Self(ish) Confidence

Jess Clerke
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What if your confidence didn’t depend on fitting into a box you never wanted to be in? Self(ish) Confidence is the podcast for women who are done trying to live by someone else’s timeline and ready to trust their own. Your confidence is your superpower but it can be hard to show up as your authentic self. When you’re caught in the scroll of everyone’s highlight reel or walking into a room full of strangers, it can be hard to show up as the truest version of yourself.  Comparison kicks in. Doubt creeps up. And suddenly, being your full, beautiful, authentic self feels... hard. Self(ish) Confidence is your permission slip to stop performing and start showing up as YOU. It is about finding your confidence, shining your light and taking action toward your unconventional life.  This podcast is all about building real, unapologetic confidence (the kind that doesn’t need approval). Whether your life looks unconventional, unexpected, or totally different than what you thought it would.. you're in the right place!  Each week, your host Jess Clerke, Confidence Coach and creator of the Self(ish) Sisterhood, will walk with you through mindset shifts, personal stories, and confidence-boosting truths to help you break free from people-pleasing, trust your gut, and build a life you’re wildly obsessed with. This isn’t just a podcast — it’s your reminder that you’re not too much, never behind, and more than worthy of the life you want.  Let’s build that belief together.

  1. 4D AGO

    [296] Shedding to Shinning - Releasing Self-Beliefs, Feeling Your Feelings and Accepting New Opportunities

    The world feels heavy, the snow won’t quit, and emotions sit closer to the surface than usual—so we decided to name it, feel it, and turn it into momentum. We trace a powerful arc from the year of the snake to the year of the horse, unpacking why this transition can stir grief, restlessness, and a craving for renewal. Instead of forcing positivity, we get honest about the last six years, the hope that keeps returning, and the very human need to lay down what no longer fits before we pick up speed. I share the story behind my favorite Barbados mug and the retreat energy we’re bringing into May: confidence, sisterhood, and the courage to show up as the truest version of ourselves. From there, we dig into the work of shedding. You’ll get simple, grounded rituals to release looping fears and rigid opinions—write it down, burn or bury it, breathe it out—and embodied practices that help emotions move through your body rather than getting stuck in your throat and shoulders. We talk candidly about motherhood and identity, how old judgments can become cages, and why cracking the door on a once impossible desire can change your entire trajectory. Then comes initiation. The horse year is about action, not endless wishing. We lay out what messy action looks like in real life and why rest is strategic fuel, not a setback. Think fewer screens, more sleep, tiny creative moments, and the confidence that grows when you keep small promises to yourself. By the end, you’ll have prompts to decide what you’re leaving behind, language to speak your next step out loud, and a renewed sense that your energy matters in a world that needs your voice. If this resonates, send me a DM to share what you’re releasing, grab one of the final retreat spots, or ask about a Human Design reading. And if you’re loving Selfish Confidence, subscribe, share this episode with a friend, and leave a quick review—it helps more women find the courage to act. Barbados Retreat --> https://jessclerke.com/barbados-retreat Barbados Retreat Waitlist ---> https://jessclerke.myflodesk.com/retreat Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend or on your social media and tag me @jess.clerke so I can personally thank you for helping spread some confidence + love! Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence

    35 min

  2. JAN 20

    [295] Why Your Screen Time Matters More Than Your Kid’s

    We get honest about the modern routine: wake to a small screen, work on a medium screen, unwind with a big screen, and fall asleep with the small one again. I share why I stopped obsessing over my child’s screen time and started measuring my own. We explore the real costs—anxiety, comparison, memory slip, and that itchy feeling of never quite being here—as well as the real gifts technology brings when it’s used on purpose. If you’ve ever wondered why your day feels thin after an hour of reels, this conversation will feel like a deep exhale. You’ll hear practical steps that actually work in a busy life: 5‑minute social media limits with the Be Present app, switching your phone to grayscale to dull the dopamine, deleting high‑drain apps, and moving long replies to desktop. We talk about morning phone fasts that reset cravings, buddy accountability to keep promises, and how boredom becomes a greenhouse for creativity and calm. Along the way, we return to what matters: modeling healthy habits for our kids, finding quiet rituals that lower the anxiety hum, and noticing the small joys—snow-laced trees, a neighbor’s hello, a child turning pages just to hear the sound. Barbados Self(ish) Retreat --> https://jessclerke.com/barbados-retreat Be Present App ---> https://www.bepresentapp.com/ If you’re ready to step out of the algorithm and back into your life, press play, try one habit today, and tell me how it goes. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a review so more women can find the tools and community to build real confidence. Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend or on your social media and tag me @jess.clerke so I can personally thank you for helping spread some confidence + love! Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence

