Why Does My Partner

Rebecca Wong, Juliane Taylor Shore, Vickey Easa
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We're couple therapists and messy humans bumbling through our own relationships everyday. Between us we have more than 40 years of experience holding hard relational questions with our clients. We’re going to bring those questions here. And together we’re going to take a stab at answering those questions.

  1. 2025-06-03

    With Full Hearts: Capacity, Growth, and Our Final Episode

    Dear WDMP Community, What an incredible journey it’s been. We feel so lucky to have been in connection with you over the years as we’ve explored your burning Why Does My Partner… questions. With over 100 episodes across 7 seasons, this podcast has been a labor of love—and we could not have done it without your thoughtful engagement, deep curiosity, and ongoing support. It’s with heavy hearts (and full ones) that we’ve decided to end production of the podcast. This decision wasn’t easy, and the reasons vary for each of us. Like many of you, we’re noticing the weight of the world, and our capacity is more limited than in the past. At the same time, we’re each growing in new directions, creating other kinds of learning and growth experiences for both therapists and laypeople alike. And because Why Does My Partner… has always thrived on the collective presence of all three of us, we agreed that if we can’t all say a wholehearted “yes” to continuing, it’s time to lovingly close this chapter. We’re incredibly proud of the show we created, and we're so grateful for the richness it’s brought to our lives. To ensure it remains a resource for you, all of our episodes will stay available on your favorite podcast platforms for years to come. Keep listening. Keep sharing. Let these conversations continue to spark insights and connection in your lives. In our final episode, we offer some parting thoughts on how you can keep nurturing healthy relationships in your own world. Thank you for being with us—through every question, every laugh, every moment of truth. It’s been our joy and honor. As our paths continue to unfold, we’d love to stay connected. If you’re curious about where each of us is headed next, come along by joining our individual mailing lists: Jules: https://www.julianetaylorshore.com/the-newsletterVickey: https://unmessyourmind.com/#NEWSLETTERRebecca: https://connectfulness.com/newsletter With respect, wonder, kindness, and courage, Rebecca, Jules, & Vickey

    38 min

  2. 2024-08-27

    Police My Words?

    As we reach the end of our season 7 deep dive into communication, it’s no surprise that so many of the same themes have kept showing up in our conversations, and that so often, what they’re about is owning our unmet needs. So it feels right that we should land here, with an episode that unpacks just that, and once again invites us to let go of the strategies we think we need to get what we want, and to get more in touch with the real needs we may be trying to express. Thanks as always, dear listeners, for sticking with us for yet another season! We’ll be back soon with another miniseries, but in the meantime, we’d love for you to stay in touch! Write in, send us your questions, leave a review, and join us for a workshop! And as always, love each other the best you can. Quotes: when we only have one way to meet a need, that is a recipe for fear My needs are okay, even though they will not always be met. “The pain sucks, but the fact that the pain is here is okay. It can be welcomed.” Jules’ book is out now! Get Setting Boundaries that Stick: How Neurobiology Can Help You Rewire Your Brain to Feel Safe, Connected, and Empowered wherever books are sold. Share your questions with us at whydoesmypartner.com/contact Dive in deeper with us at our upcoming workshops. Learn more at whydoesmypartner.com/events

    21 min

  3. 2024-08-20

    Insist That We Should Both Agree on Their Version of What Happened?

    How is it that two people could remember an event so differently, and both be so sure that their version is right? Why is it so hard to take in when someone suggests that our memory of something isn’t true? How can it be that two people can both be right about a memory, and at the same time both be wrong? On today’s episode of WDMP, we’ve got a few answers for you, plus a suggestion for how you can start to guide yourself out of this stuck place and into greater intimacy in your relationship. Quotes: “The truth is, no one is actually totally right, and everyone is probably a little bit right.” “Embrace the nature of the differences in the way we see reality. To try to get that not to happen…is a recipe for pain.” “We can’t rely on memory as fact.” Jules’ book is out now! Get Setting Boundaries that Stick: How Neurobiology Can Help You Rewire Your Brain to Feel Safe, Connected, and Empowered wherever books are sold. Share your questions with us at whydoesmypartner.com/contact Dive in deeper with us at our upcoming workshops. Learn more at whydoesmypartner.com/events

    19 min

  4. 2024-08-13

    Make Plans Without Asking Me First?

    One cool thing about neurodiversity is that if you get three friends and podcast co-hosts together to talk about a listener question, a lot of the time they’re going to have three very, very different relationships to the question…and not one of them is more valid or valuable than the other! That’s exactly what’s happening on today’s episode of Why Does My Partner, as we dig into how couples communicate around making plans, scheduling, and navigating social engagements. Like so many of the topics we talk about, there’s no right way to go about it, but what’s important is that there’s an explicit, shared understanding of how it’s going to be in your relationship. Feeling lost on how to get to that place of understanding? Then this is the episode for you! Quotes: “if we’re talking about something that has a little bit more of a tenderness around it…we have to have some kind of temperature check inside of our relationship.” "How do you do with making direct requests? What work do you need to do between you and you in order to feel supported enough, stable enough in yourself to go ahead and make that ask?” Jules’ book is out now! Get Setting Boundaries that Stick: How Neurobiology Can Help You Rewire Your Brain to Feel Safe, Connected, and Empowered wherever books are sold. Share your questions with us at whydoesmypartner.com/contact Dive in deeper with us at our upcoming workshops. Learn more at whydoesmypartner.com/events

    17 min

  5. 2024-08-06

    Avoid Conflict?

