The Men's Collective

Travis Goodman, LMFT
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The Men’s Collective Podcast explores what it means to live as a grounded, purpose-driven, emotionally aware man in today’s world. Hosted by Travis Goodman, LMFT—Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Mind+Body Coach.  Each episode dives into the real work of becoming a man who is calm under pressure, connected in relationships, and clear on purpose. Through honest conversations, neuroscience-backed practices, and stories from men doing the work, you’ll learn how to regulate your nervous system, lead with authenticity, and build strength that’s both grounded and compassionate. Whether you’re a high-performing dad, a man in transition, or simply ready to live with more meaning, The Men’s Collective is your space to reconnect to yourself, your purpose, and your people. Where purpose meets practice. Where men learn to feel, lead, and live fully. JOIN THE COLLECTIVE - CLICK HERE JOIN THE MAILING LIST  -   CLICK HERE YOUTUBE:  CLICK HERE WEB: MENSCOLLECTIVE.CO INSTAGRAM: MENSCOLLECTIVE.CO

  1. 3d ago ·  Video

    Be the Dad Your Kids Call First | Discipline Without Yelling

    What if the goal of parenting is not to control your kids, but to become the parent they call when life gets messy? In this episode of The Men’s Collective Podcast, I sit down with Wendy and Terry Snyder from Fresh Start Family to talk about connection-based discipline, strong fatherhood, nervous system awareness, and how dads can lead their homes with both firmness and warmth. We talk about why so many fathers default to fixing, controlling, threatening, yelling, or shutting down when their kids have big emotions. Wendy and Terry share how “connection before correction” helps parents build trust, reduce power struggles, and raise strong, emotionally resilient kids without relying on fear-based parenting. This conversation is especially for dads who want to stop repeating old parenting patterns, repair faster after conflict, and build a relationship where their kids feel safe, respected, and deeply loved. In this episode, we cover: Why dads often try to fix big emotions too quickly What children actually need during stressful moments Why discipline means teaching, not punishment How to set firm boundaries without fear, shame, or control Why repair matters more than getting parenting perfect How to stop using threats and bribes as parenting tools The difference between true strength and force How nervous system awareness changes the way dads respond Why strong kids need connection, not domination How to become the parent your child calls when life gets hard Learn more about Fresh Start Family: freshstartfamilyonline.com   🎧 Listen on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube 🌐 Learn more at menscollective.co or travisgoodmanlmft.com JOIN THE COLLECTIVE:   JOIN THE MEN'S COLLECTIVE: CLICK HERE JOIN THE MAILING LIST & GET INVOLVED!   CLICK HERE: MAILING LIST INSTAGRAM:  MENSCOLLECTIVE.CO WATCH ON YOUTUBE:  WATCH HERE Connect and Support Travis:            YouTube: Travis Goodman Instagram: @travis.goodman.lmft Web: TravisGoodmanLMFT.com  Music by Scott Buckley – released under CC-BY 4.0. www.scottbuckley.com.au

    57 min
  2. Most Men Aren't Lost | They're Afraid

    May 20 ·  Video

    Most Men Aren't Lost | They're Afraid

    Most men are not actually confused about what matters to them. They are afraid. In this episode of The Men’s Collective Podcast, Travis Goodman, LMFT explores how fear quietly shapes men’s lives, relationships, nervous systems, identity, and decisions. Using themes from The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho, this episode breaks down why so many men stay emotionally guarded, disconnected, overworked, numb, and stuck in survival mode. This is not a book review. It’s a conversation about fear, purpose, masculinity, emotional health, nervous system regulation, and the internal battle many men face between comfort and growth. Topics covered:• Why men confuse safety with peace• Fear and the male nervous system• Why fear gets louder before growth• Hypervigilance, performance, and emotional avoidance• The connection between fear and masculine identity• Why unfamiliarity feels dangerous• Faith, uncertainty, and personal growth• Men’s mental health and emotional resilience• Polyvagal Theory and fear responses• How men can become more grounded under pressure If you’ve been feeling stuck, disconnected, emotionally exhausted, or afraid to take the next step in life, relationships, or purpose, this episode is for you. 🎧 Listen on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube 🌐 Learn more at menscollective.co or travisgoodmanlmft.com JOIN THE COLLECTIVE:   JOIN THE MEN'S COLLECTIVE: CLICK HERE JOIN THE MAILING LIST & GET INVOLVED!   CLICK HERE: MAILING LIST INSTAGRAM:  MENSCOLLECTIVE.CO WATCH ON YOUTUBE:  WATCH HERE Connect and Support Travis:           YouTube: Travis GoodmanInstagram: @travis.goodman.lmftWeb: TravisGoodmanLMFT.comMusic by Scott Buckley – released under CC-BY 4.0. www.scottbuckley.com.au

