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Have you realized yet how little is actually talked about? Truth bomb time! Join Dawn and her guests as they have honest open conversations about the shit we wish we had been told, the things nobody wants to talk about or are too scared to talk about. Feel seen, heard, understood and not alone while learning some hands on strategies for your own life

  1. 57 - Ally Stone - We Aren't All Meant To Be Business Owners

    2024-11-04

    57 - Ally Stone - We Aren't All Meant To Be Business Owners

    Why you would want to listen to this episode… On the surface, entrepreneurship is a glamorous thing. To the untrained eye, it’s an endeavour that gives absolute independence and freedom. Surprisingly though, it’s not all it’s cut out to be. Today, Dawn speaks with a fellow entrepreneur and a powerhouse in her own right - Ally Stone. Ally and Dawn are here to debunk myths and bring light to the misconceptions about entrepreneurialism. Yet all the same, they look back on this crazy path they’ve been on with utmost gratitude. After all, being entrepreneurs helped forge them into the people they are today. .   Who is this for… For anyone who’s ever been curious about the life of an entrepreneur (along with the stuff they don’t tell you in workshops), this episode is for you. This is great for those wanting to get into entrepreneurship, this episode is a sobering look at an industry where perseverance is the true name of the game. Thanks to this episode, you may find out whether the hustle is for you! However, it always bears repeating that whatever job we may have, our worth as people should never be tied to our occupations.  Guest Bio Ally Stone has been a partner and leader in the hospitality industry since 2005. During that time, she was integral to developing 15 successful businesses and teams. As Director of Culture and Leadership Development,  Ally mastered a deep understanding of what it means to be truly connected as a leader and how that drives the success of any business.  She bases her leadership style on what she has come to call “Inspired Leadership.” the approach elevates team thinking beyond everyday problems and obstacles, building instead on quality in group and individual connection for lasting effect. This has created a culture of engaged, emerging leaders in her organization that many admire and emulate to this day.  Ally has worked with thousands of leaders from all levels of organizations. In 2022 Ally was awarded the  Transformational Leader Award by The Universal Women’s Network and recognized as The Most Inspiring  Leadership Development Company by A. I. International. Ally is also a certified Meditation Teacher, a Heart Math  Resilience Mentor, and an ICF Certified Coach working towards her Master's Certification.   She is active and loves yoga, biking, hiking, and spending time with her two dogs.   Guest Links   Email: ally@theinspiredleader.com Insta: https://www.instagram.com/allystone LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/ally-stone-4010a560 Website: https://theinspiredleader.com/ Free Gift: https://mailchi.mp/b4f73314d4c7/leadership-manifesto   About Dawn Taylor Dawn Taylor is the professional ass-kicker, hope giver, life strategist, trauma specialist, and all-around badass. Dawn's journey into helping others heal began when she took her personal recovery from the trauma she experienced in her life into her own hands. While at times unconventional, Dawn’s strategic methods have helped hundreds heal from traumas such as issues related to infidelity,  overcoming addiction,  working through PTSD from sexual, emotional, and physical abuse, as well as helping cult survivors thrive. Dawn’s work has empowered entrepreneurs, stay-at-home moms, and CEOs alike to be superheroes in their own lives. Having completed thousands of hours of training from many professional programs, including the Robbins Madanes Training Institute, Dawn’s blunt honesty will challenge your thinking, broaden your awareness, and help you achieve the outstanding results you are worthy of. Connect with Dawn here at The Taylor Way: Consultation Call | Website | Facebook | Instagram | LinkedIn Get to know Dawn on a deeper level through her book! Order Here P.S. I Made It, is a powerful story that grabs you through its lack of pretension and honesty. Every page reveals another layer of curious wonder at both Dawn’s life and the power of hope that moves within each of us. Dawn’s hope is that you use this book as a resource to deal with your struggles. Share it with someone who needs it. We all want to feel like someone understands what it’s like to suffer through something and – come out the other side. She describes her life as “horrifically beautiful and beautifully horrific.  Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a comment in the section below! Follow the podcast If you want to receive new podcast episodes automatically, you can follow us on Apple Podcasts or in your favourite podcast app. Please leave us an Apple Podcasts review Ratings and reviews from our listeners are extremely valuable to us and greatly appreciated. They help our podcast rank higher on Apple Podcasts, which exposes our show to more awesome listeners like you. If you have a minute, please leave an honest review. Views Expressed, Legal and Medical Disclaimer This podcast (including any/all site pages, blog posts, blog comments, forums, videos, audio recordings, etc.) is not intended to replace the services of a physician, nor does it constitute a doctor-patient relationship. Information is provided for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice. You should not use the information on this podcast for diagnosing or treating a medical or health condition. If you have or suspect you have an urgent medical problem, promptly contact your professional healthcare provider. Any application of the recommendations in this podcast/website is at the listener/reader's discretion. The views and opinions expressed are those of guests and do not necessarily reflect the opinion or policy of Dawn Taylor, The Taylor Way and or its Associates. The before mentioned are not liable for any direct or indirect claim or loss.  Transcript   Dawn Taylor I am your host, Dawn Taylor. And today I get to talk to you, one of my dear friends, Ally Stone. If you don't know her, you need to. This woman is a powerhouse. She has been in the hospitality industry since 2005. She's developed over 15 different businesses and teams. She, there's not even words like, she is the leadership queen. We'll just put it that way. Um, has led massive teams. I'm talking like 750 people-style teams and does it from her heart, does it from her heart, but also with massive success. She is very big on helping people overcome everyday problems, obstacles, building instead of quality in group and individual connection for lasting effect. She's very big on culture, having engaged emerging leaders in organizations, and she's on stages. She's coaching, she's doing all the things these days. But in 2022, she was also awarded the Transformational Leader Award by the Universal Women's Network. Holy Monday mornings I'm talking too fast And was recognized as the most inspiring leadership development company by AI International. She's all the things. She is just all the things. And let's dive into today's amazing topic. Ally, welcome to the show. And what do you wish people were talking about?    Ally Stone Hey, Dawn. Uh, yeah. I'm excited to be here with you today. Oh, what do I wish people were talking about? I wish people were talking more about being an entrepreneur. Um, I think there's a myth out there that entrepreneurialism is the answer. And I think we can chat a lot about this. Um, and being an entrepreneur myself, you know, building and scaling a massive organization, understanding what that takes. Um, I see a lot of people kind of missing some of the understanding of what actually goes into that. So I thought that might be a fun conversation today.    Dawn Taylor Absolutely so and the other piece of that is not everyone's meant to be an entrepreneur. So let's start with your journey. So, you're like this badass boss, even though I hate those terms in really like, building scaling companies.    Ally Stone I kind of fell into that too. So it's a really interesting story because I believe we were 22 years old when we first became entrepreneurs, my husband and I buying into the original Joes franchise. So uh, it was quite the adventure. Uh, I always say I have an MBA in business, but just kind of like, you know, the Hard knocks school of life and scaling and growing business over 17 years. I remember there were points, uh, through that journey where my husband and I would look at each other, like, almost panicked and be like, is one of us going to go to school? Somebody needs to get an MBA. But there was no time for that, right? Um, so it was just, we were just in and, you know, original Joes when we first bought our first shareholder in the Terwilliger location over on the South side, close to both of our homes. Um, there was four, I believe, four original Joes at the time. And by the time we were done with the franchise and I was done, uh, they had 98 locations in Western Canada, and we had 17 under our organizational belt. So, uh, it was a wild, wild journey. Yeah, but also so grateful for it.    Dawn Taylor So right now to date, how many do you still own?    Ally Stone So there's 12 in our partnership group and there's a few different partners in there. So at this point I don't work with or in Original Joe's anymore. So I'm just a silent partner. Um, and yeah, there's a new group running it, uh, which have been amazing. I think that, um, you know, maybe one day we moved to sell it. I don't know, maybe there's an opportunity for somebody new to kind of do what my husband and I did and go through the process of kind of building an organization or jumping into an organization again. So, I'm all about opportunity for people, too. But we are talking about entrepreneurialships, not for everybody.    Dawn Taylor And that's I love that. And having been in the restaurant ind

