Father and Joe

Father Boniface Hicks and Joseph Rockey Jr
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Father and Joe is a podcast series of a continuing conversation about struggles and successes of being close to God. Father Boniface provides spiritual direction through problems of daily life. According to statistics of the average American's church habits - We went to church when we were forced to but somewhere along the way, we drifted away. The ultimate goal of this podcast is to help us get back to church, regardless of what faith you hold, and create a stronger union with God.

  1. 3D AGO

    Father and Joe E449: Shrove Tuesday to Ash Wednesday — A Plan, Realistic Penances, and God’s Help

    Lent isn’t just “trying harder.” It’s a Church-wide reset—entered intentionally, with a plan, and with God’s help. As this episode releases on Shrove Tuesday, Joe Rockey and Father Boniface Hicks explain why today (and Ash Wednesday) matters, how confession and a concrete Lenten plan set you up for real change, and why the goal isn’t perfection—it’s growth in virtue and deeper communion with God. Through the lens of relationships—self, others, and God—they contrast two approaches: “Fat Tuesday” as last-chance indulgence versus Shrove Tuesday as spiritual preparation. They also explore how shared momentum (everyone doing Lent together) makes lasting habit-change more achievable, and why a meaningful, realistic step sustained for 40 days can reshape your life long after Easter. Key Ideas Shrove Tuesday is historically tied to shriving: preparing for Lent through confession and renewed intention. Lent works best with a plan: pick a meaningful step that’s realistic enough to sustain for 40 days. Virtue grows like training: discipline isn’t the goal—holiness is, and virtue is the habit of choosing the good. Avoid “outside pressure” spirituality; listen for what God is already stirring inside you (desire, conviction, readiness). Lent isn’t a solo project: we lean on God’s help and the reinforcement of the whole Church moving together. Links & References (official/source only) None referenced with clear official/source URLs in this episode. CTA: If this helped, please leave a review or share this episode with a friend. Questions or thoughts? Email FatherAndJoe@gmail.com  . Tags (comma-separated) Father and Joe, Joe Rockey, Father Boniface Hicks, Shrove Tuesday, Ash Wednesday, Lent, confession, penance, fasting, abstinence, virtue, holiness, sanctity, spiritual discipline, habits, self-control, temptation, renewal, Easter preparation, liturgical season, Rule of St Benedict, Christian perfection, realistic goals, spiritual growth, prayer plan, spiritual reading, daily Mass, phone usage, algorithms, community support, accountability, fatherhood, being present, playing with children, patience, training, athletes and virtue, interior freedom, gratitude

    20 min

  2. FEB 10

    Father and Joe E448: The Long Game of Faith — Your Value Hierarchy and Why It’s Worth It

    Faith isn’t a lottery ticket—and it isn’t a guarantee of comfort. But over time, living the faith reshapes who you are: how you think, how you love, how you sacrifice, and what you place at the top of your “value hierarchy.” In this episode, Joe Rockey and Father Boniface Hicks revisit the practical “why” behind Mass, worship, and the Christian life—and how that long-game orientation changes your relationship with yourself, your relationships with others, and your relationship with God. Key Ideas The question worth revisiting: “Why am I doing this?” (faith, marriage, work, commitments). Everyone has a “value hierarchy”—and whatever is on top functions as a god. (Jordan Peterson reference.) Christianity proposes God as Father, Son, and Holy Spirit: an eternal communion of love—and worship keeps that love at the top. Faith demands real sacrifice (sometimes even lifelong loss), but it produces interior freedom, meaning, and deeper love. Practical takeaway: don’t let a phone algorithm or “followers” set the top of your hierarchy; build real communion with real people. Scripture Mentioned (no links) Philippians 3:8 Luke 14:26 Links & References (official/source only) Catechism of the Catholic Church (Vatican archive): https://www.vatican.va/archive/ccc/index.htm Dr. Jordan B. Peterson (official site): https://www.jordanbpeterson.com/ CTA: If this helped, please leave a review or share this episode with a friend. Questions or thoughts? Email FatherAndJoe@gmail.com  . Tags (comma-separated) Father and Joe, Joe Rockey, Father Boniface Hicks, value hierarchy, faith in daily life, practical faith, worship, Mass, Sunday, Sabbath, Trinity, Father Son Holy Spirit, communion of love, sacrifice, integrity, love, trust, long game, martyrdom, St. Francis of Assisi, St. Paul, Philippians 3:8, Luke 14:26, catechism, Christian maturity, holiness, patience, fatherhood, marriage, work and purpose, idols, money, power, reputation, freedom, meaning, discipleship, phone addiction, algorithms, social media, followers, genuine connection