    9 min
  3. What Fatherhood Reveals About Men | Pat Barber

    Apr 27 ·  Video

    What Fatherhood Reveals About Men | Pat Barber

    In this episode of The Men’s Collective Podcast, Travis Goodman sits down with Pat Barber to talk about fatherhood as a mirror, coaching as self-awareness, and what it means to become the kind of man your kids actually need. Pat shares how decades of coaching movement, developing coaches, and raising four boys have forced him to look honestly at himself, grow through discomfort, and rethink what real leadership looks like.   This conversation explores how fatherhood can bring out both your best and your worst, why good coaching and good parenting require flexibility, and why so many men struggle with not having it all figured out. Travis and Pat also talk about raising good adults instead of just obedient kids, creating emotional safety in the parent-child relationship, and the importance of helping men know they are unconditionally loved.   In this episode: Pat Barber on fatherhood as a mirror How coaching others exposed Pat’s own blind spots Why good coaches and good dads adapt to the individual The difference between raising good kids and raising good adults Why men struggle with shame, failure, and not knowing The role of unconditional love in male growth and emotional health   If you are a father, coach, husband, or man trying to grow with more intention, this episode will challenge and encourage you. 🎧 Listen on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube 🌐 Learn more at menscollective.co or travisgoodmanlmft.com JOIN THE COLLECTIVE:   JOIN THE MEN'S COLLECTIVE: CLICK HERE JOIN THE MAILING LIST & GET INVOLVED!   CLICK HERE: MAILING LIST INSTAGRAM:  MENSCOLLECTIVE.CO WATCH ON YOUTUBE:  WATCH HERE Connect and Support Travis:           YouTube: Travis Goodman Instagram: @travis.goodman.lmft Web: TravisGoodmanLMFT.comMusic by Scott Buckley – released under CC-BY 4.0. www.scottbuckley.com.au

    36 min
  4. Manosphere or Manosfear? What's Really Driving Men

    Apr 8 ·  Video

    Manosphere or Manosfear? What's Really Driving Men

    Why do so many men feel like their value has to be earned, proven, and constantly defended? In this episode of The Men’s Collective Podcast, Travis Goodman sits down with writer and researcher Jim Chastain to unpack the deeper fear underneath the manosphere. Drawing from Jim’s article “Turns Out ‘Manosphere’ Might Be Misspelled. It should probably be Manosfear.” and Louis Theroux’s Into the Manosphere, this conversation explores why so many men organize their lives around performance, control, money, status, and attention instead of connection, honesty, and grounded strength. Together, Travis and Jim explore how fear of weakness, fear of rejection, and fear of “not being enough” can drive men to chase worth through achievement, image, and domination. They talk about why the manosphere is so appealing to younger men, how control and clout can become substitutes for real self-worth, and why the promise of “living for yourself” often hides a deeper avoidance of vulnerability and responsibility. This episode covers:  Why men often feel they must prove their worth Why young men are drawn to manosphere content How fear of weakness shapes male behavior The connection between shame, control, and conditional worth Why revealing weakness can actually become strength What healthier masculinity looks like in real life If you are interested in masculinity, men’s mental health, shame, self-worth, male loneliness, emotional resilience, or how to raise healthier boys and men, this episode will give you a deeper lens into what is really going on beneath the bravado. If you want deeper coaching or therapy, visit travisgoodmanlmft.com.       [Life in Silico] by Scott Buckley – released under CC-BY 4.0. www.scottbuckley.com.au 🎧 Listen on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube 🌐 Learn more at menscollective.co or travisgoodmanlmft.com  JOIN THE COLLECTIVE:   JOIN THE MEN'S COLLECTIVE: CLICK HERE JOIN THE MAILING LIST & GET INVOLVED!   CLICK HERE: MAILING LIST INSTAGRAM:  MENSCOLLECTIVE.CO WATCH ON YOUTUBE:  WATCH HERE Connect and Support Travis:          YouTube: Travis Goodman Instagram: @travis.goodman.lmft Web: TravisGoodmanLMFT.com