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  2. 56 - Kat Halushka - The Ugly About Immigration

    2024-10-21

    56 - Kat Halushka - The Ugly About Immigration

    Why you would want to listen to this episode… Kat Halushka lived the days of her youth in Russia yet eventually found her way to Canada. On paper, the concept of immigration is nothing out of the ordinary. However, immigrants like Kat encounter uphill battles in a new world that’s completely unique to them. In today's compelling episode, we have the privilege of hearing from Kat as she candidly recounts the challenges of assimilating into a vastly different culture. She eloquently expresses her deep appreciation for the heartfelt embrace and support extended to her by a warm and inclusive community. Who is this for… Whether you are an immigrant who’s assimilated into another culture or someone living in their home country looking to understand the immigration experience, there’s something to learn from and empathize with Kat’s story. We hope to spread the message that above all else, we should treat everyone with kindness regardless of their country of origin. Guest Bio Having grown up in Russia, Kat approaches business and life with a unique perspective from most people. After moving to Canada, she did what everyone else was doing and worked at a ‘solid’ 9-5 job doing tech support. One day, when she arrived at work, something came over her and she realized: I am wasting my life.   She knew she was meant for more than working at some company that didn’t appreciate her, especially since she felt like she was making no difference in the world. So she quit her job and took a stab at starting her own business and built a 6-figure marketing agency from the ground up in less than a year.   Eventually she sold that agency to step into her true passion – helping entrepreneurs start and grow a business that supports the lifestyle they desire. She can see people’s potential before they even believe they have any, and she uses that to help them create a high impact life and business.  In the last 3 years she has been on over 200 stages and generated over 1 million dollars of revenue through these stages.   Guest Links Email - kat@profitableimpactacademy.com Profitable Impact Academy - https://profitableimpactacademy.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/profitableimpactacademy/ About Dawn Taylor Dawn Taylor is the professional ass-kicker, hope giver, life strategist, trauma specialist, and all-around badass. Dawn's journey into helping others heal began when she took her personal recovery from the trauma she experienced in her life into her own hands. While at times unconventional, Dawn’s strategic methods have helped hundreds heal from traumas such as issues related to infidelity,  overcoming addiction,  working through PTSD from sexual, emotional, and physical abuse, as well as helping cult survivors thrive. Dawn’s work has empowered entrepreneurs, stay-at-home moms, and CEOs alike to be superheroes in their own lives. Having completed thousands of hours of training from many professional programs, including the Robbins Madanes Training Institute, Dawn’s blunt honesty will challenge your thinking, broaden your awareness, and help you achieve the outstanding results you are worthy of. Connect with Dawn here at The Taylor Way: Consultation Call | Website | Facebook | Instagram | LinkedIn Get to know Dawn on a deeper level through her book! Order Here P.S. I Made It, is a powerful story that grabs you through its lack of pretension and honesty. Every page reveals another layer of curious wonder at both Dawn’s life and the power of hope that moves within each of us. Dawn’s hope is that you use this book as a resource to deal with your struggles. Share it with someone who needs it. We all want to feel like someone understands what it’s like to suffer through something and – come out the other side. She describes her life as “horrifically beautiful and beautifully horrific.  Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a comment in the section below! Follow the podcast If you want to receive new podcast episodes automatically, you can follow us on Apple Podcasts or in your favourite podcast app. Please leave us an Apple Podcasts review Ratings and reviews from our listeners are extremely valuable to us and greatly appreciated. They help our podcast rank higher on Apple Podcasts, which exposes our show to more awesome listeners like you. If you have a minute, please leave an honest review. Views Expressed, Legal and Medical Disclaimer This podcast (including any/all site pages, blog posts, blog comments, forums, videos, audio recordings, etc.) is not intended to replace the services of a physician, nor does it constitute a doctor-patient relationship. Information is provided for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice. You should not use the information on this podcast for diagnosing or treating a medical or health condition. If you have or suspect you have an urgent medical problem, promptly contact your professional healthcare provider. Any application of the recommendations in this podcast/website is at the listener/reader's discretion. The views and opinions expressed are those of guests and do not necessarily reflect the opinion or policy of Dawn Taylor, The Taylor Way and or its Associates. The before mentioned are not liable for any direct or indirect claim or loss.  Dawn Taylor I am your host ,Dawn Taylor. And today we are talking to Kat Halushka. Today's topic the other side of immigration. I was joking, I was going to name it from dictatorship to death threats. But that might be a bit dramatic, but not actually that dramatic. If you hear more of Kat's story. But before we get started, I want to tell you a little bit about Kat. Kat immigrated to Canada when she was 19, so she was still a child. And okay, okay, I know all you 19 year olds are actually adults, but you're not. She came from Russia and Belarus, comes with a totally different perspective than most people. When she first got here, she worked at 9 to 5. She ended up building an insane six figure marketing agency from the ground up in less than a year. Sold it, is now doing all kinds of entrepreneurial stuff. She's been on over 200 stages in the last three years, built crazy wealth doing that. She's a powerhouse, but she also has a really interesting story around immigration. And so let's dive into that. Welcome to the show, Kat. Kat Halushka Hello. Hello. Excited to be here.  Dawn Taylor I am so excited you're here. So what is it you wish more people were talking about and discussing?  Kat Halushka Uh, really that other side of immigration and what it looks like. What does it mean for a person to immigrate to a different country? I think not many people actually know what I call the dark and dirty truth about being the newcomer. Dawn Taylor 100%. I mean, as a Canadian, we're just like, yay! Look at our beautiful country. Right, but I can't imagine. I can imagine being that person. So let's start at the beginning of your story. So you were born in Russia?  Kat Halushka Yeah, I originally was born in Russia. Well, I mean, back then, USSR. Right. Very first time I was born originally it was. Back then it was USSR. And eventually it fell apart when I was a little teeny tiny baby, uh, and I spent kind of half of my life in Russia where I was born. And then eventually we moved closer to the family, which was in Belarus. So I kind of got to experience both worlds, because when it comes to Russia, it's very typical what you hear USSR it became pretty much Russia, right? Belarus split off into its own thing and eventually turned out into this, like, country that separated themselves from everybody else in the world. They were one of the first countries to get kicked out of Europe Union and, um, splitting off and closing its borders. So when the president came into power and he's still in power, like, gosh, I was 19, I'm like over 30 now, almost 40. Like, that's many years. You would think that should be illegal for a president to be in power for that long, right? They call him the, you know, one of the last dictators in the world because of the way that he ran the country. So needless to say, I'm surprised I'm here in Canada now. But we made it.  Dawn Taylor So, for anybody listening, just go Google shit because we're not going to give you all the details. But a dictatorship is a government or social situation where one person makes all the rules, all the decisions, no input from anybody else. It's a complete and utter total power. So, what can you give us even some examples of what it was like being raised or what did that mean in a day to day life? Because again, you came to Canada where we have all of the freedom but have none. But we do like we actually have a lot of freedom here. And so what were some, like, some examples of what childhood was like for you? Kat Halushka Obviously as a child, I didn't really think about a lot of those things. Right. So when it came to being a kid, I just got to be a kid thankful to my parents, who, you know, took all the things onto themselves. Uh, I would say I had a pretty, pretty lucky childhood. But looking back on a lot of it even seeing my parents struggles right when it came to finances, when it came to living arrangements, when it came to find a place. But even some of the things when it came to when I was older is, uh, for example, my dad, he worked on those tankers that transport goods between countries. So he would be gone a lot. So usually it's like a US company or some other country's company that would hire him as an engineer or mechanic. Right. So when it comes to Belarus, one of the things that they decided to implement eventually is that banks are allowed to report anything in your

