I Wish You Knew

Adam Lane Smith & Andrey Korikov
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Join the duo, Andrey Korikov, and Adam Lane Smith The Attachment Specialist, as they cut through the noise with bold, unfiltered discussions on love, connection, and relationships. From questions about love, psychology, and relationships to discussing the latest shifts in the culture and media, they’ll cover it all. If you’re ready for a podcast that’s as insightful and real as it gets—buckle up and get ready to rethink everything you thought you knew about relationships!

  1. 1D AGO

    The Real Reason Men Are Terrified of Fatherhood | Devin Schadt and Adam Lane Smith

    Why would a man embrace marriage and fatherhood in 2026? Most men are not asking that question with curiosity. They are asking it with exhaustion. They have heard a thousand reasons why marriage is a trap, why fatherhood is a burden, and why the risk is not worth the reward. And almost nobody is giving them a reason to say yes. Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, sits down with Devin Schadt, Executive Director of Fathers of Saint Joseph, for a conversation about what fatherhood actually is, why men are starving for it without knowing it, and why the crisis at the center of every social, financial, and cultural problem in America traces back to one thing: the absence of fathers. What you will learn in this conversation: 1- Why masculinity finds its fulfillment in spiritual fatherhood and what that means for men who have never heard it framed that way 2- What the statistics on fatherless homes actually show and why every major social crisis connects back to this one root 3- Why men are wired for mission and what happens to a man's nervous system when that mission is denied or never given to him 4- Why living in relationship is the hardest and most necessary thing a man can do and why his instinct to solve and complete works against him 5- Why trust in God the Father is the foundation of becoming a father worth trusting and what that looks like in daily life 6- How a man leads his wife in a way that she follows eagerly and why most men have never been shown what that actually looks like 7- Why loneliness precedes depression in men and what the research says about isolation versus solitude 8- The five practical steps for building real brotherhood with other men and why most men's groups fail before they start 9- Why the mission of fatherhood is the one thing that can unite men across every political, cultural, and ideological divide If you are a man wondering whether marriage and fatherhood are worth it, or a father who is already in it and not sure he is doing it right, this conversation is going to give you something the culture has stopped offering: a reason to say yes. 📚 WORK WITH ME 💬 1:1 COACHING Work directly with my team: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=5/7 📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/attachment-quiz-organic/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=5/7 📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns:  https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=5/7 Connect with Adam on your second preferred platform: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  X: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith  Threads: https://www.threads.com/@attachmentadam  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/  I Wish You Knew Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCh_uRUnpQwNZb_WG76TxTTw?sub_confirmation=1 Devin Schadt: Link: www.fathersofstjoseph.org https://www.instagram.com/fathersofstjoseph/ https://www.facebook.com/fathersofstjoseph New book: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/?srsltid=AfmBOop4QoDaN1IppaIPsTNLWy2PqJ9gaTU00QcJrEFGynRdUgZtSbS1

    1h 17m

  2. MAY 1

    Why Nice Guys Finish Last | Marni Kinrys and Adam Lane Smith

    Most men today are doing everything they have been told to do to attract a woman. They are being kind, accommodating, agreeable, and endlessly pleasing. And it is working against them every single time. Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, sits down with Marni Kinrys, dating coach and wing girl to men for over 22 years, for one of the most honest and practical conversations about what women actually feel on a date, why nice guys keep finishing last, and what the science says about why the very thing men think is working is exactly what is destroying their chances. What you will learn in this conversation: 1- Why a woman's attraction can completely reverse within minutes of a first impression and what actually changes it 2- The four S's that create attraction in women and why most men are accidentally hitting zero of them 3- Why a nervous man does not just fail to attract a woman but actively makes her feel unsafe and what her nervous system does as a result 4- Why a woman who soothes a nervous man on a first date has already decided she will never sleep with him 5- Why nice guys are training women to see them as employees instead of leaders and what that costs them in every relationship 6- Why avoidant men are not just born that way and how anxious men are actually creating avoidant women without knowing it 7- What vasopressin bonding is why men can only get it from other men and what happens when they never do 8- Why the CEO and COO model of marriage is the only dynamic that actually makes both people happy 9- What Marni's husband finally understood after she sent him ten Instagram posts that changed everything between them If you are a man who has been working hard to make women happy and wondering why it never seems to work, or a woman who wants to finally understand why the men she loves keep getting it wrong, this conversation will give you both the answer and the path forward. 📚 WORK WITH ME 💬 1:1 COACHING Work directly with my team: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/30 📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/attachment-quiz-organic/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/30 📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns:  https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/30 Connect with Adam on your second preferred platform: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  X: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith  Threads: https://www.threads.com/@attachmentadam  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/  I Wish You Knew Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCh_uRUnpQwNZb_WG76TxTTw?sub_confirmation=1

