The Rewrite

Jamie Vanderknokke
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A podcast about ditching the default, rewriting your story, and leading a life that actually feels like yours. Real conversations, mindset shifts, and identity rewrites to help you stop settling and start living on purpose. The pen is in your hand, and the next chapter is up to you. This is The Rewrite.

  1. 1D AGO

    EP 34: "I'm Not Smart" and Other Lies I Believed About Myself

    In this solo episode, I'm getting more personal than usual. I'm talking about some of the things I used to believe about myself - not because they were true, but because they were repeated enough. Either I was repeating them to myself internally, or I was taking things other people were saying and internalizing them, creating my own narrative in my head. I think it matters because a lot of what we think is "just who we are" is actually something we learned really early on and never questioned. When I think back to my childhood, a few themes stand out: figuring things out on my own, being independent way too early, not always feeling fully seen or understood (I was one of five kids), and learning to read the room instead of expressing what I needed. But one of the biggest beliefs I carried for a long time was that I was not smart. I didn't learn to read early like the other kids. I faked it for way longer than I should have. There wasn't a lot of support at home around school - no one reading me books, no bedtime stories, no one making sure I did my homework. I got pulled out of class a lot for remedial help, and while that was meant to support me, it just made me feel different. Dumb. Like everyone was looking at me. In this episode, you'll learn: How childhood beliefs follow you into adulthood: figuring things out on your own, being independent too early, learning to read the room instead of expressing what you needWhy I believed I wasn't smart for years: I didn't learn to read early, faked it for way too long, got pulled out for remedial help, and felt dumb every timeHow that belief shaped my entire life: "I'm not academic. I'm not the type of person who goes to college. That's not meant for me. I'll have a job, not a career."The neuroscience of why these beliefs stick: your brain wires itself based on repetition and experience - if you repeatedly feel behind or not enough, your brain builds a pattern around that and keeps running it even when your life changesThe distinction that changes everything: "What I thought was 'this is just who I am' was actually 'this is what my brain has learned', and if it's learned, it can be updated"Why rewriting doesn't happen overnight: it looks like letting yourself learn without judging how long it takes, trying things you would've avoided before, trusting your thinking instead of dismissing it, allowing yourself to grow into something you didn't think was for youWhy your brain prefers what it knows (even if what it knows isn't ideal): familiar feels safe, and when you start doing something different, your brain doesn't go "this is better", it goes "this is new" (and that's where most people stop)How to keep going: if you keep choosing the new response, if you give your brain new experiences to work from, it starts to update (slowly, but it does)Why old patterns still show up sometimes: "I still catch myself defaulting to 'I'm not smart, I'm not enough', but now I notice faster and I have a different response available"If you've ever thought "this is just who I am" or "this is how I've always been," I want you to question that a little bit. There's a really good chance it's not who you are - it's just what you've learned. And if it was learned, it can be rewritten. Connect with me:Instagram: @vandercreativeco and @itsjamievander

    13 min

  2. APR 29

    EP 33: Clarity Creates Momentum (Not Perfection)

    In this solo episode, I'm talking about something that's been happening in my life lately: full spring cleaning mode. Every drawer decluttered, every closet organized, getting rid of all the things. And yes, part of this was maybe to avoid doing my taxes, but there's something deeper happening here. When there's clutter everywhere, your brain is constantly processing it. Even if you don't realize it, it's like little tabs running in the background, draining your energy. The same thing happens mentally when you've got a million things bouncing around in your brain: things you need to do, things you don't want to forget, things you keep thinking about but aren't actually acting on. All of that is mental clutter. In this episode, you'll learn: Why your brain works better in an environment that feels clear, and how clutter (physical or mental) drains your energy even when you don't realize itWhy I love a good list: not because I'm trying to be super organized or perfect, but because it gets everything out of my head and onto paper so I can stop thinking about it (it's like closing all those little tabs)The truth about momentum: clarity creates momentum, not perfection, not having everything figured out - just clarity (knowing what's in front of you, knowing what actually matters right now)Why sometimes the fastest way to get clarity is to clear something: reorganize your desk, clear your schedule, clear the mental load - just clear somethingThe 15-minute tidy timer trick: if you've been feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or like you can't get moving, set a 15-minute timer and just start doing something (the momentum will carry you forward)How getting moving creates clarity about what the next right step is (you don't need to know the whole path - just start and the momentum will show you)Next time you feel overwhelmed or don't know what the next right move is, just set a 15-minute timer, jot down a quick list, and get moving. The momentum will carry you forward. That's how you decide what the next right step is: by gaining clarity, by moving forward, and by just starting. Connect with me:Instagram: @vandercreativeco and @itsjamievander