    21 min

  3. FEB 2

    Father and Joe E447: Curiosity vs. “Nebby” — Vulnerability, Trust, and Real Relationship-Building

    Curiosity can be the opposite of self-centeredness—but only when it’s paired with respect, trust, and appropriate vulnerability. In this episode, Joe Rockey and Father Boniface Hicks unpack the difference between “healthy and holy curiosity” and being “nebby” (nosy), and why that line matters in friendships, marriage, and sales. They also connect it to the life of faith: softening the heart so communion becomes possible under God. Key Ideas Curiosity builds relationships when it’s rooted in genuine care, not extraction or control.Vulnerability is required for intimacy, but it must match the level of trust that exists.“Nebby” curiosity (nosiness) seeks power or gossip—without shared vulnerability or mutual goodwill.A curious, kind stance toward yourself (and your “parts”) can reduce contempt and grow calm, compassion, and communion.In sales, curiosity becomes a “cheat code” when it serves the person—not the commission—and when it respects boundaries.Links & References (official/source only)  Judith Glaser / CreatingWE Institute (Transformational conversation article):https://creatingwe.com/news-blogs/articles-blogs/shifting-to-transformational-conversation-for-best-results IFS Institute (Internal Family Systems):https://ifs-institute.com/ St. Bernard of Clairvaux (Steps of Humility and Pride – publisher preview PDF):https://tanbooks.com/content/3318_Preview.pdf CTA: If this helped, please leave a review or share this episode with a friend. Questions or thoughts? Email FatherAndJoe@gmail.com . Tags (comma-separated) Father and Joe, Joe Rockey, Father Boniface Hicks, curiosity, vulnerability, trust, relationship building, communion, intimacy, selfishness, self-centeredness, kindness, compassion, calm, confidence, courage, connectedness, internal family systems, IFS, Judith Glaser, transformational conversation, Conversational Intelligence, nebby, nosy, Pittsburgh, gossip, pride, humility, Saint Bernard of Clairvaux, hard of heart, Jesus, sales, ethical sales, sales training, servant leadership, boundaries, trustworthiness, manipulation, integrity

    20 min

  4. JAN 27

    Father and Joe E446: Indulgences & Spiritual Health—Relational, Not Mechanical

    Indulgences can sound like scorekeeping. They’re not. Joe Rockey and Father Boniface Hicks unpack indulgences in plain relational terms: the Church’s “treasury of merit” is like trusted relational credit you can lean on—the saints’ friendship with God helping you deepen your own. We connect First Fridays/Saturdays, rosaries, Scripture, adoration, and pilgrim practices to one aim: better spiritual health, i.e., a stronger, freer relationship of trusting love with God. Key Ideas Indulgence = relational help, not a magic pass: you “tap” the Church’s treasury of merit (the saints’ lived friendship with God) through concrete practices. Always personal: you still act (prayer, Scripture, adoration, works of mercy); grace perfects, doesn’t replace, effort. Apply to self or the dead: love shares its credit—our bonds in Christ extend beyond death. Keep the frame human: think “street cred” or a trainer’s plan—habits that restore and strengthen relationship, not accounting tricks. Sin harms relationships; practices heal: less “temporal punishment” math, more repair, trust, and re-ordering of love. Helpful Parallels Trainer plan → spiritual plan: 30 min Scripture reading (indulgenced) Rosary in common 30 min Eucharistic adoration Stations of the Cross Pilgrimage/holy door (in jubilee years) Works of mercy + usual conditions (state of grace, confession, Eucharist, prayer for the Pope’s intentions) Scripture touchpoints “Whatever you bind on earth…” (Mt 16:19; 18:18) “The communion of saints” (cf. Heb 12:1; Eph 2:19) Reconciliation and restoration (Jn 20:21–23; 2 Cor 5:18–20) One-week Spiritual Health Tune-up (simple, doable) Pick one indulgenced practice above and do it twice. Go to confession (once). Add one concrete act of mercy (call, visit, forgive, give). Close each day with a 2-minute examen (gratitude → review → ask help for tomorrow). CTA If this clarified indulgences, share the episode and leave a written review—helps others find us. Tags Father and Joe, Joe Rockey, Father Boniface Hicks, indulgence, treasury of merit, communion of saints, First Friday, First Saturday, adoration, rosary, Scripture, pilgrimage, spiritual health, confession, temporal punishment, works of mercy, Catholic podcast, practical spirituality, relationship with God

