Self(ish) Confidence

Jess Clerke
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What if your confidence didn’t depend on fitting into a box you never wanted to be in? Self(ish) Confidence is the podcast for women who are done trying to live by someone else’s timeline and ready to trust their own. Your confidence is your superpower but it can be hard to show up as your authentic self. When you’re caught in the scroll of everyone’s highlight reel or walking into a room full of strangers, it can be hard to show up as the truest version of yourself.  Comparison kicks in. Doubt creeps up. And suddenly, being your full, beautiful, authentic self feels... hard. Self(ish) Confidence is your permission slip to stop performing and start showing up as YOU. It is about finding your confidence, shining your light and taking action toward your unconventional life.  This podcast is all about building real, unapologetic confidence (the kind that doesn’t need approval). Whether your life looks unconventional, unexpected, or totally different than what you thought it would.. you're in the right place!  Each week, your host Jess Clerke, Confidence Coach and creator of the Self(ish) Sisterhood, will walk with you through mindset shifts, personal stories, and confidence-boosting truths to help you break free from people-pleasing, trust your gut, and build a life you’re wildly obsessed with. This isn’t just a podcast — it’s your reminder that you’re not too much, never behind, and more than worthy of the life you want.  Let’s build that belief together.

  1. 2025-12-08

    [292] Building Confidence While Letting Go Of Old Selves

    A cup of tea, a quiet house, and one piercing thought: new people only know the version of us they meet today. From there, we follow a warm, honest path through identity shifts, seasonal energy changes, and the subtle grief of putting old selves on pedestals. I share why December feels lighter than the fog of October and November, how a nine year invites endings, and why shedding—like the snake—can be the kindest move you make for your future. We dig into practical confidence you can feel in your body. Tiny movements become powerful rituals: calf raises at the cutting board, hand shakes on the sidewalk, hip openers by the playpen. The goal isn’t to chase an image; it’s to move energy and rekindle self-respect. Alongside movement, I walk through simple self-knowledge prompts to meet your current season with clarity: What does a yes day look like now? Which foods, friends, and rhythms feel like celebration? With a nod to human design, I show how tuning into your inner signals—gut, emotions, or intuition—helps you make decisions that align with who you are today. Interested in my Barbados Retreat? Get all the info here to claim that last space. Press play to feel seen, to move a little, and to choose the you that exists right now. If this resonates, subscribe, share the episode with a friend, and leave a quick review so more women can find their way back to confidence. Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend or on your social media and tag me @jess.clerke so I can personally thank you for helping spread some confidence + love! Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence

    26 min

  2. 2025-12-01

    [291] From Hustle To Holiday Magic: Simple Shifts For Real Joy

    Ever feel like December turns your brain into a traffic jam of to-dos, emotions, and expectations? Jess opens the door to a quieter, kinder holiday—one shaped by real trees, paint-by-number nights, and a craft-strewn desk that used to be all business. This is a heartfelt exploration of confidence during seasons of change, from the high of a big speaking event to the full-body pause of new motherhood, and the mental loops that follow when we worry what others might think. We dig into the surprising power of creative play to break the hustle spell. Jess walks through three practical shifts for a lighter season: follow the smallest spark of curiosity, put in a little intentional effort, and make simple plans with the people you love. Even if your calendar is packed, there’s relief in booking joy into January and giving yourself something to anticipate. Along the way, you’ll hear how slowing down creates space for gratitude, how tiny traditions can refresh your energy, and why choosing fun on purpose resets your confidence better than any pep talk. If this conversation gave you a lift, tap follow, share with a friend who needs a soft reset, and leave a quick review so more people can find the show. Your note helps us grow and keeps the joy moving. Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend or on your social media and tag me @jess.clerke so I can personally thank you for helping spread some confidence + love! Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence

