Let’s talk about . . . talking! Conversations are the heartbeat of relationships and yet we so often avoid the sensitive, difficult, intimate, emotional and scary ones. We play it safe and bit by bit our relationships become less intimate, less real, and less satisfying. Join my guests and I, as we explore what makes intimate conversations so scary and why we avoid them. We will talk about how to prepare for them, initiate them and participate in them in ways that deepen intimacy, clarify misunderstandings, repair disconnects, and resolve conflicts. We can learn to bravely ask for change, express our feelings, apologize with grace, see things from new perspectives, and invite growth into our relationships. We can build, repair and deepen our relationships, one conversation at a time. We get personal on this show. We talk about conversations we regret not having, the ones that we are forever grateful we had, the ones we wish we had done differently, and the ones we are currently avoiding.I have spent the last three decades learning, practicing, coaching, mediating and teaching how to effectively approach difficult conversations and conflicts and I still get butterflies before a tough conversation!. Join me . . . and let's get talking!
Loving after death with Mary-Anne Popescu
Mary-Anne is the executive director of the Ontario Association of Family Mediators and has her own mediation practice as well. She brings her passion, love and joy to everything she does and everyone she meets. We talk about the conversations she is grateful she had with her brother who passed away five years ago and the ones she regrets not having. She wishes they had talked about if one of them died early or unexpectedly so that he would have known how much she would continue to love him after he passed away, how she would keep him safe and keep their relationship alive.
Disrupting and Connecting with Bernie Mayer
Bernie Mayer, an icon in the global mediation field, a scholar, a writer, a practitioner, a teacher, a mentor and a friend, joins me today to talk about his book The Neutrality Trap, Disrupting and Connecting for Social Change. Earlier books include: The Conflict Paradox, Seven Dilemmas at the Core of Disputes, The Dynamics of Conflict, Beyond Neutrality, and Staying With Conflict.
We talk about disrupting and connecting around larger societal issues as well as in our families and intimate relationships. Systems don't like change. We need both disruption to spark change and connection to direct and navigate it.
The Meaning of Money with Judith Stern Peck
Nothing left to say with Radhiki Lakhani
Radhika is an a lawyer turned inner wellness teacher and personal and business alignment coach.
In today's episode, Radhika talks about bringing unconditional love to her work.
"I love you when you're angry. I love you when you're sad. I love you when you're happy. Because I think as children, we didn't all get that. It was like, stop crying. Why are you so angry? What's wrong with you? Right? And we were conditioned to go, oh, okay. Those parts of me are not welcome. So as adults now, half of the work that I do not most of the work that I do with my coaching clients is being a space of unconditional love and holding them in the most highest vision so that nothing changes on my face, because I love them no matter what."
Radhika also shares her experience in sitting with her best friend and mentor in her final weeks.
"She said to me, is there anything you want to say to me? And I said to her, nothing I've never said before. And I said, what about you? Is there anything you need to say to me or want to say to me? And she said, nothing I've not said many times before. And I thought, what a moment to have. Because it meant that all along we were telling each other all the things we had already said. Everything. And I'm so grateful.
There was nothing left to be said because we had said it all. And so that would be my share with whoever's listening to say it now. Don't wait. Say it over and over. Make it so clear that if you ever had a moment like that, you wouldn't even need to say anything."
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Things get real with Victoria Smith
Victoria Smith is a mediator, collaborative lawyer, author and teacher. She has been ten years ahead of me our whole lives, going to the same elementary school, junior high (winning the same awards), high school (being on student council) and law school! We discovered all of this on our first friendship date. Join us as we connect around the work we do, the conversations we have with our children and the profound end of life conversations Victoria and her family had with her mother-in-law.
"I will still say honestly, the toughest, difficult conversations I have are with the people I love the most."
To learn more about Victoria: https://www.resolvedr.com/
Talking about Feeling Seen with Dr. Jody Carrington
Dr. Jody Carrington, talks about her best selling book Feeling Seen, Reconnecting in a Disconnected World.
We talk about boundaries being a pre-requisite for empathy and how sometimes we need to bump against or go past our boundaries to know where they are. We talk about finding 'our people,' the importance of a good belly laugh, and how "the most authentic parts of ourselves come out in moments of joy." We talk about the difference between grief and mourning and how to show up and support the people we love when they are facing loss. "Sometimes in our most profound senses of pain what we don't need is words."
This is a don't miss up close and personal chat with the warm, funny, enthusiastic and wise Dr. Jody!
For more information about Dr. Jody Carrington: https://www.drjodycarrington.com/