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Writer and actor Naomi Sheldon and sexual function doctor Anand Patel explore the relationship we have with our bodies when it comes to sex, intimacy and pleasure in this new series of interviews with sexologists, DJs, novelists, therapists and more. It's a whole new kind of sex education. For your aural pleasure.

The Pleasure Podcast Naomi Sheldon and Anand Patel

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Writer and actor Naomi Sheldon and sexual function doctor Anand Patel explore the relationship we have with our bodies when it comes to sex, intimacy and pleasure in this new series of interviews with sexologists, DJs, novelists, therapists and more. It's a whole new kind of sex education. For your aural pleasure.

    S4, Ep5 Anna Jordan: Miscarriage and Becoming a Mother

    S4, Ep5 Anna Jordan: Miscarriage and Becoming a Mother

    This week’s guest is Bruntwood Prize winning playwright, screenwriter and director Anna Jordan. Her work has been performed in theatres around the country from the Royal Court to the Royal Exchange. On screen you’ll have heard her whip smart dialogue in shows such as Succession and Killing Eve. Her down to earth charm is combined with a furiously wicked humour – finding laughter and hope in the darkest of places. And it’s this combination that is so striking in her monologue for The Bunker’s Everywoman, in which playwrights wrote confessions on parenting and identity. Anna’s piece was on her miscarriages and navigating a potential motherhood whilst losing her own mother. In Anna’s signature style, the account is far from hopeless, more, it’s an honest tale about a subject that is still so little spoken of without shame and fear.
     Anna had three missed miscarriages before she had her son (who makes a star appearance). She talks to us about trying for a baby, the losses along the way, what a missed miscarriage is and the choices that follow. We discuss how writing can help us find a way to remember and the joy of finding just the right word for some of the most painful experiences of life. Anna explores the shame of blood, who to tell about your miscarriages and the act of falling in love with her pregnant body after years of self-scrutiny. 
    She says ‘if one in four pregnancies end in miscarriage then why as a society don’t we talk about this more? Why is it that anything that occurs below the belly button and above the knee of a woman is talked about in whispers?’
    We do go to some darker places here about so take care if you’ve been affected by miscarriage.
    CW: Miscarriage, death
    Anna is a terrific workshop facilitator and will running a Nurture Ideas and Keep Them Alive workshop on Thurs 3rd Sept, perfect for anyone who wants to get that writing idea down on paper however experienced you are- you can book on eventbrite HERE
    Anna is represented by Camilla Young at Curtis Brown
    Read more about Anna's experience in her blog HERE
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    For support about pregnancy, miscarriage and pregnancy loss/still birth you can contact:

    Tommy’s Charity:
    https://eur04.safelinks.protection.outlook.com/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tommys.org%2F&data=02%7C01%7C%7C3395bd10d4d846fb1a9208d83cff1394%7C84df9e7fe9f640afb435aaaaaaaaaaaa%7C1%7C0%7C637326413518787411&sdata=6avrW%2BEC87iFNIeJIy%2FGjW82MS9ICohDWKkwRgmcaJ8%3D&reserved=0

    The Miscarriage Association provide free advice and support: https://eur04.safelinks.protection.outlook.com/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.miscarriageassociation.org.uk%2Fabout-us%2Fthe-charity%2F&data=02%7C01%7C%7C3395bd10d4d846fb1a9208d83cff1394%7C84df9e7fe9f640afb435aaaaaaaaaaaa%7C1%7C0%7C637326413518787411&sdata=oe%2BOmsrb%2F3AX7gg9AbLziKqFzz%2BN8BERqsW7bVV3dMI%3D&reserved=0

    And for stillbirths and neonatal deaths: https://eur04.safelinks.protection.outlook.com/?url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.sands.org.uk%2F&data=02%7C01%7C%7C3395bd10d4d846fb1a9208d83cff1394%7C84df9e7fe9f640afb435aaaaaaaaaaaa%7C1%7C0%7C637326413518787411&sdata=vNQaFBKzu6ZP5XXObl5jfXt92HjxOQiPmRK4sJCrC5Y%3D&reserved=0
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    • 48 min
    S4, Ep 4 Freddy McConnell: The Dad who Gave Birth

    S4, Ep 4 Freddy McConnell: The Dad who Gave Birth

    Today we welcome award-winning Guardian journalist, writer and full-time single dad, Freddy McConnell. Freddy is perhaps most well-known for the film Seahorse: The Dad Who Gave Birth directed by acclaimed director Jeanie Finlay which documented his journey into fatherhood as a trans man. Freddy speaks to us about the empowering experience of realising he was trans, of coming off of testosterone to become pregnant, and how being trans is not necessarily a transition but a state of being.