    28 min

  3. 2025-11-10

    [290] You Can’t Judge Yourself Into A Better Life

    When everything feels heavy and a chapter closes in plain sight, it’s easy to confuse an ending with a verdict. Jess opens up about identity shifts, public judgment, and why a normal season of change can feel unbearable when the internet turns every moment into a headline. From canceling plans to protect loved ones to reimagining a community offering, she traces the quiet decisions that make space for new beginnings, even when shame tries to take the mic. You can’t judge yourself into a better life. You can love yourself into one by trading rigid standards for realistic rhythms, measuring inputs you control, and honoring endings as the preface to beginnings. Expect practical reframes for heavy seasons, grounded encouragement for navigating holidays without perfection pressure, and a compassionate reminder that nothing is perfect behind the scenes. If this message gives you a little breath, share it with a friend who needs one too. Subscribe, leave a review, and tell us: what judgment are you ready to release today? Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend or on your social media and tag me @jess.clerke so I can personally thank you for helping spread some confidence + love! Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence

    27 min

  4. 2025-11-03

    [289] 9 Year: Endings, Beginnings, And Trusting Your Intuition

    One iced coffee, a foggy brain, and a brave truth: I’m closing The Selfish Sisterhood. Not because it failed. Not because I’m quitting. Because my intuition is loud enough to ask for space, and I finally stopped gripping something beautiful that no longer fits the season I’m in. We go deep on what a “nine year” feels like—a season of endings that clears the runway for a fresh “one year.” Whether you believe in numerology or just love a solid framework, this lens is surprisingly practical. I look back to 2016, the last one year when I started sharing online, tried new paths, and planted seeds that became this podcast. That reflection helps me accept why change hits harder now: I’m older, I’m a new mom, and I tied a lot of identity to what I built. Letting go feels like rewriting who I am, which is why it’s taken so long to tell you. If you’ve ever broken up with a “good” thing, you’ll get it. The community is thriving and kind. The systems are clean. The women are extraordinary. And still, my gut says the season is complete. I share the small rituals helping me hear that inner voice—journaling at nap time, five-minute meditations, a simple deck pull to focus—and how to make one honest move instead of waiting for the mythical perfect moment after the holidays. We talk grief without drama, hope without hype, and the courage to choose a simpler path in a world that celebrates burnout. This conversation is for anyone standing at a threshold: career changes, new motherhood, starting over, or just sensing a quiet shift you can’t yet name. If your hands are tired from holding, consider loosening the grip with me. This or something better is on the other side. If the message landed, follow, share, and leave a review so more people can find their own brave release. Then tell me: what chapter are you ready to close? Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend or on your social media and tag me @jess.clerke so I can personally thank you for helping spread some confidence + love! Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence

    25 min

  5. 2025-10-20

    [288] 4 Years Of Self(ish) Confidence

    Coffee in hand, PJs on, and a heart full of reflection—Jess opens up about what four years behind the mic have really taught her about confidence, creativity, and identity. The biggest myth she takes down first: growth is not a two‑week sprint. Your body, mind, and soul move on a different timeline than same‑day delivery, and real change needs space to breathe. You’ll walk away with practical encouragement to take one small step, a reminder that not every episode or page needs to be great to matter, and a nudge to spend more time getting to know yourself than scrolling someone else’s highlights. If human design, slow growth, and authentic self‑expression spark your curiosity, you’ll feel right at home here. Listen now, then tell us the next brave move you’ll make. If this resonates, subscribe, share with a friend who needs a push, and leave a quick review so more people can find their voice with us. Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend or on your social media and tag me @jess.clerke so I can personally thank you for helping spread some confidence + love! Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence

    25 min

  6. 2025-10-06

    [287] Is Your Dream Someone Else’s Nightmare?

    Ever notice how your perfect moment can look ridiculous to someone else? That contrast is the clue that your vision is finally your own. I share a raw, late-night snapshot—baby settled, pets piled on, a rare hush in the house—and the jolt of realizing it’s both my deepest peace and, for others, a total nightmare. From there, we explore how to define a dream that isn’t copy-pasted from the algorithm or family expectations, and how to build a life that feels calm, lived-in, and true. We talk about seasons: the big, expansive years when you launch, lead, and leap—and the quieter chapters that teach you to savour, listen, and protect your energy. I offer simple prompts to pull clarity from the noise: what is the dream for me, am I living parts of it now; and the focusing question, if today were my last, would I be satisfied with how I spent it? You’ll learn how to spot micro-moments of contentment, swap passive scrolling for presence, and make decisions from a center that actually holds. We also get real about community, why social media can’t replace face-to-face connection, and how small, intentional rituals create a sense of belonging. Where we take high level coaching, validation, implementation, inspiration, accountability to light a fire under your booty towards your dreams. Apply for the last two 1:1 spots of 2025. Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend or on your social media and tag me @jess.clerke so I can personally thank you for helping spread some confidence + love! Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence

