Real Influence w/ Joey Vaillancourt

Joey Vaillancourt
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Welcome to Real Influence with Joey V, where you'll learn the tools and meet the people who can help you master the art of self-influence – the innate power we all have to transform our thoughts, beliefs, habits, and behaviors and lead more intentional, authentic, and inspired lives. In each episode, Joey Vaillancourt shares personal stories from his journey of radically reinventing his life and invites his guests to reveal the techniques they've used to overcome adversity and create success on their terms. Whether you're looking to grow your business, improve your relationship, or find more fulfillment in your personal life, Real Influence With Joey V is your place to discover how to lead yourself first and, in doing so, create a ripple effect that influences the world around you. If you're ready to stop letting the external forces around you control your reality and start transforming your life from the inside out, you've come to the right place. Check your ego at the door, drop the mask, and prepare to explore what's REAL—because that's where true influence begins.

  1. 111.The Health Wake-Up Call Every Man Over 40 Needs to Hear w/ Chris Wilson

    3D AGO

    111.The Health Wake-Up Call Every Man Over 40 Needs to Hear w/ Chris Wilson

    TheGreatLifeExperiment.ca - You're chasing success or you've hit it. Either way, you're stuck in the same loop. The Great Life Experiment is $300K of learnings distilled into 30 days that rewire the patterns keeping you running on autopilot so you can reclaim true freedom in how you live and lead. Are you building success… but slowly sacrificing your health in the process? Why do so many men feel strong in business, but tired, drained, and inconsistent in their body? And what if the real issue isn't time… but how you're prioritizing your health? In this episode, we sit down with Chris Wilson to unpack a truth most high performers avoid: most men don't have a health problem… they have a priority problem. If you've ever wondered why successful men sacrifice their health, or why men lose their health in their 30s and 40s, this conversation will hit home in a real way 🤓 As you chase success, build a business, lead a team, and provide for your family, your body often becomes the thing you sacrifice. Over time, that leads to mental burnout, low energy, lack of consistency, and declining performance. And the reality is… you can't catch up on your health later. That's a dangerous mindset many high achievers fall into. We dive into how to stay fit while building a business, how to create a healthy lifestyle that actually works for busy men, and why consistency over intensity is the real key to long-term success. Whether you're trying to break out of the dad bod phase, improve your health habits, or become a stronger, more present leader at home and at work, this episode gives you a practical and honest perspective.   Chris also shares simple but powerful strategies like short, effective workouts including the six minute cardio method, and how you can build strength, stamina, and discipline even with limited time. If you've ever thought how to stay fit while being successful, or struggled with how to stay active with a busy lifestyle, this will give you a new way to approach fitness.   We also go deeper into identity, discipline, and awareness. Because real transformation doesn't come from random workout routines… it comes from who you become in the process. This is about becoming the kind of man who prioritizes movement, values longevity, and understands that fitness is not separate from success… it fuels it 😄   Another powerful part of this conversation is awareness around habits. From mental health awareness to understanding how small daily choices impact long-term outcomes, this episode challenges you to look at what's actually controlling your behavior. Whether it's lack of movement, inconsistency, or even subtle addictions like overworking or constant stimulation, everything has a cost.   If you want to become a fit dad, improve your men's health, and build a life where success and health coexist, this episode will give you both the mindset and the strategy to move forward.   If this resonated, drop a comment below and share what you're starting to notice about your own habits. What's one thing you know you need to change but haven't yet?   Don't forget to like, subscribe, and share this with someone who's chasing success… but might be forgetting to take care of their health along the way.   In this, we'll talk about: 00:00 Why Most Men Sacrifice Their Health for Success 00:18 Meet Chris Wilson + Strength Beyond the Gym 04:30 Chris Wilson's Fitness Journey and Early Influences 09:14 What Changes After 40: Health, Awareness, and Priorities 11:14 Why Movement Declines as Life Gets Busy 16:13 The Trap of "I'll Focus on Health Later" 17:11 Simple Workouts for Busy Men (6-Minute Cardio) 30:26 Habits, Discipline, and Long-Term Health Connect with Joey on your favourite social platforms! https://joeyvaillancourt.com/ https://www.instagram.com/joeyvaillancourt/ https://www.facebook.com/joey.vaillancourt.9/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/joey-vaillancourt/ https://www.youtube.com/@joeyvaillancourt-realinfluence Enhance your mental clarity, focus, and brain wellness with NeuroVizr—get 10% off with code JOEYV.https://neurovizr.com/?ref=rirxqhll Transform your meditation and boost sleep, creativity, and focus with Sens.ai—save $100 with code REALINFLUENCE. https://sens.ai/realinfluence   Connect with Chris! https://www.criticalbench.com https://www.criticalnutritionlabs.com https://www.youtube.com/@Criticalbench/videos https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/strong-by-design-podcast/id1383270948   About Joey: Joey Vaillancourt, host of the Real Influence podcast, helps people overcome apathy, feeling trapped and living a life of resignation by inspiring them to challenge their assumptions and handed down beliefs so they can experience a more purposeful, fulfilled and aligned life.