    44 min

  3. JAN 12

    [294] How Tuning Into Human Design’s New Year Can Reset Your Energy And Your Intentions

    What if your resolutions don’t stick because you’re starting at the wrong time? We press pause on the January 1 rush and walk through the Human Design New Year, a gentler pivot point that begins when the sun enters Gate 41. That shift gives us room to reflect on what felt off last year, release what no longer fits, and set intentions that match our actual energy instead of someone else’s timeline. I share how a small nudge—updating a vision board when the energy changed—sparked a bigger conversation about timing, confidence, and self-trust. We explore the basics of human design in everyday life: why a manifesting generator partner needs multiple outlets to glow, why projectors work best with rest and precision, and how seeing your type, authority, and profile on paper can dissolve old judgments. The goal isn’t perfection; it’s relief, clarity, and momentum that lasts past week two of January. Press play to trade hurry for alignment. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs a softer start line, and leave a review to help more listeners find their timing. Then tell me: what’s one belief you’re ready to shed before you begin? Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend or on your social media and tag me @jess.clerke so I can personally thank you for helping spread some confidence + love! Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence

    30 min

  4. JAN 5

    [293] Hello 2026: A Slow Start To The New Year

    Ready for a new year that doesn’t demand a sprint from day one? We’re starting 2026 with honesty, a warm cup of chai, and a clear reminder that winter is for roots. The holidays were full, the house is still a mess, and yet the path forward can feel calm and strong when we stop forcing hustle and start trusting the season we’re in. We reflect on a year of shedding—friendships, roles, routines—and how that release makes room for a steadier kind of confidence. Instead of a rigid resolution list, we choose one meaningful focus you can live across seasons. Think “be outside more,” then map it for winter, spring, summer, and fall. We share practical ideas for keeping goals visible where you’ll see them daily, and small daily actions that actually stick. Five minutes beats perfection. A sticky note on the fridge beats a forgotten note on your phone. Momentum grows when the plan fits your real life. Hit play, exhale, and pick your one focus for the year. Share it with me for accountability, send this to a friend who needs gentler goals, and leave a quick review so more women can find a space where confidence feels like home. Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend or on your social media and tag me @jess.clerke so I can personally thank you for helping spread some confidence + love! Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence

    31 min

  5. 2025-12-08

    [292] Building Confidence While Letting Go Of Old Selves

    A cup of tea, a quiet house, and one piercing thought: new people only know the version of us they meet today. From there, we follow a warm, honest path through identity shifts, seasonal energy changes, and the subtle grief of putting old selves on pedestals. I share why December feels lighter than the fog of October and November, how a nine year invites endings, and why shedding—like the snake—can be the kindest move you make for your future. We dig into practical confidence you can feel in your body. Tiny movements become powerful rituals: calf raises at the cutting board, hand shakes on the sidewalk, hip openers by the playpen. The goal isn’t to chase an image; it’s to move energy and rekindle self-respect. Alongside movement, I walk through simple self-knowledge prompts to meet your current season with clarity: What does a yes day look like now? Which foods, friends, and rhythms feel like celebration? With a nod to human design, I show how tuning into your inner signals—gut, emotions, or intuition—helps you make decisions that align with who you are today. Interested in my Barbados Retreat? Get all the info here to claim that last space. Press play to feel seen, to move a little, and to choose the you that exists right now. If this resonates, subscribe, share the episode with a friend, and leave a quick review so more women can find their way back to confidence. Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend or on your social media and tag me @jess.clerke so I can personally thank you for helping spread some confidence + love! Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence

    26 min

  6. 2025-12-01

    [291] From Hustle To Holiday Magic: Simple Shifts For Real Joy

    Ever feel like December turns your brain into a traffic jam of to-dos, emotions, and expectations? Jess opens the door to a quieter, kinder holiday—one shaped by real trees, paint-by-number nights, and a craft-strewn desk that used to be all business. This is a heartfelt exploration of confidence during seasons of change, from the high of a big speaking event to the full-body pause of new motherhood, and the mental loops that follow when we worry what others might think. We dig into the surprising power of creative play to break the hustle spell. Jess walks through three practical shifts for a lighter season: follow the smallest spark of curiosity, put in a little intentional effort, and make simple plans with the people you love. Even if your calendar is packed, there’s relief in booking joy into January and giving yourself something to anticipate. Along the way, you’ll hear how slowing down creates space for gratitude, how tiny traditions can refresh your energy, and why choosing fun on purpose resets your confidence better than any pep talk. If this conversation gave you a lift, tap follow, share with a friend who needs a soft reset, and leave a quick review so more people can find the show. Your note helps us grow and keeps the joy moving. Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend or on your social media and tag me @jess.clerke so I can personally thank you for helping spread some confidence + love! Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence

