Overpowering Emotions: Tools for Child & Teen Anxiety and Resilience

Dr. Caroline Buzanko
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Practical, science-based strategies to help kids and teens manage anxiety, navigate big feelings, and build resilience. Overpowering Emotions is the #1 resource for adults who want to confidently support children and teens through emotional challenges.Children and teens today are struggling with more anxiety, overwhelm, and emotional intensity than ever before—and adults are desperate for tools that actually work. This podcast is here to change that.Dr. Caroline gives you the knowledge and tools you need to support children and teens through anxiety, emotional overwhelm, and everyday challenges. Whether you’re a parent, educator, clinician, or caregiver, you’ll learn exactly what to do (and what not to do) right away to help young people feel calmer, braver, and more capable.Each episode delivers:• Clear, practical steps you can use immediately• Expert interviews with leading psychologists and researchers• Real-life examples that make complex concepts easy to understand• Tools for emotional regulation, anxiety mastery, confidence-building, and resilience• Effective approaches for home, school, and clinical settingsIf you’ve ever wished for a trusted guide to help you navigate child and teen anxiety, emotional outbursts, and overwhelming emotions, you’ve just found it.Subscribe now and join the movement to help the next generation thrive.About Dr. Caroline BuzankoDr. Caroline is a psychologist, researcher, speaker, and internationally recognized expert in child and teen anxiety. With more than 25 years of experience supporting children, teens, and families, she is known for her ability to translate cutting-edge research into practical, compassionate strategies that make a meaningful impact.In 2024, Dr. Caroline was honoured as Alberta’s Psychologist of the Year, a recognition that reflects her significant contributions to advancing child and youth mental health practices. Often called the “Yoda of anxiety,” she blends scientific evidence, clinical expertise, and real-world tools to help young people build confidence, emotional regulation, and lifelong resilience.

  1. 5D AGO

    239. Why does trying to fix negative thoughts make them stronger?

    What if the goal isn’t to change kids’ thoughts, but to change how they relate to them? In this episode of Overpowering Emotions, Caroline introduces cognitive diffusion, a practical skill that helps kids step back from overwhelming thoughts instead of getting pulled into them. You’ll hear why trying to challenge negative thinking can backfire, how naming thoughts like “Perfectionist Paula” or “Worry Wanda” creates instant space, and how simple, playful techniques can reduce emotional intensity quickly. This episode gives you language you can use in real moments. It also shows how modeling this skill helps kids build confidence and handle hard situations without getting stuck in self-doubt. If you’re supporting kids who say “I’m not good enough” or “I’m going to fail,” this episode offers a different way to respond. Homework Activities Focus for the week: Help kids create space from their thoughts 1. “I’m having the thought that…” Guide kids to say: “I’m having the thought that I’m going to fail.” Use it yourself out loud during the day. 2. Name the thought Create characters like Worry Wanda or Perfectionist Paula. Ask what that part is saying. 3. Repeat the word Pick a word like “failure.” Say it fast or slow until it loses its punch. 4. Change how it sounds Use a silly voice or sing the thought. Optional: use the Suno app to turn it into a song. 5. Third-person shift Try: “Alex’s brain is telling him…” This helps kids step back. 6. Model it daily Say your process out loud: “I’m having the thought that I don't have enough time, so I’m making a plan.” Enjoying the show? Help out by rating this podcast on Apple to help others get access to this information too! apple.co/3ysFijh Follow Dr. Caroline YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carolinebuzanko IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.carolinebuzanko/ LinkedIn: https://ca.linkedin.com/in/dr-caroline-buzanko Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrCarolineBuzanko/ Website: https://drcarolinebuzanko.com/ Resources: https://drcarolinebuzanko.com/resources/articles-child-resilience-well-being-psychology/ Business inquiries: https://korupsychology.ca/contact-us/ Want to learn more about helping kids strengthen their emotion regulation skills and problem-solving brains while boosting their confidence, independence, and resilience? Check out my many training opportunities! https://drcarolinebuzanko.com/upcoming-events/

