Trauma Agora

Trauma Agora Podcast
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Join Nina, Jake and Emily as they figure it all out from three corners of Europe, talking love and life in your 20's. Follow Trauma Agora for honest chats, relatable chaos, and the comfort of knowing you’re not the only one trying to heal out loud. It's time to lock in to the Agora, lads.

Episodes

  1. Is Talking About Death the Secret to Living More Fully?

    5D AGO

    Is Talking About Death the Secret to Living More Fully?

    In this episode, we talk writing a will in your 20s & 30s, UK intestacy laws, estate planning, grief, legacy & why young people need a will.   ⚠️ Trigger Warning: In this episode we discuss grief, loss and death. Please take care while listening. We sat down with the incredible Sophia Maslin, the trailblazing barrister and CEO of Morby, to talk about mortality, legacy, grief, and why writing a will might be one of the most life-affirming things you can do. We're bringing you a deeply honest conversation about what happens when someone young passes on without a will, and how that reality reshapes the way you see your own life. Discussion about death don't have to be morbid, but life isn't infinite. So, in this episode we talk about: Why young people avoid writing wills How we can plan for the inevitable without making it doom and gloom The reflective, philosophical mindset that helps you live your life to the max The legal side to planning for life and death Friendship, mortality, trimming your circle, and choosing who holds weight in your life And yes… leaving everything to your dog if you want.  This episode isn’t about fear. It’s about clarity, responsibility and most of all, gratitude. Because planning for death might actually make you live more intentionally! Q&A Why should young people write a will? Because life isn’t guaranteed — and without one, the government decides what happens to your estate. What happens if you die without a will in the UK? Your estate is distributed according to intestacy laws, which may not reflect your wishes — especially if you’re unmarried or in a long-term partnership. Does writing a will mean you’re expecting to die soon? No. It’s a life admin tool — like insurance — that protects the people (and pets) you care about. Can writing a will change how you see your relationships? Yes. It forces you to consider who you truly trust, value, and want to protect. Is it normal to feel emotional when writing your will? Completely. It can bring up gratitude, grief, clarity, and perspective all at once. Chapters: 0:00 – Trigger Warning & Why This Conversation Matters 1:34 – “You Don’t Get a Will Because You’re About to Die” 3:21 – Using Humour to Talk About Death (Without Making It a Joke) 6:45 – Losing Someone Young Changes Everything 11:37 – Have We Become Desensitised to Death? 12:30 – How Do You Stop Being Scared of Writing a Will? 22:03 – What Actually Happens If You Die Without One? 24:30 – Family Fallouts, Probate & Why It Gets Messy 28:33 – Can Writing a Will Improve Your Relationships? 31:06 – The Unexpected Emotional Impact of Doing It Yourself 32:38 – Self-Reflection, ADHD & Learning to Slow Down 35:20 – Closing Question Time (Phoebe Waller-Bridge & Rihanna Enter the Chat) 38:03 – Final Thoughts on Mortality, Gratitude & Choosing What Matters 39:13 – What's Next at Morby?   Discover more about Morby: https://www.morby.xyz/ Follow Sophia: https://www.instagram.com/sophiamaslin

    41 min
  2. Is Losing Friends a Part of Growing Up?

    JAN 21

    Is Losing Friends a Part of Growing Up?

