do whatever

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Some things are worth saying out loud. do whatever started around a table, with wine, and the kind of honesty that only happens when you are far from home and trust the people next to you. Three friends in science, navigating academia, migration, identity, and the life choices nobody really prepares you for. We don't have it all figured out, and we're not here to give advice - just to ask the questions out loud, sit with the contradictions, and make the long hours feel a little less lonely. If any of this sounds familiar, you are in the right place. Find us on Instagram: @dowhateverpodcast

Episodes

  1. 11 hrs ago

    chapter 5: academic nomads

    Ardiana opens by reflecting on a viral video: a surprise visit home, a mom's very unfiltered reaction, and suddenly a million people watching a moment she never meant to be public. And this all, just because she really missed watermelons and booked a flight home. Therefore, Ardiana, Burcu, and Mirna dig into what it costs to build a life outside the country you grew up in, starting with the question that trips them all up in different ways: "where are you from?" Depending on the day, the audience, or how much energy they have left, the honest answer changes. From there they trace how each of them ended up abroad in the first place, Burcu's path arriving more by chance and a supervisor's nudge, Mirna's move from Slovenia to Belgium turning from "a few years" into an actual life without anyone officially deciding that. They get into the unglamorous machinery nobody warns you about: visas, admin, proving you exist to three different bureaucracies at once, and the specific loneliness of missing ordinary things back home, not the milestones. They compare notes on how you actually build a safety net from scratch in a new country, who ends up being family when your real family is a flight away, and the culture shocks that still catch them off guard: nude beaches, the unspoken rules of splitting a bill, someone showing up at your door unannounced like that's a normal thing to do. The conversation circles back to what moving around does to a research career and to a sense of self, the strange math where you're too foreign for one place and too changed for the other, and why going "home" can end up feeling more disorienting than leaving did. It's the viral video that gets people to click play, but it's the quiet, familiar ache of building a life in translation that makes them stay.

  2. Jul 27

    chapter 4: serving a summer break

    It's summer, and Ardiana, Burcu, and Mirna are talking about something academics rarely give themselves permission to do: rest. They open with listener comments, including reflections on power dynamics and toxic supervision in academia, before moving into lighter topics like asking their moms to describe what they actually do for a living. Spoiler: frogs are not genetically closest to humans, no matter what the STEM romance novels say. From there, the conversation turns to the real topic of the episode: holidays, and how loaded that word can be in academia. They talk about the guilt that comes with asking for time off, how that guilt is shaped by culture, contracts, and country, and what it actually takes to step away when you're responsible for living samples: frogs and diatoms don't take breaks just because you do. They get into the difficulty of truly disconnecting, from checking email mid-holiday to the now-infamous story of answering emails on horseback, and the particular exhaustion of "holidays" that are really just family visits back home. The episode also digs into workplace comparison culture: judging colleagues by their hours, the pressure to overwork, and why efficiency matters more than time logged - before wrapping up with a "would you rather" on good data versus good holidays.

  3. Jul 13

    chapter 3: the colleague from hell

    Burcu, Mirna, and Ardiana are back after a chaotic June full of conferences, moves, and last-minute grant deadlines! They kick things off catching up on summer life, meddling moms with career advice, and the eternal reference-manager debate (Zotero vs. Mendeley vs. EndNote). Then it's time travel: this episode revisits one of the show's earliest recordings, a story so wild they couldn't leave it in the vault. Burcu recounts a real-life "colleague from hell" during her master's: a manipulative coworker who sabotaged experiments, gaslit her in the lab, and charmed his way into her supervisors' trust while tearing her down behind her back. It's a jaw-dropping tale of workplace manipulation, gut instincts, and standing your ground. The trio close out with an honest reflection on power dynamics in academia, competitiveness vs. integrity, and why speaking up matters - even when no one believes you at first. 🎧 Tune in for chaos, catharsis, and a masterclass in reading red flags at work.