    13 min

  2. APR 27

    238 Are You Solving Too Much for Your Kids?

    Helping kids build resilience isn’t about protecting them from discomfort, it’s about guiding them to trust their own inner compass. In this episode of Overpowering Emotions, Caroline breaks down how a values-centered mindset shapes confident, independent kids who can navigate challenges without constant reassurance. You’ll learn how values act like a GPS for decision-making, why kids need real-life experiences (not just conversations), and how adults can shift from fixing problems to coaching through them. If you work with children or raise them this episode offers practical ways to help kids make choices with clarity, build emotional strength, and grow into capable, self-directed individuals. Homework Activities for Adults1. Identify Your Top Values Choose 5 values (then narrow to 1 “guiding value”)Reflect: Where did these come from? Are any rooted in fear or pressure?Resource: Values list worksheet (mentioned in episode)2. Model Values in Action Pick one value (e.g., kindness)Take 2–3 visible actions daily (greet others, help someone, express gratitude)Narrate it out loud so kids understand the “why”3. Practice Value-Based Conversations with Kids Ask:“What matters most to you here?”“Which choice fits that?”“How will this feel later?”4. Weekly Values Check-In Family or classroom activityEach person shares a decision they made based on a value5. Monthly Value Focus Choose one value as a themeCreate small challenges or actions tied to it6. Step Back Practice Notice when you’re:Over-explainingReassuring too quicklySolving problems for themPause and let them try first Enjoying the show? Help out by rating this podcast on Apple to help others get access to this information too! apple.co/3ysFijh Follow Dr. Caroline YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carolinebuzanko IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.carolinebuzanko/ LinkedIn: https://ca.linkedin.com/in/dr-caroline-buzanko Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrCarolineBuzanko/ Website: https://drcarolinebuzanko.com/ Resources: https://drcarolinebuzanko.com/resources/articles-child-resilience-well-being-psychology/ Business inquiries: https://korupsychology.ca/contact-us/ Want to learn more about helping kids strengthen their emotion regulation skills and problem-solving brains while boosting their confidence, independence, and resilience? Check out my many training opportunities! https://drcarolinebuzanko.com/upcoming-events/

    13 min

  3. APR 21

    Are We Accidentally Raising Kids Who Are Afraid to Fail?

    When support starts to take over, kids lose the chance to grow. In this episode of Overpowering Emotions, Caroline unpacks the everyday habits that quietly increase anxiety, fear of failure, and dependence in kids and teens. Many of these behaviors come from a place of care, yet they can limit independence and confidence over time. This conversation looks at how feedback, praise, expectations, and stepping in too quickly shape how kids see themselves. You’ll hear why fear of mistakes holds kids back, how constant correction affects self-worth, and what helps kids build real confidence through experience. Homework Activities for Adults 1. Change how you praise Focus on effort and process “I saw how much time you put into that” 2. Pause before helping Give space before stepping in Let them try, think, and problem-solve 3. Externalize emotions Shift from identity to experience “Looks like anxiety is showing up” 4. Assign real responsibility Choose one task they fully own No stepping in to fix mistakes 5. Allow natural outcomes Let one situation play out without rescuing Helpful tools: Simple scripts for responding to big emotions Timer for pause practice Notes or journal to track effort-based feedback Enjoying the show? Help out by rating this podcast on Apple to help others get access to this information too! apple.co/3ysFijh Follow Dr. Caroline YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carolinebuzanko IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.carolinebuzanko/ LinkedIn: https://ca.linkedin.com/in/dr-caroline-buzanko Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrCarolineBuzanko/ Website: https://drcarolinebuzanko.com/ Resources: https://drcarolinebuzanko.com/resources/articles-child-resilience-well-being-psychology/ Business inquiries: https://korupsychology.ca/contact-us/ Want to learn more about helping kids strengthen their emotion regulation skills and problem-solving brains while boosting their confidence, independence, and resilience? Check out my many training opportunities! https://drcarolinebuzanko.com/upcoming-events/