    We also discuss the misinformation given to trans men about the effects of testosterone therapy on their fertility. I found this interview particularly fascinating given my work with testosterone deficiency syndrome in cis men. It was a really important reminder that our assumptions in the medical profession need to be challenged when it comes to treating trans bodies.


    Freddy talks about his childhood, the freedom he was given to make his own choices and the compromises he felt compelled to make. We talk about his experimentation with identity, about the difficulty in getting information about being trans 10 years ago and the struggle to get medical treatment - in cases it can be years until the first appointment, let alone starting treatment.


    Importantly, we look at the difference between treating trans men and cis men with testosterone and the evolution of understanding how it affects trans men. We discuss the changes that testosterone had on Freddy’s body from hair to his own scent and then being read as male - a hugely affirming moment. Freddy shares how being cared for as a trans man being pregnant was rather uncomplicated, the midwife simply caring for the person in front of them and how the challenges of pregnancy were more from the lack of testosterone and the dysphoria rather than pregnancy.


    Seahorse is available to watch here.
    Freddy's work can be found on his website here.
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    • 37 min
    S4, Ep 3: Lindsey Bliss: What Does a Doula Do?

    S4, Ep 3: Lindsey Bliss: What Does a Doula Do?

    Today we welcome renowned child-birth coach and author Lindsey Bliss. Lindsey is co-founder of doula agency Carriage House Birth which has assisted in more than 1100 births across the US and is mother of seven including two sets of twins! As Naomi has been pregnant with twins for all of lockdown, Lindsey was the perfect person to speak to about the role of a doula in supporting people through a momentous but often stressful time. Anand had been taught to be suspicious of doulas at medical school but speaking to Lindsey was transformational and totally turned around his understanding of exactly what a doula does.


    Lindsey shares how her own birth experiences made her want to support and empower others going through the same situation to make their own choices and have their voices heard through their birth journey. We discuss the challenges of the medicalisation of birth and the differences between the UK and US systems. Lindsey stresses the impact of race on the care you might receive and recognising the role of a doula to bear witness and even hold healthcare professionals and the structures responsible to account.
     
    As Naomi has found, there can be a lack of continuity during pregnancy, nevermind lockdown, and seeing a different midwife or doctor each time makes building trust and relationships with healthcare professionals hard and can ramp up the uncertainty. In these situations, as Lindsey tells us, the regular support of a doula throughout the pregnancy can bring a real sense of relief and allow for someone to advocate for your choices without imposing their views. In this impassioned, wide-ranging interview, we discuss the issues that worry new parents the most, trying to change the language of pain that imbues standard conversations about delivery and how to retain your identity and sensuality as a new parent.


    Lindsey’s book The Doula’s Guide to Empowering Your Birth published by Harvard Common Press is available from Amazon, Waterstones and all good independent bookstores.
    Read more about her work and agency, Carriage House Birth here and catch up with her on Instagram @doulabliss.


    CW: Childbirth, medical problems in delivery
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    • 45 min
    S4, Ep 2 Emma Gannon: The Choice to be Child-Free