    Friendship breakups. Why do they hurt so much? And why does no one ever warn you about them? In this episode of Trauma Agora, we get into the very real pain of losing friends as adults. The slow fades, the awkward silences, the sudden cut-offs, and the friendships that just quietly stop making sense. It starts with a bit of chaos (as always), then turns into an honest conversation about outgrowing people, emotional imbalance, boundaries, and grief, the kind you don’t really get closure for.   We talk about: Why friendship breakups can hurt more than romantic ones The difference between drifting apart and being dropped Losing long-term friendships you thought were forever When “I need space” turns into ghosting One-sided friendships and emotional burnout Being loved for who you used to be, not who you are now Friends who want agreement, not accountability How distance, careers, mental health, and adulthood change everything Why friendships don’t get the same check-ins as romantic relationships Accepting that some endings don’t come with explanations   This episode isn’t about blaming anyone. It’s about naming the grief, the confusion, and the “wait… what just happened?” feeling.   Because losing a friend can feel like losing a version of yourself, and that deserves space too. If you’ve ever been blindsided by a friendship ending, slowly grown apart from someone you loved, or wondered if you were asking for too much… you’re not alone.   Q&A: Why do friendship breakups hurt so much? Because they often span years of shared history, identity, and growth. Not just one chapter of life.   Is it normal for friendships to end without closure? Yes. Many friendships fade quietly, which can make the loss feel confusing or unresolved.   How do I know if a friendship is no longer healthy? If you consistently feel drained, anxious, or like you’re putting in all the effort, it may be time to reassess.   Is it okay to outgrow friends I’ve known for years? Outgrowing someone isn’t a failure, it’s often a sign that you’ve changed.   Should I try to fix the friendship or let it go? Some friendships benefit from honest conversations. Others naturally soften or end. Both can be valid. Chapters: 0:41 – Why Friendship Breakups Hurt Worse Than Romantic Ones 3:06 – The Tiny Red Flags You Ignore Until It’s Too Late 6:05 – Why We Stay in Dead Friendships for Years 6:30 – The Energy Test That Reveals Toxic Friends 8:19 – Doing All the Emotional Labour Alone 10:18 – The Catch-Up Cycle Ruining Adult Friendships 11:40 – When Friends Only Trauma-Dump and Disappear 13:01 – Gen Z Friendship Rules Nobody Admits Exist 16:50 – Are We Just Recycling the Past? 23:10 – Everything Was Always on Her Terms 26:05 – Outgrowing Friends Who Never Grew Up 31:10 – Why Men and Women Do Friendship Differently 35:36 – ADHD, Out of Sight, Out of Mind Friendships 36:46 – Why Making Friends as an Adult Is So Hard 40:45 – Do You Have Friends — Or Just Shared History? 45:44 – Why You Still Need New Friends as an Adult 46:56 – To Old Friends, New Friends, and Letting Go   🫶 Same Trauma Agora energy. Big feelings. Very real conversations.

    47 min
  3. Do I Have ADHD — or Is Modern Life the Problem?

    JAN 7

    Do I Have ADHD — or Is Modern Life the Problem?

    Can’t focus anymore? Exhausted but overstimulated? Let’s talk adult ADHD, TikTok brain, burnout, and why your attention span isn’t the problem. Welcome to Trauma Agora, a mental health podcast where we talk honestly about neurodiversity, and why so many people are experiencing neurodivergent burnout in a world built around productivity culture and dopamine addiction. In this episode, Emily and Jake (Nina’s absence was definitely felt x) explore ADHD symptoms in adults, late ADHD diagnosis, emotional regulation, sensory overload, hyperfixation, and the grief that can come with finally understanding how your brain works. We also talk about why adult ADHD is often missed in childhood — and why so many neurotypical people now feel ADHD-like symptoms thanks to social media and the attention economy. Whether you’re diagnosed, self-diagnosed, questioning, or just exhausted, this episode is for anyone who’s ever Googled: “Do I have ADHD?” • “ADHD symptoms in adults” • “Why can’t I focus anymore?” • “Is TikTok ruining my attention span?” • “Adult ADHD burnout” 📌 This episode is not medical advice — it is validation that you’re not lazy, broken, or failing. Your brain is responding exactly how it was designed to in an overstimulating world. We get into: Late ADHD diagnosis and the grief that comes with “what could’ve been” • Hyperactive vs inattentive ADHD (and whatever Jake has going on) • Childhood signs everyone missed (selective hearing, sensory chaos, emotional crash-outs) • Being the “funny one” while quietly burning out • ADHD as both a superpower and a logistical nightmare • TikTok brain, dopamine addiction, and why capitalism loves ADHD traits • Why neurotypical people now feel ADHD symptoms too • Productivity culture vs how human brains actually work • Labels: when they help, when they box you in • Chessboard metaphors, smashed pottery, and strawberry lip balm trauma ⏱️ Chapters 00:00 – Chaos, Hair Transplants & Immediate Derailment 02:40 – “Is This ADHD or Just Being Alive?” 07:00 – Nina Is Missing (Emotionally & Physically) 09:45 – Late Diagnosis & Childhood Red Flags 14:30 – Hyperfixation, School, & “Pulling the Rabbit Out the Hat” 18:00 – Sensory Sensitivity & Lip Balm Trauma 24:00 – Selective Hearing, Misdiagnosis & Family Conflict 30:00 – TikTok Brain, Dopamine & Capitalism 38:30 – ADHD vs Neurotypical Burnout 46:00 – Labels, Identity & Self-Understanding 52:00 – Chessboards, Missing Pieces & Final Thoughts 54:00 – Outro (Kinda)

    30 min

  4. 2025-12-17

    Why Does Going Home for Christmas Feel Like Therapy?

