How It's Really Going with Shana Recker

Shana Recker

How It’s Really Going is where I share real conversations about midlife, business and whatever else is on my mind. I'm a midlife woman, wife, and entrepreneur navigating perimenopause, ADHD, body changes, and the evolving reality of running a business in midlife. This podcast isn’t about having it all figured out. It’s about talking honestly through the highs, the lows, and the messy middle, without pretending everything is fine. Some episodes focus on hormones, health, and feeling at home in your body again. Others focus on business, creativity, burnout, reinvention, and what it actually looks like to build a life and career that still fits as you change. This is a solo show by design. No interviews. No performance.  Just real reflection, lived experience, and conversations.Earlier episodes reflect a previous chapter of my work in network marketing, mindset, and business coaching. This podcast has evolved as I have, into something more grounded, more personal, and more honest.If you’re a midlife woman building a business, questioning old identities, or trying to feel like yourself again, you’re in the right place.

  1. 4D AGO

    Shedding Old Skin: What Deleting Old Podcasts Taught Me

    In this episode, I’m sharing something very real and very current. This morning, I sat down to delete old podcast episodes dating all the way back to 2016. As I moved through them one by one, I realized I wasn’t just cleaning up content. I was looking at past versions of myself. Different belief systems. Different seasons. Different motivations. From my network marketing era, to business coaching, to personal development and mindset culture, this episode is a candid reflection on growth, scarcity, hustle, and what success actually means to me now. This isn’t about regret or shame.It’s about perspective.And letting go of what no longer fits. In this episode, I talk about: Why some of my earliest podcast episodes make me cringe now How fast money and success can be driven by fear and scarcity The pressure to hustle, perform, and prove worth How personal development culture became just another hamster wheel Losing my house, my confidence, and the illusion of “having it all” How perimenopause forced me to slow down and reassess everything What success means to me at 50 Why deleting old episodes feels like shedding skin Making space for what’s next, even when you don’t know exactly what that is yet If you’re feeling stuck in hustle mode, questioning the version of success you’re chasing, or sensing that something in your life needs to be released, this episode is for you. Sometimes growth doesn’t look like more.Sometimes it looks like less, with more clarity. Reflection question for you: What are you holding onto that no longer reflects who you are? And what might be possible if you let it go?   Thank you all so much for listening! It genuinely means a lot to know that my journey, and what I’m learning along the way, helps you too. If this episode resonated, feel free to reach out and share anytime on Instagram: @iamshanarecker My Amazon Shop: https://amzn.to/42hix1c To connect with me for done-for-you services like branding, Kajabi websites, lead magnets, or more, visit: www.shanarecker.com and book a call. And if you’re building on Kajabi, you can get 30 days free using my referral link here: https://bit.ly/extendedShana

    19 min

  2. JAN 19

    Life Lessons from Members Only: Palm Beach

    I just finished watching Members Only: Palm Beach on Netflix, and I didn’t expect it to hit me the way it did. At first glance, the show looks like over-the-top wealth, social rules, and Palm Beach society drama. And yes, some of it is ridiculous. But underneath all of that, there’s a much deeper message about identity, conformity, and what happens when people believe they need to change who they are to belong. In this episode, I talk about Ro Mina storyline and why it made me so uncomfortable and, at the same time, so fired up. Watching her be coached, corrected, and pressured to fit the “Palm Beach way” made one thing very clear to me: any environment that requires you to erase parts of yourself in order to be accepted will eventually cost you your confidence. I share how this theme shows up far beyond reality TV. It shows up in business, social media, friendships, family dynamics, and especially in the constant self-questioning so many of us live with: Should I say this? Should I post that? What will people think? What if they misunderstand me? I also talk honestly about my own experience with trying to be palatable online, how that led to burnout, and why I’ve stopped performing for approval. One of the biggest takeaways from this episode is something I deeply believe: fake is an energy, and people feel it. Even when they can’t explain why, they feel it. This episode is about why being yourself is not reckless, dramatic, or risky. It’s efficient. It simplifies your life. It attracts the right people. And it makes success feel lighter instead of like a constant uphill push. I wrap up by sharing three practical steps you can take to start being more yourself, even if it feels uncomfortable at first: 1. Recognizing when fear is stopping you and acting anyway 2. Starting small instead of trying to change everything at once 3. Detaching from outcomes and letting go of controlling perception If you’ve ever felt exhausted from trying to fit into someone else’s version of who you should be, this conversation is for you. Thank you all so much for listening! It genuinely means a lot to know that my journey, and what I’m learning along the way, helps you too. If this episode resonated, feel free to reach out and share anytime on Instagram: @iamshanarecker My Amazon Shop: https://amzn.to/42hix1c To connect with me for done-for-you services like branding, Kajabi websites, lead magnets, or more, visit: www.shanarecker.com and book a call. And if you’re building on Kajabi, you can get 30 days free using my referral link here: https://bit.ly/extendedShana