  4. Jun 29

    chapter 2: the final boss or just a phd defense?

    do whatever | episode 4: chapter 2: the final boss or just a phd defense? Burcu, Mirna, and Ardiana kick off with quick updates -  lab struggles, a first three-hour lecture, and highlights from a Paris trip including a staged Eiffel Tower couple and the Mona Lisa crowd chaos. They then dive into what the episode is really about: the PhD defense, from first draft to final applause.The hosts walk through every stage - writing the thesis, assembling a jury, surviving the internal defense, and the public defense day. Key themes include the pressure of writing under a tight deadline, the surprise of actually enjoying the defense itself, and the myth that jury members are there to intimidate you. They share honest advice: start writing early, read throughout your PhD, and don't spend the final week studying DNA structure from scratch. The episode ends with Ardiana’s memorable defense-day chaos: a dad whose shoes disintegrated on the venue floor, a mom falling asleep in the front row mid-presentation, and a confetti cleanup complaint from a botanical garden. The hosts close by reflecting that the title of "Doctor" feels less like a finish line and more like a starting point - and that whoever you become during those years matters more than the day itself.

  5. Jun 15

    chapter 1: anxious, avoidant, academic

    do whatever | episode 3: chapter 1: anxious, avoidant, academic What does your attachment style look like when your PI goes silent on your manuscript? In this episode, Ardiana, Burcu, and Mirna dive into attachment theory - anxious, avoidant, fearful avoidant, and secure - and explore how these patterns show up not in romantic relationships, but in the lab. They share their own quiz results, reflect on how their PhD experiences shaped (and shifted) their styles, and get honest about the moments they felt triggered, overlooked, or just desperate for a "great work" from their supervisor. From toxic PIs and visa traps to dancing at conference parties and asking for weekly check-ins, this conversation goes deep on what it really means to feel safe - or not - in academia. Take the quiz on Instagram to find out your academic attachment style.

  6. Jun 1

    introduction: who are we anyway?

    do whatever | episode 2: introduction: who are we anyway? Burcu, Mirna, and Ardiana kick off the episode with travel updates: Mirna returns from Croatia and a stop at the Venice Biennale, while Ardiana reflects on a yoga retreat in Normandy that pushed her to slow down, cut screen time, and reconnect with single-tasking. The hosts celebrate a major milestone, after eight months of setbacks, Burcu's lab experiments finally worked, lifting the mood of her entire research group. The main topic explores just how many roles academics juggle beyond their research titles: graphic designer, teacher, finance manager, statistician, technician, lab manager, and more. They discuss how unprepared most PhD students are for supervision, admin, grant writing, equipment troubleshooting, and workplace politics.  The conversation turns to communication across cultures, sharing candid stories about direct vs. polished styles, false apologies, and how non-native English speakers often translate politeness conventions literally from their own languages. The hosts also reflect on the unexpected skills they've gained: Mirna learned to ask for help; Ardiana developed patience and cross-cultural communication; and all three found ways to bring creativity into their science, through storytelling, figure design, project writing, and experiment design. They close with what they would be if not scientists, the blurry line between work and personal life in academia, and what they genuinely love about their work.

    introduction: who are we anyway?

  7. Jun 1

    abstract: do we have it figured out?

    do whatever | episode 1: abstract: do we have it figured out? After nearly a year of silence, Burcu, Mirna, and Ardiana are finally back. In this long-overdue catch-up episode, the trio reunites online for the first time to talk about why it took so long, what perfectionism costs you, and why "not being ready" might actually be the most honest place to start. They share what's changed since they last recorded: a move to London, a commute that's turning Mirna into a pissed-off woman, a hard-won MSCA fellowship, six months of failed experiments finally explained, and a yoga teaching certificate along the way. They also dig into the gap between PhD and postdoc life, the pressure of publishing, how to choose a lab (what no one tells you), and the question looming over all three of them: have you figured it out? Spoiler: no one has. The episode wraps with a round of brutal "Would You Rather" dilemmas - career vs. city, ambition vs. family. Let them know where you land. Do whatever. Roll with it.

    abstract: do we have it figured out?
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Some things are worth saying out loud. do whatever started around a table, with wine, and the kind of honesty that only happens when you are far from home and trust the people next to you. Three friends in science, navigating academia, migration, identity, and the life choices nobody really prepares you for. We don't have it all figured out, and we're not here to give advice - just to ask the questions out loud, sit with the contradictions, and make the long hours feel a little less lonely. If any of this sounds familiar, you are in the right place. Find us on Instagram: @dowhateverpodcast

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  • Creator
    Podrum
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    7
  • Rating
    Clean
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