    1h 5m
  3. Why Christian Men Are So Anxious In Dating | Franco Fernandez & Adam Lane Smith

    APR 24

    Why Christian Men Are So Anxious In Dating | Franco Fernandez & Adam Lane Smith

    Most young men today have never had a real conversation about relationships with another man who actually knows what he is talking about. This episode is that conversation. Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, sits down with Franco Fernandez, a 24 year old Catholic content creator with a large social media following, for one of the most raw and honest coaching sessions the show has ever done. Franco came in thinking he was just anxiously attached. What came out was something much more layered, much more human, and much more relatable than either of them expected. What you will learn in this conversation: 1- Why young men today are trying to reverse engineer something they were never shown from the inside and why that is not their fault 2- How anxious and avoidant tendencies pull in opposite directions at the same time and what that looks like in real dating situations Why performing to make someone like you is the exact thing that prevents real connection from ever forming 4- Why chasing the hardest to get woman is not always confidence and what it might actually be rooted in 5- The difference between a feelings based relationship and a real one and why feelings alone will always leave you in the airport alone 6- Why asking questions with context is the single most powerful tool for building intimacy and how most men never learn to do it 7- What it actually looks like to stop performing and start being a human being with another human being 8- Why the men and women who want the same things keep completely missing each other and what is actually in the way 9- What it means to need proof that people can love you when you are not performing and why almost every young person needs that proof right now If you are a young man trying to figure out how relationships actually work without anyone to show you, this conversation will give you more clarity than years of trying to figure it out alone. 📚 WORK WITH ME 💬 1:1 COACHING Work directly with my team: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/23 📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/attachment-quiz-organic/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/23 📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns:  https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/23 Connect with Adam on your second preferred platform: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  X: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith  Threads: https://www.threads.com/@attachmentadam  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/  I Wish You Knew Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCh_uRUnpQwNZb_WG76TxTTw?sub_confirmation=1

    1h 45m
  4. Inside the Mind of an Avoidant Woman: Dating, Motherhood and Business

    APR 17

    Inside the Mind of an Avoidant Woman: Dating, Motherhood and Business

    Most people ask if avoidant women even exist. They do. And this conversation is one of the most honest and revealing looks at what avoidant attachment actually looks like from the inside of a woman who lives it every day. Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, sits down with Carly Randall, a self-identified avoidant woman and strategic business partner, for a live coaching session that covers everything from two avoidant partners trying to make a relationship work, to avoidant mothering, to why asking if you would still love me if I was a bug is actually one of the healthiest things an avoidant woman has ever said. What you will learn in this conversation: 1- What avoidant attachment actually looks like in a woman and why men so often mistake it for selfishness 2- Why avoidant women lose respect for anxious partners and what that tells you about what they actually need 3- What happens when two avoidant people get together and why it can actually work with the right systems in place 4- Why the black and white switch of I am all in or I am completely done is one of the most dangerous patterns for avoidant women and what to do about it 5- The difference between taking space to regulate and taking space to dodge and how to tell which one you are doing 6- How avoidant mothering shows up in real life and what the biggest risks are for the children of avoidant parents 7- Why telling your kids mommy needs a break without giving them context is one of the most damaging things you can accidentally do 8- Why an avoidant woman suddenly asking for reassurance is not a sign she is becoming anxious but a sign she is finally becoming secure 9- Why the feeling that you do not want to be a burden is actually rooted in adoption and early abandonment and what it is really asking for If you have ever wondered whether avoidant women are real, what they feel, how they parent, and whether they can actually build a deep loving relationship, this is the episode you have been waiting for. 📚 WORK WITH ME 🫂 RELATIONSHIP MASTERY INTENSIVE April 23–26, 2026 | San Diego, California 4 days of real skill-building with people who understand exactly what you're going through. Apply here: https://adamlanesmith.com/retreat-new/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/16 💬 1:1 COACHING Work directly with my team: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/16 📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/attachment-quiz-organic/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/16 📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns:  https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/16 Connect with Adam on your second preferred platform: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  X: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith  Threads: https://www.threads.com/@attachmentadam  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/  I Wish You Knew Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCh_uRUnpQwNZb_WG76TxTTw?sub_confirmation=1

    1h 25m
  5. Why You Attract the Wrong Men | Celebrity Matchmaker Alessandra Conti and Adam Lane Smith

    APR 11

    Why You Attract the Wrong Men | Celebrity Matchmaker Alessandra Conti and Adam Lane Smith