    21 min

  4. APR 14

    236. Why Doesn’t Reassurance Work for Anxiety and Big Feelings?

    Helping children manage big emotions doesn’t start in the moment of meltdown—it starts long before. In this episode of Overpowering Emotions, Dr. Caroline breaks down how self-monitoring builds emotional regulation from the inside out. You’ll learn how naming feelings with precision keeps the brain online, why body signals matter more than behaviour alone, and how small daily check-ins can prevent overwhelm before it escalates. Dr. Caroline shares practical tools like feelings wheels, body mapping, coping cards, and self-coaching journals, along with real-life examples from parenting and clinical work. She also addresses a common trap—rescuing kids too quickly—and explains how to support without taking over. This episode is essential listening for educators, parents, and mental health professionals who want to help children and teens build lasting emotional skills, increase independence, and feel more in control of their reactions. Homework Activities for Adults Daily Emotion Check-Ins Ask: “What are 3 feelings you had today?”Use visuals (feelings wheel, emoji chart)Resource: printable feelings wheel or fridge chart Body Awareness Practice Prompt: “What does your chest/tummy/hands feel like?”Do this during calm moments, not just stressResource: body map template (outline of body to label sensations) Before–After Coping Reflection Before: “How do you think you’ll feel?”After: “What worked? What didn’t?”Resource: simple rating scale (1–10) Self-Coaching Journal Write phrases like:“I can do this”“I’m scared but I can handle it”Resource: notebook or printable journal prompts “Can’t Yet” Challenge List “I can’t…” statementsAdd “yet”Move one item into action each week Adult Modelling Practice Say out loud:“I’m feeling overwhelmed—my chest feels tight. I’m going to slow down.”Keep it simple and contained Basic Needs Check Track:FoodWaterSleepResource: daily checklist Enjoying the show? Help out by rating this podcast on Apple to help others get access to this information too! apple.co/3ysFijh Follow Dr. Caroline YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carolinebuzanko IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.carolinebuzanko/ LinkedIn: https://ca.linkedin.com/in/dr-caroline-buzanko Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrCarolineBuzanko/ Website: https://drcarolinebuzanko.com/ Resources: https://drcarolinebuzanko.com/resources/articles-child-resilience-well-being-psychology/ Business inquiries: https://korupsychology.ca/contact-us/ Want to learn more about helping kids strengthen their emotion regulation skills and problem-solving brains while boosting their confidence, independence, and resilience? Check out my many training opportunities! https://drcarolinebuzanko.com/upcoming-events/

    19 min

  5. APR 7

    235. Are You Helping Kids Too Much—and Hurting Their Confidence?

    This episode challenges one of the most common habits adults fall into: trying to make kids feel better too quickly. Dr. Caroline breaks down what actually builds emotional strength in children—and it starts with us. From the way we talk about mistakes to how we respond when kids struggle, every reaction is shaping how they see themselves. You’ll hear why growth mindset often stays surface-level, how to model it in real time (not just talk about it), and why stepping back can be more powerful than stepping in. Dr. Caroline also introduces anti-fragile parenting—helping kids grow stronger through everyday stress instead of shielding them from it. This conversation is essential for educators, parents, and clinicians who want to raise kids who can handle discomfort, persist through challenges, and develop real confidence. Key topics: Growth mindset in action (not just theory)Why “fixing” emotions can backfireHow to model learning, mistakes, and resilience out loudLetting kids struggle without abandoning themBuilding independence through everyday challenges Homework Activities for Adults1. “Catch Your Fixed Mindset” ExerciseNotice when you say: “I’m not good at this”Reframe it out loud: “I haven’t learned this yet”Say it where kids can hearResource: Sticky notes or phone notes to track patterns 2. Narrate Your Mistakes DailyWhile cooking, working, or learning something newSay out loud: what went wrong + what you’ll try nextResource: None—just awareness 3. Two-Minute Pause RuleWhen a child struggles, wait 2 minutes before stepping inObserve what they try firstResource: Timer on phone 4. “Three Strategies Before Help” RuleBefore helping, ask: “What have you tried?”Require three attempts or ideasResource: Visual reminder posted at home/class 5. Mistake of the Day RitualEach evening: share one mistake + what was learnedCan be done at dinner or bedtimeResource: Journal or whiteboard 6. Stress Reframe ExerciseDraw two columns: “Stress is harmful” vs “Stress is helpful”Reflect on your reactionsResource: Paper + pen 7. Challenge of the WeekPick one uncomfortable activity (learning, social, skill-based)Do it together as a familyResource: “Challenge jar” with ideas Enjoying the show? Help out by rating this podcast on Apple to help others get access to this information too! apple.co/3ysFijh Follow Dr. Caroline YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carolinebuzanko IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.carolinebuzanko/ LinkedIn: https://ca.linkedin.com/in/dr-caroline-buzanko Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrCarolineBuzanko/ Website: https://drcarolinebuzanko.com/ Resources: https://drcarolinebuzanko.com/resources/articles-child-resilience-well-being-psychology/ Business inquiries: https://korupsychology.ca/contact-us/ Want to learn more about helping kids strengthen their emotion regulation skills and problem-solving brains while boosting their confidence, independence, and resilience? Check out my many training opportunities! https://drcarolinebuzanko.com/upcoming-events/

