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Beyond Mommy Dearest is a podcast for adult daughters navigating the complicated, often painful reality of difficult, emotionally immature, or narcissistic mothers. Hosted by a trauma-informed leadership coach, this show explores the long-term impact of mother-daughter wounds, boundary setting, grief, identity, and healing beyond blame. Through honest conversations, education, and lived experience, Beyond Mommy Dearest helps listeners reconnect with themselves, trust their instincts, and move forward with clarity, compassion, and strength.

  1. Male Narcissistic Abuse Survivor Story: Covert Narcissist Wife, Gaslighting, Financial Abuse & Smear Campaigns

    2D AGO

    Male Narcissistic Abuse Survivor Story: Covert Narcissist Wife, Gaslighting, Financial Abuse & Smear Campaigns

    Reach out! You don't have to explain how crazy she was. We believe you!!! Male Narcissistic Abuse Survivor Story: Covert Narcissist Wife,  Gaslighting, Financial  Abuse & Smear Campaigns 🎙️ Abuse has no gender. In this powerful episode of the Beyond Mommy Dearest Podcast, Noelani sits down with Doug Buggle, featured in The Narcissist Playbook, to talk about surviving covert narcissistic abuse, navigating the aftermath of psychological manipulation, and rebuilding self-trust after years of emotional chaos. Doug shares his firsthand experience of being married to a covert narcissist, the confusion and trauma that followed, and the difficult journey through divorce and healing. Together, they unpack the difference between toxic relationships and true narcissistic abuse, how trauma impacts the nervous system, and why survivors often question their own reality long after the relationship ends. The conversation also explores co-parenting, emotional safety, gaslighting, recovery, and what healthy relationships can actually look like after surviving abuse. This episode is a reminder that survivors come in all genders and healing is possible. ✨ Topics Include: • Covert narcissistic abuse • Male survivors of abuse • Gaslighting and psychological manipulation • Trauma and nervous system responses • Co-parenting after toxic relationships • Rebuilding self-trust • Healing from emotional abuse • What healthy conflict looks like 🎧 New episode drops Friday. Doug's Book - https://amzn.to/4dhDnSr Doug's Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dougbuggle/ Beyond Mommy Dearest - https://www.instagram.com/beyondmommydearest/ The Narcissist's Playbook purchase film - https://www.narcissistsplaybook.com/short-trailer-landing-page?utm_source=weeks_aff_hernandez Heal with Beyond Mommy Dearest -  https://www.beyondmommydearest.org/monthlysupport This episode's sponsored by https://thehappycannabus.com Promo code BMD20 Support the show

    1h 58m
  2. When Your Own Family Betrays You: The Breaking Point That Leads to No Contact

    MAY 1

    When Your Own Family Betrays You: The Breaking Point That Leads to No Contact

    Reach out! You don't have to explain how crazy she was. We believe you!!! When Your Own Family Betrays You: The Breaking Point That Leads to No Contact In this episode, we’re talking about the kind of betrayal that changes everything. Joy shares the moment she uprooted her life to take care of her family… only to be discarded without warning. No conversation. No accountability. Just a notice on her door giving her 30 days to leave. This isn’t just about conflict.    This is about calculated harm, control, and the reality of what happens when narcissistic family dynamics reach a breaking point. We also dive into:  • What it feels like to be used and then discarded  • The guilt of being “the only one left” to take care of your parents  • How narcissistic parents rewrite reality to justify their behavior  • The moment clarity hits and you finally say, “I’m done”  • What it takes to start healing after deep betrayal This episode is raw, honest, and validating for anyone who has ever questioned their reality or stayed too long out of guilt. Key Takeaways: Betrayal from family hits differently, especially when you’ve been conditioned to stayNarcissistic dynamics often involve control, tracking, and rewriting the narrativeGuilt is one of the biggest barriers to going no contactYou are not responsible for sacrificing your life to take care of people who harm youWalking away is not weakness, it’s clarityIf this episode resonated, make sure to follow, rate, and share with someone who needs to hear this. Follow Joy: https://www.instagram.com/the.joy.edit/ Follow us: https://www.instagram.com/beyondmommydearest Follow our sponsor: https://www.instagram.com/thehappycannabus/ Buy the squish in the episode: https://amzn.to/3QTHgFt Support the show

