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Tell me your secret, I'll tell you mine — true confessions of love, sex, money, food, addiction, and hidden taboo topics that are often hilarious, uplifting, and hopeful. Every Monday, best-selling author and actress, Brianne Davis, pulls back the curtain on the deepest, darkest, heartbreaking, and even silly secrets from an eclectic group of guests. While sharing her own secrets in each episode, Brianne's disarming approach creates an intimate and safe space for her guests to bare their souls, uncover the truth, and share practical advice. And just like that, we're laughing, crying, inspired, and filled with hope.

Brianne's best-selling book, Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict, a roman à clef novel based on a decade in recovery (with a dash of creative license), launched in February 2021.

Want to share your secret and be a guest on the show? Email us at secretlifepodcast@icloud.com or visit www.secretlifepodcast.com

Secret Life Brianne Davis

    • Society & Culture
    • 4.9 • 20 Ratings

Tell me your secret, I'll tell you mine — true confessions of love, sex, money, food, addiction, and hidden taboo topics that are often hilarious, uplifting, and hopeful. Every Monday, best-selling author and actress, Brianne Davis, pulls back the curtain on the deepest, darkest, heartbreaking, and even silly secrets from an eclectic group of guests. While sharing her own secrets in each episode, Brianne's disarming approach creates an intimate and safe space for her guests to bare their souls, uncover the truth, and share practical advice. And just like that, we're laughing, crying, inspired, and filled with hope.

Brianne's best-selling book, Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict, a roman à clef novel based on a decade in recovery (with a dash of creative license), launched in February 2021.

Want to share your secret and be a guest on the show? Email us at secretlifepodcast@icloud.com or visit www.secretlifepodcast.com

    Confusing Intensity For Intimacy

    Confusing Intensity For Intimacy

    In this enthralling installment of the Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis-Gantt delves deep into the often-confused realms of intensity and intimacy. With the precision of a seasoned guide, she navigates the tumultuous waters where the thrill of a new relationship can easily be mistaken for a genuine connection. Brianne unravels the complex ties between our nervous systems and our need for intense experiences, revealing how this quest for a high can lead us astray.

    Through candid discussions with her clients and personal reflections, Brianne dissects the allure of the passionate, all-consuming love that movies and myths have sold us. She exposes the truth behind these feelings – a nervous system hijacked by past traumas and an addiction to drama that masks itself as love. In contrast, she paints a picture of true intimacy as a calm, safe, and equal exchange between two whole individuals.

    This episode is a beacon for those seeking to understand why they chase the rollercoaster relationships and how to recognize the steady glow of healthy companionship. Brianne offers practical advice for retraining our nervous systems to appreciate the subtler, yet more sustainable forms of intimacy. If you've ever mistaken a heart-racing fling for a soulmate connection, this conversation is a must-listen.

    Join us as we challenge the misconceptions of love and learn to embrace the gentle power of real intimacy over the deceptive rush of intensity. It's time to redefine what it means to be truly close to someone, without the drama.

    #SecretLifePodcast #IntensityVsIntimacy #HealthyRelationships #EmotionalHealth #TrueConnection #LoveMythsDebunked #RelationshipGoals #NervousSystem #TraumaInformed #SelfAwareness #HealthyBoundaries

    Episode Chapters

    (02:15) The confusion between intensity and intimacy

    (07:48) How our nervous systems crave and recreate trauma

    (13:34) The signs of an unhealthy intensity in relationships

    (19:57) Defining true intimacy and how it differs from intensity

    (25:42) Practical tips for nurturing a healthy, intimate relationship

    (31:09) Embracing calm and safety over chaos and intensity

    🔑 Episode Keywords

    Intensity Vs Intimacy, Healthy Dating, Love Addiction, Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis Gantt, Hollywood Sex And Love Addict, Emotional Health, Relationship Advice, Trauma And Relationships, Inner Child Work, Shadow Work, Personal Recovery Stories, Sex And Love Addicts Anonymous, Nervous System Regulation, Codependency, Toxic Relationships, Self-Help Books, Amazon Bestsellers, Intimacy In Relationships, Healthy Boundaries

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    If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, depression, trauma, sexual abuse or feeling overwhelmed, we've compiled a list of resources at https://secretlifepodcast.com.
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    Secret Life Podcast's episodes include topics addressing addiction and recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting,  molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness.
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    • 16 min
    Never Underestimate Trauma

    Never Underestimate Trauma

    In this profound episode of Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis-Gantt confronts the underestimated force of trauma and its pervasive influence on our lives. With unflinching honesty, Brianne delves into the myriad ways trauma manifests, from addictions and toxic relationships to relentless pursuits of success and material possessions. Through a powerful narrative, she shares a gripping intervention story, shedding light on trauma's role in substance abuse and the often overlooked emotional wounds beneath.