    What happens inside of our brains when we face potential conflict? A whole lot is what. One thing that we don’t always realize is that we have subcortical systems that start going into hyperdrive, make meaning out of what’s happening and hopefully keep ourselves safe. That meaning making is automatic and unconscious, and draws on what we’ve learned in our pasts, both implicitly and explicitly, about how we feel safety and belonging. That means that if your past has taught you that conflict can get you hurt, rejected, or shut down, or maybe hasn’t even taught you that there is anything else you could do, of course you’re going to avoid it! The thing is, there really are other ways to approach conflict, and some of those ways could even bring you into closer connection with yourself and your loved ones. If that sounds impossible to you, we’ve got a ton of resources to support you. For a start, give this episode a listen, and try out some of what we’re talking about. We think you might end up changing your mind. Quotes: “being able to be inside of discomfort is something that not everyone has a nervous system that knows how to do…yet.” “I'm not running the risk of betraying me if I'm checking in with me first.” when, when we take in information from the world, we're taking that information inside our bodies “what's the cost to me as an individual if I don't bring my voice into this conversation? What's the cost to our connection? Where does this lead us? What's the potential benefit of bringing this in?” Jules’ book is out now! Get Setting Boundaries that Stick: How Neurobiology Can Help You Rewire Your Brain to Feel Safe, Connected, and Empowered wherever books are sold. Share your questions with us at whydoesmypartner.com/contact Dive in deeper with us at our upcoming workshops. Learn more at whydoesmypartner.com/events

    16 min

  6. 2024-07-30

    Criticize My Parenting?

    “Why does my partner criticize my parenting?” If you’re in a partnership, even without children, there’s a good chance some version of this has come up for you. Whether it’s parenting, pet care, finances, sex, you name it, both you and your partner are carrying a bunch of (often unconscious) assumptions about how something should be done. Coming out of conflict means moving from those implicit beliefs to explicit communication, but how do you do that without blame, power struggles, and hurt feelings? Well, that’s what this whole season on communication is all about! Quotes: "What are old needs, longings, meanings that are being met when you want to parent “your way?” “[What’s] hard is where we get stuck inside of ourselves. The hard is not how we navigate it together. That actually undoes aloneness” When you’re having a communication issue, can you do a YOU-turn and ask yourself, what kind of communication are you trying to achieve?” Jules’ book is out now! Get Setting Boundaries that Stick: How Neurobiology Can Help You Rewire Your Brain to Feel Safe, Connected, and Empowered wherever books are sold. Share your questions with us at whydoesmypartner.com/contact Dive in deeper with us at our upcoming workshops. Learn more at whydoesmypartner.com/events

    20 min

  7. 2024-07-23

    Feel Offended When I Don't Listen to Their Advice?

    We love it when our listeners come to us with their YOU-turn already built into the question, not just because it means that what we do is helping someone, but because it means the door is already open for curiosity, vulnerability, and discovery. Today’s question does just that. Join us for a discussion of the vulnerability of taking in advice from another person, feeling really deeply known by your partner, psychological boundaries, and how to come out of defensiveness and into repair. Plus, we’ve got a really great episode of Modern Family to recommend you. Quotes: “Does your partner know about your desire to be known more deeply?” “We all carry different learnings in our psychological floor, in the way we learn to be in the world.” Jules’ book is out now! Get Setting Boundaries that Stick: How Neurobiology Can Help You Rewire Your Brain to Feel Safe, Connected, and Empowered wherever books are sold. Share your questions with us at whydoesmypartner.com/contact Dive in deeper with us at our upcoming workshops. Learn more at whydoesmypartner.com/events

    20 min

  8. 2024-07-16

    Ask Questions About Me?

    Humans have a deep need for closeness, to feel known and that those around us care and want to know us deeply. And that can feel really, really vulnerable. In this episode we answer a question all about tangling with different ways of showing and asking for deeper knowing in a relationship. In turn, we offer some questions you may want to ask yourself, and then a few more for you and your partner to open up together. . In today’s episode we mention Gina Senarighi’s fantastic book, One Question a Day To Stay Close and Curious, a Couple’s Journal for a Lifetime of Love . To hear more from Gina, check out this interview with Rebecca from back in 2021 on the Connectfulness Podcast. Quotes: "It could be that what questions are meaning to your partner is different than what they mean to you.” “Does your partner know about your desire to be known more deeply?” Jules’ book is out now! Get Setting Boundaries that Stick: How Neurobiology Can Help You Rewire Your Brain to Feel Safe, Connected, and Empowered wherever books are sold. Share your questions with us at whydoesmypartner.com/contact Dive in deeper with us at our upcoming workshops. Learn more at whydoesmypartner.com/events

    16 min
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We're couple therapists and messy humans bumbling through our own relationships everyday. Between us we have more than 40 years of experience holding hard relational questions with our clients. We’re going to bring those questions here. And together we’re going to take a stab at answering those questions.

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  • Créateur
    Rebecca Wong, Juliane Taylor Shore, Vickey Easa
  • Années d’activité
    2021 - 2025
  • Épisodes
    124
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    © Copyright 2025 Rebecca Wong, Juliane Taylor Shore, Vickey Easa
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