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  3. 55 - Ron Sutherland - Myths About Retirement

    2024-10-07

    55 - Ron Sutherland - Myths About Retirement

    Why you would want to listen to this episode… Ron Sutherland is a financial coach and has always been a stickler for preparedness in his line of work and beyond. He has dealt with countless clients and helped them plan when it comes to their money, especially for the unknown time that lies ahead - retirement. Today's episode of The Taylor Way Talks will tackle this time of one's life with hard questions and sobering realizations. Some dread it, some are excited for it yet at the end of the day, we all have to face it and it's better to plan.  Who is this for… Retirement will come for all of us. What actually happens when we arrive, and will the money we save now be enough for then? If you've had either of these questions linger in your mind and were too afraid to ask, this podcast is for you. The episode is a look at a reality we all have to face, tackled by our fearless host and a guest who's gone above and beyond to make sure the road ahead for his clients is as smooth as possible.  Guest Bio Immediately after graduating from University with a Bachelor of Commerce, Ron Southerland started a position with a globally recognized financial company. What immediately captivated him about the profession still rings true ten years later- teaching people every day to make informed decisions on their situation. Ron truly believes that the work he does as a Certified Financial Planner changes his client's lives for the better. With that, he has committed to be a lifelong learner for his clients. Ron holds three designations (CFP, CLU, CHS) on top of a commerce degree and is working on a fourth one (Trust and Estate Practitioner). With this knowledge, he has found his talents best align with business owners, professionals and those who are in or entering retirement. As a business owner and a young professional, Ron can relate to many of these clients and speak their language. Ron is blessed with a beautiful wife, two children and a 13-pound Shih Tzu named Arthur. He and his wife, Morgan, love watching their kids grow up and learning new things every day. During his downtime, Ron enjoys playing hockey year-round and loves to golf in the summers. He is always happy to connect with people over a coffee! Guest Links LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/ronsutherland About Dawn Taylor Dawn Taylor is the professional ass-kicker, hope giver, life strategist, trauma specialist, and all-around badass. Dawn's journey into helping others heal began when she took her personal recovery from the trauma she experienced in her life into her own hands. While at times unconventional, Dawn’s strategic methods have helped hundreds heal from traumas such as issues related to infidelity,  overcoming addiction,  working through PTSD from sexual, emotional, and physical abuse, as well as helping cult survivors thrive. Dawn’s work has empowered entrepreneurs, stay-at-home moms, and CEOs alike to be superheroes in their own lives. Having completed thousands of hours of training from many professional programs, including the Robbins Madanes Training Institute, Dawn’s blunt honesty will challenge your thinking, broaden your awareness, and help you achieve the outstanding results you are worthy of. Connect with Dawn here at The Taylor Way: Consultation Call | Website | Facebook | Instagram | LinkedIn Get to know Dawn on a deeper level through her book! Order Here P.S. I Made It, is a powerful story that grabs you through its lack of pretension and honesty. Every page reveals another layer of curious wonder at both Dawn’s life and the power of hope that moves within each of us. Dawn’s hope is that you use this book as a resource to deal with your struggles. Share it with someone who needs it. We all want to feel like someone understands what it’s like to suffer through something and – come out the other side. She describes her life as “horrifically beautiful and beautifully horrific.  Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a comment in the section below! Follow the podcast If you want to receive new podcast episodes automatically, you can follow us on Apple Podcasts or in your favourite podcast app. Please leave us an Apple Podcasts review Ratings and reviews from our listeners are extremely valuable to us and greatly appreciated. They help our podcast rank higher on Apple Podcasts, which exposes our show to more awesome listeners like you. If you have a minute, please leave an honest review. Views Expressed, Legal and Medical Disclaimer This podcast (including any/all site pages, blog posts, blog comments, forums, videos, audio recordings, etc.) is not intended to replace the services of a physician, nor does it constitute a doctor-patient relationship. Information is provided for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice. You should not use the information on this podcast for diagnosing or treating a medical or health condition. If you have or suspect you have an urgent medical problem, promptly contact your professional healthcare provider. Any application of the recommendations in this podcast/website is at the listener/reader's discretion. The views and opinions expressed are those of guests and do not necessarily reflect the opinion or policy of Dawn Taylor, The Taylor Way and or its Associates. The before mentioned are not liable for any direct or indirect claim or loss.    Transcript Dawn Taylor Hey hey hey, I am your host, Dawn Taylor. And today I get to talk to one of my favorite humans on this earth, Ron Sutherland. We're going to do this a little bit different today. So, for starters, I'm not going to tell you where he works. You have to go to the Show Notes to figure that out because compliance, baby. But we're going to talk about something that has been a really big, not issue, but a confusion for me in my brain and also something that I've never really thought about. And I think a lot of people haven't, and a lot of people are lacking information on it. And so we're going to dive into some stuff. Please note in advance. None of the advice given today. Is proper advice. And what I mean by that is for compliance. Ron can't say anything. He can't agree. He can't. He can't deny because we're talking about money. We're talking about retirement. We're talking about the concepts of all of these as well. But if you are curious, at the end of this, like normal, you can go to the Show Notes located at TheTaylorWay.ca, and you can reach out to him yourself and you can get your own numbers and crunch those numbers and do what you need to do there. But let's get started. So Ron is one of my besties. He's one of my guys. We have a very hilarious story about how we openly hostile hated each other when we first met, and then got stuck in a golf cart together for a very long day of golf at a networking thing. And I think by the end, we walked away with a totally different opinion of the other person. And now we've been friends for a long time. And he's a husband. He has a beautiful wife, two kids. He has a shih tzu named Arthur, who is probably more important to him than any of the above, but he's also phenomenal when it comes to money. He has a million designations. He's a certified financial planner. He does all kinds of cool, crazy things. So definitely check them out. He's who I recommend everybody talks to, but that's all I can give you today unless you go to the Show Notes. So, welcome to the show, Ron.  Ron Sutherland Right on. Thanks so much. Good to be here. And I guess yeah it's been, we figured it out yesterday. It's been like 8 or 9 years. We've been friends and eight and a half since we've known each other I guess.  Dawn Taylor Right. I always laugh and people are like, how did you guys meet? How did you guys become friends? And I'm like, “We literally hated each other. And we walked up to a golf cart and realized they'd put us in a golf cart together for an entire day of golf.” And we laughed about it and we were both like, oh good grief. No. And I, I'll never forget the looks on both of our faces when we both walked up and saw that. And then by the end, we were like booking a coffee and laughing and having a blast.  Ron Sutherland So now here we are.  Dawn Taylor I know right all these years later. So I asked you to be on the show today because anyone who's listening to this, if you know anything about my story, you know that I really did not think I'd be here past the age of 38. Like, that was the number that was the brain aneurysm number of like, you're not going to make 20 years. So I had never thought retirement. Like, it wasn't even a concept in my mind to think retirement. And over these last six years since, which is a wild thought, you and I have had some really cool conversations about it and like, what does that look like? And how much money do you need to retire and how do you save, and where does that money come from? And how do all these things even work? But also like, what do people do for retirement? Because it's a whole thing. So let's start with some of the, I don't know, the lies, the myths, the beliefs around retirement that you hear on the regular basis that are all just kind of a pile of shit.  Ron Sutherland I think the biggest one is that everybody has this idea in their mind that you need to have $1 million in the bank to retire, and that I don't know where it came from. I don't know why that's the number, but, um, everybody just comes and says, okay, if I need $1 million, like, how am I going to get there? And, you know, am I on track versus other people? And that's a really tough question because we always compare ourselves to other people. But are you going to spend like other people? And a lot of

