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Welcome to You're Doing It Wrong — the raw, real, and refreshingly honest podcast where Wes and Sarah, married for over 25 years, dive into what it really takes to build a lasting relationship. From the awkward beginnings to deep healing, epic fights to unforgettable laughs, we’re sharing the ups, the downs, and everything in between. No fluff. No filters. Just real-life stories, hard-earned wisdom, and powerful lessons from two people who’ve done a lot of things “wrong” — and somehow still found a way to grow deeper in love. Whether you're dating, newly married, in a long-term relationship, or figuring it all out, this is the relationship podcast you didn’t know you needed. Get ready to feel seen, laugh out loud, and maybe even rethink what love means. Let's heal, grow, and connect — together.

  1. 2025-10-01 ·  VIDEO

    #26 - 25 Years, 25 Lessons in Love: What We’ve Learned in Marriage | You’re Doing It Wrong Podcast

    We swap heartfelt (and hilarious) stories about:The 25 things Sarah loves and has learned about Wes 💕The 25 things Wes loves and has learned about Sarah 📝How we navigate real-life chaos, parenthood, and partnershipWhy showing up in the “messy middle” matters more than perfectionTips for connection, curiosity, and making conflict about repair—not winningIf you’ve ever wondered what long-lasting love actually looks like behind the scenes, this anniversary episode is for you. Grab a drink, get a snack, and join us for a conversation about marriage, growth, and choosing each other—again and again.🔔 Subscribe for more real conversations about marriage, connection, and life together.💬 Comment below: What’s the best marriage or relationship lesson you’ve learned so far?marriage podcast, marriage advice, relationship advice, long term relationships, 25th anniversary, marriage lessons, marriage tips, faith and marriage, real marriage talk, couples podcast, connection in marriage, conflict repair, communication in marriage, messy middle, choosing each other, parenting and marriage, love after 25 years, marriage growth, honest marriage conversation, christian marriage, husband and wife podcast, learning in marriage, anniversary episode, you’re doing it wrong podcast, sarah verhoef, wes verhoef“25 lessons in 25 years of marriage”, “how to repair after conflict in marriage”, “what long lasting love really looks like”, “how to stay connected as parents”, “curiosity vs defensiveness in relationships”, “making faith practical in marriage”#Marriage #Relationships #Anniversary #MarriageAdvice #CouplesPodcast #FaithAndMarriage #YoureDoingItWrong #RealLove

    44 min

  2. 2025-10-01

    #25 How to Build Deep Connection & Navigate Marriage Disagreements | You’re Doing It Wrong Podcast

    You’ll also hear insights from other couples on:The disagreements that show up again and againHow they stay united through faith, communication, and teamworkThe unique ways they feel most aligned and connected with each other👉 If you’ve ever wondered whether your marriage struggles are normal—or how to build deeper connection with your partner—this episode will encourage you, make you laugh, and remind you that you’re not alone.Subscribe for more real talk on marriage, connection, faith, and the messy middle that makes love last.

