Fear It Goes

Fear It Goes

Fear It Goes explores the hidden patterns shaping high performers from the inside out — nervous system regulation, leadership, authenticity, emotional resilience, relationships, legacy, and the psychology behind how we think, lead, love, and live. Hosted by Brandi Taylor, this podcast challenges the conditioning that keeps people successful on the outside but disconnected within — uncovering the subconscious wiring, survival patterns, and emotional imprints silently driving performance, burnout, communication, and fulfillment. Because true leadership isn’t built through performance. It’s built through alignment. This is the deeper conversation behind sustainable success, authentic power, and the legacy we leave behind. No holding back. What you can expect: This podcast publishes every Friday @ noon. Episodes will cycle through one w Brandi and the next episode with a guest interview What we want from you: If you like us - Subscribe and comment. Share us out We love hearing cool ideas or great guests for the show, so please feel free to drop us a message. Send topic ideas to info@fearitgoes.com Join our socials on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/taylorbrandi/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/fear_it_goes/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/fearitgoes/ Fear It Goes fearitgoes.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  1. 4d ago

    Epi 75 ~ Standards You Live By

    You demand excellence from yourself... And yet still accept far less than you would ever tell someone you love to accept. That's the uncomfortable contradiction of standards. High performers often have extraordinary standards for achievement, discipline, responsibility, and performance. But what about your standards for how you live? How you treat yourself. The quality of your relationships. The way conflict is resolved. The amount of yourself you're willing to sacrifice to keep someone else comfortable. Your standards aren't what you say you deserve. They're revealed by what you've allowed to become normal. And normal isn't necessarily healthy. In this episode, Brandi explores the hidden standards governing our lives—and why knowing what you deserve is often not enough to change what you're willing to accept. Through the lens of the nervous system, she examines how familiar patterns become our unconscious definition of normal, even when they're costing us our peace, well-being, relationships, or authentic self. Holding a new standard isn't difficult; it requires discipline. What becomes tricky is that it threatens something your nervous system has learned to protect. Your Belonging. Your Approval. Feeling Safe. Predictability. A job. A relationship. Or even the identity you've spent years becoming. In this episode, you'll discover: • Why high performers can demand excellence from themselves while accepting far less elsewhere • How familiar can become confused with safe—and normal with healthy • The subtle difference between kindness and people-pleasing • Why your standards become clearest when holding them could cost you something • How survival patterns quietly influence what you tolerate • Why standards aren't demands placed on others, but agreements about how you choose to participate in your own life • How standards become the foundation for healthy boundaries • Why changing your standards can bring grief as your identity, relationships, and old normal begin to shift Sometimes growth doesn't mean anyone became wrong. But it can mean what once worked simply isn't compatible with who you're becoming. One of the greatest standards you can ever create is: I will no longer abandon myself to maintain belonging. What am I ready to make healthy now? Your life will rarely rise above the standards you're willing to hold for yourself. Not the ones you say you have. The ones you're willing to live. Especially when living them costs you something. Because eventually, the standard you refuse to negotiate becomes the life you refuse to abandon. Ready to explore what's really driving the patterns beneath your performance? If you are ready to discover all your power, raise your standards, and be all of you, visit fearitgoes.com to explore coaching, speaking, workshops, programs, and ways to work with Brandi. Fear It Goes — The Nervous System of Leadership. Leadership isn't built on strategy alone. It's built on the nervous system beneath it. The quality of your leadership, relationships, decisions, and legacy will never exceed the capacity of the system driving them. If you're ready to move beyond survival and create sustainable success, deeper relationships, and a legacy that reflects who you truly are, visit fearitgoes.com to explore coaching, speaking, workshops, and transformational programs with Brandi Taylor. The life you're trying to create doesn't require a stronger version of you. It requires a nervous system that finally knows it's safe enough to live it. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  2. Aug 28

