Plot twists don’t just happen in novels or the movies, they show up in our everyday lives, whether we want them or not. Each week Dr. Cecilia Dintino and Psychotherapist Hannah Murray Starobin will speak with women who have twisted their plots and discovered that life after 50 can be filled with imagination, inspiration, laughter, and endless possibilities.
Stepping into 2022 with the Joyful Indrani Goradia
Here it is, another year.
Are you ready?
We look forward to our new group of twelve women, and the collaboration for the next twelve months.
We want this to be a year when we embrace our lives even more fully, feel our feelings, and navigate with grace the twists.
Another year to celebrate our aging, honor our past, and look to the future with curiosity and wonder.
How do we start?
We start with a conversation with the indomitable Indrani Goradia.
On this week’s Twisting the Plot Podcast, Indrani invites us to welcome what’s ahead. She challenges us to think more deeply, take more action and yes, she also makes us laugh.
It seems like the perfect place to begin 2022.
We hope you join us.
Check out indranigoradia.com
Replay - Creatrix Rising, a conversation with Stephanie Raffelock
What is a creatrix, you might ask?
According to Stephanie Raffelock the word creatrix is defined as “a woman who makes or creates things.” Stephanie suggests that creatrix may be a good replacement for crone when it comes to selecting an archetype for women to age into.
We love the idea of a woman continuing to “make things” beyond the biological clock of fertility.
Stephanie Raffelock herself is a creatrix. She is a storyteller and writer who published two books after she was 50. Creatrix Rising is her latest, and we were thrilled to speak with her about it on this week’s Twisting the Plot Podcast.
Listen as Stephanie shares her story, the plot twists, and the role models who inspired her along the way. There is the poet Richard Blanco, her grandmother Julia, and the magical neighbor Austin.
Relationships matter to Stephanie. And now she matters to us.
We need to remind ourselves that as with all kinds of evolution, there is no destination point, no complete, all-the-way healing, but rather more unfolding, more work to be done. We grow psychologically and spiritually until the time we die. Stephanie Raffelock, The Creatrix Rising
Learn more about Stephanie Raffelock at https://www.byline-stephanie.com/
Replay - Homecoming, a conversation with Dr. Thema
Here’s a question to ponder. “Can you love yourself in a hostile world?”
This is the question Dr. Thema asks on this week’s podcast.
“We have to shift the individual, but we also have to shift the world in which the individual is living, so that we’re not constantly having to push back against these messages but that we can change the larger story, that we’re all worthy and deserving.”
Dr. Thema Bryant-Davis is a psychologist, a professor at Pepperdine University, a minister, a dancer, and a slam poet.
She is the director of the Culture and Trauma Research Lab, and has received numerous awards and recognition for her work in the fields of trauma, human trafficking, the psychology of women and anti-racism.
She is also the President Elect of The American Psychological Association.
And the host of The Homecoming Podcast with Dr. Thema.
In this conversation Dr. Thema talks about the many plot twists in her personal and professional life. She delineates the intersection of ageism, sexism, and racism. She speaks about her calling to the ministry and her belief in the role of the arts in communal healing. Finally, she articulates her thoughts about the profession and practice of psychology.
She even gifts us with a poem.
Take a listen. We were blown away.
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Learn more about Dr. Thema Thema Bryant-Davis at drthema.com
Replay - Laugh Review: Stand-Up Comedy with Mary Clohan and the Penn South Troupe
Who knew getting older could be so funny?
In the 1960’s gerontologist Robert Butler told us that thinking back over our lives is therapeutic. He termed his method of reminiscence, “Life Review”. Through a life review, experiences from the past, particularly the unresolved conflicts, can be resolved and reintegrated into our life experience.
There is also substantial research pointing to the benefits of humor. Humor has been found to lower blood pressure, increase pain threshold, and improve the immune system. Humor reduces cortisol and increases endorphins in our systems. It also helps us gain perspective, sharpen our memory, and allows us to forgive ourselves and others.
Story and laughter bring people together.
Enter, Mary Clohan, a stand-up comedian and graduate student in New York University’s program for Drama Therapy. Mary decided to combine these two healing processes. For her Masters’ thesis, she examined the process and benefits of what she calls, “Laugh Review.”
On this week’s Twisting the Plot Podcast we hear from Mary and five of her actor/subjects, all residents of Penn South, “a naturally occurring retirement community” located in NYC, fondly referred to as NORC.
Take a listen and laugh along with us.