    1h 19m
  3. You Didn’t Imagine It: The Reality of Narcissistic Mothers and Emotional Abuse With The Narcissist’s Daughter Kylie B

    APR 24

    You Didn’t Imagine It: The Reality of Narcissistic Mothers and Emotional Abuse With The Narcissist’s Daughter Kylie B

    Reach out! You don't have to explain how crazy she was. We believe you!!! Episode Summary In this powerful and deeply validating conversation, Noelani sits down with Kylie B., author of The Narcissist’s Daughter, to explore what it really means to grow up with a narcissistic mother and the long road to healing. Kylie shares her journey from confusion and self-blame to clarity, self-trust, and ultimately going no contact. Together, they unpack the emotional, psychological, and physical toll of narcissistic abuse—and what it takes to rebuild your identity when it’s been shaped by survival. This episode is a reminder that healing is not linear, that your experience is real, and that you are not alone. Key Topics Discussed What it’s like growing up without language for narcissistic abuseThe moment everything “clicks” and you realize your experience isn’t normalThe long, emotional process of going no contactGuilt, grief, and the internalized voice that follows survivorsRebuilding identity when you were never allowed to fully form oneThe impact of hypervigilance and emotional exhaustionLearning to trust your body and emotions againThe role of chosen family and safe relationships in healingInner child work and reconnecting with the selfWhy healing is a lifelong journey—not a destination Important Links Kylie’s Books https://www.narcissistsdaughter.com The Narcissist's Daughter : From Breakdown to Breakthrough - https://amzn.to/4mPYPCk The Little Phoenix: A Story of Finding Home - https://amzn.to/3QsQgBk Ellie the Little Phoenix: A Story of Finding Home - https://amzn.to/42wLoh7 The Phoenix Rising Journal Hardcover – https://amzn.to/3Oq5cQa The Shuppy - https://www.instagram.com/reel/DWpXuzrDg27/?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ== Social Media https://www.instagram.com/beyondmommydearest/ https://www.instagram.com/narcissists_daughter/ https://www.facebook.com/BeyondMommyDearest https://www.facebook.com/narcsdaughter Drop in Session Special with Beyond Mommy Dearest - https://square.link/u/xLH1UGGe?src=sheet Support the show

    57 min
  4. The Link Between Narcissistic Abuse and Chronic Pain (How Trauma Lives in the Body)

    APR 17

    The Link Between Narcissistic Abuse and Chronic Pain (How Trauma Lives in the Body)

    Reach out! You don't have to explain how crazy she was. We believe you!!! 🎙️ Let’s Get Your Shift Together: Healing from Narcissistic Abuse & Rebuilding Self-Trust In this episode, we’re talking with Adriana Bucci about the kind of shift that actually changes your life, not the surface-level “just think positive” kind, but the deep, nervous-system, identity-level shift that happens when you start untangling from narcissistic conditioning. Because let’s be honest… when you were raised by a narcissistic mother, your “normal” was never actually normal. 💥 What We Get Into: Why healing isn’t about becoming someone new, it’s about coming back to who you were before survival took overHow narcissistic conditioning shapes your thoughts, reactions, and sense of selfThe difference between coping mechanisms and true healingWhy awareness alone isn’t enough and what actually creates changeThe subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways your nervous system keeps you stuckWhat it looks like to shift from survival mode into self-trust🧠 Key Truths From This Episode: Your patterns are not personality flaws, they are adaptationsYou don’t need to fix yourself, you need to understand yourselfHealing is not linear, but it is possibleYou are allowed to outgrow roles you were forced intoThe shift happens when you stop abandoning yourself🔥 A Moment That Hits: There’s a point where you realize… it wasn’t you. And everything starts to change after that. 🛠️ Connect with Adriana https://www.instagram.com/letsgetyourshifttogether/ https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/ 💬 Stay Connected: If this episode resonated, share it with someone who needs it. Follow, rate, and review so more survivors can find this space. 🌿 Support the Show: This episode is brought to you by our partners who support healing, growth, and showing up differently in your life. https://www.buzzsprout.com/2590296/support https://square.link/u/ffcpNoTz 🎧 Don’t Miss What’s Next: New episodes drop every Friday. Make sure you’re subscribed so you don’t miss what’s coming next. Support the show