    51 min
  2. 110.The Real Reason You Feel Disrespected in Relationships (And How to Shift It)

    MAR 30

    110.The Real Reason You Feel Disrespected in Relationships (And How to Shift It)

    TheGreatLifeExperiment.ca - You're chasing success or you've hit it. Either way, you're stuck in the same loop. The Great Life Experiment is $300K of learnings distilled into 30 days that rewire the patterns keeping you running on autopilot so you can reclaim true freedom in how you live and lead. Do you ever feel disrespected by the people closest to you even when you're doing everything right? Why do you give so much, overdeliver, and still feel unappreciated or taken for granted? And what if that feeling isn't actually about them… but about a hidden expectation you didn't even realize you had? In this episode, we break down one of the most common emotional triggers in relationships: feeling unappreciated in relationships despite giving your best. If you've ever wondered why I feel disrespected by people close to me, or why I feel hurt when I'm not recognized, this conversation will hit deeper than you expect 🤓 Many high achievers operate from an unconscious pattern of overdelivering and feeling unappreciated, believing that if they give more, love harder, and show up stronger, they will finally receive the respect and validation they're looking for. But underneath that pattern is something most people never see: hidden expectations in relationships and what we call an invisible contract. This episode explains the concept of invisible contract relationships, where you give with the expectation that others will respond in a certain way… even though they never agreed to that expectation. And when that doesn't happen, it creates resentment, frustration, and the feeling that you're being taken for granted. We also dive into validation seeking behavior, why you might feel like you constantly need recognition, and how that pattern leads to emotional triggers that repeat over and over again. If you've ever thought why I give so much but get nothing back, or struggled with how to stop needing validation from others, this will help you reframe everything. You'll learn how to shift into a giving without expectation mindset, how to build self respect without validation, and how to stop tying your worth to how others respond to you. This is where real freedom starts. Not when people change, but when your internal state changes. We also explore how to move from reaction to awareness using the influence ladder, and how emotional triggers in relationships are often pointing back to a belief that's been running quietly in the background for years. Once you see it, you can change it. One of the most powerful takeaways is this: the goal is not to fix people, control outcomes, or force respect. The goal is to show up grounded, present, and aligned, regardless of how others behave. That's where true influence comes from 😄 If you've been stuck in the cycle of feeling unappreciated, constantly overgiving, or wondering why success in life doesn't translate to fulfillment in relationships, this episode will give you a completely new perspective. If this resonated, share your biggest takeaway in the comments. What's one belief about respect, validation, or relationships that you're starting to question? Don't forget to like, subscribe, and share this with someone who gives a lot… but secretly feels unappreciated. In this, we'll talk about: 00:00 Why You Feel Disrespected Even When You Do Everything Right 00:35 Overdelivering and Feeling Unappreciated 01:52 The Hidden Expectation Behind Relationship Triggers 03:29 The Meaning Loop: Why You React the Way You Do 05:40 Invisible Contract Relationships Explained 10:00 The Belief Behind Validation Seeking Behavior 16:50 Holding Space Instead of Trying to Fix People 22:02 How to Stop Feeling Unappreciated and Build Self Respect Connect with Joey on your favourite social platforms! https://joeyvaillancourt.com/ https://www.instagram.com/joeyvaillancourt/ https://www.facebook.com/joey.vaillancourt.9/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/joey-vaillancourt/ https://www.youtube.com/@joeyvaillancourt-realinfluence Enhance your mental clarity, focus, and brain wellness with NeuroVizr—get 10% off with code JOEYV.https://neurovizr.com/?ref=rirxqhll Transform your meditation and boost sleep, creativity, and focus with Sens.ai—save $100 with code REALINFLUENCE. https://sens.ai/realinfluence About Joey: Joey Vaillancourt, host of the Real Influence podcast, helps people overcome apathy, feeling trapped and living a life of resignation by inspiring them to challenge their assumptions and handed down beliefs so they can experience a more purposeful, fulfilled and aligned life.

