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Meag and Cole
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Two besties in our thirties. We're figuring it out with you.

  1. 1D AGO

    the problem isn’t your friends - it’s your expectations

    In this episode, we’re unpacking something that feels quietly true but rarely gets said out loud: We expect everything from our friends…but structure nothing around them. We want consistency, emotional depth, validation, fun, and growth, all from the same people. And when that doesn’t happen? We spiral, overanalyze, or send the long text. But at the same time… We don’t build our lives around friendship.We don’t prioritize it like we do romantic relationships.We accept that friends will “naturally drift.” So which is it? Are our friendships central to our lives, or just filling space until something else takes priority? In this episode, we talk about: Why modern friendship feels so high-pressure and low-structure The rise of “friendship performance reviews” Expecting one friend to be everything Why we invest more in romance than friendship Building a “friendship ecosystem” instead Letting friendships evolve without blowing them up What it actually looks like to prioritize friendship If you’ve ever felt disappointed in a friend, confused by shifting dynamics, or like you’re carrying too much in one relationship, this one’s for you. Because maybe the goal isn’t to find the perfect friend. Maybe it’s to build a life where friendship can actually breathe.

    47 min

  2. MAR 4

    the micro-griefs of modern dating

    In this week’s episode, we’re talking about something that doesn’t get named enough when it comes to dating in your 30s: the mini griefs. Dating at this stage of life often isn’t defined by one big heartbreak. It’s the accumulation of smaller moments — the almost relationships, the ghosting after momentum, the slow fades, and the future you briefly imagined that never quite happens. These micro-disappointments can quietly add up over time, leaving you feeling more guarded, more tired, and wondering why dating suddenly feels heavier than it used to. In this episode, we unpack why these moments hit differently in your 30s, how they shape the way we show up in dating, and how to build emotional resilience without becoming hardened or cynical. We talk about the difference between grieving the person versus the potential, why future-tripping can make disappointment harder, and how to process dating setbacks so they don’t linger longer than they need to. If you’ve ever found yourself thinking “Why does this feel like such a big deal when it wasn’t even a real relationship?” this conversation is for you. Because the goal isn’t to avoid disappointment. It’s to learn how to bounce back faster, stay open, and keep your life bigger than your dating life.

    42 min

  3. FEB 25

    stand where you can be seen: engineering your own luck

    In this week’s episode, we’re talking about visibility and how it might be the missing piece between where you are and where you want to be. After reading a piece by Alexa DaFonte about “engineering your own luck,” we started thinking about how often we wait to be discovered instead of making ourselves findable. We assume people know what we want. We assume the right opportunity will land. We assume timing will just… work itself out. But what if luck responds to proximity, clarity, and the courage to be seen? We talk about how visibility shows up in dating and career, why courage matters more than confidence, and the small daily ways you can expand your “surface area” without becoming performative or cringe. We also share some life updates — including Meag’s spontaneous travel magic, what it’s like being single around couples, and recent moments where taking initiative led to unexpected connection. This episode is for the woman who knows she wants more and is ready to participate a little more boldly in her own life. Original inspiration: Follow Alexa DaFonte on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@alexadafonteRead “Engineering My Own Luck” on Substack: https://alexadafonte.substack.com/p/engineering-my-own-luck-if-anyone

    49 min

  4. FEB 18

    I went on a GLP-1. Here's what happened.

    This week’s episode is one we’ve been sitting on for a while. Nicole shares a deeply personal update on her fertility journey — including a scary moment after receiving ovarian reserve results and her decision to move forward with egg and embryo freezing. Then Meagan opens up about something she didn’t think would ever be on her bingo card: her 8-month journey on a GLP-1 (Wegovy/Ozempic). We talk about: The stigma around GLP-1sFeeling like it’s “cheating”Body image in your 30sFood noise (and what it actually feels like when it quiets)Dating and confidence shiftsThe return of thinness cultureWhy you don’t owe anyone an explanation for your health decisionsThe vulnerability of sharing something before you know how it endsThis is not a weight-loss episode. It’s a curiosity episode. It’s a “women deserve better information about their bodies” episode. If you’ve ever: Felt conflicted about your bodyWondered whether GLP-1s are “for you”Struggled with food noiseFelt like your worth was tied to a numberOr are navigating fertility fears in your 30sThis conversation is for you. As always: we’re not doctors. We’re just two women in our 30s sharing our real experiences so you feel less alone. If this episode resonates, send it to a friend. And if you have questions, our DMs are open.

    54 min

  5. FEB 11

    the question that changes everything: "is this all there is?"

