Relationships By Design

Dan & Carol Ohler
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Married for over 36 years, Carol and Dan bring a wealth of formal education and training, plus the school of hard-knocks, tried and tested, been-there-done-that strategies that make a relationship work. They’ve experienced the guck (and lots of it), but through vulnerability, dedication, and the hard work of changing themselves, they now experience an ever-growing love, as a team. They know that a high-quality life is dependent upon high-quality relationships, and they are passionate about helping others to proactively create relationship success. In their podcasts, you’ll gain tools, strategies, and perspectives to create your relationships by your design, rather than having them happen by default.

  1. 2023-07-14

    40 Weathering the Storms in your Relationship

    Bad weather isn’t just outside us; it can also be in the relationship and destroy it from the inside. Agreeing on a strategy, or a plan to deal with the bad weather helps us more quickly get on the path to the life of the relationship we want!

  2. 2023-06-09

    39 Mentoring Magic

    Relationship mentors are everywhere. They display examples of what others are doing on approaches we can choose to apply to, damage, or to enhance our relationships. That’s the point of creating Relationships by Design!

  3. 2023-05-12

    38 Desire to Engage

    Have you had a time when you attempted to engage with your partner and been unsuccessful? Do you argue or disagree about the same things repeatedly? You’re definitely not alone here!

  4. 2023-04-14

    37 Give Love A Chance

    Not getting results that you want in your relationship? How do you make changes and guarantee a more enjoyable future? Join us to give change a chance! It’s tough to change. The comfort of the known is convenient, it’s the familiar zone! How do we consciously and intentionally make changes to self to get the changes that we want, both individually and together? “I can only make changes to myself, you can only make changes to yourself, yet by us being a good support system to each other we can be a good support system for each other for the changes we’re making.” This takes a level of honesty and communication. Where are we going? What will our lives be ten, twenty, thirty years from now look like with that destination in mind? For some couples, it’s hard to look ten years off, and it takes some real intentionality to reflect on this.  Through the process, don’t forget to celebrate the small things! Look at how much change has happened perhaps this week, month, or year… look at where we are now. Give change a chance! The whole point of change is to improve and create different experiences that we’d like to have more of. It’s about the quality of life, and to believe that it will really be different. It takes a level of consciousness to be open, but if we are conscious and intentional, it will change in the way we want to and are open too. We’re changing our future history.   Dr. Brené Brown – When you are blaming, you are not learning Drama & Conflict In Your Relationship 1 Choice That Changes Everything In Your Marriage Dr. Brené Brown – When you are blaming, you are not learning Drama & Conflict In Your Relationship 1 Choice That Changes Everything In Your Marriage   Dan & Carol: website | facebook | linkedIn - dan | linkedin - carol

  5. 2023-03-10

    36 Utilizing Strengths In Your Relationships

    As individuals, we each have strength. In a relationship, our individual strengths need to be consciously utilized together. And with some strong communication and trust it can go a long way! “Each one of us has incredible strengths, and yet we may not be strong in the same area and to figure out how we can utilize each person’s strengths in each situation.” Trust is a powerful thing. We’re all there in support of one another and take lead at different times. Nobody is less than the other, it’s about having a huge appreciation for other people’s strengths and being okay with that! It’s okay to be vulnerable and to ask for help and support from the people that are close to you! The willingness to ask and receive goes both ways. Build a trust at home and then expand it out to kids, friends, and outside community. The power between the two of you is critical to work out first, and requires some conscious work. If you start from the outside looking in, it likely feels daunting. And yet when you start from my circle of influence, where you have control… it looks doable! Be conscious and joyful, have appreciation. That glows and affects everyone around us as well!   Heart of Relationships – The Bigger Impact The Power Between Gratitude Rituals Gratitude & Appreciation Burn Your Romance Novels & Regnite Real Romance – Dr. Cheryl Fraser   Dan & Carol: website | facebook | linkedIn - dan | linkedin - carol

  6. 2023-02-10

    35 How To Hold My Partner Accountable

    Accountability is not so easy, and perhaps downright impossible! How do we hold each other to a level of love, patience, and respect in these situations? If you’re coming in at the same level, then communication is effective. If someone is at a different perceived level, then it could feel like one person is at a place of power or authority, and the other one is a child... or incapable. Be respectful in accountability, don’t shoot them down or shame them. Small things often cause conflict in relationships – let's clarify expectations! “It all boils down to good ole communication, doesn’t it?” Accountability really is the ultimate empowerment tool. Create agreements and commitments that make you both feel good in the situation. Commit to the time to talk about things with open, honest conversations. Imagine the joy, fun, love, success and accomplishments when we hold ourselves accountable and have fun with it!   Accountability In Your Relationship Is Critical Accountability In Speech Emotional Awareness: A Life-changer Creating A Culture Of Accountability Not Blame – Michael Timms How I Stopped Trying To Control My Partner – Gottman Institute   Dan & Carol: website | facebook | linkedIn - dan | linkedin - carol

  7. 2023-01-13

    34 Life is a Jigsaw Puzzle

    Have you considered your life being similar to a jigsaw puzzle? The only exception being you don’t know how the final picture looks - you get to create it. Let’s enjoy the process!

  8. 2022-12-09

    33 Heart of Relationships - The Bigger Impact

    What impact do you have on the world? And more importantly - what impact would you like to have? It all seems so daunting! As a first responder, you must look after yourself first before you can reach out and help anyone else out. You put your own oxygen mask on first before serving others. Because if you are not healthy then you have no ability, really, to be a true value to help in relationship with others. It’s so rewarding to be on the same page supporting each other, valuing each other, being on the same team! You have an impact on your entire extended family, whether you live under the same roof or not. The mom & dad are hugely influential in teaching the kids how to treat relationships in the future... their partners. Its important to start now, you can’t change the past. “We truly could make a difference in the world if we started with ourselves. And then our home relationship, our work, our world, our society.” What can you do right now in your own little circle of influence to make it a little bit better? It’s all about attention, intention, building my energy and building the best that you can be for your family, your community. What a big impact that can be when we all focus on that! Heart of Relationships previous podcast – the basics Building community – Rituals Leadership – at Work and at Home Dan & Carol: website | facebook | linkedIn - dan | linkedin - carol

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Married for over 36 years, Carol and Dan bring a wealth of formal education and training, plus the school of hard-knocks, tried and tested, been-there-done-that strategies that make a relationship work. They’ve experienced the guck (and lots of it), but through vulnerability, dedication, and the hard work of changing themselves, they now experience an ever-growing love, as a team. They know that a high-quality life is dependent upon high-quality relationships, and they are passionate about helping others to proactively create relationship success. In their podcasts, you’ll gain tools, strategies, and perspectives to create your relationships by your design, rather than having them happen by default.

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  • Creator
    Dan & Carol Ohler
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2023
  • Episodes
    41
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2024 Thinkin Outside The Barn
  • Show Website
    Relationships By Design