    29 min
  3. 109.Why High Achievers Still Feel Pressure (Even When They're Doing Everything Right)

    MAR 23

    109.Why High Achievers Still Feel Pressure (Even When They're Doing Everything Right)

    TheGreatLifeExperiment.ca - You're chasing success or you've hit it. Either way, you're stuck in the same loop. The Great Life Experiment is $300K of learnings distilled into 30 days that rewire the patterns keeping you running on autopilot so you can reclaim true freedom in how you live and lead. Do you ever feel like you're doing everything right… but still feel stressed and on edge? Why does success still feel like pressure, even when you've achieved what you wanted? And why does peace feel uncomfortable, like you should be doing more instead of slowing down? In this episode, we dive deep into high achiever burnout, the hidden patterns behind high achiever stress, and why so many people are quietly white knuckling their way through life even while talking about work life balance. If you've ever felt like you can't turn off your brain, keep thinking about work after hours, or struggle with mental burnout, this conversation will hit close to home 🤓 Most people think the solution is better habits, more discipline, or another productivity system. But the real issue is the identity underneath the hustle. If your subconscious belief is that your worth comes from pressure, productivity, or constant achievement, you will keep recreating hustle culture burnout no matter how many tools you use. We break down the overworking mindset, the internal pressure to succeed, and why even when you slow down, you still feel stressed. If you've ever asked yourself why I feel stressed even when I slow down, or struggled with how to stop overthinking work after hours, this episode will help you understand what's actually going on beneath the surface. You'll learn how to begin an identity shift, how to rewire your brain for success, and how to move from force and pressure into a more aligned way of living. This is not about doing less. It's about removing the internal resistance that makes everything feel heavy. We also explore the difference between looking relaxed and actually being regulated. Because many high performers talk about balance, but internally still feel tension, anxiety, and work stress running in the background. That's what keeps you stuck in hustle culture pressure, even when you're trying to do things differently. If you want productivity without burnout, real work life balance, and the ability to actually be present with your family, your goals, and your life, then this episode will challenge the way you think about success. This is your invitation to stop worrying and start living, not by abandoning ambition, but by changing the belief system that drives it 😄 If this resonated, share your biggest takeaway in the comments. What's one belief about success or productivity you're starting to question? Don't forget to like, subscribe, and share this with someone who looks like they have it all together but is secretly feeling the pressure. In this, we'll talk about: 00:00 Why You Still Feel Pressure Even When Doing Everything Right 00:37 Work Life Balance but Still Stressed 02:00 The White Knuckle High Achiever Explained 04:50 High Achiever Burnout and Overthinking Work After Hours 06:00 Why You Feel Stressed Even When You Slow Down 08:22 Identity Shift: The Belief Behind Hustle Culture Pressure 13:18 Productivity Without Burnout and Rewiring Success Beliefs 19:15 Stop Worrying and Start Living Without Pressure Connect with Joey on your favourite social platforms! https://joeyvaillancourt.com/ https://www.instagram.com/joeyvaillancourt/ https://www.facebook.com/joey.vaillancourt.9/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/joey-vaillancourt/ https://www.youtube.com/@joeyvaillancourt-realinfluence Enhance your mental clarity, focus, and brain wellness with NeuroVizr—get 10% off with code JOEYV.https://neurovizr.com/?ref=rirxqhll Transform your meditation and boost sleep, creativity, and focus with Sens.ai—save $100 with code REALINFLUENCE. https://sens.ai/realinfluence About Joey: Joey Vaillancourt, host of the Real Influence podcast, helps people overcome apathy, feeling trapped and living a life of resignation by inspiring them to challenge their assumptions and handed down beliefs so they can experience a more purposeful, fulfilled and aligned life.