    48 min
  5. How to Grieve Without Shutting Down

    Mar 26 ·  Video

    How to Grieve Without Shutting Down

    Grief doesn’t just affect your heart. It impacts your mind, your body, your energy, your relationships, your faith, and your sense of direction. In this deeply personal episode of The Men’s Collective Podcast, Travis Goodman shares about the sudden loss of his close friend and co-founder Pierre Azzam, and what has been helping him navigate grief in real time. This episode explores how grief is not something to fix or solve, but something to move through. Travis shares three practical things that have been helping him carry loss with more honesty and steadiness: walking more, connecting intentionally with friends and family, and creating space to feel without trying to force closure. He also shares several grief books that have helped over the years, including When Bad Things Happen to Good People, On Death and Dying, A Grief Observed, It’s OK That You’re Not OK, and The Grieving Brain. If you are grieving the death of a loved one, the loss of a relationship, a job, a community, or a season of life, this episode offers a grounded, compassionate conversation about grief, loss, emotional healing, nervous system awareness, and what it means to carry sorrow without carrying it alone. In this episode:• How grief affects the body, mind, and nervous system• Why walking and movement can help with grief• How connection and co-regulation support healing• Why creating space to feel matters• Books on grief, loss, death, and emotional resilienceThis is for anyone navigating grief, mourning, sorrow, sudden loss, emotional pain, or major life transitions.If you want deeper coaching or therapy, visit travisgoodmanlmft.com.  For more men’s mental health tools and community, check out The Men’s Collective Podcast.  [Life in Silico] by Scott Buckley – released under CC-BY 4.0. www.scottbuckley.com.au   🎧 Listen on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube  🌐 Learn more at menscollective.co or travisgoodmanlmft.com JOIN THE COLLECTIVE:   JOIN THE MEN'S COLLECTIVE: CLICK HERE JOIN THE MAILING LIST & GET INVOLVED!   CLICK HERE: MAILING LIST INSTAGRAM:  MENSCOLLECTIVE.CO WATCH ON YOUTUBE:  WATCH HERE Connect and Support Travis:        YouTube: Travis Goodman Instagram: @travis.goodman.lmft Web: TravisGoodmanLMFT.com

    17 min
  6. Calm Your Nervous System Fast: The 3N Method

    Mar 3 ·  Video

    Calm Your Nervous System Fast: The 3N Method

    When stress hits, your nervous system runs the show. In this episode of The Men’s Collective Podcast, Travis Goodman, LMFT & Mind-Body coach, teaches the 3N practice, adapted from Dr. Les Aria’s work: Notice, Name, Nourish. This is a practical polyvagal-informed tool to help men shift out of fight-or-flight (sympathetic activation) or shutdown (dorsal vagal) and move toward calm, connection, and clarity (ventral vagal). You’ll learn how to:Use body-based awareness to catch your state in real timeLabel what’s happening to reduce overwhelm and regain perspectiveChoose simple “nourish” actions that help your nervous system reset (long exhale breathing, orienting, pressure through palms, sensory temperature shifts, movement, and co-regulation) Use this before hard conversations, after a stressful workday, during workouts when self-criticism spikes, or at night when your mind won’t shut off. This is not about “thinking positive.” It’s about building reps that create real emotional regulation, better relationships, and more grounded leadership as a man and father. If you liked the previous episodes on polyvagal theory, neuroception, hierarchy, and co-regulation, this is the next step. Subscribe for nervous system tools that fit real life.If you want deeper coaching or therapy, visit travisgoodmanlmft.com. For more men’s mental health tools and community, check out The Men’s Collective Podcast.  [Life in Silico] by Scott Buckley – released under CC-BY 4.0. www.scottbuckley.com.au  🎧 Listen on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube 🌐 Learn more at menscollective.co or travisgoodmanlmft.com JOIN THE COLLECTIVE:   JOIN THE MEN'S COLLECTIVE: CLICK HERE JOIN THE MAILING LIST & GET INVOLVED!   CLICK HERE: MAILING LIST INSTAGRAM:  MENSCOLLECTIVE.CO WATCH ON YOUTUBE:  WATCH HERE Connect and Support Travis:       YouTube: Travis Goodman Instagram: @travis.goodman.lmft Web: TravisGoodmanLMFT.com