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  4. 54 - Melanie Verstraete - You Are The Common Denominator In Your Own Misery

    2024-09-23

    54 - Melanie Verstraete - You Are The Common Denominator In Your Own Misery

    Why you would want to listen to this episode… Melanie Verstraete is a woman who’s endured her fair share of hurdles in life, namely involving important relationships. Toxicity always seemed to follow her, whether it was the unfortunate string of stepdads or the unsafe living conditions with her ex-husbands. Until one day, she put her foot down and determined that she was the common denominator in all her misery.  With that in mind came the start of her journey of self-discovery and self-fulfillment. By putting herself first, she has become a better person and started attracting better people, too. On today’s episode of Taylor Way Talks, we get to know Melanie’s story and how she overcame all of her challenges to rise above as a woman unashamed of who she is. Who is this for… Whether navigating through life’s trenches or being plagued by our inner voices, this episode has a little something for all of us. The world may treat us unfairly, and we cannot control its perception of us. Yet, we are able to control how we see ourselves. Melanie and Dawn's conversation exemplifies how a shift in perspective can bring about significant change in one's life. Guest Bio Melanie Verstraete, love and relationship expert and founder of The Wild Heart Life, has helped thousands of men and women break out of unhealthy relationship patterns and find true love by understanding the root mechanisms that keep them in a harmful cycle. Melanie’s own experience with toxic relationships started in an unstable environment growing up with an inattentive mother and a string of unsuitable stepdads. After going through her own second divorce, Melanie had an epiphany about harmful patterns that changed the entire trajectory of her life, and she has dedicated her life ever since to becoming a master coach with the insights and empathy to transform lives. Guest Links Email - melanie@thewildheartlife.com  The Wild Heart Life - https://thewildheartlife.com  Instagram - https://instagram.com/iammelanieverstraete  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/melanie.verstraete.az  LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/themelanieverstraete/ About Dawn Taylor Dawn Taylor is the professional ass-kicker, hope giver, life strategist, trauma specialist, and all-around badass. Dawn's journey into helping others heal began when she took her personal recovery from the trauma she experienced in her life into her own hands. While at times unconventional, Dawn’s strategic methods have helped hundreds heal from traumas such as issues related to infidelity,  overcoming addiction,  working through PTSD from sexual, emotional, and physical abuse, as well as helping cult survivors thrive. Dawn’s work has empowered entrepreneurs, stay-at-home moms, and CEOs alike to be superheroes in their own lives. Having completed thousands of hours of training from many professional programs, including the Robbins Madanes Training Institute, Dawn’s blunt honesty will challenge your thinking, broaden your awareness, and help you achieve the outstanding results you are worthy of. Connect with Dawn here at The Taylor Way: Consultation Call | Website | Facebook | Instagram | LinkedIn Get to know Dawn on a deeper level through her book! Order Here P.S. I Made It, is a powerful story that grabs you through its lack of pretension and honesty. Every page reveals another layer of curious wonder at both Dawn’s life and the power of hope that moves within each of us. Dawn’s hope is that you use this book as a resource to deal with your struggles. Share it with someone who needs it. We all want to feel like someone understands what it’s like to suffer through something and – come out the other side. She describes her life as “horrifically beautiful and beautifully horrific.  Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a comment in the section below! Follow the podcast If you want to receive new podcast episodes automatically, you can follow us on Apple Podcasts or in your favourite podcast app. Please leave us an Apple Podcasts review Ratings and reviews from our listeners are extremely valuable to us and greatly appreciated. They help our podcast rank higher on Apple Podcasts, which exposes our show to more awesome listeners like you. If you have a minute, please leave an honest review. Views Expressed, Legal and Medical Disclaimer This podcast (including any/all site pages, blog posts, blog comments, forums, videos, audio recordings, etc.) is not intended to replace the services of a physician, nor does it constitute a doctor-patient relationship. Information is provided for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice. You should not use the information on this podcast for diagnosing or treating a medical or health condition. If you have or suspect you have an urgent medical problem, promptly contact your professional healthcare provider. Any application of the recommendations in this podcast/website is at the listener/reader's discretion. The views and opinions expressed are those of guests and do not necessarily reflect the opinion or policy of Dawn Taylor, The Taylor Way and or its Associates. The before mentioned are not liable for any direct or indirect claim or loss.    Transcript Dawn Taylor Good morning. Only because it's good morning here. So that's why I'm going to say that today it is me, your host of the Taylor Talks, Dawn Taylor and I, okay, buckle up. We're probably going to say some bad words today. I'm going to just put it out there right now. You may be offended. Deal with it. I'm just. I'm just like, if you haven't listened to a few episodes already, you know that that's kind of how I am. Because today we're diving into how we are the common denominator in our own misery. Yeah, that's right, I said it and we're going to go there. So let's talk to our guest today. Her name is Melanie Verstraete. You can find all of her contact information on the show notes at TheTaylorWay.ca. She's a loving relationship expert and the founder of the Wild Heart Life. She works with people on unhealthy relationship patterns with men, women, all kinds of fun stuff, and finding all the root garbage that's kept us in those harmful cycles. But more importantly for today, her own experience with toxic relationships started in an unstable environment growing up with an inattentive mom, a string of unsuitable step dads, multiple divorces, a bunch of epiphanies, and all kinds of other fun. She's laughing right now because I'm the worst at reading people's bios, but I hope you guys are as excited as I am, because yeah, we're going to talk about the hard stuff today. Let's dive in. Melanie, what do you wish people were talking about? And welcome to the show.  Melanie Verstraete Oh, I'm so here for it.  Dawn Taylor Um, well, it's truly like what you said. Especially in today's culture.  Melanie Verstraete We are such a blame game. I'm the victim. I'm the squeaky wheel giving me all the attention and let me stay here. The problem with that is there's no power there. There's zero power there. Right. So. If you don't like your life, you are the only one who can shift it. You're the only one who could change it, and you're the actual one who chose it now to use it. Lots of people are going to be pissed off, right? So, I'll do a quick little backstory, because this was the realization that truly saved my life. I could say that it saved my life.  Dawn Taylor No. Let's dive into this. I'm going to actually pause you for a second. I want to dive into this because. I have heard, I've had this argument with so many people recently that “No, no, no, it's we were trained to be this way. This is literally how we have been trained to be.” The joys of that or that we can train ourselves out of it. Yeah. So let's dive into your childhood. Sure. And what it was that went on in your life that got you to where you were like, “Oh, shit, I might be the common denominator right now in my misery.”  Melanie Verstraete Yeah. So long, long, long, long story short, um, I grew up without my dad, but now he's in my life, and we're, like, best friends, so it's beautiful. But he wasn't in my life when I was a little girl, uh, a teenager and a young woman. And then I had six step dads by the time I was 21. So, you know, there was a revolving door of men in my life. And luckily, the majority of them were cool. But the one who was with me the longest, you know, let's just be real, was a dick. And she was with me from ages 12 to 18. So really formidable years for a young woman, right?  Dawn Taylor Your pivotal years.  Melanie Verstraete Yes. He was emotionally abusive. I could never do anything right. And I'll just tell you one quick story, you know, and give you kind of like the climate of that house. Um, I was 16 at the time, and he was in the military, and he would all, no matter what I was doing, he would always hover over me and like, judge me and how I'm not doing everything right kind of crap. And he was a big dude. I'm like five, four. He was like six-two, six-three. And I remember I was washing dishes even though we had a dishwasher. And no, I wasn't a spoiled little brat, okay? I felt like the unpaid maid. Okay. And the unpaid au pair. And so I'm washing dishes and I have like I don't remember why I had so many, so much, uh, like utensils, but there was a ton of utensils for whatever reason. And, um, hand washing them, putting him in the little bin, and he comes over and he's like. He didn't say it in this tone. He said it in quite the dick tone, but basically, like, “Those aren't clean. Redo them.” Right? And at the time I'm 16, he's been in my life since I was 12. And if you know anything about you