    Trauma, family dynamics, and holiday stress collide in our 2025 Festival Special of Trauma Agora, as we talk about how to set boundaries and the nightmare that is driving home for Christmas.   Think awkward dinners, passive-aggressive siblings, reflecting on the year's losses, family hierarchy shifts, and the emotional exhaustion of trying to be “normal” while everyone else loses their sh*t.   We cover: Why Christmas turns even the most stable adults into children again Stepping into parentified roles when your parents fall apart The weird, triggering nostalgia of family traditions (and how to survive them) How grief, infighting, and tiny houses amplify trauma Setting boundaries in a house full of chaos Leaning on your partner or sibling to stay sane Humour, chaos, and the absolutely ridiculous things families do at Christmas     Plus: a mix of genuine reflection, uncontrollable laughter, and some very chaotic holiday survival tips. Q&A: Q: How do I survive going home for Christmas? A: Wine, boundaries, humour, strategic naps, and leaning on your support crew. Q: What if my parents regress me into a child again? A: Recognise the trauma, enforce your boundaries, laugh at the chaos, and survive. Q: Can I create my own holiday rituals? A: Absolutely. Bond with friends, carve out your own traditions, and enjoy the chaos on your own terms.   How do you find going home for Christmas? Let us know in the comments!

    47 min
  5. Am I Having a Quarter Life Crisis? (Purpose)

    2025-12-03

    Am I Having a Quarter Life Crisis? (Purpose)

    Purpose, identity, comparison, career pressure, and the quarter-life crisis; why finding direction feels harder than assembling IKEA furniture. We're diving headfirst into purpose; why it matters, why everyone is confused about it, and why your quarter-life crisis isn't a glitch… It’s a feature. Welcome back to Trauma Agora, the only podcast where three semi-functional adults unpack life’s existential crises so you don’t spiral alone. We get into: • Why your 20s/30s feel like one long identity crisis • The “money vs meaning” dilemma (and why neither guarantees happiness) • When goals are actually yours vs implanted by capitalism, Instagram, or your mum • Designer handbags, 10K months, and the emptiness of chasing milestones • Red Pill Jake™ making an appearance (we’re so sorry) • ADHD, neurodivergent burnout, and why “finding your purpose” is a privilege, not a personality • Children, motherhood pressure, and why saying “I don’t want kids” is still treated like a crime • The Harvard study on relationships and purpose • Why purpose isn’t a job title, it’s a way of living Oh, and a brief disclaimer: This podcast is not financial advice. Especially if you’re eating beans on toast to buy Dior. Looking at you, Nina.   The big question: Do we really have one purpose, or are we allowed to have multiple lives, multiple goals, and multiple selves? Spoiler: you’re not broken. You’re just in your Saturn Return.   Q&A: Q: What if I don’t know my purpose yet? A: Congratulations; you’re a normal adult. Purpose evolves with you. There is no final form. Q: Is purpose about career, money, or success? A: Sometimes. But purpose can also be friendships, creativity, contribution, rest, or simply being present. Your job title is not your destiny. Q: Can you have more than one purpose? A: Yes. You’re not a Marvel character; you’re allowed multiple arcs. Q: What if everyone else seems ahead of me? A: They’re not. They’re just posting more. Q: How do I start figuring out my purpose? A: Remove expectations, follow your values, and ask: what would I do if money didn’t matter?   ✨ Enjoyed the episode? Subscribe, drop your purpose hot take in the comments, and tell us if you’re having a quarter-life crisis so we can validate you correctly.

    38 min
  6. Why Do We Always Go for the Wrong People? (Attachment Theory)

    2025-11-19

    Why Do We Always Go for the Wrong People? (Attachment Theory)