    Are you tired of going on endless first dates that go nowhere? Sick of swiping through apps that seem to get more exhausting and less satisfying every year? You are not alone, and this conversation is going to change the way you think about finding a partner entirely. Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, sits down with Alessandra Conti, celebrity matchmaker and founder of Matchmakers in the City, for one of the most honest and practical conversations about modern dating you will find anywhere. With nearly 14 years of experience working with celebrities, royals, and high profile clients, Alessandra has seen every pattern, every mistake, and every thing that actually works when it comes to finding the right person. What you will learn in this conversation: 1- Why dating apps are not the problem but the way almost everyone uses them is 2- What matchmaking actually is and why guided courtship has worked for all of human history while modern dating has been failing for 100 years 3- Why building female community before dating men is one of the most important things a single woman can do and why so many women resist it 4- Why no sex until monogamy is not just a values decision but a strategic one that protects your heart, your judgment, and your future 5- How good men actually respond when a woman holds her boundaries and what it tells you immediately about whether he is worth your time 6- The most destructive thing women think they are looking for in a man and what they actually need instead 7- Why men with a plan are the most attractive men in any room and what that means in practice 8- What women should never do on a first date if they actually like the man and the surprising thing they should do if they do not 9- Why both men and women are walking around wanting the same thing and completely failing to find each other and what to do about it If you have ever felt like the modern dating world was designed to keep you single, this conversation will show you exactly why that feeling is right and what the alternative actually looks like. 📚 WORK WITH ME 🫂 RELATIONSHIP MASTERY INTENSIVE April 23–26, 2026 | San Diego, California 4 days of real skill-building with people who understand exactly what you're going through. Apply here: https://adamlanesmith.com/retreat-new/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/9 💬 1:1 COACHING Work directly with my team: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/9 📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/attachment-quiz-organic/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/9 📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns:  https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/9 Connect with Adam on your second preferred platform: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  X: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith  Threads: https://www.threads.com/@attachmentadam  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/  I Wish You Knew Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCh_uRUnpQwNZb_WG76TxTTw?sub_confirmation=1

    1h 17m
  6. Gabby Reece ALMOST Got a Divorce at 30... Then Did THIS | Attachment Psychology Explained

    APR 3

    Gabby Reece ALMOST Got a Divorce at 30... Then Did THIS | Attachment Psychology Explained

    Most people online will tell you that being feminine means being weak, giving something up, or falling into the background. This conversation is nothing like that. Adam Lane Smith sits down with Gabby Reece, professional volleyball legend, model, author, and host of The Gabby Show, for one of the most grounded and honest conversations about what it actually means to be a feminine woman in the modern world. No performance. No agenda. Just a woman who has spent decades figuring out who she is and is willing to show you exactly what that looks like from the inside. What you'll learn in this conversation: 1- Why femininity looks different for every woman and why trying to copy someone else's version is the wrong starting point 2- How Gabby straddled the worlds of elite sports and modeling at 18 and what that taught her about owning both sides of herself 3- Why the word submissive has been misunderstood and what it actually means when you choose it from a place of strength 5- How Gabby almost divorced Laird Hamilton at 30, what she did instead, and the 25 years of relationship that followed 6- What shiny eyes are and why this one simple habit has kept their relationship alive and exciting for over 30 years 7- Why women are afraid to ask themselves what they actually want and what gets lost when they stop asking 8- How to have hard conversations with a strong man without it turning into a battle 9- Why self care is not selfish and how reframing it changes everything for mothers and partners 10- What strong women should actually be looking for in a man and why values matter far more than status or money If you have ever wondered whether you can be strong, capable, and fully feminine all at the same time, this conversation will show you that not only is it possible, it is the whole point. 📚 WORK WITH ME 🫂 RELATIONSHIP MASTERY INTENSIVE April 23–27, 2026 | San Diego, California 4 days of real skill-building with people who understand exactly what you're going through. Apply here: https://adamlanesmith.com/retreat-new/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/2 💬 1:1 COACHING Work directly with my team: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/2 📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/attachment-quiz-organic/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/2 📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns:  https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/2 Connect with Adam on your second preferred platform: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  X: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith  Threads: https://www.threads.com/@attachmentadam  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/  I Wish You Knew Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCh_uRUnpQwNZb_WG76TxTTw?sub_confirmation=1