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  5. 53 - Don Gleason - Why Are Career Changes So Hard?

    2024-09-09

    53 - Don Gleason - Why Are Career Changes So Hard?

    Why you would want to listen to this episode… Don Gleason is a man who knows a thing or two about career changes. He has worked with military personnel and aided them in finding careers in post-military life. As he has witnessed and experienced firsthand, he knows that these transition periods aren't a walk in the park. As part of this episode, he discusses what makes career changes so challenging and what we can do to make the process easier.  Who is this for… Our world is beholden to a cutthroat culture regarding careers. While some of us toil in the corporate world, others live the life of job-hoppers just looking to put food on the table. We cannot help but get attached to the statuses and titles we have amassed in our careers and in turn, let comparison steal our joy. This episode is for anyone who's part of the workforce having difficulty navigating through these tough roads.  Guest Bio As an Executive Director with the Maxwell Leadership Certified Team, Don Gleason holds his certification as a speaker, trainer and coach. Combined with 41 years of experience working with people to achieve their personal and professional goals, Don is focused on the mantra “Grow Leaders Who Want to Grow.” His goal is to raise them to Achieve New Heights in their personal lives and professional careers. Don believes that it’s only through intentional action, and the prioritizing of these actions, do ultimate results become reality. Guest Links   Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/don.gleason.39/  LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/don-gleason/  Achieve New Heights on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/achieve-new-heights/  Essentialism (mentioned) - https://www.amazon.com/Essentialism-Greg-McKeown-audiobook/dp/B00IWYP5NI/  Everything is Figureoutable (mentioned) -  https://www.amazon.com/Everything-Is-Figureoutable-audiobook/dp/B07RQV9QNP/ About Dawn Taylor Dawn Taylor is the professional ass-kicker, hope giver, life strategist, trauma specialist, and all-around badass. Dawn's journey into helping others heal began when she took her personal recovery from the trauma she experienced in her life into her own hands. While at times unconventional, Dawn’s strategic methods have helped hundreds heal from traumas such as issues related to infidelity,  overcoming addiction,  working through PTSD from sexual, emotional, and physical abuse, as well as helping cult survivors thrive. Dawn’s work has empowered entrepreneurs, stay-at-home moms, and CEOs alike to be superheroes in their own lives. Having completed thousands of hours of training from many professional programs, including the Robbins Madanes Training Institute, Dawn’s blunt honesty will challenge your thinking, broaden your awareness, and help you achieve the outstanding results you are worthy of. Connect with Dawn here at The Taylor Way: Consultation Call | Website | Facebook | Instagram | LinkedIn Get to know Dawn on a deeper level through her book! Order Here P.S. I Made It, is a powerful story that grabs you through its lack of pretension and honesty. Every page reveals another layer of curious wonder at both Dawn’s life and the power of hope that moves within each of us. Dawn’s hope is that you use this book as a resource to deal with your struggles. Share it with someone who needs it. We all want to feel like someone understands what it’s like to suffer through something and – come out the other side. She describes her life as “horrifically beautiful and beautifully horrific.  Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a comment in the section below! Follow the podcast If you want to receive new podcast episodes automatically, you can follow us on Apple Podcasts or in your favourite podcast app. Please leave us an Apple Podcasts review Ratings and reviews from our listeners are extremely valuable to us and greatly appreciated. They help our podcast rank higher on Apple Podcasts, which exposes our show to more awesome listeners like you. If you have a minute, please leave an honest review. Views Expressed, Legal and Medical Disclaimer This podcast (including any/all site pages, blog posts, blog comments, forums, videos, audio recordings, etc.) is not intended to replace the services of a physician, nor does it constitute a doctor-patient relationship. Information is provided for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice. You should not use the information on this podcast for diagnosing or treating a medical or health condition. If you have or suspect you have an urgent medical problem, promptly contact your professional healthcare provider. Any application of the recommendations in this podcast/website is at the listener/reader's discretion. The views and opinions expressed are those of guests and do not necessarily reflect the opinion or policy of Dawn Taylor, The Taylor Way and or its Associates. The before mentioned are not liable for any direct or indirect claim or loss.  Transcript Dawn Taylor Hey hey, hey. It's me. Don Taylor, if you've not figured out I'm your host yet, we were doing something wrong. I get to chat with someone with a common name today. His name is Don Gleason. And what are we diving into? We are going to dive into this whole get a job thing. This whole idea on why it's so hard to find careers, why it's so hard to transition into it. But before we get started, let me tell you a little bit about him because he's a super cool guy. He is an executive director with the Maxwell Leadership Certified team. He is a speaker, a trainer, a coach with 41 years of work experience working with people trying to achieve personal professional goals. But one of his biggest things is raising them to achieve new heights in their personal lives and professional careers. And so one of his things that he does and was actually just doing right before this call was, and with a group of people, helping people that have come out of the military, army, things like that, trying to figure out how to get a job, how to get into everyday life again. And prior to this call, we had a really cool conversation on this and headspace around it. And never mind, we're just going to dive in and we're going to start this whole episode today. But yeah, welcome to the show, Don. Thank you so much for being here.  Don Gleason Thanks, Dawn. I'm really excited about it. And I love this topic. And I'm gonna have to go back and listen to that other one you just talked about. Hopefully that was a recording because I want to hear. I try to get as much as I can to understand the psyche of people, military, but not military as well, about what's holding them back, because I can't help them if I don't really know what their problem is. Right. And it's very diverse.  Dawn Taylor Totally. So let's dive into that even today. What do you wish people were talking about?   Don Gleason  You know, I wish people were really talking about the depths of what it takes to find a job. We we get on the surface level, you know, you got to write a resume, you got to have a LinkedIn profile, you got a network. But what does it really take to do that? Just just pick networking. For example, I was talking to a young man yesterday. I've been working with him for three years. I've helped him get two jobs. He keeps getting let go from those. So I'm trying to get him into another one and he's just convinced nobody wants to help him. And I said, you know, “How are you helping yourself in the networking?” And I said, because Zig Ziglar, right. You got to help enough other people get what they want and they'll help you get what you want. But most military, they walk in, ask the question, “Do you have a job for me?” Well, nobody's just standing there with the job. You got to show me your personality. Show me your perspective. Show an interest, maybe help me. Right. And it's a two way street. And then I'll help you. So it's that deeper level. That's just one example of a deeper level we've got to get people to think into. So my answer is wish they were talking at the deeper level. And I've got some more things we can talk about,  Dawn Taylor No, for sure. So let's backtrack in your story, what is your history that got you to this place because you've had some big career transitions in your life.   Don Gleason You know, getting out of college. I'm that guy that went back in 1982 and companies actually sent rejection letters, which they don't anymore. So you now you submit application after application and never hear a word. Yeah. And and sometimes even the company goes, they say, let's set up an interview and then they never show up. And they complain about the people not showing up, but the companies now are doing the same thing. So anyway, I had 454 rejection letters back in 1982 when I graduated college. That process really helped me think into what am I saying? What am I selling, who am I trying to get to? So it was it was a middle of a recession. So I joined the Air Force for four years and I stayed for 27. Absolutely loved it. But I got out in 2009, I retired and I said, okay, now I got to go through this process again. So I really dug in deep into what I wanted to do. It wasn't just “I want to work in a job in engineering. Let's see what I get.” It was, I've never really liked construction. I'm really not a design guy, at least not on buildings. I like wastewater treatment plants and water plants, but I really enjoy working with soil and the groundwater in the soil and the flow of the groundwater, right. And hazardous waste and how we keep them out of that. And so it was round in that area, and I got really specific, and I started looking for those companies that do that. An