    47 min
  5. How Narcissistic Mothers Create Anxiety, Perfectionism, and the Fear of Going No Contact with Kirsten Cheong

    APR 10

    How Narcissistic Mothers Create Anxiety, Perfectionism, and the Fear of Going No Contact with Kirsten Cheong

    Reach out! You don't have to explain how crazy she was. We believe you!!! In this episode, Noelani sits down with therapist Kirsten Cheong, LMFT, Certified Narcissistic Abuse Treatment Clinician, for a grounded and validating conversation about what it really means to grow up with a narcissistic or emotionally immature parent. They explore how anxiety, perfectionism, fawning, hypervigilance, and overthinking often trace back to childhood environments where safety depended on reading the room, staying small, and keeping a parent regulated. Kirsten shares how her early clinical work with adults in addiction treatment and children in foster care helped her see the long-term throughline of trauma, especially the way childhood emotional abuse often shows up later as relationship anxiety, people-pleasing, and internalized fear. She explains why many high-functioning adults look calm on the outside while internally spiraling, and how that pattern can be a survival strategy rooted in narcissistic family systems. Together, Noelani and Kirsten talk about fawning as a nervous system response, the impact of walking on eggshells, the way narcissistic parents block healthy individuation, and how survivors often struggle with authenticity because they were never allowed to safely become themselves. They also discuss the “introjected parent,” that harsh internal voice that keeps policing behavior long after the parent is no longer present. The conversation also goes deep into no contact. Kirsten shares why she created her guide for cycle breakers considering no contact with family, especially for those carrying guilt, shame, and cultural conditioning around being a “good daughter” or “good son.” Both Noelani and Kirsten are clear that no contact is a personal choice, not a mandate, but they name how life-changing it can be for people leaving abusive family systems. They also talk honestly about the limits of AI in healing work, the importance of finding a therapist who truly understands narcissistic abuse, and why feeling cared for in a therapeutic relationship matters so much for survivors. In This Episode, We Talk About How anxiety and perfectionism can grow out of narcissistic family systemsWhy high-functioning survivors often look fine on the outside but are overwhelmed insideFawning, hypervigilance, and constant scanning for dangerThe long-term effects of walking on eggshellsWhy narcissistic parents see autonomy and authenticity as a threatThe “introjected parent” and the critical voice survivors carry insideHow guilt keeps adult children stuck in abusive patternsWhat it can look like to choose no contactWhy therapy with the right fit matters so much in narcissistic abuse recovery About the Guest Kirsten Cheong is a licensed therapist in California and a Certified Narcissistic Abuse Treatment Clinician. She specializes in working with high-functioning, anxious, perfectionistic adults, especially daughters of narcissistic mothers and survivors of emotionally immature family systems. Resources Mentioned Beyond Mommy Dearest - Noelani Pearl HernandezBeyond Mommy Dearest Instagram Beyond Mommy Dearest WebsiteDrop in Session Special - $19.99Kirsten’s Guide for Going No Contact with FamilyKristen's InstagramSupport the show

    1h 18m
  6. When Healing Goes Deeper: Understanding Trauma Beyond the Mind with Heather Cypel

    APR 3

    When Healing Goes Deeper: Understanding Trauma Beyond the Mind with Heather Cypel