    57 min

  3. 2025-09-13

    #24 You're Doing it Wrong with Wes and Sarah

    What happens when your kids grow up, get married, and start building lives of their own? In this episode of You’re Doing It Wrong, Sarah and Wes sit down with Heather and Jason Martin to talk about the joys and challenges of parenting adult children. From learning to give advice only once, to letting kids make their own choices, to supporting marriages without creating family conflict—this conversation is real, honest, and full of wisdom.They also share stories about blending families, navigating roles in childhood homes, and finding joy in watching kids thrive in their unique paths. Whether you’re raising teenagers, preparing for weddings, or already in the “adult kids” stage, this episode will leave you laughing, reflecting, and inspired.👉 Topics we cover:Communication with adult and married childrenAdvice on letting go and trusting your kidsBalancing family dynamics and in-law relationshipsThe role of parents in grown children’s livesMarriage lessons learned through parentingSubscribe for more authentic conversations on marriage, connection, and family life.🔑 SEO Tags / Keywords:parenting adult childrenhow to parent married kidscommunication with adult childrenfamily dynamics with grown kidsmarriage and parenting podcastadvice for parents of adult childrenletting go as a parentparenting after kids get marriedblending families after marriageYou’re Doing It Wrong podcastSarah and Wes Verhoef podcastreal marriage podcast conversationsraising confident kids into adultssupporting your kids’ marriagemarriage advice for parents of adult kidsadult children boundariesfamily connection podcasthow to enjoy your adult kidsparenting older kids and in-lawsmarriage and family growth📲 Hashtags for Social Media:#ParentingAdultChildren#MarriageAndFamily#MarriagePodcast#ParentingPodcast#FamilyDynamics#RaisingGrownKids#MarriageAdvice#ParentingAdvice#FamilyLife#MarriageGoals#ConnectionAndGrowth#RealMarriageTalk#YoureDoingItWrongPodcast#SarahAndWes#ParentingWithLove#LettingGoAsParents#BlendedFamilies#RaisingConfidentKids#MarriageAndParenting#FamilyConversations

    31 min

  4. 2025-09-13

    #23 You're Doing it Wrong with Wes and Sarah

    You're Doing it Wrong | The Funniest & Most Honest Marriage Advice We’ve CollectedIn this episode of You’re Doing It Wrong, we (Sarah & Wes) pull back the curtain on nearly 25 years of marriage—the good, the hard, and the hilarious—and share timeless marriage advice that’s helped us (and others) keep choosing each other every day.💍 From funny family stories to wisdom passed down by parents, mentors, and friends, we talk about what really works in marriage—not just clichés, but practical tools you can use to build a relationship that lasts.Here’s what we cover:Why “never go to bed angry” isn’t always the best adviceThe power of forgiveness & choosing each other dailyKeeping your marriage fun, flirty, and full of laughterWhat our kids taught us about love and commitmentReal-life stories about conflict, communication, and compromiseThe secret marriage “code” we use that’s saved us from awkward moments in publicWhy marriage is about being on the same team (not keeping score)Whether you’re newlyweds, married for decades, or preparing for the journey ahead—this conversation will encourage, challenge, and (hopefully) make you laugh along the way.✨ Subscribe on YouTube, Apple Podcasts, and Spotify to hear more honest, unfiltered conversations about marriage, connection, and doing life together.🔑 Suggested Hashtags & KeywordsHashtags:#MarriageAdvice #MarriagePodcast #RelationshipTips #LoveAndMarriage #Connection #YoureDoingItWrong #MarriageHumor #25YearsMarriedKeywords for SEO:Marriage advice that lastsChristian marriage podcastFunny marriage storiesHow to stay married 25 yearsReal talk marriage podcastRelationship communication tipsMarriage humor and lessonsChoosing your spouse dailyForgiveness in marriageSecrets to a strong marriageIn this episode of You’re Doing It Wrong, we (Sarah & Wes) pull back the curtain on nearly 25 years of marriage—the good, the hard, and the hilarious—and share timeless marriage advice that’s helped us (and others) keep choosing each other every day.💍 From funny family stories to wisdom passed down by parents, mentors, and friends, we talk about what really works in marriage—not just clichés, but practical tools you can use to build a relationship that lasts.Here’s what we cover:Why “never go to bed angry” isn’t always the best adviceThe power of forgiveness & choosing each other dailyKeeping your marriage fun, flirty, and full of laughterWhat our kids taught us about love and commitmentReal-life stories about conflict, communication, and compromiseThe secret marriage “code” we use that’s saved us from awkward moments in publicWhy marriage is about being on the same team (not keeping score)Whether you’re newlyweds, married for decades, or preparing for the journey ahead—this conversation will encourage, challenge, and (hopefully) make you laugh along the way.

