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This Is Why Dating Sucks For Men (And How To Fix It)
For a lot of men, dating isn't something you enjoy, it's something you endure. From trying to meet women, to getting a number, to actually getting women out on a date... it's more like pulling teeth than meeting a potential partner.
Today, I want to give you all some advice I wish I had gotten back when I first started dating. Dating for men can be kind of awful. But not for the reasons you might think.
Here are 5 reasons why dating can SUCK for men… and what you can do about it.
The 5 Things That Make People Like You... Instantly
The most magnetic, charming and well liked people aren't popular because of their looks, their money, or their bodies. People like them because of they make others feel and the value that they bring into other peoples' lives.
These 5 qualities will help you create stronger, more profound connections with others, teach you to be instantly charismatic and become incredibly well liked by everyone around you.
Building Incredible Emotional Strength And Powerful Confidence
Right now, we are living through the most stressful, even outright traumatic year that most of have ever faced in our lives. It can be incredibly hard to have a positive attitude and solid confidence. It can be hard not to look around and say “how am I supposed to have the strength to keep going?"
It's time to learn how to build the emotional strength it takes to persevere, that confidence and the positive attitude that can help you face and overcome the challenges in your life that seem impossible.
The Secret to Healthier, Stronger Relationships
Have you struggled with relationships that were bad for you?
Maybe you’ve been in a toxic relationship with somebody who manipulated you, leaving you feeling like a doormat. Maybe you had friends who treated you badly or pushed you to do things that went against your values.
One of the most important things you can do to ensure you have strong, healthy relationships is to have strong boundaries.
Today, I'm going to teach you how to build strong boundaries... and how to enforce them.
This Is What Nobody Tells You About Having ADHD
Growing up, I knew I was struggling with things that other people seemed to be able to do effortlessly. I thought I was just lazy, that I needed to be more disciplined and to take things more seriously. But it never worked, and I never understood why.
Now I finally have the answers.
This week, I want to talk with you about my experiences with having been diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, how it can affect you and your relationships, and my experiences with getting diagnosed and getting treated.
The 5 Things You Need To Know About Dating
The #1 reason why so many men struggle with dating is very simple: they don't know what it takes to be successful with women. Attraction isn't a checklist. Learning to succeed with women isn't about having the right car or the right body, it's about learning how to become your best, most desirable self.
That's why this week, I'm going to teach you the 5 things YOU need to know in order to succeed with women, become the man you've always wanted to be and build the love life you've always wanted.
I love everything DR Nerd Love
Found Dr Nerd Love from KOTAKU aticles and always love his articles and found out he had a podcast and had to listen to it!
great advice as always
As a woman, I find Dr. NerdLove’s suggestions often rely on problematic ideologies, and even rape rhetoric (even for questions ironically interested in AVOIDING patriarchal aggressions). So far the podcast and the written column have been a perfect combination of gross, disturbing, and problematic that I hope to never repeat :(
As proof, here’s an excerpt from his last written column, which suggested men evaluate women’s willingness to hook up based on their outfits — that’s right, the typical “she was asking for it — just look at her cleavage” line! (Dr. NerdLove’s credentials are questionable, at best, and reductive at worst, because the “she was asking for it” line is implicitly problematized with NerdLove’s other contradictory belief that women are too shy to actually ask for what they want, never mind go for it themselves): “While women may not be doing the approaching as often as men do, that doesn’t mean that they’re standing around doing nothing. As I told Shy Guy last time, women who are interested in being approached put quite a bit of effort into being approachable. From the way they dress to the way they signal to people they’re interested in that they’d appreciate someone coming to say hi, women are as active in the ol’ mating dance as men. [...] And then there’s the fact that may [sic] women are painfully shy. They may well be dying for someone to come talk to them but are absolutely terrified to make the first move. Being the person to come up to that wallflower and start a conversation would be a net positive, while leaving them to quietly kick themselves would be increasing the amount of distress in the world.” Gee thanks for the patronizing condescension regarding all females/femme-presenting/femme-feeling folks out there — if it wasn’t for your pick up lines, we’d just have so much distress. Please, I’m going to go #askcam