    Join Brianne as she emphasizes the importance of facing our past pains and the dangers of trivializing our experiences by comparing them to others'. She encourages listeners to ask themselves hard-hitting questions about their behaviors and to recognize the signs of unaddressed trauma. Whether it's neglect, abandonment, or abuse, Brianne stresses that trauma doesn't discriminate and can impact anyone, regardless of their outward success or happiness.

    This episode is a call to action to stop running from our shadows and to start the healing process. Brianne offers practical advice for uncovering and confronting the trauma that lies hidden within, advocating for a life of true freedom and release from the patterns that hold us back. If you're ready to break the cycle and face the trauma that's been steering your life, this episode is an essential listen.

    #SecretLifePodcast #Trauma #HealingJourney #Addiction #MentalHealth #EmotionalPain #Recovery #SelfDiscovery #Intervention #TrueFreedom #HealingTrauma #PersonalGrowth

    📋 Episode Chapters
    (00:00) Introduction to Secret Life Podcast
    (01:15) The intervention that revealed the impact of trauma
    (06:42) The many disguises of trauma in our behaviors
    (12:58) The importance of acknowledging and addressing trauma
    (18:22) Practical tools for uncovering and dealing with trauma
    (24:37) The call for authenticity and healing in our lives

    🔑 Episode Keywords

    Trauma, Recovery, Addiction, Mental Health, Self-Help, Healing, Intervention, Therapy, Personal Growth, Sex And Love Addiction, Toxic Relationships, Substance Abuse, Self-Care, Emotional Neglect, Childhood Trauma, Coping Mechanisms, Self-Discovery, Personal Stories, Overcoming Challenges, Self-Improvement

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    If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, depression, trauma, sexual abuse or feeling overwhelmed, we've compiled a list of resources at https://secretlifepodcast.com.
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    Secret Life Podcast's episodes include topics addressing addiction and recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting,  molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness.
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    • 14 min
    Toxic Long-Term Friendships

    Toxic Long-Term Friendships

    Dive into a raw and transformative journey with Brianne Davis-Gantt on this week's Secret Life Podcast, where she exposes the harsh reality of enduring toxic friendships. Brianne pulls no punches as she explores the reasons we cling to long-term relationships that drain our spirit and violate our boundaries. With her characteristic candor, she shares the signs of unhealthy friendships, from friends who can't rejoice in your success to those who emotionally manipulate or abandon you when you need them most.

    Through personal anecdotes and professional insights, Brianne guides listeners through the process of recognizing these detrimental patterns and the courage it takes to let go. If you're grappling with the pain of a friendship breakup or questioning the dynamics of your social circle, this episode offers a powerful reflection on self-worth and the pursuit of truly supportive connections. It's time to reassess your friendships and make space for healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

    Tune in, and prepare to be empowered to release the toxic ties that bind.

    #SecretLifePodcast #ToxicFriendships #LettingGo #HealthyBoundaries #SelfWorth #FriendshipBreakups #EmotionalHealth #PersonalGrowth #RealTalk #LifeLessons

    📋 Episode Chapters

    (00:00) Welcome to secret life podcast. I'm Brianne Davis-Gantt

    (01:05) A lot of my clients have let go of toxic friendships recently

    (05:39) They appear only for the good times and they're never there for the hard times

    (11:37) Many people that I work with, their friendships cannot disagree about something

    (17:13) Get rid of toxic friendships and see if you have any healthy ones

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    If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, depression, trauma, sexual abuse or feeling overwhelmed, we've compiled a list of resources at https://secretlifepodcast.com.
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    Secret Life Podcast's episodes include topics addressing addiction and recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting,  molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness.
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    Tell your friends & share online!
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    • 19 min
    Toxic Positivity

    Toxic Positivity

    In this eye-opening episode of the Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis-Gantt tackles the pervasive culture of toxic positivity and the misconception that positive thinking alone can heal deep-seated trauma. With her trademark blend of passion and authenticity, Brianne challenges the societal pressure to maintain a facade of happiness, arguing that true healing requires us to confront and feel our pain, not mask it with forced optimism. From vision boards to mantras, she debunks the myths that often hinder our emotional growth and advocates for a more honest approach to our inner struggles. Listen in as Brianne shares heartfelt stories, including her son's raw expression of emotion, to illustrate the power of embracing every feeling as it comes. If you're tired of the "good vibes only" narrative and ready to explore the real journey of healing, this episode is a must-listen.