    Epi 74 ~ Power

    PowerWhy owning who you are isn't arrogance.Have you ever met someone who walks into a room and you feel their presence before they ever say a word? They don't need to announce themselves. They don't need to be the loudest. They don't need everyone to agree with them. They don't need to prove how successful, intelligent, or powerful they are. They simply know who they are. We often confuse power with dominance, status, control, or arrogance. But real power isn't about being superior to anyone else. Power is the ability to remain authentically yourself regardless of the audience. Because leadership isn't limited by knowledge. It's limited by the state of the nervous system applying that knowledge. Authentic power doesn't say, Nobody gets to affect me. It says: Nobody else gets to define me. You can listen without surrendering yourself. You can be challenged without collapsing. You can be different without apologizing. You can take up space without taking space away from someone else. And you can allow another person to stand fully in their power without believing theirs threatens yours. Maybe power was never something you needed to acquire. Maybe it's what remains when you finally stop abandoning yourself. In this episode, you'll discover:Why real power has nothing to do with dominance, control, or superiorityThe difference between authentic power and arroganceWhy people-pleasing can be a nervous system strategy for maintaining belongingHow shrinking, apologizing, and seeking approval quietly give your power awayWhy standing fully in who you are can actually feel unsafeHow our ancient need for belonging still influences the way we lead, speak, and show up todayWhy authority and internal power are not the same thingHow self-trust allows you to hear feedback without abandoning yourselfWhy someone else's power never requires the diminishment of your ownWhat changes when you stop asking the room for permission to be yourself Because owning your power isn't about becoming bigger than anyone else. It's finally refusing to become smaller than who you are. Learn more about Brandi's coaching, speaking, workshops, and programs at fearitgoes.com. Follow Fear It Goes for conversations about nervous system leadership, identity, relationships, performance, and what becomes possible when fear no longer gets to make your decisions. Leadership isn't built on strategy alone. It's built on the nervous system beneath it. The quality of your leadership, relationships, decisions, and legacy will never exceed the capacity of the system driving them. If you're ready to move beyond survival and create sustainable success, deeper relationships, and a legacy that reflects who you truly are, visit fearitgoes.com to explore coaching, speaking, workshops, and transformational programs with Brandi Taylor. The life you're trying to create doesn't require a stronger version of you. It requires a nervous system that finally knows it's safe enough to live it. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  3. Aug 21

    Epi 73 ~ Being Seen

    Being SeenWhy visibility isn't about confidenceHave you ever wondered why you pull back just as you're getting closer to what you want? The bigger opportunity. The difficult conversation. The next level of leadership. The deeper relationship. The success you know you're capable of... but you just stop yourself. Most of us believe hesitation means we need something more. More preparation, credentials, just something more. Very few of us consider that our nervous system may not be afraid of being seen at all—it may be afraid of what being seen has historically meant. Judgment, expectations, disappointment, or rejection. Or even being loved, celebrated and successful in ways we've never learned to receive. In this episode, Brandi explores why visibility is more complex than just putting yourself out there—and why some of the most successful and visible people can still be hiding in plain sight. Because you can build an extraordinary life and still carefully craft a safe version for each room. Through insights into nervous system regulation, identity and leadership, Brandi explores how competence, perfectionism, preparation and achievement can become sophisticated ways of controlling what other people are allowed to see. Eventually, the identity that once helped you belong becomes the very identity limiting your expansion. Your nervous system needs capacity not only for failure but for success, recognition, money, love, influence and deeper intimacy. So the greatest expression of visibility isn't getting everyone to look at you. It's being able to remain yourself when they do. In This EpisodeYou'll explore: Why visibility can feel unsafe even when you consciously want itHow high performers hide through competence, preparation and achievementThe identities we create in order to belongWhy being admired and being known are differentWhy success, recognition and love require nervous system capacityThe relationship between visibility and boundariesWhy being misunderstood doesn't require abandoning yourselfHow to become more visible without giving everyone access to youFinal Thought Where in your life are you already visible... but still not allowing yourself to be fully seen? Who would you no longer need to be if being seen finally felt safe? If this episode connected with you, your success, leadership or relationships—follow Fear It Goes and share this episode with someone ready to stop disappearing inside the life they've built. Stay tuned for Brandi's upcoming conversation with BJ about boundaries and how we stay connected without losing ourselves. Explore nervous system leadership, identity and high-performance transformation at FearItGoes.com. Leadership isn't built on strategy alone. It's built on the nervous system beneath it. The quality of your leadership, relationships, decisions, and legacy will never exceed the capacity of the system driving them. If you're ready to move beyond survival and create sustainable success, deeper relationships, and a legacy that reflects who you truly are, visit fearitgoes.com to explore coaching, speaking, workshops, and transformational programs with Brandi Taylor. The life you're trying to create doesn't require a stronger version of you. It requires a nervous system that finally knows it's safe enough to live it. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  4. Aug 14