    5 min

  3. APR 22

    EP 32: From High Control to Hopeless to Fearless with Sharai Dawn

    In this conversation with my friend Sharai Dawn, a boutique brand strategist and creative director who helps established entrepreneurs crystallize what they're known for and stop diluting their message, we dive into what it takes to rewrite your life when you've spent decades being told who to be. Sharai's story takes us from growing up as a Jehovah's Witness (which she describes as a high-control group, some would say a cult), to running away at 17, to ending up in another abusive family dynamic, to a nine-year marriage that escalated to physical violence - all while building a successful business and raising two daughters. Sharai gets devastatingly honest about the moment she knew she had to leave: holding her 18-month-old daughter when her ex-husband physically attacked them both, hearing her baby scream in a way she'll never forget. She shares why it took her a year after that moment to even consider divorce (because he could name his behavior and she thought awareness meant change), how she had to leave her spiritual community when they couldn't understand the level of manipulation and danger, and why reading Necessary Endings by Dr. Henry Cloud helped her realize: sometimes things are dead or dangerous, and you need to cut them off. In this episode, you'll learn: How Sharai went from one high-control group to the nextWhy COVID was the tipping pointWhy it took a year to file for divorce even after that momentHow leaving her spiritual community was necessary for safetyWhy she had to get to a point of hopelessness before she could become fearlessHow grief from divorce mirrors grief from deathWhy boundaries transformed everythingHow the apps became an experimentHer business evolutionSharai's story is a masterclass in resilience, boundaries, and reclaiming your right to write your own story. If you've ever felt like you're living someone else's expectations, or if you're in the valley right now and judging yourself for being there—this episode will remind you: you're more resilient than you realize. Connect with Sharai:Instagram: @thesharaidawnWebsite: https://thesozostudio.com Mentioned in this episode: Necessary Endings by Dr. Henry Cloud

    45 min

  4. APR 15

    EP 31: Why You Keep Recreating the Same Pattern in Different Situations

    In this episode, I'm talking about something a lot of people feel but don't always have the language for: the feeling of "why does this keep happening?" Maybe in one season of your life it looked like constantly overgiving in friendships - always being the one who shows up more, the one who adjusts, the one who keeps the peace instead of saying what you actually need. And then later, different people, different environment - now it's showing up in your business. You're over-delivering for clients, saying yes when you want to say no, undercharging, avoiding setting clear boundaries because you don't want to disappoint anyone. On the surface, those look like completely different situations. But underneath? It's the same pattern. The same need to be liked, the same fear of conflict, the same belief that you have to earn your place by giving more. In this episode, you'll learn: Why the same pattern keeps showing up in different situations: people-pleasing in friendships becomes over-delivering in business, holding back in relationships becomes softening your message onlineThe neuroscience of why your brain recreates familiar patterns: it's constantly trying to predict what happens next using past experiences, and familiar doesn't always mean good - it just means known (and your brain prefers known over unknown)Why awareness alone doesn't break the pattern: you can know logically "I've done this before" and still feel pulled into it because your brain doesn't update based on awareness - it updates based on experienceHow your nervous system recognizes patterns as familiar and safer than creating something new (even if the new option is technically better), because new equals uncertain and uncertain requires more energy, attention, and regulationWhy rewriting your life isn't just about deciding on something new - it's about walking your brain through a different process: notice the pattern, regulate your response, understand what's driving it, choose something different, and follow through enough times that your brain recognizes it as the new normalWhy choosing differently often feels uncomfortable at first (not because it's wrong, but because it's unfamiliar), and how that discomfort is actually the proof that you're creating a different experience for your brainThe shift that starts it all: stop reacting to what's happening and get curious about what's underneath it (what feels familiar about this? what part of me is choosing this? what belief might be sitting under this pattern?)If you've ever felt like "I keep ending up in the same type of situation," "I keep hitting the same ceiling in my business," or "I keep falling back into the same habits", that's not random. That's a pattern your brain has learned and is continuing to run because it's more efficient that way. Once you see the pattern clearly, you're no longer fully inside of it. You're stepping outside of that loop. And that's the first step in rewriting it. Connect with me:Instagram: @vandercreativeco and @itsjamievander