    34 min

  5. 2025-08-25

    You're Doing it Wrong with Wes and Sarah

    What’s the real secret to staying happily married for 25 years? 💍 In this episode of You’re Doing It Wrong, Sarah and Wes get real about their “superpower” of staying married through the good, the bad, the beautiful, and the messy parts of life.We dive into:Why lasting love is a daily choice, not a one-time decisionHow faith, perspective, and eternal commitment shape our marriageLearning and growing at your own pace (and together!)Handling mistakes, miscommunication, and forgivenessRaising kids, driving them to school, and making time for one-on-one connectionWhat we’ve learned from mentors, different communities, and our own childrenWhy curiosity, growth, and humor keep marriage aliveThis episode also marks a big announcement 🎉 — we’re adding a brand-new podcast where we’ll teach and share the gospel of Jesus Christ together.If you’ve ever wondered how to keep a marriage strong through challenges like job changes, depression, health struggles, parenting, or just the everyday grind, this conversation will give you hope, perspective, and maybe even a laugh or two.✨ Remember: staying married is a superpower you can choose, build, and grow every day.🔹 SEO Tags / Keywordsmarriage podcast, christian marriage, staying married, marriage advice, relationship podcast, marriage superpower, faith and marriage, 25 years married, marriage growth, how to stay married, christian couple podcast, marriage communication, love and faith, marriage success🔹 Content-Rich Tagsmarriage podcast, staying married, marriage superpower, secrets to a lasting marriage, how to stay married, relationship advice podcast, christian marriage podcast, faith and marriage, marriage communication, 25 years married, marriage growth and commitment, marriage and family podcast, love and marriage lessons, strong marriage secrets, christian couple podcast, how to build a strong marriage, commitment in marriage, relationship growth podcast, how to make marriage last, faith based podcast, marriage struggles and success, christian marriage advice, married 25 years, relationship superpower, how to stay happily married, marriage communication skills, real marriage podcast, growing together in marriage, christian relationship growth, long term marriage secrets, marriage tips podcast