    Epi 72 ~ When I Can No Longer See You

    Have you ever wondered how you can understand someone so well in one moment... and completely lose the ability to see their perspective in another? The spouse whose reaction suddenly makes no sense. The employee you immediately decide has a bad attitude. The child whose behaviour feels deliberately difficult. The colleague whose intentions you're certain you understand. The disagreement where suddenly your perspective feels like the only reasonable one. We often assume these are communication problems. But what if something is happening one layer earlier? In this episode, Brandi sits down with BJ Slager to explore Theory of Mind—our capacity to recognize that another person has thoughts, feelings, beliefs, desires, and perceptions different from our own. Together, they explore how Theory of Mind develops, why it's fundamental to empathy and healthy relationships, and why our access to it can change depending on the state we're in. Because stress, fear, exhaustion, overwhelm, past experiences, and survival responses don't just change how we feel. They can change what we're capable of seeing in someone else. And suddenly the leader who can read a room brilliantly can't understand their spouse. The compassionate parent loses access to curiosity. The person across from us stops being someone with a different experience... and becomes the story our mind has created about them. Maybe better relationships don't begin with getting everyone to understand us. Maybe they begin with noticing when we've lost the capacity to understand them. In this episode you'll discover:• What Theory of Mind is and why it's fundamental to human connection. • Why empathy depends on our ability to recognize another person's experience as separate from our own. • How assumptions and projection can cause us to mistake our interpretation of someone for the truth about them. • Why curiosity and asking better questions can transform conflict and deepen relationships. • How fear, stress, exhaustion, overwhelm, and survival states can reduce our capacity to see another person's perspective. • Why someone can demonstrate extraordinary emotional intelligence in one environment and lose access to it in another. • How understanding another person's perspective can coexist with maintaining your own boundaries. If this episode resonated with you... Follow the podcast so you never miss an episode. Share it with someone who's ever thought, "How can they possibly see it that way?" And the next time you find yourself certain you know what someone else is thinking, feeling, or intending, consider asking yourself a different question: Am I actually seeing them... or am I seeing them through me? And if you're ready to move beyond survival and begin leading, loving, and living from your authentic self, visit fearitgoes.com to learn more about coaching, speaking, and transformational programs designed to help high performers reconnect with themselves and create legacies that truly matter. Leadership isn't built on strategy alone. It's built on the nervous system beneath it. The quality of your leadership, relationships, decisions, and legacy will never exceed the capacity of the system driving them. If you're ready to move beyond survival and create sustainable success, deeper relationships, and a legacy that reflects who you truly are, visit fearitgoes.com to explore coaching, speaking, workshops, and transformational programs with Brandi Taylor. The life you're trying to create doesn't require a stronger version of you. It requires a nervous system that finally knows it's safe enough to live it. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  5. Aug 7