We are honored to have the following participants on this podcast: Hilda Aronson, Michael Bournas-Ney, Martin Sturm, Florence Cohen, and Harriet Kriegel.
Mary Clohan is a writer, performer, teaching artist and recent graduate of the NYU Master’s Program in Drama Therapy. She has been performing stand-up comedy and improv comedy around NYC for the past 4 years and is interested in the therapeutic potential of humor and comedy within the creative arts therapies. Reach out to Mary Clohan via email at email@example.com
Hilda Aronson - Hilda had her 89th birthday six months ago and, being in very poor health, or lack thereof, is very proud of her highest achievement: simply being alive. Personal and professional successes lose importance. Giving and receiving an abundance of love, that's what she identifies with. All the rest is illusion.
Michael Bournas-Ney - Michael premiered as an actor in first grade, when he played the part of a washcloth. (His friend was a bar of soap.) He loves humor and was thrilled to be part of Mary's stand-up class.
Martin Sturm - Martin is now a playwright, standup comedian, and actor. These are accomplishments that he didn't think were possible, in all his wildest dreams.
Florence Cohen - Florence is a lifelong closet comedian who always tried to keep companions amused. She is also a current abstract painter and a senior trying to keep up with a constantly changing world.
Harriet Kriegel - Harriet began as a high school English teacher, moved to health care, and became Vice President of Public Affairs, Development, and Marketing at The Jewish Home and Hospital for the Aged. After retiring, she joined the Board of Penn South Social Services, which sponsors the Penn South Program for Seniors, where she has become involved with theatre and acting, discovering new talents, and doing Stand-Up Comedy. It is a thrill to discover a new skill when you are 87!
Dr. Ellen Albertson, The Midlife Whisperer
Dr. Ellen Albertson calls herself the Midlife Whisperer.
But on this week’s Twisting the Plot Podcast, she speaks up loud and clear.
Dr. Albertson has “more degrees than a thermometer” and she’s confronted major plot twists in life. For years she followed all the rules and roadmaps. She had a successful career, got married, raised children, worked hard to stay thin and attractive and did a lot of people pleasing. But after life threw her a few curve balls, she devised a set of new rules to follow.
These new rules have to do with being creative, trusting herself and allowing for transformation.
Dr. Albertson has a new book titled Rock Your Midlife, 7 Steps to Transform Yourself and Make Your Next Chapter Your Best Chapter.
It’s a great read. We enjoyed our conversation with Ellen.
We think you will find her inspiring and motivating.
Take a listen.
Ellen Albertson, PhD, RDN, NBC-HWC
Dr. Ellen is a Psychologist, Registered Dietitian, National Board Certified Health and Wellness Coach, Reiki Master, and Mindful Self-compassion Teacher. Known as The Midlife Whisperer™, she helps women raise their vibration so they have the energy, confidence, and clarity to make their next chapter their best chapter.
An author, inspirational speaker and expert on women’s wellbeing, Dr. Ellen has appeared on Extra, the Food Network and NBC World News and has been quoted in Psychology Today, Eating Well and USA Today. She has written five books and articles for SELF, Better Homes & Gardens and Good Housekeeping. Her latest book is: Rock Your Midlife: 7 Steps to Transform Yourself and Make Your Next Chapter Your Best Chapter!
She brings over 25 years of counseling, coaching, and healing experience to her holistic practice and transformational work. She lives on the Champlain Islands of Vermont with her high-tech, raw-food loving partner, Ken and her tree climbing Border Collie, Rosie.
Get Rock Your Midlife by Dr. Ellen Albertson on Amazon
Check out Dr. Ellen Albertson's website themidlifewhisperer.com
50 Shades of Over 50, with Kwavi
Kwavi Agbeyegbe has a mission.
She wants to make women over 50 aware of their potential and value.
As a life coach, she started by asking 50 women who were over 50, from all over the world, to describe themselves.
Over 80% of the women she talked to reported feeling invisible.
The women don’t see themselves represented in the media. They feel erased, insignificant, and not a vital to the cultural conversation.
Kwavi is out to change this narrative. She is beginning by asking questions. 50 questions.
We love this. Questions and conversation are a great launching pad to diversify the story of what it means to age.
And of course Kwavi has plans for how to twist these conversations into action.
Take a listen.
Check out Kwavi's website at www.kwavi.com
Join Kwavi's online community Flourish
Follow Kwavi on Instagram @kwavi_tv
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Get Kwavi's book 50 Questions to Answer When You Reach 50