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  6. Summer Break Announcement

    2024-07-01

    Summer Break Announcement

    Taylor Way Talks Summer Break Announcement We've decided to do something a little different this year: take the summer off! As a team, we feel it's important to take a collective break. We can't wait to have you back with us in September, so make the most of your summer. We hope it's magical and amazing for you. If you're interested in getting updates on what's happening behind the scenes, visit TheTaylorWay.ca and sign up for our newsletter, or follow us on social media. We'll be returning on September 9th with a discussion on why career changes are so challenging. Have an amazing summer, you guys. Always in your corner, Dawn About Dawn Taylor Dawn Taylor is the professional ass-kicker, hope giver, life strategist, trauma specialist, and all-around badass. Dawn's journey into helping others heal began when she took her personal recovery from the trauma she experienced in her life into her own hands. While at times unconventional, Dawn’s strategic methods have helped hundreds heal from traumas such as issues related to infidelity,  overcoming addiction,  working through PTSD from sexual, emotional, and physical abuse, as well as helping cult survivors thrive. Dawn’s work has empowered entrepreneurs, stay-at-home moms, and CEOs alike to be superheroes in their own lives. Having completed thousands of hours of training from many professional programs, including the Robbins Madanes Training Institute, Dawn’s blunt honesty will challenge your thinking, broaden your awareness, and help you achieve the outstanding results you are worthy of. Connect with Dawn here at The Taylor Way:  Consultation Call | Website | Facebook | Instagram | LinkedIn Get to know Dawn on a deeper level through her book! Order Here P.S. I Made It, is a powerful story that grabs you through its lack of pretension and honesty. Every page reveals another layer of curious wonder at both Dawn’s life and the power of hope that moves within each of us. Dawn’s hope is that you use this book as a resource to deal with your struggles. Share it with someone who needs it. We all want to feel like someone understands what it’s like to suffer through something and – come out the other side. She describes her life as “horrifically beautiful and beautifully horrific.  Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a comment in the section below! Follow the podcast If you want to receive new podcast episodes automatically, you can follow us on Apple Podcasts or in your favourite podcast app. Please leave us an Apple Podcasts review Ratings and reviews from our listeners are extremely valuable to us and greatly appreciated. They help our podcast rank higher on Apple Podcasts, which exposes our show to more awesome listeners like you. If you have a minute, please leave an honest review. Views Expressed, Legal and Medical Disclaimer This podcast (including any/all site pages, blog posts, blog comments, forums, videos, audio recordings, etc.) is not intended to replace the services of a physician, nor does it constitute a doctor-patient relationship. Information is provided for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice. You should not use the information on this podcast for diagnosing or treating a medical or health condition. If you have or suspect you have an urgent medical problem, promptly contact your professional healthcare provider. Any application of the recommendations in this podcast/website is at the listener/reader's discretion. The views and opinions expressed are those of guests and do not necessarily reflect the opinion or policy of Dawn Taylor, The Taylor Way and or its Associates. The before mentioned are not liable for any direct or indirect claim or loss.  Transcript  Hey hey hey, guys. It's me, your host, Dawn Taylor, and we're going to do something a little different this year. We are taking the summer off. We decided as a team that we want to just take a breath. We're not going to worry too much about it and hope that you are still around in September when we come back, so enjoy your summer. I hope it is magical and amazing. If you want to know more about what's going on behind the scenes, go to TheTaylorWay.ca and sign up for our newsletter or follow us on social media. All those links are in the typical regular show notes, and we'll see you back on September 9th, where we dive into why career changes are so hard. Have an amazing summer, you guys.

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  7. 52 - Barb Higgins - Baby At 57: Feel Free To Judge