    Reach out! You don't have to explain how crazy she was. We believe you!!! When Healing Goes Deeper: Understanding Trauma Beyond the Mind with Heather Cypel In this episode, we sit down with Heather Cypel, an intuitive psyche specialist, energy body specialist, and sacred union coach. Heather’s work focuses on the connection between the energy body, the psyche, and the physical experience, and how unresolved patterns can shape how we think, feel, and move through the world. Heather’s journey into this work began through her own healing. After experiencing health challenges that traditional medicine couldn’t resolve, she turned to energy work and became deeply committed to understanding the relationship between human behavior, the psyche, and the energetic body. With a background in history, anthropology, and a lifelong study of human behavioral patterns, Heather now helps others explore the deeper layers of their experiences and begin shifting patterns at the energetic level. ✨ About Her Work Heather offers a range of services designed to support emotional, relational, and energetic healing. Her work centers on creating space for clients to understand their patterns, release what feels stuck, and reconnect with themselves in a more intentional way. Her services include: Energy sessions focused on the energy body and stored patternsExploration sessions and coaching around emotional and behavioral dynamicsRelationship and sacred union coachingClasses and trainings on energetic and spiritual conceptsTrauma-focused energy recordings to support release and integrationHer approach is rooted in the belief that healing happens when we begin to understand what we’ve been carrying… and allow it to move. 🔗 Connect with Heather Website: https://www.heathercypel.com/about-heather.html Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heather.cypel/ 🌿 What We Explore in This Episode The energy body as a blueprint for lived experienceHow trauma can become stored and show up as patternsThe connection between the psyche, energy, and behaviorWhat it looks like to begin releasing what’s been held💛 Support the Podcast If this episode resonated with you, make sure to follow and subscribe to Beyond Mommy Dearest so you don’t miss upcoming conversations. You can also follow us on Instagram for more trauma-informed content, reflections, and updates from the community. Your support helps us continue creating these conversations and reaching more people who need them. Support the show

    51 min
  7. Narcissistic Abuse & the Nervous System: Why Healing Feels So Hard (and Why You’re Not the Problem) | With Alea Coburn

    MAR 27

    Narcissistic Abuse & the Nervous System: Why Healing Feels So Hard (and Why You’re Not the Problem) | With Alea Coburn

    Reach out! You don't have to explain how crazy she was. We believe you!!! Narcissistic Abuse & the Nervous System: Why Healing Feels So Hard (and Why You’re Not the Problem) | With Alea Coburn 🎧 Show Notes What is the real cost of healing after narcissistic abuse? In this deeply honest and emotional episode of Beyond Mommy Dearest, Noelani sits down with Alea Coburn to talk about what it actually feels like to heal after growing up with a narcissistic and emotionally neglectful mother. We explore the concept of choosing peace at the cost of aloneness, and why for many survivors, being alone can feel safer than being unseen, dismissed, or emotionally erased. Alea shares her personal story of survival, including the physical impact of trauma on her body, experiences with performative care, and the moment she realized she could no longer stay in relationships that compromised her well-being. Together, we unpack: Why narcissistic abuse is so difficult to name How shame gets internalized in daughters of narcissistic mothers What “social invisibility” does to your nervous system The difference between real care and performative care How trauma shows up physically in the body Why anger is not toxic, but a source of wisdom Red flags in relationships that survivors often miss The emotional cost of staying vs. the courage it takes to leave This episode is raw, validating, and at times intense, but it is also deeply empowering. If you’ve ever felt like you were “too much,” “too sensitive,” or responsible for your own pain, this conversation will help you begin to untangle what was never yours to carry. 💬 Key Takeaways You are not too much. You were unmet. Your body is not broken. It is responding to what you lived through. Anger is not the problem. It is information. Being alone is sometimes the first step to no longer being invisible. Healing may feel isolating, but it is also where you begin to come home to yourself 🧠 What We Talk About Narcissistic mothers and emotional neglect Nervous system dysregulation and trauma responses Shame, identity, and overcompensation Performative care vs. real support Physical symptoms of emotional abuse Red flags in relationships Boundaries, anger, and self-trust Choosing aloneness as a path to healing 🔗 Work With Alea + Learn More Alea Coburn is a truth-teller, pattern seer, abuse survivor, and advocate who helps women rebuild trust, intuition, and health after narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, and systemic trauma. Her work is for women who feel unmet, unseen, and ready to reclaim themselves. ✨ Connect + Explore: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rusticpeach/ Website: aleatamar.com Substack: aleacoburn.substack.com YouTube: youtube.com/@aleacoburn Self-Reprogramming Toolkit + Offerings: Available via her website Live Event: Building Attunement For Her (2nd Run – April 3) 🔗 Resources + Links Follow the podcast: Beyond Mommy Dearest Work with Noelani: www.beyondmommydearest.com Follow the instagrm: https://www.instagram.com/beyondmommydearest/ Support the show