    27 min
  4. 108.The Identity Trap: Why High Performers Wire Their Nervous System for Pressure Instead of Peace

    MAR 16

    108.The Identity Trap: Why High Performers Wire Their Nervous System for Pressure Instead of Peace

    👉 Can't turn it off or enjoy what you've built? TheGreatLifeExperiment.ca - You're chasing success or you've hit it. Either way, you're stuck in the same loop. The Great Life Experiment is $300K of learnings distilled into 30 days that rewire the patterns keeping you running on autopilot so you can reclaim true freedom in how you live and lead. Are you a high achiever who feels exhausted even when you're winning? Why does success sometimes feel stressful instead of fulfilling? What if the real reason you can't relax isn't your workload, but the belief system behind your success mindset? This episode unpacks a powerful truth that many high performers never question: the belief that success requires suffering. If you're experiencing high achiever burnout, constantly pushing through pressure, and wondering why productivity still feels heavy even when you're succeeding, this conversation will resonate deeply 🤓. Many people in hustle culture unknowingly wire their identity around stress, believing that hard work must always come with sacrifice, exhaustion, and burnout. We dive into the difference between effort vs identity, and how two people can take the exact same actions but experience completely different outcomes. One builds peace and fulfillment, while the other builds pressure, resentment, and hustle culture burnout. If you've ever wondered why high achievers feel exhausted, or why success still feels stressful even after reaching goals, this episode will help you uncover the unconscious programming behind it. You'll learn how identity shifting and rewiring success beliefs can transform the way you approach work, productivity, and achievement. Instead of chasing success through stress and constant pressure, Joey explains how to build productivity without burnout, operate from a healthier productivity mindset, and achieve real success and fulfillment without sacrificing your health, relationships, or peace of mind. We also explore powerful concepts like nervous system regulation, primal state vs powerful state, and the mindset shift between power vs force. Many high achievers operate from a primal state where stress equals productivity, but true high performance actually comes from alignment, clarity, and emotional regulation. Learning how to move out of hustle culture patterns and into a calmer nervous system can dramatically change the way you lead, work, and live. If you've ever struggled with work life balance, felt caught in the trap of constant productivity, or believed that achievement must come at the cost of your personal life, this episode challenges that idea. Joey shares practical insights on how to pursue achieving success without pressure, why family first values can coexist with ambitious goals, and how to redefine success without falling into the trap of self imposed suffering. We also discuss lessons inspired by The Game of Life, how changing your internal language shifts your nervous system, and why labeling challenges differently can unlock creativity and resilience. When you start reframing experiences and practicing new beliefs, you create space for success without suffering and begin building a life that integrates ambition with peace. This episode is for entrepreneurs, leaders, creators, and high performers who want to achieve big goals while protecting what matters most. If you've been chasing success but secretly feeling burned out, overwhelmed, or disconnected from fulfillment, this conversation will help you rethink the identity behind your effort and build a healthier approach to success 😄. If this episode resonated with you, share your thoughts in the comments and tell us what belief about success you're starting to question. Your insight might help someone else break free from hustle culture and rediscover a more sustainable path to achievement. Don't forget to like, subscribe, and share this with another high achiever who might need to hear that success does not require suffering. In this, we'll talk about: 00:00 Why High Achievers Feel Exhausted Even When Winning 00:35 Effort vs Identity: The Hidden Driver of Burnout 01:16 The Belief That Success Requires Suffering 02:40 How Hustle Culture Wires Your Nervous System for Pressure 06:20 Rewriting Success Beliefs and Identity Shifting 11:16 Seasons of Grind vs Identity of Sacrifice 17:14 The Mindset Shift That Reduces Stress and Burnout 21:04 The Trap of Earned Enjoyment and Success Without Suffering Connect with Joey on your favourite social platforms! https://joeyvaillancourt.com/ https://www.instagram.com/joeyvaillancourt/ https://www.facebook.com/joey.vaillancourt.9/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/joey-vaillancourt/ https://www.youtube.com/@joeyvaillancourt-realinfluence Enhance your mental clarity, focus, and brain wellness with NeuroVizr—get 10% off with code JOEYV.https://neurovizr.com/?ref=rirxqhll Transform your meditation and boost sleep, creativity, and focus with Sens.ai—save $100 with code REALINFLUENCE. https://sens.ai/realinfluence About Joey: Joey Vaillancourt, host of the Real Influence podcast, helps people overcome apathy, feeling trapped and living a life of resignation by inspiring them to challenge their assumptions and handed down beliefs so they can experience a more purposeful, fulfilled and aligned life.