    Epi 71 ~ Protecting The Life You've Already Outgrown

    Have you ever wondered why change can feel so hard? The business you've always wanted to launch. The difficult conversation you've been avoiding. The boundaries you know you need to set. The visibility you've been working toward. The peace you've been longing to feel. The life you know you're capable of living... that somehow still feels just out of reach. Most of us believe change is difficult because we lack discipline, confidence, or motivation. Very few of us realize our nervous system may simply be trying to protect us using rules it created for a version of our life that no longer exists. In this episode, Brandi explores why lasting transformation isn't created through willpower—and why knowing what to do isn't always enough to change. Through powerful insights into the nervous system, leadership, and identity, she reveals why so many high performers find themselves returning to familiar patterns, even when they desperately want something different, and how creating internal safety becomes the foundation for meaningful, lasting change. Because your nervous system isn't resisting your potential. It's protecting your history. The life you're trying to create doesn't require a stronger version of you. It requires a nervous system that finally knows it's safe enough to live it. In this episode you'll discover:• Why change feels difficult even when you know exactly what to do. • How your nervous system protects familiar patterns that no longer serve you. • Why success, visibility, love, and even peace can feel unfamiliar—or unsafe. • Why most leadership challenges are actually safety challenges, not strategy problems. • How creating internal safety allows lasting transformation to become possible. If this episode resonated with you... Follow the podcast so you never miss an episode. Share it with someone who's ever wondered, "If I know what to do... why can't I seem to do it?" And if you're ready to move beyond survival and begin leading, loving, and living from your authentic self, visit fearitgoes.com to learn more about coaching, speaking, and transformational programs designed to help high performers reconnect with themselves and create legacies that truly matter. Leadership isn't built on strategy alone. It's built on the nervous system beneath it. The quality of your leadership, relationships, decisions, and legacy will never exceed the capacity of the system driving them. If you're ready to move beyond survival and create sustainable success, deeper relationships, and a legacy that reflects who you truly are, visit fearitgoes.com to explore coaching, speaking, workshops, and transformational programs with Brandi Taylor. The life you're trying to create doesn't require a stronger version of you. It requires a nervous system that finally knows it's safe enough to live it. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  6. Jul 31

    Epi 70 ~ Life Beyond Survival

    Life Beyond SurvivalThe moment your survival strategies no longer define who you are.Have you ever wondered why you keep repeating patterns you desperately want to change? The overthinking. The perfectionism. The people-pleasing. The constant need to stay in control. The relationships that leave you feeling unseen. The success you've worked so hard for... that somehow still doesn't feel like enough. Most of us believe those patterns are who we are. Very few of us realize they're who our nervous system learned to become to survive. In this episode, Brandi explores why there was never anything wrong with you—and how the greatest cost of survival isn't anxiety, burnout, or perfectionism... it's becoming separated from your authentic self. Through powerful insights into the nervous system, identity, and the adaptations we mistake for personality, she reveals why lasting transformation doesn't begin with changing who you are—it begins with creating enough internal safety to become who you've always been. Because your life was never meant to be defined by survival. It was meant to be experienced. In this episode you'll discover:• Why your nervous system protects familiar patterns—even when they no longer serve you. • The difference between who you are and who you had to become to survive. • Why healthy love, peace, and success can sometimes feel unfamiliar or even unsafe. • How survival patterns quietly shape your leadership, relationships, and identity. • What it truly means to come home to yourself and begin living beyond survival. If this episode resonated with you... Follow the podcast so you never miss an episode. Share it with someone who's ever found themselves asking, "What's wrong with me?" And if you're ready to move beyond surviving and begin leading, loving, and living from your authentic self, visit fearitgoes.com to learn more about coaching, speaking, and transformational programs designed to help high performers reconnect with themselves and create legacies that truly matter. Leadership isn't built on strategy alone. It's built on the nervous system beneath it. The quality of your leadership, relationships, decisions, and legacy will never exceed the capacity of the system driving them. If you're ready to move beyond survival and create sustainable success, deeper relationships, and a legacy that reflects who you truly are, visit fearitgoes.com to explore coaching, speaking, workshops, and transformational programs with Brandi Taylor. The life you're trying to create doesn't require a stronger version of you. It requires a nervous system that finally knows it's safe enough to live it. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  7. Jul 24