    26 min

  6. MAR 31

    234. Why Do Kids Lose Control of Their Emotions — And What Signals Do We Miss First?

    Children rarely melt down without warning. Their bodies, thoughts, and behaviour usually send signals long before emotions explode. The challenge for parents, educators, and mental health professionals is learning how to spot those signals early. In this episode of Overpowering Emotions, Dr. Caroline continues the conversation on self-monitoring strategies for kids and teens. She walks through practical ways adults can help children notice emotional clues in their body, identify the exact feeling they’re experiencing, and respond before frustration, anxiety, or anger takes over. You’ll hear how tools like feelings wheels, body maps, coping cards, emotion rating scales, and self-coaching journals help young people build emotional awareness and confidence. Dr. Caroline also shares simple routines adults can use at home or in the classroom to help children practise emotional regulation daily. This episode also highlights a powerful shift: moving kids from “I can’t” to “I can’t yet.” Educators, parents, and clinicians will walk away with practical strategies that help children: recognise early emotional warning signsunderstand body signals tied to feelingschallenge negative thinking patternspractise self-coaching during difficult momentsbuild confidence managing anxiety, frustration, and overwhelm Helping kids manage big emotions starts with helping them notice the clues. Homework Activities for Adults Supporting Kids1. Daily Emotion Check-In Ask children: Morning: “How are you feeling today?” Mid-day: “Has that feeling changed?” Evening: “If you could pick three feeling words for today, what would they be?” Purpose: Children start noticing that emotions shift during the day. Resource needed: feelings wheelemoji chart 2. Body Mapping Activity Have kids draw a simple outline of a body. Ask them to mark where they feel emotions: Examples: butterflies in stomachtight chestclenched fiststired eyes Purpose: Children begin recognising body signals linked to emotions. Resource needed: printable body map templatecoloured pencils or markers3. Emotion Rating ScaleAsk kids to rate emotions from 1–10. Questions: “How nervous were you before the test?”“Where is that feeling now after you used a coping strategy?” Purpose: Children learn that emotions change after using coping tools. Resource needed: emotion scale chart 4. Self-Coaching JournalHave children write statements they can use during difficult moments: Examples: “I am brave.”“I can try.”“I’m scared but I’ll be okay.” Purpose: Builds inner dialogue that counters negative thoughts. Resource needed: journal or notebook 5. “I Can’t Yet” ChallengeCreate two lists: List 1: Things I can do List 2: Things I can’t do yet Encourage kids to move items from the second list to the first over time. Purpose: Builds persistence and confidence. Resource needed: worksheet or poster Enjoying the show? Help out by rating this podcast on Apple to help others get access to this information too! apple.co/3ysFijh Follow Dr. Caroline YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carolinebuzanko IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.carolinebuzanko/ LinkedIn: https://ca.linkedin.com/in/dr-caroline-buzanko Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrCarolineBuzanko/ Website: https://drcarolinebuzanko.com/ Resources: https://drcarolinebuzanko.com/resources/articles-child-resilience-well-being-psychology/ Business inquiries: https://korupsychology.ca/contact-us/ Want to learn more about helping kids strengthen their emotion regulation skills and problem-solving brains while boosting their confidence, independence, and resilience? Check out my many training opportunities! https://drcarolinebuzanko.com/upcoming-events/