    2024-06-17

    52 - Barb Higgins - Baby At 57: Feel Free To Judge

    Why you would want to listen to this episode… Barb Higgins is a woman who has gone through many experiences in life. Yet the entire time, it's always felt like the world was against her. At every turn, she has been called out, sneered at and judged. It seems like the most "criminal" thing she's done in recent memory is to have a baby at 57 years old. Yet, this hasn't deterred her in the slightest. Today on The Taylor Way Talks, we sit down with Barb, a woman who's always marched to the beat of her own drum and someone who encourages others to do the same.  Who is this for… People from all walks of life - regardless of race, social standing or upbringing - have all been judged one way or another. It's an unfortunate experience we all have shared. This episode is for those who have felt judged and strive not to let it define them. Guest Bio Barb Higgins is a CrossFit coach and podcaster who had a baby at 57 and lost her 13-year-old daughter years ago. She continues to use exercise as a way to process grief and helps encourage her audience to do the same. From her traumatic experiences, she was inspired to write her book, Motherland which focuses on her daughter's death and create her podcast, A Thousand Tiny Steps where she tells her extraordinary life story. Guest Links Instagram - instagram.com/barb_444/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/barb.higgins.96  A Thousand Tiny Steps - https://athousandtinysteps.com/  Molly B. Foundation - https://mollybfoundation.org  Motherland - https://motherland.mollybfoundation.org/ About Dawn Taylor Dawn Taylor is the professional ass-kicker, hope giver, life strategist, trauma specialist, and all-around badass. Dawn's journey into helping others heal began when she took her personal recovery from the trauma she experienced in her life into her own hands. While at times unconventional, Dawn’s strategic methods have helped hundreds heal from traumas such as issues related to infidelity,  overcoming addiction,  working through PTSD from sexual, emotional, and physical abuse, as well as helping cult survivors thrive. Dawn’s work has empowered entrepreneurs, stay-at-home moms, and CEOs alike to be superheroes in their own lives. Having completed thousands of hours of training from many professional programs, including the Robbins Madanes Training Institute, Dawn’s blunt honesty will challenge your thinking, broaden your awareness, and help you achieve the outstanding results you are worthy of. Connect with Dawn here at The Taylor Way: Consultation Call | Website | Facebook | Instagram | LinkedIn Get to know Dawn on a deeper level through her book! Order Here P.S. I Made It, is a powerful story that grabs you through its lack of pretension and honesty. Every page reveals another layer of curious wonder at both Dawn’s life and the power of hope that moves within each of us. Dawn’s hope is that you use this book as a resource to deal with your struggles. Share it with someone who needs it. We all want to feel like someone understands what it’s like to suffer through something and – come out the other side. She describes her life as “horrifically beautiful and beautifully horrific.  Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a comment in the section below! Follow the podcast If you want to receive new podcast episodes automatically, you can follow us on Apple Podcasts or in your favourite podcast app. Please leave us an Apple Podcasts review Ratings and reviews from our listeners are extremely valuable to us and greatly appreciated. They help our podcast rank higher on Apple Podcasts, which exposes our show to more awesome listeners like you. If you have a minute, please leave an honest review. Views Expressed, Legal and Medical Disclaimer This podcast (including any/all site pages, blog posts, blog comments, forums, videos, audio recordings, etc.) is not intended to replace the services of a physician, nor does it constitute a doctor-patient relationship. Information is provided for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice. You should not use the information on this podcast for diagnosing or treating a medical or health condition. If you have or suspect you have an urgent medical problem, promptly contact your professional healthcare provider. Any application of the recommendations in this podcast/website is at the listener/reader's discretion. The views and opinions expressed are those of guests and do not necessarily reflect the opinion or policy of Dawn Taylor, The Taylor Way and or its Associates. The before mentioned are not liable for any direct or indirect claim or loss.  Transcript Dawn Taylor I am your host Dawn Taylor, and today, we are talking to Barb Higgins. So, warning right now, y'all are going to put your judgey pants on for this one because we know you're going to anyways. We are diving into a baby at 57. Feel free to judge. Before we get started though, let me tell you a little bit about her, because I want you guys to learn to love this guest and not just judge her for her life decisions. Okay, we're just going to put it out there. We're going to put that out there. Barb is a CrossFit coach. Yeah, that's right. And a podcaster who had a baby at 57 after losing her daughter that was 13 years old, years ago. She continues to use exercise as a way to process grief, and it helps encourage your audience to do the same. From her traumatic experiences, she was inspired to write her book Motherland, which focuses on her daughter's death, and it helped create her podcast A Thousand Tiny Steps, where she tells her extraordinary life story. She is a beautiful mom. She's a wife, she's all of these things. She's an advocate in her community, and she's probably a very judged woman in everyday life. And yes, she's okay with me saying that. You should see her big grin and her thumbs up when I said that. And you know what? We're going to dive into this today. Welcome to the show, Barb. Barb Higgins  Thank you. Thank you so much for having me, Dawn. I'm excited to be here.  Dawn Taylor Bring it on. You are so welcome. So what do you wish people were talking about? Barb Higgins I actually wish people were talking about all the things that people don't want to talk about, because until we really get honest with what we agree with, what we disagree with, and how we respond to those feelings and others, then growth and conversation and change can't happen. So, you know, being 60 now, I was raised that little girls were polite and followed the rules, you know, um, sugar and spice and everything nice. That was what little girls were. I always wanted to be a boy, which was snakes and snails and puppy dogs tails. And as a girl who is much more made of those things. Um, I just think that we need to talk about what we don't want to talk about. That's a very broad answer, but we'll get into it with my story and it will make sense. Dawn Taylor  100%. So before we get going, anyone who's listening, we're going to just put it out there right now. Barb and I discussed before we started today the fact that we're diving into heavy judgment. We're diving into that, and we're diving into the fact that we all make decisions every single day that are judged and what that looks like. So if anything that I say comes across as mean or comes across as judgmental or comes across as any of those things. It's not. And we did have a conversation about this prior. So, Barb, take it from there. And let's talk about what got you to having a baby at 57. Because that's nuts, girl.  Barb Higgins It is nuts. I was told that the first time I went to a doctor about it. Um, really, initially I thought it was a trauma response to losing my daughter Molly. It was just several months after she died. I started having this strange dream that I was supposed to have a baby, so, I'm sorry. I went into traumatic menopause at 52 right after she died, and then I started having this wacko dream. So I went to the doctor, sort of for just my annual exam. And I mentioned that I was having a dream of having a baby. And what did she think? And she let me have it. That's foolish. That's dangerous. Don't do it. What are you thinking? You need therapy. And I was a bit stunned. Um. and I walked out of there and actually got all my medical records and switched practices, but, um, you know, I mulled over what she said and and sat on it for like, another month or so. But the intensity of the dreams were they just kept coming. So we could get into a dream specialist and analyze why was I having these dreams? 100 reasons. Going through menopause, losing a daughter, the chaos of my life at that time, who knows? Um, but I just sort of thought, well, this will give me something to focus on. That's life producing as opposed to hiding under my covers all day thinking about Molly, who was never coming home. Um, and so I just follow through all the medical steps necessary. Let me be clear. I was 52 at the time, 53. And the number of steps I had to go through at that age to even get approved to try was huge. Mammogram, EKG, bloodwork, full physical, colonoscopy and, um, hysterectomy, which is where they take a little piece of the inside of your uterus and test it. I mean, they make sure everything in your body is okay before you even begin the process. And the final thing you have to do is to see a psychiatrist. So I thought, I'm going to fail that one, right? You know, crazy, crazy, grief stricken mom in her 50s, but I didn't. I passed all those things. Um, and then we were in a medical malpractice lawsuit for two years. And so that sort of swallowed up our time. We had no money. Um, we were devastated. I wasn't living the healthiest life. I just

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  8. 51 - Jackie Roby - How Trauma Leads To Doubt