    Epi 69 ~ Leadership Is Measured by What You Can Stay Present With

    Have you ever noticed that the moments which define you as a leader are rarely the ones you prepared for? They're the difficult conversations. The unexpected criticism. The employee who's struggling. The child who keeps pushing your buttons. The success that suddenly feels heavier than you imagined. Most of us spend years learning leadership strategies, communication skills, and decision-making frameworks. Very few of us are ever taught what leadership actually asks of our nervous system. In this episode, Brandi shares why leadership isn't measured by confidence, intelligence, or knowledge—but by your capacity to remain present under pressure. Through personal stories from her career in finance and a powerful lesson learned as a parent, she explores why emotional capacity changes everything. If you've ever wondered why you know what to do but still find yourself reacting, avoiding, overworking, or shutting down, this conversation will help you understand why. Because the quality of your leadership, relationships, decisions, and legacy will never exceed your capacity to remain yourself under pressure. In this Episode you'll discover:• Why emotional capacity matters more than confidence. • The connection between leadership and nervous system regulation. • Why people make decisions from their emotional state—not just information. • The surprising power of repair after conflict. • How expanding your capacity changes your leadership, relationships, and life. If this episode resonated with you...Follow the podcast so you never miss an episode. Share it with someone who leads others—at work, at home, or in their community. And if you're ready to move beyond surviving and begin leading from authenticity, visit fearitgoes.com to learn more about coaching, speaking, and transformational programs designed to help high performers reconnect with themselves and create legacies that truly matter. Leadership isn't built on strategy alone. It's built on the nervous system beneath it. The quality of your leadership, relationships, decisions, and legacy will never exceed the capacity of the system driving them. If you're ready to move beyond survival and create sustainable success, deeper relationships, and a legacy that reflects who you truly are, visit fearitgoes.com to explore coaching, speaking, workshops, and transformational programs with Brandi Taylor. The life you're trying to create doesn't require a stronger version of you. It requires a nervous system that finally knows it's safe enough to live it. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  8. Jul 17

    Epi 68 ~ Who Were You Before the World Told You Who to Be?

    Somewhere along the way, many of us stopped becoming ourselves and became who we thought we needed to be. We learned to please, perform, adapt, and survive. We chased approval, achievement, and belonging—often without realizing we were slowly disconnecting from who we truly are. In this episode, Brandi Taylor is joined by BJ Slager for a thoughtful conversation about autonomy—not independence or isolation, but the ability to stand fully in yourself while remaining deeply connected to others. Together they explore: • Why people-pleasing is often the opposite of autonomy • How codependency disconnects us from our authentic identity • Why high achievers often struggle to trust themselves • The surprising connection between motherhood and losing your sense of self • Raising children without controlling them • Why clear values make difficult decisions easier • The relationship between autonomy, leadership, and fulfillment • How reclaiming your authentic self changes every relationship in your life If you've ever wondered whether the life you're living is truly your own—or whether you've been living according to expectations you never consciously chose—this conversation offers a powerful invitation back to yourself. Because becoming yourself isn't selfish. It may be the greatest gift you can offer the people around you. Leadership isn't built on strategy alone. It's built on the nervous system beneath it. The quality of your leadership, relationships, decisions, and legacy will never exceed the capacity of the system driving them. If you're ready to move beyond survival and create sustainable success, deeper relationships, and a legacy that reflects who you truly are, visit fearitgoes.com to explore coaching, speaking, workshops, and transformational programs with Brandi Taylor. The life you're trying to create doesn't require a stronger version of you. It requires a nervous system that finally knows it's safe enough to live it. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Fear It Goes explores the hidden patterns shaping high performers from the inside out — nervous system regulation, leadership, authenticity, emotional resilience, relationships, legacy, and the psychology behind how we think, lead, love, and live. Hosted by Brandi Taylor, this podcast challenges the conditioning that keeps people successful on the outside but disconnected within — uncovering the subconscious wiring, survival patterns, and emotional imprints silently driving performance, burnout, communication, and fulfillment. Because true leadership isn’t built through performance. It’s built through alignment. This is the deeper conversation behind sustainable success, authentic power, and the legacy we leave behind. No holding back. What you can expect: This podcast publishes every Friday @ noon. Episodes will cycle through one w Brandi and the next episode with a guest interview What we want from you: If you like us - Subscribe and comment. Share us out We love hearing cool ideas or great guests for the show, so please feel free to drop us a message. Send topic ideas to info@fearitgoes.com Join our socials on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/taylorbrandi/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/fear_it_goes/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/fearitgoes/ Fear It Goes fearitgoes.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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  • Creator
    Fear It Goes
  • Years Active
    2019 - 2026
  • Episodes
    75
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    Explicit
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