    28 min
  3. Perimenopause: When You Don’t Recognize Yourself Anymore

    JAN 9

    Perimenopause: When You Don’t Recognize Yourself Anymore

    Have you ever felt like you don’t recognize yourself anymore? In this episode, I’m talking honestly about a season I know a lot of women experience in midlife, when everything feels disjointed. Work feels harder. Social plans feel draining. Relationships shift. And you don’t quite know how to explain what’s wrong, even to yourself. Instead of focusing on physical symptoms, I’m sharing what this transition has been like for me mentally and emotionally as I’ve moved through perimenopause toward menopause. The fog. The need to pull back. The guilt around saying no. And the quiet grief that can come with changing friendships, priorities, and capacity. I talk about pulling back socially and professionally, prioritizing sleep, stepping away from a business that no longer fit, and giving myself time to stabilize instead of forcing clarity. This episode is my reminder to you, and to myself, that pulling back doesn’t mean you’re failing or quitting. It means your capacity has changed. And giving yourself space may be exactly what helps you find your footing again. In this episode, I talk about: 🎤 Why pulling back socially was one of the first signs something was shifting for me 🎤 The pressure to keep showing up when you don’t feel like yourself 🎤 How alcohol, sleep, and energy started to affect me differently 🎤 Friendship changes and the grief that can come with them 🎤 Why stabilizing myself mattered more than pushing forward 🎤 Letting go of goals that belonged to an earlier version of me 🎤 What it feels like to slowly start coming back online in a more grounded way   If you’re in a season where your life feels quieter, slower, or smaller than it used to, I want you to know you’re not broken and you’re not behind. You’re moving through a transition that asks for rest, honesty, and a lot more self-compassion than we’re used to giving ourselves. If you know a woman who’s in this phase and might feel less alone hearing this, please share the episode with her. Thank you all so much for listening! It genuinely means a lot to know that my journey, and what I’m learning along the way, helps you too. If this episode resonated, feel free to reach out and share anytime on Instagram: @iamshanarecker My Amazon Shop: https://amzn.to/42hix1c To connect with me for done-for-you services like branding, Kajabi websites, lead magnets, or more, visit: www.shanarecker.com and book a call. And if you’re building on Kajabi, you can get 30 days free using my referral link here: https://bit.ly/extendedShana

    23 min

  4. 2025-12-29

    Life Update: Puppies, GLP1 Peptides and What's Next for 2026

    Send Shana a Text Message Hey friends!  Today I'm back sharing about what’s changed over the past few months, including bringing a new puppy into our lives, starting a GLP-1 (Ozempic) and what's changed since we last talked.  I share what surprised me most about starting a GLP-1, especially how quieting food noise and alcohol cravings gave me back mental space I didn’t realize I’d lost. I also share about the judgment that comes with this medication, how I navigated talking to my doctor, what my bloodwork showed, and why I see GLP-1s as a tool, not a shortcut. I end this episode with a shift that has affected my energy, focus, and how I’m thinking about my business and this podcast heading into 2026. This episode is my personal experience, not medical advice. If anything here resonates, talk to your healthcare provider and do what feels right for you. If you’re a midlife woman juggling hormones, a business, family, and trying to feel like yourself again, this one’s for you.Links & resources mentioned: Goose on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/goose_the_minibernadoodleDOOU (Canadian online health service): https://doou.caChalene Johnson: https://www.chalenejohnson.com Buzzsprout - Let's get your podcast launched!Start for FREEDisclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the show Thank you all so much for listening! It makes me happy to know that my journey and what I'm learning helps you! Please reach out and share anytime on Insta: @iamshanarecker. Support this show: https://www.buzzsprout.com/64347/support My Amazon Shop: https://amzn.to/42hix1c I edit my podcast with Descript! I would be lost without it. Get it here: DESCRIPTTo connect with Shana for Done-For-You services like Branding, Kajabi Websites, Lead Magnets or more, visit www.shanarecker.com/portfolio and book a call!Get 30 Days of Kajabi FREE with my unique referral link: https://bit.ly/extendedShana