    28 min

  7. 2025-11-10

    [290] You Can’t Judge Yourself Into A Better Life

    When everything feels heavy and a chapter closes in plain sight, it’s easy to confuse an ending with a verdict. Jess opens up about identity shifts, public judgment, and why a normal season of change can feel unbearable when the internet turns every moment into a headline. From canceling plans to protect loved ones to reimagining a community offering, she traces the quiet decisions that make space for new beginnings, even when shame tries to take the mic. You can’t judge yourself into a better life. You can love yourself into one by trading rigid standards for realistic rhythms, measuring inputs you control, and honoring endings as the preface to beginnings. Expect practical reframes for heavy seasons, grounded encouragement for navigating holidays without perfection pressure, and a compassionate reminder that nothing is perfect behind the scenes. If this message gives you a little breath, share it with a friend who needs one too. Subscribe, leave a review, and tell us: what judgment are you ready to release today? Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend or on your social media and tag me @jess.clerke so I can personally thank you for helping spread some confidence + love! Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence

    27 min

  8. 2025-11-03

    [289] 9 Year: Endings, Beginnings, And Trusting Your Intuition

    One iced coffee, a foggy brain, and a brave truth: I’m closing The Selfish Sisterhood. Not because it failed. Not because I’m quitting. Because my intuition is loud enough to ask for space, and I finally stopped gripping something beautiful that no longer fits the season I’m in. We go deep on what a “nine year” feels like—a season of endings that clears the runway for a fresh “one year.” Whether you believe in numerology or just love a solid framework, this lens is surprisingly practical. I look back to 2016, the last one year when I started sharing online, tried new paths, and planted seeds that became this podcast. That reflection helps me accept why change hits harder now: I’m older, I’m a new mom, and I tied a lot of identity to what I built. Letting go feels like rewriting who I am, which is why it’s taken so long to tell you. If you’ve ever broken up with a “good” thing, you’ll get it. The community is thriving and kind. The systems are clean. The women are extraordinary. And still, my gut says the season is complete. I share the small rituals helping me hear that inner voice—journaling at nap time, five-minute meditations, a simple deck pull to focus—and how to make one honest move instead of waiting for the mythical perfect moment after the holidays. We talk grief without drama, hope without hype, and the courage to choose a simpler path in a world that celebrates burnout. This conversation is for anyone standing at a threshold: career changes, new motherhood, starting over, or just sensing a quiet shift you can’t yet name. If your hands are tired from holding, consider loosening the grip with me. This or something better is on the other side. If the message landed, follow, share, and leave a review so more people can find their own brave release. Then tell me: what chapter are you ready to close? Thank you for listening to Self(ish) Confidence! If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend or on your social media and tag me @jess.clerke so I can personally thank you for helping spread some confidence + love! Check out my website at: www.jessclerke.com If you're on instagram, come say hi!! 👋👋 My Personal Account ---> @jess.clerke The Podcast Account ---> @selfishconfidence

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What if your confidence didn’t depend on fitting into a box you never wanted to be in? Self(ish) Confidence is the podcast for women who are done trying to live by someone else’s timeline and ready to trust their own. Your confidence is your superpower but it can be hard to show up as your authentic self. When you’re caught in the scroll of everyone’s highlight reel or walking into a room full of strangers, it can be hard to show up as the truest version of yourself.  Comparison kicks in. Doubt creeps up. And suddenly, being your full, beautiful, authentic self feels... hard. Self(ish) Confidence is your permission slip to stop performing and start showing up as YOU. It is about finding your confidence, shining your light and taking action toward your unconventional life.  This podcast is all about building real, unapologetic confidence (the kind that doesn’t need approval). Whether your life looks unconventional, unexpected, or totally different than what you thought it would.. you're in the right place!  Each week, your host Jess Clerke, Confidence Coach and creator of the Self(ish) Sisterhood, will walk with you through mindset shifts, personal stories, and confidence-boosting truths to help you break free from people-pleasing, trust your gut, and build a life you’re wildly obsessed with. This isn’t just a podcast — it’s your reminder that you’re not too much, never behind, and more than worthy of the life you want.  Let’s build that belief together.

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  • Creator
    Jess Clerke
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    298
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    © 2026 Self(ish) Confidence
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