It's All In Your Head Roni Davis

There's a myth floating around about habits taking 21 days to form. We hear this mistaken notion repeated everywhere, especially in the weight loss and fitness world but it's simply not true. In this episode I share where the myth came from in the first place, how and why habits are actually formed, and what it really takes to change old ones or create new ones.

In a past episode I spoke about the obsession our culture has with celebrating weight loss and in it, I posed the question, why does that validation matter so much?

In this episode, I'm diving into that more…  the desperation with which we often chase weight loss - the desperation that’s more times than not fueled by the need for validation… as well, where does it come from, why is it so damaging, and what I’ve been trying to do instead, as a recovering validation chaser myself.

Are you obsessed with the number on your scale? This episode is for you.

(The powerful poem featured at the end is by Nancy Regan of The Soul Booth Podcast.)

A healthy lifestyle should make your life better. It should add so much to your life that you cannot imagine living any other way. It should make you feel happy, energetic, powerful and amazing—not beaten, exhausted, obsessive over food and workouts, and like you want to quit every second of the day.

That's what I'm talking about in this episode - choosing from love and joy rather than suffering and fear.

Setting weight loss goals is a huge reason why people spend so much time struggling with weight. In this episode I'm talking about why and what to focus on instead if you've been consumed with weight loss for years. I'm also diving into goal-setting in general and two of the biggest requirements for goal setting that most people miss.

My entire life used to revolve around weight loss so you can be sure I haven't changed my position on it and don't make this statement lightly or without ample cause.

Tune in for more.

I’ve been training and coaching people for about a decade and in that time, one thing has become abundantly clear. If you ask the average person why they haven’t achieved their goals or dreams, whatever excuse they give you will almost certainly boil down to fear of failure.

Why is failure such a scary word?

Personally, I have zero shame around failing. In fact, I'm happy to do it, repeatedly, and I have - because it's better than quitting.

That's what I'm talking about in this episode, fear of failure. How do you even define failure? Tune in now for more and find out why I'd rather fail than quit.

Last week Adele shared a picture of herself that created an enormous amount of debate. The internet went nuts and I felt compelled to weigh in (no pun intended) - not on her body (because it's not my place to make commentary on anyone else's body). Rather, I wanted to weigh in with some things to consider.

Should we be celebrating weight loss? What does being anti-diet mean to me? Does it mean I don't think anyone should want to lose weight or they should be ashamed if they do?

Tune to this week's episode to find out what I mean (and don't mean) when I say I'm anti-diet, what I mean by weight neutral and why it's a far healthier approach.