    37 min

  5. 2025-12-11

    Empty Nest: The Grief No One Warned Me About

    Send Shana a Text Message Note: This episode was recorded earlier for a previous project I’ve since closed. I’m sharing it here because the message still holds value. You may hear older references. I’m talking about the part of parenthood no one really prepares you for — when your kids grow up, move out, and start their own lives… and you’re left holding all the feelings. Yes, there’s freedom. Yes, there’s excitement. But there’s also grief — and if you’re going through it too, you’re not crazy. It’s a lot, especially when it hits during perimenopause (hello, identity crisis on top of it all 🙃). In this episode: Why it feels like they disappear overnightThe guilt, joy, and sadness that all coexistHow I’m navigating this new chapterAnd why those “goodnight mom ❤️” texts mean more than everIf you're in this stage too, I see you. And if you’re not there yet, this is your gentle reminder to soak up the messy, loud, chaotic now — because one day, you’ll miss it. Support the show Thank you all so much for listening! It makes me happy to know that my journey and what I'm learning helps you! Please reach out and share anytime on Insta: @iamshanarecker. Support this show: https://www.buzzsprout.com/64347/support My Amazon Shop: https://amzn.to/42hix1c I edit my podcast with Descript! I would be lost without it. Get it here: DESCRIPTTo connect with Shana for Done-For-You services like Branding, Kajabi Websites, Lead Magnets or more, visit www.shanarecker.com/portfolio and book a call!Get 30 Days of Kajabi FREE with my unique referral link: https://bit.ly/extendedShana

    20 min

  6. 2025-12-11

    Perimenopause Unfiltered: The Good, the Bad, the Ugly

    Send Shana a Text Message Note: This episode was recorded earlier for a previous project I’ve since closed. I’m sharing it here because the message still holds value. You may hear older references. Perimenopause isn’t just hot flashes — I’m sharing what’s really going on, the highs, the lows, and everything in between. In this episode of How It’s Really REALLY Going, I’m keeping it real — like, really real — about my personal experience with perimenopause. I’m sharing the good (yes, there is good!), the bad, and the downright ugly parts of this season. From finally caring less about what other people think, to the itchy skin, sleepless nights, and that next-level rage no one prepares you for — it’s all here. This isn’t medical advice — I’m not a doctor. This is just my story and what’s helped me feel a little more normal along the way. If hearing this helps you feel seen and less alone, then that’s what matters. Some of the things that have helped me: ✅ My Weighted Vest – my go-to for walking and keeping my mind clear ✅ Felix Health – where I got real support when my doctor didn’t have answers ✅ Supplements I take (These the ones I purchased: CLICK HERE) Creatine Vitamin D Vitamin B Complex Magnesium Glycinate (at night) L-Theanine Ashwagandha There are a ton of products being pushed at us right now — please do your research and don’t feel like you need to buy every gummy or powder that shows up in your feed. I’m just sharing what’s worked for me. Always talk to your doctor first! 💛 If this episode resonates, share it with a friend who might need to hear it. We’re in this together, and I promise this won’t be the last time we talk about it. Support the show Thank you all so much for listening! It makes me happy to know that my journey and what I'm learning helps you! Please reach out and share anytime on Insta: @iamshanarecker. Support this show: https://www.buzzsprout.com/64347/support My Amazon Shop: https://amzn.to/42hix1c I edit my podcast with Descript! I would be lost without it. Get it here: DESCRIPTTo connect with Shana for Done-For-You services like Branding, Kajabi Websites, Lead Magnets or more, visit www.shanarecker.com/portfolio and book a call!Get 30 Days of Kajabi FREE with my unique referral link: https://bit.ly/extendedShana