    18 min

  5. JAN 20

    Father and Joe E445: Christmas, Easter & the Greater Miracle Behind the Signs

    We know the headline miracles—Incarnation, Eucharist, Resurrection. But what about the quieter moments that don’t come with spectacle? Joe Rockey and Father Boniface Hicks explore why God preserves room for trust, why Eucharistic “flesh-and-blood” phenomena are less than the Eucharist itself, and how faith matures when we live the mysteries (not rank them). Through the three lenses—self, others, under God—we look at spiritual health as a habit of trusting love, not a hunt for proofs. Key Ideas God invites freedom, not coercion: He offers evidence, then leaves space for trust—the essence of love. Signs vs. Sacrament: visible Eucharistic phenomena are signs; the Eucharist is the whole living Christ (Body, Blood, Soul, Divinity). Don’t “rank” feasts: Christmas, the institution of the Eucharist, and Easter are one saving mystery unfolding—each essential. Living the unseen: deeper attention at Mass reorients daily life; think “spiritual health plan” (prayer, confession, charity) that steadies mind and relationships. Faith grows by practice: name doubts honestly, choose trust, and act—grace meets you in motion. Links & References Scripture named (no links): Doubting Thomas (John 20:24–29) Institution of the Eucharist (Matthew 26:26–29; Mark 14:22–25; Luke 22:14–20; 1 Corinthians 11:23–26) Signs confirming authority to forgive sins (Mark 2:1–12) CTA If this helped, please leave a review or share this episode with a friend. Questions or thoughts? Email FatherAndJoe@gmail.com Tags Father and Joe, Joe Rockey, Father Boniface Hicks, Christmas, Easter, Incarnation, Resurrection, Eucharist, Real Presence, Eucharistic miracles, believing without seeing, Doubting Thomas, signs vs sacrament, freedom and faith, trust, spiritual health, prayer, confession, charity, participation at Mass, liturgical seasons, unity of mysteries, grace, interior conversion, relationship with God, relationship with self, relationship with others, Benedictine spirituality, Catholic podcast, practical spirituality

    19 min

  6. JAN 13

    Father and Joe E444: Believing Without Seeing—Freedom, Evidence, and Faith

    “Unless I see…” Thomas speaks for us. Joe Rockey and Father Boniface Hicks explore how to believe without seeing in a world that demands proof. We contrast signs and certainties, why God preserves our freedom to trust, and how personal histories shape our “tests” for belief. Practical takeaways: name your criteria honestly, notice the subtle ways God already speaks, and choose trust that leads to action. We hold the three lenses: integrity with ourselves, charity toward others, under a living relationship with God. Key Ideas Faith needs freedom: God gives reasons to believe but stops short of coercion; no proof or disproof removes our choice. Signs vs. the Sign: visible wonders can help, but relationship with Christ requires trust that goes beyond optics. Personal filters: temperament, wounds, and stakes change our verification bar—be honest about the tests you set. Learn His voice: like Joseph or Samuel, once you recognize how God speaks to you, cooperation becomes fruitful and steady. Reason serves faith: philosophy can point (Descartes, Hume, Gödel), but revelation invites a response only trust can make. Links & References Scripture named (no links): Thomas and “Blessed are those who have not seen” (John 20:24–29). Healing the paralytic to manifest authority to forgive sins (cf. Mark 2:1–12; Matthew 9:1–8; Luke 5:17–26). The Lord speaking to Samuel (1 Samuel 3). CTA If this helped, please leave a review or share this episode with a friend. Questions or thoughts? Email FatherAndJoe@gmail.com Tags Father and Joe, Joe Rockey, Father Boniface Hicks, believing without seeing, St. Thomas, doubt and faith, signs and wonders, freedom and trust, criteria for belief, skepticism, Descartes, Hume, Gödel’s incompleteness, reason and revelation, conscience, hearing God’s voice, St. Joseph, Samuel, Eucharist and faith, healing of the paralytic, forgiveness of sins, relationship with God, relationship with self, relationship with others, Benedictine spirituality, Catholic podcast, practical spirituality