    #SecretLifePodcast #ToxicPositivity #EmbraceThePain #RealEmotions #HealingTrauma #AuthenticLiving #EmotionalHonesty #FeelToHeal #NoMoreMasks #TheTruthAboutPositivity

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    If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, depression, trauma, sexual abuse or feeling overwhelmed, we've compiled a list of resources at https://secretlifepodcast.com.
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    Secret Life Podcast's episodes include topics addressing addiction and recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting,  molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness.
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    • 15 min
    Unlocking the Five Types of Intimacy

    Unlocking the Five Types of Intimacy

    As we journey beyond the initial rush of lust that so often masquerades as connection, Brianne breaks down the five essential types of intimacy: physical, emotional, intellectual, spiritual, and social. With her signature blend of humor and raw honesty, she shares personal anecdotes from her own 19-year relationship, offering insights into the evolution and deepening of intimate bonds over time. Whether you're navigating the complexities of a long-term partnership or seeking to enrich your connections across all spheres of life, this episode is a profound exploration of the art of intimacy. Tune in to discover how to cultivate a richer, more fulfilling life through the power of connection.

    Intimacy In Relationships, Sex And Love Addiction, Emotional Intimacy, Physical Intimacy, Intellectual Intimacy, Spiritual Intimacy, Social Intimacy, Relationship Advice, Love Bombing, Trauma And Recovery, Healthy Relationships, Connection And Isolation, Personal Growth, Communication In Marriage, Therapy And Self-Help, Relationship Longevity, Addiction Recovery, Vulnerability In Relationships, Sexual Connection, Moral Values In Partnerships

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    📋 Episode Chapters

    (00:00) Welcome to the Secret Life podcast. After twelve years of recovery in sex and love addiction

    (01:08) Welcome to Secret Life podcast. I'm Breanne Davis Gantt

    (01:45) Today we are talking about the five types of intimacy we got

    (05:33) Real emotional intimacy takes time to build, not infatuation

    (11:26) Spiritual intimacy can help couples move through tough times, Mark says

    (18:14) Look at your degree of social intimacy with your friends and partners

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    If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, depression, trauma, sexual abuse or feeling overwhelmed, we've compiled a list of resources at https://secretlifepodcast.com.
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    Secret Life Podcast's episodes include topics addressing addiction and recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting,  molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness.
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HOW CAN I SUPPORT THE PODCAST?
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    Tell your friends & share online!
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    • 21 min
    Porn: The Intimacy Killer - Fantasy vs. Reality

    Porn: The Intimacy Killer - Fantasy vs. Reality

    Explore the complex dynamics of intimacy in the latest episode of the Secret Life Podcast with host Brianne Davis-Gantt. Join the candid conversation as she delves into the impact of pornography on relationships, shedding light on how it can blur the lines between fantasy and reality. Brianne shares personal insights and stories from her journey, questioning the effects of widespread exposure to explicit content on emotional and physical connections. Tune in to uncover thought-provoking perspectives on the evolving landscape of intimacy in the digital age.

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    If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, depression, trauma, sexual abuse or feeling overwhelmed, we've compiled a list of resources at https://secretlifepodcast.com.
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    Secret Life Podcast's episodes include topics addressing addiction and recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting,  molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness.
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HOW CAN I SUPPORT THE PODCAST?
    Subscribe, Rate & Review here on Apple Podcasts
    Tell your friends & share online!
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    • 14 min

Customer Reviews

4.9 out of 5
20 Ratings

20 Ratings

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Unique and captivating conversations!

Brianne brings so much authenticity and realness to the world through the conversations she has on her podcast. Thank you for shedding light on so many areas that so many people don’t dare to talk about, what a breath of fresh air!

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I just can’t find the appeal.

I feel like this podcast is the embodiment of what those girls in high school that you couldn’t stand talking to likely talked about…

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