    1h 2m
  7. The CEO and COO Model | Tom & Lisa Bilyeu and Adam Lane Smith

    MAR 26

    The CEO and COO Model | Tom & Lisa Bilyeu and Adam Lane Smith

    Most couples you see online are either performing for the camera or fighting for the clicks. This conversation is nothing like that. Adam Lane Smith sits down with Tom and Lisa Bilyeu, co-founders of Quest Nutrition and hosts of Impact Theory and Women of Impact, for one of the most honest conversations about marriage you'll find anywhere on the internet. No highlight reel. No performance. Just two people who have been building a life together for 25 years, and are willing to show you exactly what that has looked like, the hard parts included. What you'll learn in this conversation: 1- Why happy couples are invisible online and what that's doing to everyone's idea of what love is supposed to look like 2- How Tom and Lisa met, why they both assumed it wouldn't last, and the moment that changed everything 3- Why Lisa stayed silent for eight years and the one sentence she finally said that pivoted their entire lives 4- The CEO and COO model of marriage and why treating your relationship like a business might actually save it 5- What happened when Lisa became the boss of 40 ex-convicts and accidentally brought that energy home to her husband 6- What Tom actually needed after working 120-hour weeks that Lisa didn't know how to give him and how they figured it out 7- The post-it note system they built so Tom always knows what Lisa needs when she comes to him with a problem 8- Why the most dangerous moment in a marriage is when one partner starts outgrowing the dynamic and what to do before it breaks you 9- What legacy actually means when you strip away the ego and why Tom thinks most people are quietly fooling themselves about being remembered If you've ever wondered what it looks like when two people genuinely love each other, fight for each other, and keep choosing each other through the hard stuff, this is that conversation. 📚 WORK WITH ME 🫂 RELATIONSHIP MASTERY INTENSIVE April 23–27, 2026 | San Diego, California 4 days of real skill-building with people who understand exactly what you're going through. Apply here: https://adamlanesmith.com/retreat-new/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=3/27 💬 1:1 COACHING Work directly with my team: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=3/27 📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/attachment-quiz-organic/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=3/27 📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns:  https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=3/27 Connect with Adam on your second preferred platform: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  X: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith  Threads: https://www.threads.com/@attachmentadam  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/  I Wish You Knew Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCh_uRUnpQwNZb_WG76TxTTw?sub_confirmation=1

    1h 27m
  8. Is He a Narcissist or Just Avoidant? | Dr. Leslie Dobson & Adam Lane Smith

    MAR 20

    Is He a Narcissist or Just Avoidant? | Dr. Leslie Dobson & Adam Lane Smith

    Most people online will tell you your partner is a narcissist because he didn't text back fast enough. This conversation is nothing like that. Adam Lane Smith sits down with Dr. Leslie Dobson, forensic psychologist and court-appointed expert who has spent her career inside prisons, jails, and psych hospitals assessing the most dangerous individuals in the system, to give you a reality-based answer to the question so many people are afraid to ask: am I actually in danger? What you'll learn in this conversation: 1- Why true narcissistic personality disorder is rare and why misusing the term puts people at real risk 2- What coercive control actually is, and why a federal judge needed to hear that it's more dangerous than physical violence 3- How to tell the difference between an avoidant partner and an actual predator 4- What narcissists are scanning for in a potential target and why certain attachment wounds make you more visible to them 5- Why the 10% good moments in a toxic relationship are not evidence that things can change 6- How isolation works, why it happens so gradually, and what it takes to reconnect with the people who knew you before 7- What forensic journaling looks like and why it might be the most important thing you do if you're not sure yet 8- Why building community is the only real protection against narcissistic predators and the science behind why 9- If you've been questioning whether your relationship is unhealthy or whether you're overreacting, this episode will give you the clarity you've been looking for. If you've been questioning whether your relationship is unhealthy or whether you're overreacting, this episode will give you the clarity you've been looking for. 📚 WORK WITH ME 👉 FREE 90-minute Masterclass - Save your spot https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/masterclass-signup?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=3/20 🫂 RELATIONSHIP MASTERY INTENSIVE April 23–27, 2026 | San Diego, California 3 days of real skill-building with people who understand exactly what you're going through. Apply here: https://adamlanesmith.com/retreat-new/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=3/20 💬 1:1 COACHING Work directly with my team: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=3/20 📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/attachment-quiz-organic/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=3/20 📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns:  https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=3/20 Join this channel to get access to perks: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg/join

    1h 18m
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Join the duo, Andrey Korikov, and Adam Lane Smith The Attachment Specialist, as they cut through the noise with bold, unfiltered discussions on love, connection, and relationships. From questions about love, psychology, and relationships to discussing the latest shifts in the culture and media, they’ll cover it all. If you’re ready for a podcast that’s as insightful and real as it gets—buckle up and get ready to rethink everything you thought you knew about relationships!

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  • Creator
    Adam Lane Smith & Andrey Korikov
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    100
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © Copyright 2023 All rights reserved.
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    I Wish You Knew

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