    1h 14m
  8. Too Sensitive or Trauma Alert? Intuition, Narcissistic Abuse, and Healing with Spiritbird Holton

    MAR 20

    Too Sensitive or Trauma Alert? Intuition, Narcissistic Abuse, and Healing with Spiritbird Holton

    Reach out! You don't have to explain how crazy she was. We believe you!!! 🎙️ Too Sensitive or Trauma Alert? Intuition, Narcissistic Abuse, and Healing with Spiritbird Holton ✨ Episode Summary In this powerful and grounding conversation, I sit down with Spiritbird Holten, a shaman and intuitive guide who has spent over two decades helping people navigate emotional pressure, relational dynamics, and major life transitions. We explore what it really means to reconnect with your intuition after growing up in environments that taught you not to trust yourself. If you were conditioned to put others first, question your instincts, or believe everything was your fault, this episode will hit deep. Spiritbird breaks down how emotional patterns are formed, why so many of us feel disconnected from our inner knowing, and what it actually looks like to begin coming back home to yourself in a way that is real, grounded, and sustainable. 🔑 What We Talk About What a shaman is in real, everyday languageHow trauma and conditioning disconnect us from intuitionWhy you were taught to doubt yourself and how to undo itThe difference between fear and inner knowingEmotional patterns that keep you stuck in overwhelm and confusionReclaiming your voice, your truth, and your sense of selfWhat it looks like to move through life with more clarity, peace, and trust🧠 Key Takeaways You are not broken, you were conditionedYour intuition did not disappear, it was overriddenHealing is not about becoming someone new, it is about returning to who you wereYou can learn to trust yourself again, even if it feels unfamiliar🌿 Connect with Spiritbird Holton 🔗 Explore her work and offerings: https://holtonhealingarts.com/links/?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio 🧘‍♀️ Emotional Reset (signature tool for overwhelm + clarity): https://pages.holtonhealingarts.com/the-reset_gl=1*1s3uo9w*_ga*MTg4NjM0ODQzMi4xNzcxMDE3Njk4*_ga_PGB8ETED8J*czE3NzM4ODQ5NDQkbzMkZzAkdDE3NzM4ODQ5NDQkajYwJGwwJGgw*_ga_D7ZY8MJJ9V*czE3NzM4ODQ5NDQkbzMkZzAkdDE3NzM4ODQ5NDQkajYwJGwwJGgw 🎙️ Listen to her podcast: https://holtonhealingarts.com/links/?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio Spiritbird’s work focuses on helping people release emotional patterns, reconnect with their intuition, and move through life with more clarity, confidence, and peace. 🎧 Listen + Watch Make sure to subscribe, follow, and turn on notifications so you don’t miss conversations like this. 🎥 Watch on YouTube 🎧 Listen on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and everywhere you stream 💬 Share + Connect If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs it. Follow Beyond Mommy Dearest for more conversations on healing, identity, boundaries, and coming home to yourself. 🖤 Your Reminder You were never too sensitive. You were responding to something real. And you can learn to trust yourself again. Support the show

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Beyond Mommy Dearest is a podcast for adult daughters navigating the complicated, often painful reality of difficult, emotionally immature, or narcissistic mothers. Hosted by a trauma-informed leadership coach, this show explores the long-term impact of mother-daughter wounds, boundary setting, grief, identity, and healing beyond blame. Through honest conversations, education, and lived experience, Beyond Mommy Dearest helps listeners reconnect with themselves, trust their instincts, and move forward with clarity, compassion, and strength.

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