    16 min
  7. Reset Your Nervous System Fast: 3 Polyvagal Exercises

    2025-11-09 ·  Video

    Reset Your Nervous System Fast: 3 Polyvagal Exercises

    Struggling to settle after stress? In this episode, licensed therapist and Mind+Body coach Travis Goodman teaches three polyvagal-informed practices to reset your nervous system quickly and safely. You’ll learn how to orient to safety cues, ground through the senses, and use lengthened exhale breathing to activate the vagal brake. These simple, science-backed techniques help you move from fight/flight or shutdown back to calm connection. Perfect for busy men, dads, and leaders who need a fast, reliable way to self-regulate without white-knuckling it. What you’ll learn:• Polyvagal exercises to regulate your nervous system fast• How to orient and scan your environment for safety• 3-sense grounding to exit rumination and return to the present• Lengthened-exhale breathing to stimulate the vagus nerve and settle your heart rate• Why “reset first, solve second” prevents reactivity and burnout If you want deeper coaching or therapy, visit travisgoodmanlmft.com. For more men’s mental health tools and community, check out The Men’s Collective Podcast.[Life in Silico] by Scott Buckley – released under CC-BY 4.0. www.scottbuckley.com.au🎧 Listen on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube🌐 Learn more at menscollective.co or travisgoodmanlmft.com JOIN THE COLLECTIVE:   JOIN THE MEN'S COLLECTIVE: CLICK HERE JOIN THE MAILING LIST & GET INVOLVED!   CLICK HERE: MAILING LIST INSTAGRAM:  MENSCOLLECTIVE.CO WATCH ON YOUTUBE:  WATCH HERE Connect and Support Travis:      YouTube: Travis Goodman Instagram: @travis.goodman.lmft Web: TravisGoodmanLMFT.com

    6 min
  8. Why You Feel Unsafe (and Don't Know Why) | Understanding Polyvagal Theory

    2025-10-27 ·  Video

    Why You Feel Unsafe (and Don't Know Why) | Understanding Polyvagal Theory

    What if your body—not your mind—was deciding how safe, calm, or stressed you feel? In this episode of The Men’s Collective Podcast, therapist and Mind-Body Coach Travis Goodman, LMFT, breaks down the three organizing principles of Polyvagal Theory—a science-backed model by Dr. Stephen Porges that explains how your nervous system runs your daily life. You’ll learn how to recognize your body’s automatic states—ventral (safe and connected), sympathetic (mobilized and stressed), and dorsal (shutdown and numb)—and how to move toward regulation, calm, and connection. In this episode: What Hierarchy teaches us about emotional states and the “autonomic ladder” How Neuroception constantly scans for safety or threat without you realizing it Why Co-Regulation (connection) is the secret to true calm and healing A real-life example of how reaching out to safe relationships resets your nervous system Practical ways to notice, name, and navigate your stateIf you’ve ever wondered why you can’t just “think” your way out of stress, this episode will help you finally understand the biology of safety—and how to work with it. 🎧 Listen on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube🌐 Learn more at menscollective.co or travisgoodmanlmft.comJOIN THE COLLECTIVE:   JOIN THE MEN'S COLLECTIVE: CLICK HERE JOIN THE MAILING LIST & GET INVOLVED!   CLICK HERE: MAILING LIST INSTAGRAM:  MENSCOLLECTIVE.CO WATCH ON YOUTUBE:  WATCH HERE Connect and Support Travis:     YouTube: Travis Goodman Instagram: @travis.goodman.lmft Web: TravisGoodmanLMFT.com

    8 min
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The Men’s Collective Podcast explores what it means to live as a grounded, purpose-driven, emotionally aware man in today’s world. Hosted by Travis Goodman, LMFT—Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Mind+Body Coach.  Each episode dives into the real work of becoming a man who is calm under pressure, connected in relationships, and clear on purpose. Through honest conversations, neuroscience-backed practices, and stories from men doing the work, you’ll learn how to regulate your nervous system, lead with authenticity, and build strength that’s both grounded and compassionate. Whether you’re a high-performing dad, a man in transition, or simply ready to live with more meaning, The Men’s Collective is your space to reconnect to yourself, your purpose, and your people. Where purpose meets practice. Where men learn to feel, lead, and live fully. JOIN THE COLLECTIVE - CLICK HERE JOIN THE MAILING LIST  -   CLICK HERE YOUTUBE:  CLICK HERE WEB: MENSCOLLECTIVE.CO INSTAGRAM: MENSCOLLECTIVE.CO

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  • Creator
    Travis Goodman, LMFT
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    132
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2022 The Men's Collective
  • Show Website
    The Men's Collective

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