    Welcome back to Trauma Agora, where three semi-functioning adults unpack the psychological chaos of modern dating so you don’t have to. In Part Two on attachment theory, we dive even deeper into why you date who you date, and why your nervous system keeps choosing familiar dysfunction over actual compatibility (uh-oh). Trigger warning: We do mention themes around traumatic births, anxiety attacks and toxic relationship trauma. If this isn't your vibe, feel free to tune in to a future episode!   We cover: Why your “type” is basically your childhood on repeat Whether butterflies are attraction… or a cortisol spike How to tell your gut feeling from your anxiety spiral Moving from anxious/avoidant chaos to something that actually feels safe Real talk on communication, emotional regulation, and dating with self-awareness The heartbreakingly wholesome story of “Brian” (we're still not over it) Plus: IVF babies, self-fulfilling prophecies, dissociating at the Acropolis, and the surprisingly sexy side of emotional maturity. Oh, and we finally answer the big question: Can you really become securely attached, or is everyone just pretending?   Chapters:  00:00 - Welcome Back to Trauma Agora 00:32 - Early Attachment: Birth, Childhood & First Clues 02:40 - Siblings, Family Dynamics and Your “Type” 06:02 - Attraction vs Familiarity: Why We Pick Who We Pick 09:20 - Butterflies or Anxiety? How to Tell the Difference 12:05 - Slow-Burn Attraction vs Sparks 14:32 - Being “Unsure” When Dating 16:48 - Can Your Attachment Style Actually Change? 19:11 - Gut Feeling vs Anxiety Spiral 22:10 - Self-Fulfilling Prophecies in Dating 28:44 - How to Communicate When Triggered 32:55 - Emotional Regulation & Becoming More Secure 43:15 - Final Takeaways & Outro   Q: Can your attachment style actually change? A: Yes,  slowly, inconsistently, and usually after a breakdown or two. But with self-awareness, safety, and consistent communication, you absolutely can move toward secure attachment. Q: How do I know if it’s my intuition or anxiety? A: Gut feelings are calm and steady. Anxiety feels like a horror movie soundtrack in your chest. If you can’t tell the difference. Then welcome, you’re normal. Q: Are we attracted to people or just our unresolved childhood wounds? A: Honestly? Both. But the more secure you become, the more your “type” evolves too. Q: Should anxious and avoidant people date each other? A: Only if you want character development. Otherwise… maybe seek someone secure. Q: What actually helps in the moment? A: Pause. Breathe. Put the phone in another room. Ask yourself: “What would a secure person do right now?”   ✨ Enjoyed the episode? Hit follow, drop us a comment with your attachment style chaos, and share this with your mate who keeps choosing the same partners and expecting different results (definition of insanity).

    44 min
  7. Is It Love, or My Attachment Style Talking?

    2025-11-05

    Is It Love, or My Attachment Style Talking?

    Welcome to the Agora!  ✨ Our first ever episode! ✨ We’re kicking off Trauma Agora by diving headfirst into attachment theory, aka why we love the way we do, text the way we do, and sometimes completely self-sabotage (oops). Can your attachment style actually change, or are we all just a little bit anxious and avoidant forever?  Is it true that, statistically, everyone on Hinge needs therapy? (We confirm with data, and vibes). And how do you move towards the mythical *secure attachment*? We unpack it all, with a few trauma dumps along the way.   💬 Chapters 00:00:01 – “Meet the Trauma Trio” 00:00:39 – “WTF Are Attachment Styles?” 00:09:11 – “Anxious and Overthinking (aka Us)” 00:10:41 – “Avoidants, Disorganised, and the Walking Red Flags” 00:12:27 – “Can We Ever Be Normal?” 00:16:45 – “Trauma, Tales, and Oversharing” 00:26:44 – “Dating Apps: The Avoidant’s Playground” 00:35:58 – “How to (Kind Of) Grow Up Emotionally” - Plus Nina’s Crazy Ex Story 00:40:42 – “Wrap-Up & Existential Gratitude”   🧠 Highlights WTF the four attachment styles actually mean Why are anxious and avoidants *magnetically drawn* to each other? Real stories of attachment styles gone waaaaay wrong How do we self-regulate?? Can attachment styles change? Moving towards secure attachment (lowkey)   🧍‍♀️ Meet the Hosts Emily – 28, podcast producer, proud Midlands dog mum, and self-confessed mix of anxious-avoidant chaos. Jake – 26, philosopher-in-Lisbon, recovering anxious dater, and resident Marcus Aurelius quoter. Nina – 29, living in Spain, oldest (and wisest) of the bunch, navigating dating apps with humor and fearlessness.

    39 min

  8. TRAILER

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    Welcome to the Agora! Trauma Agora is almost here! Join Nina, Jake and Emily as they tackle all the struggles of being in your 20's & 30's, through the form of self help discussions, unpacking philosophy and good old fashioned DMC's. The vibes are gonna be high. They have no idea, neither do you. Let's just try and figure it out together, shall we?

    1 min

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Join Nina, Jake and Emily as they figure it all out from three corners of Europe, talking love and life in your 20's. Follow Trauma Agora for honest chats, relatable chaos, and the comfort of knowing you’re not the only one trying to heal out loud. It's time to lock in to the Agora, lads.

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  • Creator
    Trauma Agora Podcast
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    8
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    Trauma Agora