    10 min

  5. APR 8

    EP 30: What "Rewrite Your Life" Actually Means (And How It Works)

    In this solo episode, I'm breaking down what I actually mean when I say "rewrite your life", because I use that phrase a lot and I know it can sound big or vague or like one of those things that means something different to everyone. So I wanted to slow it down and explain where this idea came from, how it connects to your brain, how it actually works, and what rewriting your life really looks like in real life, in everyday terms. This isn't about becoming a new person. It's about changing the patterns that are quietly running in the background and shaping how you think, decide, and move through your life and business. From a neuroscience perspective, your brain is constantly working off of past experiences. It uses memory, emotional patterns, and repetition to predict what's going to happen next. It doesn't wake up each day neutral - it wakes up with a story already loaded, and that story influences what you notice, what you avoid, what feels possible, what feels risky, what feels familiar. In this episode, you'll learn: Why your brain doesn't wake up neutral - it wakes up with a story already loaded from every day you've lived before, and that story influences what you notice, avoid, and what feels possibleHow adults are living lives run by internal maps formed years ago (built around survival, people-pleasing, over-responsibility, staying small, holding everything together), and why your brain doesn't automatically retire old strategies just because your life has changedWhy most change fails: not because people don't want it badly enough, but because the process doesn't match how the brain and nervous system actually workHow I developed The Rewrite Method: not as a catchy acronym first, but as a framework built on how real change actually happens in the brain and body (then intentionally shaped it into something people could remember)The 7 steps of The Rewrite Method broken down: Regulate (create safety for change to begin), Envision (give your brain a target), Witness (notice the patterns shaping your behavior), Reframe (shift emotional response to change outcomes), Integrate (practice until it's familiar), Transfer (build support systems to reduce strain), Engage (take messy action so your brain can learn from feedback)Why clarity is what most people are actually missing - not more information, motivation, or a better strategy (when your brain doesn't know what direction you're moving in, it defaults to familiar patterns even if you don't like them)How The Rewrite Clarity Map helps you slow down, regulate first, get clear on what you actually want, and identify your next right move (it's free, practical, and designed to help you get clear before you try to change anything)When I talk about rewriting your life, this is what I mean: not erasing the past, not becoming someone else, but consciously updating the patterns your brain is using to guide your present. If you want a simple place to start, The Rewrite Clarity Map is there for you. Get The Rewrite Clarity Map Connect with me:@vandercreativeco @itsjamievander

    16 min

  6. APR 1

    EP 29: The Accidental Entrepreneur - From Naptime Blogger to Content Strategist with Rebecca Stanisic

    In this conversation with Rebecca Stanisic, a writer with nearly two decades of experience, speaker, and content strategist who helps small businesses create content with less stress, we dive into what it means to be an "accidental entrepreneur." Rebecca's journey started with a parenting blog in 2009 - she had a baby and a toddler and just wanted "a little piece of the internet." What she didn't know was that this blog would spiral into ads, sponsorships, freelance writing, and eventually a full content strategy business. Rebecca gets beautifully honest about why she misses the naivety of the early days (when the pressure was different and excitement was high), how she built her business in two-hour nap time blocks and three-hour preschool windows, and the moment she decided to stop saying "I'm a stay-at-home mom" and start owning "this is a business." She shares why imposter syndrome and generalized anxiety disorder have followed her through her career, how people saw her expertise before she did, and why the best thing she ever did for her business was say out loud: this is a business. In this episode, you'll learn: Why Rebecca is an "accidental entrepreneur" who built her business in naptime blocks and took her first client contract "between 9 PM and 11 PM if that's okay"The turning point that changed everything: "The best thing I ever did was say it loud: this is a business. Every decision then became, is this a good business decision or not?"Why she still sometimes said "I'm a stay-at-home mom" for years without shame, and how the power of owning your title and positioning changes the way people see you (and how you see yourself)How her blog is still her "home base" that drives traffic through Pinterest, why journalists still pitch her because they found her through search, and how it's evolved from personal storytelling to info-based contentHer approach to content strategy: stop creating so much new content and instead reframe and reuse what you already have - because you can't compare one person's content plan with anotherRebecca's story is a masterclass in patience, flexibility, and giving yourself permission to evolve. If you've ever felt like an "accidental" anything, or if you've struggled to own your title and say it out loud with confidence, this episode will remind you: just say it. Lean hard into it. And watch what happens. Connect with Rebecca:Instagram: @bitofmomsenseWebsite: www.rebeccastanisic.comPodcast: Plot Your ContentBook a free session to see what works for youServices: 1-hour Content Spark Session + 7 days of support, or 8-week program with Rebecca as your content director