    37 min
  5. 107.Escaping the Pressure Prison: 5 Shawshank Principles for High Performers Who Can't Turn It Off

    FEB 23

    107.Escaping the Pressure Prison: 5 Shawshank Principles for High Performers Who Can't Turn It Off

    👉 You've chased every win, hit every goal… and still feel restless and unfulfilled. The Great Life Experiment is $300K of learnings distilled into 30 days of reflection that finally show you why. Start Your 30-Day Challenge Now: http://TheGreatlLifeExperiment.ca/ Are you successful on paper but secretly exhausted inside? Do you feel trapped by responsibility at work, even though you worked hard to get here? What if you are not burned out, but carrying success the wrong way? 🤯 In this episode of Real Influence, we explore why high performer burnout is not just about working too much. It is about the identity and patterns behind how you carry responsibility. If you have ever wondered why high achievers feel empty after success, why you cannot seem to escape hustle culture, or why leadership pressure never really turns off, this conversation is for you. We unpack how to stop overthinking, how to stop overworking, and how to escape overdrive mode without quitting your job or abandoning your ambition. The truth is, you are not trapped by work. You are trapped by the patterns that define how you carry it. If you have been feeling trapped by responsibility at work, navigating corporate burnout recovery, or trying to figure out how to regulate stress while maintaining high performance, this episode will help you break the burnout success pattern and shift from force to flow. 🤓 We dive into identity rewiring, breaking stress patterns, calm leadership under pressure, and why success without suffering is possible. You will learn how to stop tying self worth to productivity, how to redefine success beyond hustle culture, and how to build inner freedom without immediately escaping corporate life. This is not about lowering your standards. It is about rewiring the high performer mindset so you can achieve more by forcing less. It is about leadership without self sacrifice. It is about realizing you are not burned out. You are misaligned. If you have ever asked yourself how to stop overworking but stay ambitious, why you feel trapped even after achieving your goals, or how to regulate stress while carrying big responsibility, you will resonate deeply with this episode. It is time to break autopilot thinking, redesign your success patterns, and step into a new way of leading rooted in clarity, vision, and sustainable performance. 😄 If this episode helped you, share it with another high achiever who may be silently carrying too much pressure. Subscribe for more conversations on escaping hustle culture, high performer burnout recovery, and building success without self sacrifice. In this, we'll talk about: 00:00 Successful but Secretly Exhausted? The Hidden Trap 02:13 Extreme Ownership: No One Is Coming to Save You 04:49 Silence Speaks Louder Than Words 07:32 Act As If the Wish Is Fulfilled 11:49 Stay the Course and Have Faith Through Adversity 15:53 Breaking the Hustle and Grind Reflex 16:47 Vision Over Tactics: Your North Star 22:55 Responsibility Without Self-Sacrifice Connect with Joey on your favourite social platforms! https://joeyvaillancourt.com/ https://www.instagram.com/joeyvaillancourt/ https://www.facebook.com/joey.vaillancourt.9/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/joey-vaillancourt/ https://www.youtube.com/@joeyvaillancourt-realinfluence Enhance your mental clarity, focus, and brain wellness with NeuroVizr—get 10% off with code JOEYV.https://neurovizr.com/?ref=rirxqhll Transform your meditation and boost sleep, creativity, and focus with Sens.ai—save $100 with code REALINFLUENCE. https://sens.ai/realinfluence