    S4, Ep 2 Emma Gannon: The Choice to be Child-Free

    Our guest is Sunday Times Bestselling author, award-winning podcaster, novelist, blogger and speaker Emma Gannon. Her debut novel Olive follows the lives of women whose friendship shifts as babies enter the frame. Emma adds a refreshing voice to the dialogue around motherhood, through a story whose main character has actively chosen to live a child-free life without regrets.
     When Emma asked if there was anyone out there who is child free by choice, she was inundated with responses from women who felt like they weren’t seen, from those saying they regret having children to simply not wanting them right now. In this episode we discuss the mother of all questions – why the child-free choice is often a taboo one.
    We look at the pressure that from parents to provide grandchildren, the strain that not having a baby can put on friendships and how we might reconnect with these friends down the line. We discuss body processes, perfection, biological clocks and why being a freelancer is particularly hard for soon to be parents searching for role models. It’s a wide-ranging discussion with that digs deep into the choice to be child-free and how no choice is better or worse. It’s just right for us. Emma is a brilliantly straight talking guest who you want to discuss all elements of life with when you're looking for a thoughtful and beautifully balanced perspective.
    Emma’s debut novel Olive is published by HarperCollins and is available from the 23rd July, available from all good bookstores. Her new book Sabotage, a handbook on how to slay your own sabotage is out on September 24th. Check out her podcast Ctrl Alt Delete and her debut non-fiction The Multi-Hyphen-Method.
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    • 40 min
    S4, Ep 1 Candice Brathwaite: Black British Motherhood

    S4, Ep 1 Candice Brathwaite: Black British Motherhood

    Candice Brathwaite launches us into our brand-new season 4 and our mini-series on parenthood. And WHAT guest! She’s the Sunday Times Best-seller author of I Am Not Your Baby Mother and the founder of Make Motherhood Diverse, an online platform to provide visibility for all the “types” of mother you can possibly think of to stand tall, proud and heard. In her memoir she explores her childhood, her pregnancies and what it’s like to bring Black children into a racist society in which Black British women are 5 times more likely to die in childbirth.


    We talk to Candice about the kind of motherhood that was pedalled to the women of Brixton of the mother and baby unit, how her husband and the other Black men in her family have been knocking the absent father stereotypes on the head. We discuss the shocking disparity of healthcare between Black mothers and other patients, from pain management to mental well being and how more Black women are liable to be picked up under the mental health act as being a danger to their child even during childbirth. Oh, and why her wardrobe collection is more than about looking good, but a radical act of self-care and Black feminism.


    She's a superstar and this is a frank and eye-opening discussion that looks at so many facets of being a mother and a Black mother. We could've talked for hours.


    I Am Not Your Baby Mother is published by Quercus Publishing and is available to buy from all good bookstores.
     CW: Traumatic birth and racism
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    • 51 min
    S3, Ep 10 Teddy Lamb: Trans and Gender Euphoric

    S3, Ep 10 Teddy Lamb: Trans and Gender Euphoric

    It’s the season finale! Our guest sends us off with hope and solidarity. We welcome femme non-binary trans writer and performer Teddy Lamb. I first spotted Teddy roaming around Soho with pink hair, frills, and a prominent, sexy moustache. The combination felt somehow audacious and I’ve been longing to speak to them about gender and identity ever since. 
    Teddy was using they/them pronouns long before being non-binary was even part of their vocabulary. They describe theirs as a gender rather than a sexuality story. But their pansexuality and description of the joy of T for T sex leaves us marvelling at how much there is to learn from the trans community when it comes to consent and empathy in sex.
    This interview was recorded the day after Liz Truss, the Minister for women and equalities, announced her plans to prioritise single-sex spaces, protect children from irreversible decisions about gender and potentially rename the ministry, the ministry of freedom.
    Teddy explains why this these speeches are so damaging and how in the UK, while the most likely to be vulnerable, trans people have little support. With no legal recognition for being non-binary, a 2-3 year wait for surgery, speech therapy, and counselling trans people are dying as they wait.
    Teddy describes the physical response to being misgendered, of finding gender euphoria, and why they are only sleeping with trans people for now. We look at the radical power of trans body hair, and how much there is to learn from the young members of the LGBTQ+ community.
    Their show Since You’ve Been Gone, a glorious autobiographical account of growing up queer in the 90s and of finding yourself whilst dealing with loss, was an Edinburgh hit. Pleasure Podcast listeners can watch the show until the 24th May using the password PleasureTeddy here: https://vimeo.com/419525480
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    If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed please take a look at the following:
    Petition against Liz Truss’s words: http://chng.it/nYdKs6qZ7q
    Gendered intelligence: http://genderedintelligence.co.uk/
    Find out more about Teddy at teddylamb.com
    CW: assault and transphobia.
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    Naomi Sheldon: @NaomiSheldon1
    Anand Patel: @therealdranand
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    See you soon for a sparkling season 4 and in the meantime, stay safe - it has truly been our pleasure.
     
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    • 37 min

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