    45 min

  7. MAR 25

    EP 28: You're Not Tired Because You're Lazy - Your Brain Is Leaking Energy

    Most people are exhausted long before they ever do anything. Not because the task is hard, but because their brain has been leaking energy all day without them even realizing it. Small leaks. Constant leaks. Death by a thousand tiny demands. In this solo episode, I'm breaking down the five biggest energy leaks that drain your brain before you've even started your day, and what actually helps (without doing a full life overhaul). Because here's the thing: people think they lack discipline, but really their brain is running on fumes by 10 AM. As a certified neuroscience coach, I see this constantly. Your energy doesn't show up after motivation or habits or consistency - it comes way before all of that. And if your brain is burning 60% of its capacity on invisible stressors, everything feels harder than it needs to be. In this episode, you'll learn: Why your energy (not motivation or habits) is the foundation of everything—and it's not woo-woo, it's your actual cognitive and nervous system energyThe 5 different leaks to pay attentionWhy a simple task can take all day: not because it's hard, but because your brain never stays long enough to reach flow stateWhat actually helps (practical edition)You're not tired because you're weak or lazy. You're probably tired because your brain is working overtime behind the scenes. Once you start plugging those energy leaks, everything gets easier: decision-making, focus, follow-through. Your whole life feels more doable because your brain isn't burning 60% of its capacity on invisible stressors. Support your brain, and your brain will support you back. Ready to plug your energy leaks?If this resonated with you, please rate this episode (it helps way more than you know!) or send it to someone who needs to hear it. Connect with me on Instagram: @vandercreativeco and @itsjamievander

    10 min

  8. MAR 18

    EP 27: From ICU Nurse to Advance Care Planning Advocate with Carly Hickey

    In this conversation with my friend Carly Hickey, a registered nurse with over 10 years of ICU experience and founder of ACE Planning Company, we dive into something most people never think about until it's too late: preparing for aging, serious illness, and the unexpected. Carly helps individuals and families get proactive about advance care planning - making hard conversations feel less overwhelming and a lot more empowering. Carly gets beautifully honest about why she left the bedside after a decade of loving her ICU job, how losing her stepfather suddenly at 61 (seven days after taking him in for a sore neck) changed everything, and why watching families leave the ICU alone after losing a loved one made her realize: there has to be a better way. She shares her journey from nurse to entrepreneur (not a typical path for nurses), the mental health struggles she faced after leaving her identity as an ICU nurse, and how starting a business became her "passion project" while nursing her baby at midnight. In this episode, you'll learn: Why advance care planning falls into "important but not urgent" on the Eisenhower matrix (and why that makes it so easy to ignore)The brutal reality: we have "bringing home baby" classes to prepare for caregiving at the beginning of life, but no preparation for caregiving at the endHow Carly took her stepfather in for a sore neck and he passed away seven days later - completely unexpectedly at 61Why the trauma of sudden loss can be the most psychologically traumatizing (and how preparation can soften that blow)The social and economical constructs that make it rare for nurses to become entrepreneurs (scope of practice, liability, insurance, HIPAA compliance, expensive EMRs)How nurse seniority works: when you leave a hospital, you start at the bottom of the food chain again (which made Carly rethink her career when her husband's job became mobile)The moment she decided to start her business: sitting in bed during the pandemic, seeing targeted ads, and telling her husband "I'm starting a business. I'm doing it."Carly's story is a powerful reminder that time is fleeting and our most important resource. If you've been avoiding conversations about aging parents, advance care planning, or what happens when the unexpected hits - this episode will give you permission (and a roadmap) to start. Connect with Carly: Instagram: @aceplanningco Website: www.aceplanningco.com Take the Advance Care Planning Audit Quiz on her website Free phone calls available - always happy to answer questions Coming soon: Podcast with an ICU physician, nurse, and healthcare ethicist

    36 min
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A podcast about ditching the default, rewriting your story, and leading a life that actually feels like yours. Real conversations, mindset shifts, and identity rewrites to help you stop settling and start living on purpose. The pen is in your hand, and the next chapter is up to you. This is The Rewrite.

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  • Creator
    Jamie Vanderknokke
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    34
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Jamie Vanderknokke
  • Show Website
    The Rewrite