    27 min
  6. 106.Why We Get Emotionally Triggered and How to Resolve It at the Root to Build More Trust

    FEB 16

    106.Why We Get Emotionally Triggered and How to Resolve It at the Root to Build More Trust

    👉 You've chased every win, hit every goal… and still feel restless and unfulfilled. The Great Life Experiment is $300K of learnings distilled into 30 days of reflection that finally show you why. Start Your 30-Day Challenge Now: http://TheGreatlLifeExperiment.ca/ Why do you get triggered so easily even when you tell yourself you should be more mature by now? Why does success still feel empty even after you prove yourself over and over again? And what if your emotional triggers are not random but rooted in a core belief you have never questioned? In this episode, we go deep into emotional triggers, golden child syndrome, lack of trust, and the unconscious belief systems that silently run your life. If you have ever wondered how to stop getting triggered or how to stop reacting emotionally in moments that feel small but hit hard, this conversation is for you. I share a powerful workshop exercise inspired by the book Trigger Proof and Family Constellations work that helped me uncover the core belief behind my emotional reactions. For years, I operated from a lack of trust in relationships without even realizing it. I believed I had to overachieve, prove myself, and control outcomes. But underneath it all was a deeper pattern rooted in childhood and golden child syndrome. This episode breaks down emotional triggers explained in a practical way. We explore why you overreact, how to respond instead of react, and how to rewrite limiting beliefs that were formed decades ago. If you struggle with trust issues, self authorship, mindset reprogramming, or unconscious suffering patterns, this will resonate deeply. You will learn how to identify your core program, how to heal trust issues, and how to shift from reacting emotionally to responding consciously. This is about self awareness, emotional growth, and doing the inner work required to become trigger proof. It is about understanding why you say things like I knew I could not trust them or I always have to prove myself. If you are an overachiever who feels unsettled, someone who experiences emotional triggers in relationships, or someone trying to understand why success still feels empty, this episode will give you language and tools to move forward. You will see how childhood affects adult behavior and how becoming aware of your golden child patterns can completely shift your life. The goal is not perfection. The goal is awareness. Once you see the belief, you can rewrite it. Once you identify the resistance, you can create desired results. That is the power of self authorship and conscious mindset reprogramming 😌 If this episode helped you understand your triggers, share your biggest insight in the comments. Your awareness could create a ripple effect for someone else 🤓 Subscribe for more conversations on emotional intelligence, identity awareness, belief rewiring, and living a more purposeful life. In this, we'll talk about: 00:00 Why Do You Get Triggered So Easily? 01:10 The Workshop That Changed My Perspective 03:30 Ego, Blind Spots, and Hidden Core Programs 06:20 The Letter Exercise to Reveal Your Triggers 08:30 The Lack of Trust Pattern Explained 10:15 Golden Child Syndrome and Overachieving 12:45 Nothing Left to Prove 14:30 How to Rewrite Limiting Beliefs and Become Trigger Proof   Connect with Joey on your favourite social platforms! https://joeyvaillancourt.com/ https://www.instagram.com/joeyvaillancourt/ https://www.facebook.com/joey.vaillancourt.9/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/joey-vaillancourt/ https://www.youtube.com/@joeyvaillancourt-realinfluence Enhance your mental clarity, focus, and brain wellness with NeuroVizr—get 10% off with code JOEYV.https://neurovizr.com/?ref=rirxqhll Transform your meditation and boost sleep, creativity, and focus with Sens.ai—save $100 with code REALINFLUENCE. https://sens.ai/realinfluence