    29 min

  7. 2025-09-29

    [286] Behind the Grind: Balancing Clarity, Action and Joy

    Change is inevitable, but navigating transitions with grace requires balancing the bittersweet emotions of growth. When cherished friendships evolve, careers shift, or new roles like parenthood transform our identity, we often find ourselves mourning previous versions of ourselves while simultaneously embracing new possibilities. Many of us fall into the trap of waiting for perfect clarity before taking action toward our dreams. But life rarely works that way. Instead, it offers small nuggets of insight—little breadcrumbs along a path—guiding us forward one step at a time. The magic lies in recognizing that clarity emerges through action, not before it. Each small step provides more information, more direction for the next move. It's the ultimate scavenger hunt where you only get the next clue after taking a step forward. This process of taking imperfect action builds confidence. When we move despite uncertainty, we demonstrate trust in ourselves and our resilience. The key is making these actions manageable—bite-sized steps that accumulate over time, creating significant momentum toward our goals. Ready to transform your environment? Join our Selfish Sisterhood community where you'll find support, connection, and guidance as you create spaces where you can truly thrive. Get 90 Days for $90 --->  https://jessiclerke.thrivecart.com/selfish-sisterhood-90/ Subscribe to Selfish Confidence for weekly inspiration on building confidence and embracing your authentic self, even when that path feels unconventional. Remember, we're in this together! Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend or on your social media and tag me @jess.clerke so I can personally thank you for helping spread some confidence + love! Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence

    27 min

  8. 2025-09-22

    [285] Environment Is Everything: Why Your Surroundings Shape Your Success

    Life often has us feeling like we're not enough—not doing enough, not achieving enough, not keeping up with everyone else. But what if the problem isn't you at all? What if you're simply in the wrong environment? This revelation hit me while reading a children's book to my eight-month-old son about sea creatures. I learned that turtles swim quickly in water yet move slowly on land. The metaphor struck me profoundly—imagine a turtle spending its entire life on land, constantly feeling inadequate because it couldn't match others' pace, never realizing it was simply in the wrong environment for its natural abilities. Your environment shapes everything about your success and well-being. This includes your physical spaces, the people surrounding you, and even how you treat your own body. Creating environments that support your authentic self doesn't require massive resources—just intentional choices about what energies you welcome into your life. Ready to transform your environment? Join our Selfish Sisterhood community where you'll find support, connection, and guidance as you create spaces where you can truly thrive. Get 90 Days for $90 --->  https://jessiclerke.thrivecart.com/selfish-sisterhood-90/ Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend or on your social media and tag me @jess.clerke so I can personally thank you for helping spread some confidence + love! Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence

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What if your confidence didn’t depend on fitting into a box you never wanted to be in? Self(ish) Confidence is the podcast for women who are done trying to live by someone else’s timeline and ready to trust their own. Your confidence is your superpower but it can be hard to show up as your authentic self. When you’re caught in the scroll of everyone’s highlight reel or walking into a room full of strangers, it can be hard to show up as the truest version of yourself.  Comparison kicks in. Doubt creeps up. And suddenly, being your full, beautiful, authentic self feels... hard. Self(ish) Confidence is your permission slip to stop performing and start showing up as YOU. It is about finding your confidence, shining your light and taking action toward your unconventional life.  This podcast is all about building real, unapologetic confidence (the kind that doesn’t need approval). Whether your life looks unconventional, unexpected, or totally different than what you thought it would.. you're in the right place!  Each week, your host Jess Clerke, Confidence Coach and creator of the Self(ish) Sisterhood, will walk with you through mindset shifts, personal stories, and confidence-boosting truths to help you break free from people-pleasing, trust your gut, and build a life you’re wildly obsessed with. This isn’t just a podcast — it’s your reminder that you’re not too much, never behind, and more than worthy of the life you want.  Let’s build that belief together.

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  • Creator
    Jess Clerke
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2025
  • Episodes
    294
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2025 Self(ish) Confidence
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