    15 min

  7. MAR 24

    233. The Hidden Skill Kids Need to Control Their Behaviour

    Children rarely “choose” big reactions. Most of the time, they simply don’t notice what is happening inside their body until it’s too late. In this episode of Overpowering Emotions, Dr. Caroline Buzanko explains how to teach kids one of the most important emotion regulation skills: self-monitoring. When children learn to recognize early body signals—tight shoulders, a racing heart, frustration rising—they gain the ability to pause and respond differently. That shift changes behaviour at school, improves friendships, and reduces daily power struggles at home. Dr. Caroline walks through practical ways adults can guide children to notice emotional signals, understand what their body is communicating, and choose strategies before reactions escalate. You’ll learn: • Why emotional awareness is the starting point for behaviour change • How “Hulk brain” takes over when kids miss early warning signs • The power of body-clue mapping and emotional awareness activities • How to create simple self-monitoring systems kids will actually use • Ways parents and teachers can reinforce progress without pressure These tools help children move from reacting automatically to responding with intention. If you support children who struggle with frustration, overwhelm, impulsive reactions, or emotional outbursts, this episode offers clear strategies you can begin using right away. Homework Activities for Adults Supporting KidsActivity 1: Body Clue MappingGoal: Help kids recognize early emotional signals. Steps: Print or draw a simple outline of a body.Ask the child to mark where they feel sensations during different emotions.Label the feelings connected to those sensations. Examples: Frustration → tight shoulders Anxiety → stomach knots Anger → hot face This builds awareness of body signals tied to emotions. Resources needed: • Printable body outline • Coloured pencils or markers Activity 2: Emotional Weather Check-InGoal: Help kids describe emotional states. Steps: Ask the child to choose weather that matches how they feel.Sunny = calmCloudy = worriedStormy = angryAdults can then ask: “What kind of gear would help for this weather?” Example: Stormy → break, water, breathing. Resources: • Weather chart or visuals Activity 3: Self-Coaching PracticeGoal: Build internal dialogue for regulation. Kids create their own phrases such as: “I can handle this.” “One step at a time.” “I can count to five.” Practice during calm moments first. Resources: • Small cue cards • Backpack or desk reminder Activity 4: Emotional Monitoring ChartGoal: Track awareness and progress. Steps: Choose one challenging moment (homework, transitions, bedtime).Create a simple chart.Kids record whether they noticed their feelings.Adults praise awareness, not perfection. Resources: • Printable chart • Stickers or markers Activity 5: If-Then Coping PlansGoal: Prepare responses to emotional triggers. Example: If I feel my heart racing Then I will count to 10 and take a drink of water. Write plans on small coping cards. Resources: • cue cards • marker Enjoying the show? Help out by rating this podcast on Apple to help others get access to this information too! apple.co/3ysFijh Follow Dr. Caroline YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carolinebuzanko IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.carolinebuzanko/ LinkedIn: https://ca.linkedin.com/in/dr-caroline-buzanko Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrCarolineBuzanko/ Website: https://drcarolinebuzanko.com/ Resources: https://drcarolinebuzanko.com/resources/articles-child-resilience-well-being-psychology/ Business inquiries: https://korupsychology.ca/contact-us/ Want to learn more about helping kids strengthen their emotion regulation skills and problem-solving brains while boosting their confidence, independence, and resilience? Check out my many training opportunities! https://drcarolinebuzanko.com/upcoming-events/

