Spotlight Series, but for this special episode, I invited my husband Arjan to join me! We share some insight into where our relationship is today.  If you’re a couple that has experienced a significant lifestyle change this year like a move to a new location, switching to homeschooling, or completing a reno, then this episode is for you.  Arjan shares that in the past year we’ve had a lot of external factors that have impacted our relationship, including homeschooling our two daughters, ages 7 and 9, renovating our River House, and the day-to-day struggles which (let’s be honest) often take precedence over our relationship.  These lifestyle shifts take a lot of time and energy, and add greatly to our mental load as a couple. We were both surprised by our results from the Relationship Season quiz. We each took the quiz separately and the results gave us a lot to talk about!  In this interview, Arjan and I talk about some of the challenges we’ve had recently, and how our foundation of self-care, communication, and trust, has helped us move through those challenges together.  In this episode of Couplehood, you’ll discover:  ● How a strong foundation can keep you connected as a couple, even in times of change ● The importance of your relationship within your family unit - remembering that what happens within your couple filters down to your kids  ● How self-compassion can bring more patience to everyone in your life  “When you have the foundations of emotional trust and solid communication, you can still feel deeply connected as a couple despite going through hard things. ”  — Allison Villa  Highlights:  00:40 Meet Arjan  02:46 What relationship season are we in?  04:51 The importance of couple time  06:51 Being in limbo  07:30 Connected  10:00 The learning curve  14:44 Practicing words of affirmation  18:10 Letting go of control  19:28 Finding self compassion  20:03 Keeping our vision in mind 22:20 Gratitude  Links:  Work With Me  Follow Me on Instagram  Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review!

    25 min
  7. Finding Empathy Through The Coping Season

    2021-09-13

    Finding Empathy Through The Coping Season

    “I’m all about small steps that have a big impact.”  — Allison  If you’re a couple that’s in the Coping Season, this episode is for you! We’ll be exploring how couples deal with relationship stresses and learn how to communicate more effectively.  This episode is part of my limited Sandbox Spotlight series, which features interviews with real-life couples talking about their real-life experiences moving through the 4 Relationship Seasons. It’s honest, raw, and a reminder that we all go through ups and downs!  My guests for this episode are Alina and Mario, who have been together for over 11 years and are raising their 3-year-old daughter.  Alina and Mario were in the Coasting/Connecting Season before COVID, and have been in the Coping Season ever since. The reality of the pandemic has impacted many couples and families, and I’m grateful that Alina & Mario share their experience with such honesty and courage. Joining Couple’s Sandbox has helped them learn to connect through the challenges, and to find compassion for each other along the journey.  In this interview, we talk about how Alina & Mario have been able to keep empathy in their relationship by consistently expressing what they need, and how they feel during the Coping Season.  In this episode of Couplehood, you’ll discover:  ● How to have empathy during the Coping Season  ● The importance of small shifts in nurturing your relationship  ● How being open-minded with your partner leads to a shared vision  Note: If you haven’t listened to my episodes on the 4 Relationship Seasons, I recommend you check them out first. This will help you to understand your own season, and also help you to connect more deeply when we refer to the seasons in our podcast conversations.  “It’s just important to take steps, the path will unveil itself along the way”  — Mario  Highlights:  00:35 About Couple’s Sandbox  02:33 Meet Alina and Mario  06:32 Anxiety through Covid  12:51 Our relationship needed TLC  13:37 Excited to join Sandbox  14:42 Light at the end of the tunnel  15:08 Community creates hope  16:12 Small takeaways bring big perspective shifts  17:16 Love languages  19:45 Moving through the seasons  23:03 Gratitude 26:59 Should you join Couple’s Sandbox?  Links:  Join us in Couple’s Sandbox  Work With Me  Follow Me on Instagram  Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review!

    31 min
  8. Your Family & Relationship Vision: Why It Matters & How To Make It Come To Life

    2021-09-06

    Your Family & Relationship Vision: Why It Matters & How To Make It Come To Life

    “How you love each other today lives on through your children and in generations to come.” — Allison Villa  In this week’s episodes of the Couplehood podcast, we are bringing back the Sandbox Spotlight series, a limited series featuring interviews with real-life couples talking about their real-life experiences! In the series, we’re going to talk about their challenges, their joys, and how they successfully navigate The 4 Relationship Seasons.  My guests for this episode are Britt and Nick, who have been together for 6 years and are the parents of a 3-year-old and a 4-month-old.  Britt and Nick came to me through my Couple’s Tune-Up program. After their tune-up, they joined the Couple’s Sandbox community to maintain consistency and keep their relationship a priority.  Learning about The 4 Relationship Seasons helped Britt and Nick’s mindset as they welcomed their second child into the world. They were able to stay one season ahead this time! Now, at four months postpartum, they are leaving the Coasting Season and entering the Connected Season. Britt shares that reintroducing all the exercises they’ve learned in Couple’s Sandbox is what has propelled them forward.  Joining Couple’s Tune-Up and Couple’s Sandbox helped them create a vision together that felt aligned for them both. It also made Britt and Nick feel better prepared this time around (as they welcomed their second child). In this interview, they look back on what they’ve learned, how they use it, and the impact it’s had on their relationship!  In this episode of Couplehood, you’ll discover:  ● How to create your vision as a couple  ● Steps to help you bring that vision to life  ● A sneak peek into how my Couples Sandbox community works — and how it can fit into your busy schedule!  “I’m all about small steps having a big impact.”  — Allison Villa

    27 min
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In the Couplehood podcast, you’ll learn key communication strategies that will help you speak your truth and share with your partner in a loving and constructive way. Hosted by Allison Villa - a registered psychotherapist and relationship expert - with a mission to empower parents to make their romantic relationship a priority. We’ll dive deep into the reasons why so many couples let the little things brew in their relationships — and how you can face these proactively to avoid putting your couple in the breakdown lane. You’ll discover why self-care can actually be the key to having a harmonious relationship and how easy it can be to schedule it into your day — even as a busy parent!

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  • Creator
    Allison Villa
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2021
  • Episodes
    44
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © 2023 Couplehood
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    Couplehood