    39 min

  7. 2025-12-11

    Sleep Divorce? Why I Moved Into My Own Bedroom

    Send Shana a Text Message Note: This episode was recorded earlier for a previous project I’ve since closed. I’m sharing it here because the message still holds value. You may hear older references. Yup. I said it. I’m officially sleeping in a different room than my husband—and I’ve never felt better. In this unfiltered episode, I share why we made the decision, how it’s improved everything from my hormones to our relationship, and why you might want to rethink the “you must share a bed” rule too. If you’re exhausted, moody, snappy, and one more night of snoring might send you over the edge… this one’s for you. ✅ What You’ll Hear in This Episode How one head cold turned into the best sleep decision everWhy I hate the term “sleep divorce” (and what we call it instead)How perimenopause made me hypersensitive to sound, temperature, and breathing noisesWhat happened when I asked my husband for my own roomHow we stay connected and intimate without sleeping in the same bedThe sleep + mood connection you’re probably underestimatingWhy this isn’t “giving up on marriage”—it’s actually saving our sanitySupport the show Thank you all so much for listening! It makes me happy to know that my journey and what I'm learning helps you! Please reach out and share anytime on Insta: @iamshanarecker. Support this show: https://www.buzzsprout.com/64347/support My Amazon Shop: https://amzn.to/42hix1c I edit my podcast with Descript! I would be lost without it. Get it here: DESCRIPTTo connect with Shana for Done-For-You services like Branding, Kajabi Websites, Lead Magnets or more, visit www.shanarecker.com/portfolio and book a call!Get 30 Days of Kajabi FREE with my unique referral link: https://bit.ly/extendedShana

    18 min

  8. 2025-08-02

    I Wasn’t Ready to Say Goodbye to Ozzie.

    Send Shana a Text Message This one’s hard to record — but it needed to be said. Our family dog of 9 years, Ozzy passed away this week, and this episode is me walking through the grief, the story of what happened, and everything I wish more people talked about when it comes to losing a pet. If you’ve ever had to say goodbye to a dog (or any pet) you loved, this episode is for you. It’s about the quiet after the bark, the guilt, the firsts that break your heart — and the little things you wish you could do just one more time. This episode is personal. And it’s real. LINKS: Diary of a CEO grief clip — LINKWhy we sleep in separate bedrooms — LINKDM me on Instagram: @shana.reckerBuzzsprout - Let's get your podcast launched!Start for FREEDisclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the show Thank you all so much for listening! It makes me happy to know that my journey and what I'm learning helps you! Please reach out and share anytime on Insta: @iamshanarecker. Support this show: https://www.buzzsprout.com/64347/support My Amazon Shop: https://amzn.to/42hix1c I edit my podcast with Descript! I would be lost without it. Get it here: DESCRIPTTo connect with Shana for Done-For-You services like Branding, Kajabi Websites, Lead Magnets or more, visit www.shanarecker.com/portfolio and book a call!Get 30 Days of Kajabi FREE with my unique referral link: https://bit.ly/extendedShana

    32 min
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How It’s Really Going is where I share real conversations about midlife, business and whatever else is on my mind. I'm a midlife woman, wife, and entrepreneur navigating perimenopause, ADHD, body changes, and the evolving reality of running a business in midlife. This podcast isn’t about having it all figured out. It’s about talking honestly through the highs, the lows, and the messy middle, without pretending everything is fine. Some episodes focus on hormones, health, and feeling at home in your body again. Others focus on business, creativity, burnout, reinvention, and what it actually looks like to build a life and career that still fits as you change. This is a solo show by design. No interviews. No performance.  Just real reflection, lived experience, and conversations.Earlier episodes reflect a previous chapter of my work in network marketing, mindset, and business coaching. This podcast has evolved as I have, into something more grounded, more personal, and more honest.If you’re a midlife woman building a business, questioning old identities, or trying to feel like yourself again, you’re in the right place.

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