    46 min

  6. 2025-08-25

    You're Doing it Wrong with Wes and Sarah

    You're Doing it Wrong | Why Celebrating Marriage Matters | Powerful Convo with Jason & Dr. RhondaIn this episode of You’re Doing It Wrong, Sarah and Wes sit down with Jason and Dr. Rhonda, the inspiring couple behind For Knowledge is Power and the Florida Marriage Awards. Together, they dive into:Why celebrating marriage is so powerful (and why many couples hesitate to do it)How family, faith, and community can transform relationshipsBehind-the-scenes stories from the Marriage Awards weekendLessons on trust, perseverance, and honoring love through struggles and victoriesWhether you’re married, preparing for marriage, or simply curious about the role of faith and community in lasting relationships, this heartfelt conversation will leave you encouraged and inspired.👉 Don’t forget to subscribe for more real, raw, and sometimes funny conversations about love, connection, and what it really looks like to build a life together.🕒 Timestamps0:00 Intro – Welcome to You’re Doing It Wrong1:45 Meet our guests: Jason & Dr. Rhonda6:30 The story behind the Florida Marriage Awards12:40 Why celebrating marriage publicly is so rare19:55 Building strong families and communities27:15 Surprising lessons from honoring marriages36:20 The role of faith when life feels uncertain45:10 What Sarah & Wes learned from the Marriage Awards52:40 The importance of real, honest conversations1:02:15 The power of community & connection1:12:40 Takeaways: “Therefore, what?”1:18:00 Closing thoughts & love for our guests🔑 SEO TagsMarriage podcast, You’re Doing It Wrong, Sarah and Wes Verhoef, Jason and Dr Rhonda, Florida Marriage Awards, For Knowledge is Power, Christian marriage, marriage community, celebrating marriage, strong families, faith and relationships, lasting love, marriage struggles, marriage encouragement, Christian couples podcast, marriage growth, real marriage stories🔑 Expanded SEO Tagsmarriage podcast, christian marriage podcast, marriage encouragement, celebrate marriage, marriage awards florida, florida marriage awards, for knowledge is power, Jason and Dr Rhonda, Sarah Verhoef, Wes Verhoef, you’re doing it wrong podcast, stronger than you think podcast, real marriage stories, marriage struggles and victories, marriage and faith, christian couples, family community, building strong families, power of love and faith, marriage growth podcast, lasting love stories, marriage inspiration, christian relationship podcast, how to build a strong marriage, celebrating love, marriage advice for couples, christian marriage advice, relationship encouragement, god in marriage, christian family podcast, faith based marriage, couple interview podcast, marriage encouragement 2025, christian marriage testimony, florida couples community, marriage and community building, real talk about marriage, marriage authenticity, behind the scenes marriage awards, how to trust god in marriage, honoring love stories, family and faith podcast🔥 Hashtags for Marriage & Faith Content#MarriageMatters #CelebrateMarriage #ChristianMarriage #MarriageGoals #FaithAndFamily #MarriageCommunity #MarriageAwards #LoveAndFaith #MarriageEncouragement #MarriagePodcast💍 Relationship & Love Hashtags#LoveThatLasts #StrongMarriage #LoveAndMarriage #CoupleGoals #MarriageLife #ForeverUs #MarriageInspiration #MarriageSupport #HealthyRelationships #MarriageJourney🙏 Faith & Inspiration Hashtags#FaithInMarriage #FaithBasedMarriage #TrustGod #ChristianCouples #GodCenteredMarriage #FaithAndLove #MarriageAndFaith #FaithInAction #ChristianPodcast #MarriageTestimony🎙 Podcast & Content Hashtags#PodcastEpisode #NewPodcast #MarriagePodcast #CouplesPodcast #RelationshipPodcast #PodcastCommunity #PodcastConversations #RealTalkPodcast #MarriageTalk #PodcastLife

    1h 5m

  7. 2025-08-25

    #20 You're Doing it Wrong with Wes and Sarah

    How We Stayed Married 25 Years Without Constant Fighting | You're Doing It Wrong Podcast25 Years. No Fights?Here’s the Truth…Almost 25 years of marriage — and yes, we’ve done a lot wrong.In this episode of You’re Doing It Wrong, Sarah and Wes pull back the curtain on what it really takes to make a relationship last through the good, the bad, and the “what were we thinking” moments.We talk about:How disagreements have evolved over the yearsCommunication styles that work (and the ones that don’t)Parenting differences & finding “our normal”Why moving away from family early in marriage can helpHow to be a safe place for your partner to speak honestlyLaugh-out-loud moments from our real life (yes, even furniture rearranging)Whether you’ve been married for decades or you’re just starting out, these stories and tips will help you connect, communicate, and keep laughing together.🎙 Listen to more episodes: [link to your podcast playlist]📩 Work with Sarah: [link to your website/contact page]💌 Subscribe for new episodes every week!Keywords: marriage advice, relationship communication, long term marriage tips, how to avoid fights, relationship humor, podcast marriage, marriage podcast, communication in marriage, relationship growth, 25 years marriedChapters:00:00 Intro – 25 years (almost!) of marriage 02:10 Pulling back the curtain on the good, bad & funny 05:15 Rearranging furniture – who really wanted it? 08:50 Why we’re grateful for our listeners & comments 13:20 What happens when we don’t agree 16:40 How disagreements looked in our early years 22:00 Personality types & how they play out in marriage 28:35 Parenting differences & “our normal” 34:15 Why moving away from family can help early marriage 38:50 Our no-secrets approach to trust & transparency 45:00 Processing differently – quick vs. slow communicators 50:10 Why tone matters more than you think 54:20 Asking “How are you?” and meaning it 58:00 Wrapping up: be a safe place for your spouse 1:02:30 Furniture rearranging reveal – who did it? 1:05:00 Final thoughts & next week’s guest revealmarriage advice relationship tips communication in marriage how to avoid fights in marriage relationship humor long term relationship advice how to stay married 25 years married marriage podcast you're doing it wrong podcast relationship communication tips funny marriage stories marriage struggles and solutions marriage without fighting how to handle disagreements in marriage relationship growth marriage and parenting relationship trust and transparency marriage goals relationship podcast for coupleshow to communicate better in marriage how to handle disagreements without fighting funny marriage podcast episodes marriage tips from couples married over 20 years how to keep your marriage strong and healthy relationship advice for married couples how to talk about problems with your spouse what makes a marriage last 25 years how to deal with different parenting styles relationship podcast for married couples how to be a safe place for your spouse funny real life marriage stories marriage advice for newlyweds from long term couples how to avoid resentment in a relationship ways to grow closer to your partner how to communicate without arguing tips for resolving conflicts in marriage keeping love alive after 20 years what healthy communication looks like in marriage how to keep laughing together in marriage