    20 min

  7. JAN 6

    Father and Joe E443: Eucharistic Miracles—and the Greater Miracle You Can’t See

    Serving at the altar raised a live question: “If Eucharistic miracles make belief easier, why don’t they happen more?” Joe Rockey and Father Boniface Hicks walk through what the Church means by miracle, why visible phenomena (flesh/blood) are actually less than the Eucharist itself (the whole living Christ), and how forgiveness and transformed virtue are real—though often unseen—miracles. We also clarify roles at Mass (Extraordinary Ministers of Holy Communion) and reflect on believing without seeing. Throughout, we keep the three lenses in view: honesty with self, charity with others, under a living relationship with God. Key Ideas Miracle ≠ rarity; miracle = beyond nature. The Eucharist is already a miracle: bread and wine become Jesus—Body, Blood, Soul, and Divinity. “Less visible, greater reality”: a Eucharistic miracle (flesh/blood) is a sign; the Eucharist is the greater reality—Christ whole and living. Science points, faith receives: studies of reported miracles often converge (heart tissue, left ventricle, trauma markers, AB+), but signs serve the Sacrament. Unseen miracles: absolution, growth in virtue, and daily conversions are real works of grace you can’t photograph—but you can live. Roles at Communion: clergy are ordinary ministers; laypeople assist as Extraordinary Ministers of Holy Communion when needed. “Blessed are those who have not seen and yet believe”—ask for faith to recognize and receive the Giver more than the signs. Links & References “Scientifically Analyzed Eucharistic Miracles” (Truthly, 11-min video referenced by Father): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RHO8L9477aU CTA If this helped, please leave a review or share this episode with a friend. Questions or thoughts? Email FatherAndJoe@gmail.com Tags Father and Joe, Joe Rockey, Father Boniface Hicks, Eucharist, Eucharistic miracles, Real Presence, AB positive, heart tissue, left ventricle, signs and wonders, forgiveness of sins, confession, virtue, grace, believing without seeing, faith and reason, Extraordinary Minister of Holy Communion, clergy and laity, Mass roles, altar ministry, miracle definition, Lanciano (discussion), conversion, prayer, interior healing, relationship with God, relationship with self, relationship with others, Benedictine spirituality, Catholic podcast, practical spirituality

    21 min

  8. 2025-12-30

    Father and Joe E442: “Only Say the Word”—Worthiness, the Eucharist, and Receiving More

    We say it every Mass: “Lord, I am not worthy… but only say the word and my soul shall be healed.” What are we asking—and what should we expect? Joe Rockey and Father Boniface Hicks unpack the centurion’s faith behind that line, how the Eucharist gives not just a word but the Word made flesh, and why Communion is an invitation already given—not a feeling we must wait for. We close with a simple New Year resolution: prepare better, receive more, and let grace heal what we cannot. Through the three lenses: honesty with self, charity toward others, under a living relationship with God. Key Ideas From Scripture to altar: the centurion’s “say the word” (authority, trust) becomes our Communion prayer—humble, confident, obedient.More than a word: at Mass we receive the Giver Himself—Jesus, truly present in the Eucharist—superabundant love for unworthy hearts.Invitation stands: unless you should refrain, don’t wait for a private signal; the liturgy itself is Christ’s call to come.Feelings vary; grace doesn’t: ritual prayers serve a billion souls—some days they fit our mood, others they lead it.A practical resolution: arrive a bit early, call to mind sins and needs, and ask to receive Him more fully this year.Links & References Scripture named (no links):The centurion’s faith (Matthew 8:5–13; cf. Luke 7:1–10).“Come to me, all you who labor…” (Matthew 11:28).Liturgy referenced (no link): Communion rite (“Lord, I am not worthy…”) and the Eucharist.CTA If this helped, please leave a review or share this episode with a friend. Questions or thoughts? Email FatherAndJoe@gmail.com Tags Father and Joe, Joe Rockey, Father Boniface Hicks, Eucharist, Holy Communion, “Lord I am not worthy”, centurion’s faith, Matthew 8, Communion rite, Real Presence, grace, worthiness, humility, trust, authority of Jesus, liturgy, feelings vs faith, participation in Mass, preparation for Mass, resolution, healing, salvation, relationship with God, relationship with self, relationship with others, Benedictine spirituality, Catholic podcast, practical spirituality

    19 min
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Father and Joe is a podcast series of a continuing conversation about struggles and successes of being close to God. Father Boniface provides spiritual direction through problems of daily life. According to statistics of the average American's church habits - We went to church when we were forced to but somewhere along the way, we drifted away. The ultimate goal of this podcast is to help us get back to church, regardless of what faith you hold, and create a stronger union with God.

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    Father Boniface Hicks and Joseph Rockey Jr
  • Years Active
    2017 - 2026
  • Episodes
    451
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