    20 min
  7. 105.Success Without Sacrifice: Alex Hormozi, Tony Robbins, and Rethinking the Beliefs Behind Hustle Culture

    FEB 9

    105.Success Without Sacrifice: Alex Hormozi, Tony Robbins, and Rethinking the Beliefs Behind Hustle Culture

    👉 You've chased every win, hit every goal… and still feel restless and unfulfilled. The Great Life Experiment is $300K of learnings distilled into 30 days of reflection that finally show you why. Start Your 30-Day Challenge Now: http://TheGreatlLifeExperiment.ca/ Are you successful on paper, but still feel empty inside? Have you ever wondered why hustle culture rewards suffering but postpones joy? What if the belief system driving your success is the very thing draining your happiness? In this episode, we break down the Tony Robbins and Alex Hormozi interview that quietly turned into a powerful live coaching session 🤯. What Tony Robbins exposed wasn't about tactics, productivity hacks, or how to scale a business. It was about the belief system running hustle culture and why so many high achievers feel burned out, unfulfilled, and disconnected despite massive success. If you've ever believed that success requires sacrifice, suffering, or grinding at the expense of your health, relationships, or peace, this conversation will challenge everything you think you know about achievement. We explore why the "fuck happiness" mindset is dangerous for high achievers, how productivity without alignment leads to burnout, and what success without sacrifice actually looks like in real life. This video dives deep into identity shifting, the entrepreneur mindset shift Tony Robbins invited Alex Hormozi into, and why redefining success is essential if you want to build wealth without losing joy 😌. You'll learn how hustle culture trains people to equate suffering with strength, why success can still feel empty, and how to move toward aligned success that feels fulfilling instead of exhausting. Whether you're an entrepreneur, creator, or high performer questioning the grind, this episode is about breaking free from hustle culture, becoming your future self, and designing a life rooted in purpose driven success 🌱. If you're ready to redefine who you are, reconnect with what actually matters, and build success without struggle, this message is for you. 👉 Watch until the end if you've ever felt successful but unfulfilled, productive but disconnected, or ambitious yet exhausted because you're not broken, and you don't need to suffer to succeed. In this, we'll talk about: 00:00 Tony Robbins & Alex Hormozi Coaching Session 02:05 Hustle Culture Mindset Exposed 05:00 Success Without Fulfillment 07:55 Identity Shift for High Achievers 10:20 Becoming Your Future Self 13:20  Productivity vs Alignment 16:00 Why Suffering Is Not Required for Success 19:30 Redefining Success Without Sacrifice Connect with Joey on your favourite social platforms! https://joeyvaillancourt.com/ https://www.instagram.com/joeyvaillancourt/ https://www.facebook.com/joey.vaillancourt.9/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/joey-vaillancourt/ https://www.youtube.com/@joeyvaillancourt-realinfluence Enhance your mental clarity, focus, and brain wellness with NeuroVizr—get 10% off with code JOEYV.https://neurovizr.com/?ref=rirxqhll Transform your meditation and boost sleep, creativity, and focus with Sens.ai—save $100 with code REALINFLUENCE. https://sens.ai/realinfluence

    24 min
  8. 104.How We Stopped Fighting Over the Little Things and How to Reconnect Instead of React

    JAN 12

    104.How We Stopped Fighting Over the Little Things and How to Reconnect Instead of React