    38 min

  8. 2025-08-25

    #19 You're Doing it Wrong with Wes and Sarah

    You're Doing It Wrong (But Together): 25 Years of Marriage, Mistakes & Showing Up AnywayMarried almost 25 years, still doing it wrong—together. 😂 In this episode, Sarah & Wes pull back the curtain on real marriage: tech chaos on air, a week apart that revealed how much they do for each other, why “always date your spouse” still matters, raising kids into marriages of their own, giving vs. receiving, and the small acts that keep a big love running. Plus: Sarah’s “walkie-talkies” origin story, and Wes’ new mini-podcast on navigating prostate cancer. 💬❤️What you’ll hear:Real talk on roles, teamwork, and mental loadHow small, consistent kindness beats grand gesturesCommunicating across different upbringingsBeing included as parents when kids marryGrowth, humor, and choosing “us” dailySubscribe for more unfiltered conversations about marriage, family, and figuring it out in public. 🥂Chapters Cold open & mic mayhem 🎙️— Intro: who we are & what this show is— Tech fixes (live!)— A week apart: travel vs. home base— What Sarah actually does (healing, bodywork, energy)— The Walkie-Talkies origin story— Little things, big love: habits that matter— “Always date your spouse” & the 100% rule— Parenting adult kids & in-law dynamics— Giving vs. receiving (and learning to accept help)— Household systems & mental load— Marriage celebration nomination (vote!)— Wes’ prostate-cancer podcast teaser— What we learned today + sign-offKeywordsmarriage podcast, real marriage talk, relationship advice, long term relationships, dating your spouse, mental load, teamwork in marriage, parenting adults, in laws, communication, humor, walkie talkies, prostate cancer journey, you’re doing it wrong podcastHashtags#Marriage #RealTalk #RelationshipAdvice #Family #Communication #PodcastPinned commentThanks for hanging out with us! 💛 What’s ONE small thing your partner does that makes you feel loved? Tell us below.▶️ Wes’s prostate-cancer series teaser coming soon▶️ Follow Sarah’s daily Walkie-Talkies on IG: @sarahinoil5

    44 min
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Welcome to You're Doing It Wrong — the raw, real, and refreshingly honest podcast where Wes and Sarah, married for over 25 years, dive into what it really takes to build a lasting relationship. From the awkward beginnings to deep healing, epic fights to unforgettable laughs, we’re sharing the ups, the downs, and everything in between. No fluff. No filters. Just real-life stories, hard-earned wisdom, and powerful lessons from two people who’ve done a lot of things “wrong” — and somehow still found a way to grow deeper in love. Whether you're dating, newly married, in a long-term relationship, or figuring it all out, this is the relationship podcast you didn’t know you needed. Get ready to feel seen, laugh out loud, and maybe even rethink what love means. Let's heal, grow, and connect — together.

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