    In this week's episode, we sit down with Janell Karst — executive coach, creator of the Badass Planner Method, and Marketing Director for a global brand — for a deeply honest conversation about the moment many women quietly experience but rarely say out loud: Is this all there is? At 36, Janell hit her first real rock bottom while living what looked like a dream life on paper: the career, the house, the baby, the dog, the husband who adored her. And yet, something felt deeply off. As she puts it, there was no Janell in the life she had built. That uncomfortable question became the catalyst for a powerful inward journey — one rooted not in blowing everything up, but in choosing herself consistently, rebuilding confidence through action, and fighting the quiet pull of mediocrity. We talk about: ​Why feeling unfulfilled doesn’t make you ungrateful​How to tell the difference between being stable and being stuck​Why confidence isn’t something you have — it’s something you practice​How starting with something physical can unlock emotional clarity​The real cost of waiting for permission or perfect timing​What it actually looks like to design a life that feels aligned, not performativeThis episode is for the woman who’s doing “well,” but knows there’s more.For the one quietly asking the question — and wondering what comes next. Follow Janell Karst on Instagram: @janellkarstJoin The Year of the Fire Horse: ALL IN Series — a 3-day live Zoom experience with Janell on Feb. 16, 17 & 18. 👉 https://janellkarst.myflodesk.com/firehorse If you’ve been asking “is this all there is?” — this is for you.

    44 min

  6. FEB 4

    is having a boyfriend embarrassing now?

    This week, we’re unpacking a question that stopped us in our tracks after reading the viral Vogue article: is having a boyfriend… embarrassing now? While we may be late to the game on this one, the conversation is still as relevant as ever. Somehow, we’ve landed in a cultural moment where independence is celebrated, detachment is cool, and wanting a relationship can feel a little… cringe? From situationships to soft-launching partners (or never launching them at all), dating in your 30s feels very different than it did even a few years ago. We get into it all — starting with the very real, very humbling moments that come with modern dating (including Nicole being left on a curb waiting for an Uber that never included her). Meagan shares her snowstorm-induced breaking point, living on the eighth floor, feeling stuck, overstimulated, and over it — which somehow feels like the perfect metaphor for dating right now. From there, we zoom out and talk about what’s actually happening beneath the surface: Why being “chill” and unattached became the gold standard The pressure women feel to prove they don’t need anyone How independence got confused with emotional distance And why wanting partnership doesn’t make you weak, embarrassing, or behind We also talk about the quiet contradiction so many of us live in: building full, beautiful, independent lives — while still wanting love, intimacy, and someone to come home to. Both can exist. Neither cancels the other out. If you’ve ever felt weird admitting you want a relationship… or judged for staying single… or confused about what you’re supposed to want at this stage of life — this one’s for you.

    47 min

  7. JAN 28

    how to romanticize winter (without forcing it)

    Winter has a reputation problem — and honestly, we think it’s been misunderstood. In this episode, we talk about why winter feels so hard right now and why it’s not because you’re lazy, unmotivated, or “doing life wrong.” It’s because we go from the dopamine highs of December straight into full productivity mode… with zero transition. And our nervous systems are understandably confused. We break down what’s actually happening, why January can feel heavier than expected, and how to move through winter in a way that feels softer, more intentional, and a little more romantic — without forcing a glow-up or pretending you love the cold. This episode is part real talk, part practical tools — with plenty of stories, reframes, and gentle permission slips along the way. Let us know what winter feels like for you right now — or share your favorite way to romanticize it — and we’ll see you next week 🤍

    45 min

  8. JAN 21

    who we are, why we're here, and why this podcast exists

    For the first time ever, we’re recording in person, and it felt like the perfect moment to hit reset and properly reintroduce ourselves. In this episode, Cole and Meag get personal about who we are, where we’ve been, and why It’s Cool, Us Too exists in the first place. We talk about our careers, our twenties and thirties, the paths we’ve taken (and the ones we didn’t), and what led us to start a podcast centered on being a woman in your 30s and building a life that actually feels like yours. If you’re new here, this is your official get to know us episode. And if you’ve been listening for a while, think of this as a little deeper context into the conversations we keep having week after week. In this episode, we chat about: Recording together in person for the first time (and why it felt so special)Our career paths, what we do, and what we love about our workHow our twenties shaped us (and humbled us)Why we started It’s Cool, Us TooThe kind of conversations we want to have here, and the space we want this podcast to beNavigating your 30s without a single “right” timelineThis episode is honest, a little nostalgic, very us, and a reminder that you’re not behind, you’re not alone, and you’re allowed to design your life on your own terms. Welcome (or welcome back) — we’re so glad you’re here.

    41 min
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Two besties in our thirties. We're figuring it out with you.

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  • Creator
    Meag and Cole
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    133
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    Explicit
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    © Meag and Cole
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