    👉 You've chased every win, hit every goal… and still feel restless and unfulfilled. The Great Life Experiment is $300K of learnings distilled into 30 days of reflection that finally show you why. Start Your 30-Day Challenge Now: http://TheGreatlLifeExperiment.ca/ Why do small things trigger big fights in relationships? Have you ever wondered why you keep reacting to your partner even when you don't want to? And why does it feel like the argument is never really about the thing you're arguing about? In this episode of Real Influence, Joey breaks down why small things trigger you in relationships and how those moments are often tied to old emotional patterns, inherited beliefs, and nervous system reactions you didn't consciously choose 🤓. If you've ever asked yourself "why do tiny annoyances turn into big arguments?" or "why do I overreact to my partner?", this conversation will hit home. We explore why small things cause big fights, how reacting versus responding in relationships shapes connection, and what's actually happening in your body when you feel triggered 😄. Joey explains relationship triggers, defensiveness, and emotional reactions in relationships, helping you see conflict not as a failure but as information. This episode is especially for anyone stuck in repeating relationship patterns, struggling with communication in long-term relationships, or feeling frustrated that awareness alone hasn't stopped the same arguments from happening again. You'll learn how to stop fighting over small things, how to respond instead of react, and how to interrupt the automatic reactions that damage connection. We also dive into how childhood conditioning shows up in adult relationships, why resentment builds quietly, and how emotional regulation in relationships starts with self-awareness, not control 🤍. If you're searching for how to heal relationship triggers, how to stop being defensive with your partner, or why your partner triggers you so easily, this episode gives you language and clarity. This isn't relationship advice about fixing your partner. It's about breaking emotional loops, choosing conscious response, and learning how to create healthier, calmer, more connected relationships from the inside out. 🔔 SUBSCRIBE for weekly episodes on self-mastery, relationships, emotional regulation, and living in alignment. 👍 LIKE this video if it resonated and SHARE it with someone who needs to hear it. In this, we'll talk about: 00:00 Why Small Triggers Create Big Emotional Reactions 06:10 Why Conflict Is Rarely About What You're Fighting Over 12:05 How Past Conditioning Shows Up in Present Relationships 18:40 Reaction vs Response and Why Awareness Isn't Enough 25:30 The Nervous System, Safety, and Emotional Regulation 32:10 Why You Keep Repeating the Same Relationship Patterns 39:15 How to Interrupt Emotional Loops in Real Time 46:20 Choosing Connection, Responsibility, and Growth   Connect with Joey on your favourite social platforms! https://joeyvaillancourt.com/ https://www.instagram.com/joeyvaillancourt/ https://www.facebook.com/joey.vaillancourt.9/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/joey-vaillancourt/ https://www.youtube.com/@joeyvaillancourt-realinfluence Enhance your mental clarity, focus, and brain wellness with NeuroVizr—get 10% off with code JOEYV.https://neurovizr.com/?ref=rirxqhll Transform your meditation and boost sleep, creativity, and focus with Sens.ai—save $100 with code REALINFLUENCE. https://sens.ai/realinfluence   Connect with Monika! Social: https://www.instagram.com/monikavaillancourt/ Coaching: https://joeyvaillancourt.com/coaching/

    51 min
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Welcome to Real Influence with Joey V, where you'll learn the tools and meet the people who can help you master the art of self-influence – the innate power we all have to transform our thoughts, beliefs, habits, and behaviors and lead more intentional, authentic, and inspired lives. In each episode, Joey Vaillancourt shares personal stories from his journey of radically reinventing his life and invites his guests to reveal the techniques they've used to overcome adversity and create success on their terms. Whether you're looking to grow your business, improve your relationship, or find more fulfillment in your personal life, Real Influence With Joey V is your place to discover how to lead yourself first and, in doing so, create a ripple effect that influences the world around you. If you're ready to stop letting the external forces around you control your reality and start transforming your life from the inside out, you've come to the right place. Check your ego at the door, drop the mask, and prepare to explore what's REAL—because that's where true influence begins.

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