    2024-06-03

    51 - Jackie Roby - How Trauma Leads To Doubt

    Why you would want to listen to this episode… Jackie Roby is a woman who has blazed her own trail and achieved many things in her life. However, she is not immune to the uncomfortable and unfortunate situations that plague the workplace or the family dinner table. The lingering trauma from these experiences has festered into doubt. Today, she unashamedly shares her story of how she was able to turn things around and overcome it. Doubt is a killer, and today, Jackie and Dawn discuss how to navigate around it and eventually slay it before it slays you.  Who is this for… We have all dealt with traumatic experiences in one way or another. Most of them can be life-altering in many ways and can give birth to the voices of deception in our minds. However, there is a way to take your power back. It will take tremendous work but it's the type of work we owe to ourselves. For those looking for that next - or even first - step towards self-healing, this episode is for you. Guest Bio Jackie Roby is the Founder and CEO of Inspired Journey Consulting. Using the perfect harmony of Positive Intelligence, Human Design, and mental wellness practices, she helps people who have been abused shift from self-doubt to self-empowerment. Through mindset coaching, speaking, and facilitating workshops, she supports change in our inner and outer worlds. She is an international speaker, host of the podcast Through Inspired Eyes, and Chair of the Global Wellness Institute's Diversity Equity Inclusion Initiative. IJC's vision is to enhance cultural wellness in the workplace, grow emotional intelligence, healing, and self-love for a kinder, more inclusive world. Guest Links Inspired Journey Consulting - https://inspiredjourneyconsulting.com/  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/inspiredjourneyconsulting/  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/IJCpresents/  LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/jackie-roby/  YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCyKLXBbqHkHISv9Zs8Hcyog  A Career Girl’s Guide To Being A Stepmom - https://www.amazon.com/Career-Girls-Guide-Becoming-Stepmom/dp/0060846836 About Dawn Taylor Dawn Taylor is the professional ass-kicker, hope giver, life strategist, trauma specialist, and all-around badass. Dawn's journey into helping others heal began when she took her personal recovery from the trauma she experienced in her life into her own hands. While at times unconventional, Dawn’s strategic methods have helped hundreds heal from traumas such as issues related to infidelity,  overcoming addiction,  working through PTSD from sexual, emotional, and physical abuse, as well as helping cult survivors thrive. Dawn’s work has empowered entrepreneurs, stay-at-home moms, and CEOs alike to be superheroes in their own lives. Having completed thousands of hours of training from many professional programs, including the Robbins Madanes Training Institute, Dawn’s blunt honesty will challenge your thinking, broaden your awareness, and help you achieve the outstanding results you are worthy of. Connect with Dawn here at The Taylor Way: Consultation Call | Website | Facebook | Instagram | LinkedIn Get to know Dawn on a deeper level through her book! Order Here P.S. I Made It, is a powerful story that grabs you through its lack of pretension and honesty. Every page reveals another layer of curious wonder at both Dawn’s life and the power of hope that moves within each of us. Dawn’s hope is that you use this book as a resource to deal with your struggles. Share it with someone who needs it. We all want to feel like someone understands what it’s like to suffer through something and – come out the other side. She describes her life as “horrifically beautiful and beautifully horrific.  Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a comment in the section below! Follow the podcast If you want to receive new podcast episodes automatically, you can follow us on Apple Podcasts or in your favourite podcast app. Please leave us an Apple Podcasts review Ratings and reviews from our listeners are extremely valuable to us and greatly appreciated. They help our podcast rank higher on Apple Podcasts, which exposes our show to more awesome listeners like you. If you have a minute, please leave an honest review. 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The before mentioned are not liable for any direct or indirect claim or loss.  Transcript Dawn Taylor Hey hey hey, it's me, your host, Dawn Taylor, and I am so excited to be talking. I'm like, is that the word? I'm honored. I'm excited. I'm crazy curious. All the things to be talking to our amazing guest today. Her name is Jackie Roby and she is this incredible, powerful international speaker, relationship mindset coach, chair of the Global Wellness Institute's Diversity Equity Inclusion Initiative, say that seven times really fast. She is a stunning Latina Bostonian who is a powerhouse. She is a wife. She is a mom. She is all of those things. And she is gracing us with her story today, but also diving into a really hard topic. And that is where trauma leads to doubt and how that shows up, where it shows up, and all of those things. So check out, like always, how to get ahold of her and to learn more about her in our show notes located at TheTaylorWay.ca and yes, I'll say that again at the end, but for now, welcome to the show,  Jackie.  Jackie Roby Thank you so much, Dawn. I'm so thrilled to be here and just, I feel such a kindred spirit with you.  Dawn Taylor Thank you. We were, I was just in Boston and we were just talking prior to starting the podcast about crazy parking there. And there is no parking, but also that they had the best gluten free pizza I've ever had in my entire life at a place called Otto's. If you ever go to Boston, eat at Otto's. But you and I had met prior to this, and we really dove into what we wanted to talk about today. And that's really not just trauma. Everyone has trauma, but how it leads to doubt. And so let's start with your story. Where you want to start, and how different traumas in your life have led to different doubts and how those show up for people. Because I really, truly believe that people don't know this and they don't fully understand this about their lives.  Jackie Roby Yeah, absolutely. Well, you know, as we both know, there's big T trauma and little T trauma and all of them are going to be important if I look back on my life. Even in chapters. One thing that stands out is always abuse, and so abuse is the big trauma that I've experienced consistently throughout my life, starting when I was three years old. I was sexually abused by my grandfather. And that went on for four years. Later on, I found myself in a romantic relationship that was emotionally and mentally abusive. So it, you know, that's qualified as domestic violence.  Dawn Taylor Mhm.  Jackie Roby To the point where when we broke up, I had to get a restraining order. I remember being in this relationship and we had a conversation around cheating. And he said to me. “If you ever cheated, I would kill the guy and I would kill you.” And when I was in the depth of this relationship and I was 19. My thought was, oh, he loves me so much and I would never cheat. So whatever. Eventually I was able to see my way around. In corporate, I found myself being. Abused in a sexual manner. As far as, like, sexual harassment goes with older male colleagues. But smiling, keeping my mouth shut, playing along, just so that I kept everybody else comfortable. And it's so interesting that you mention being a mom when we started, because I don't fully identify in that way. Because I'm a stepmom. And yes, I know the depth of it. And for a long time I was fighting for a mom title. But the type of judgment that has been placed on me simply for having this role in a child's life is so intense. That it fed that fire of doubt. So, I started my healing journey. 22 years ago at this point. So once I left that abusive relationship, once I got through, I thought, I don't ever want to find myself in this kind of relationship again. So what can I do differently? How did I participate and that's when I learned, right? I started this journey and I learned about red flags, and I made sure I was never in an abusive romantic relationship again, which I wasn't. But what I found throughout the years is I continued to be an abuse of relationships in different scenarios.  Dawn Taylor I was going to say, can we can we even, sorry, can we backtrack a little bit? That  abuse when you were young. I've heard over the years. It's interesting. Yeah, but you were so young. How did that affect you when you were older? Minds like that. Right. So for anyone who's listening that's been abused, you're all like, what? I know, I know, but I've heard this. I have heard this from many, many people, even in my own personal life that can't figure out how abuse affects somebody. On this

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Have you realized yet how little is actually talked about? Truth bomb time! Join Dawn and her guests as they have honest open conversations about the shit we wish we had been told, the things nobody wants to talk about or are too scared to talk about. Feel seen, heard, understood and not alone while learning some hands on strategies for your own life

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  • Creator
    Dawn Taylor
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2024
  • Episodes
    59
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    Explicit
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    © 2024 The Taylor Way
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    Taylor Way Talks