    23 min

  8. MAR 17

    232. Impulse Control vs Distress Tolerance | Which Skill Matters More?

    Self-monitoring is the skill that quietly changes everything: focus, impulse control, distress tolerance, and even conflict at home and school. In this Overpowering Emotions episode, Dr. Caroline teaches educators, parents, and mental health professionals how to build self-monitoring as a trainable skill—not a sticker chart, not a punishment, and not a “catch them when they’re already melting down” plan. You’ll learn how to start with behaviours kids already know (think: a task they can do on autopilot), set a clear target using Dr. Caroline’s SOAP criteria, create a simple tracking system, and use cues like timers or classroom chimes to help kids “pause and check.” You’ll also hear how to reinforce the right thing early on: accurate awareness, even when the child wasn’t on task. If you support kids with ADHD, anxiety, big feelings, classroom disruptions, or sibling conflict, this episode gives you practical language, ready-to-use examples, and a step-by-step way to grow independence—without nagging, shame, or power struggles. Homework activities for adults (plus resources to prep)Homework A: Pick the “easy win” targetChoose a behaviour during a task the child already knows well (not new learning).Write the target using SOAP:Specific: exactly what they will doObservable: you can see/hear itAppropriate: fits the settingPersonal: fits the child’s level Resource: a one-sentence target + a short list of examples/non-examples. Homework B: Build a simple self-monitoring formPick ONE method: Checklist (multi-step tasks like chores/writing)Rating scale (how well did I stay in my seat?)Tally count (each time I raised my hand) Resource: a paper tracking card or a simple note page; add smiley faces/stickers for younger kids. Homework C: Add a cueUse a timer, smartwatch, chime, or an adult signal (thumbs up).Start frequent (short intervals), then stretch it out gradually. Resource: phone timer or classroom chime; choose a cue word (“focus check,” “chore check”). Homework D: Reinforce accuracy, not perfectionWhen the cue goes off, compare adult rating + child rating.Reward matching ratings, even if the child marked “No, I wasn’t on track.” Resource: a small, immediate reinforcer list (attention, short break, points, sticker, choice). Homework E: Baseline + graph (optional, powerful)Track the behaviour for 3–5 occasions across several days.Graph it so the child can see progress. Resource: a simple bar chart on paper, or dots on a chart. Enjoying the show? Help out by rating this podcast on Apple to help others get access to this information too! apple.co/3ysFijh Follow Dr. Caroline YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carolinebuzanko IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.carolinebuzanko/ LinkedIn: https://ca.linkedin.com/in/dr-caroline-buzanko Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrCarolineBuzanko/ Website: https://drcarolinebuzanko.com/ Resources: https://drcarolinebuzanko.com/resources/articles-child-resilience-well-being-psychology/ Business inquiries: https://korupsychology.ca/contact-us/ Want to learn more about helping kids strengthen their emotion regulation skills and problem-solving brains while boosting their confidence, independence, and resilience? Check out my many training opportunities! https://drcarolinebuzanko.com/upcoming-events/

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Practical, science-based strategies to help kids and teens manage anxiety, navigate big feelings, and build resilience. Overpowering Emotions is the #1 resource for adults who want to confidently support children and teens through emotional challenges.Children and teens today are struggling with more anxiety, overwhelm, and emotional intensity than ever before—and adults are desperate for tools that actually work. This podcast is here to change that.Dr. Caroline gives you the knowledge and tools you need to support children and teens through anxiety, emotional overwhelm, and everyday challenges. Whether you’re a parent, educator, clinician, or caregiver, you’ll learn exactly what to do (and what not to do) right away to help young people feel calmer, braver, and more capable.Each episode delivers:• Clear, practical steps you can use immediately• Expert interviews with leading psychologists and researchers• Real-life examples that make complex concepts easy to understand• Tools for emotional regulation, anxiety mastery, confidence-building, and resilience• Effective approaches for home, school, and clinical settingsIf you’ve ever wished for a trusted guide to help you navigate child and teen anxiety, emotional outbursts, and overwhelming emotions, you’ve just found it.Subscribe now and join the movement to help the next generation thrive.About Dr. Caroline BuzankoDr. Caroline is a psychologist, researcher, speaker, and internationally recognized expert in child and teen anxiety. With more than 25 years of experience supporting children, teens, and families, she is known for her ability to translate cutting-edge research into practical, compassionate strategies that make a meaningful impact.In 2024, Dr. Caroline was honoured as Alberta’s Psychologist of the Year, a recognition that reflects her significant contributions to advancing child and youth mental health practices. Often called the “Yoda of anxiety,” she blends scientific evidence, clinical expertise, and real-world tools to help young people build confidence, emotional regulation, and lifelong resilience.

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