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2024-09-23

Andrew Huberman: How to Increase Your Dopamine by 60% & Optimize Your Brain’s Response to Stress

How do you usually handle stress in your life? Have you ever tried anything to boost your dopamine levels? Today, Jay welcomes back Dr. Andrew Huberman, a neuroscientist and professor at Stanford University, known for his insightful work on brain development, neuroplasticity, and the intricate connection between the brain and body. Together, they discuss the neuroscience of friendship, exploring how our deep-rooted need for safety and acceptance plays a pivotal role in our social interactions. They unravel the paradox of modern society, where people feel emotionally distant despite increasing online connections and followers. Dr. Huberman highlights how our brain circuitry, which governs social bonding and connectedness, is tightly linked to our need for predictability and safety. He breaks down how these fundamental needs influence our relationships, both in early development and throughout adulthood, and how understanding these mechanisms can help combat the loneliness epidemic many experience today. Jay and Andrew discuss practical tools like sending a simple daily “good morning” text, which may seem trivial but has profound implications for maintaining connection and combating feelings of isolation. They also explore the value of doing hard things, such as cold plunges and structured routines, which anchor our physiology and create a sense of predictability, crucial for mental resilience and creativity. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Build Predictability in Relationships How to Activate Bonding Circuits in the Brain How to Build Trust Through Consistency How to Combat Loneliness with Regular Check-Ins How to Ask Meaningful Questions to Deepen Relationships How to Build a Reliable Circle of Friends How to Balance Stress with Breathing Techniques By embracing small yet powerful habits, we not only improve our own lives but also create a ripple effect of positive connection in the lives of those around us. Now is the time to prioritize real, human connection—and in doing so, enrich every aspect of your life. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 04:06 Safety and Acceptance 19:12 Healthy Friendships 29:39 Predictability 38:15 Breathing Protocol 51:32 Body Still, Mind Active 01:02:15 Tenacity and Willpower 01:13:06 Walls of Adrenaline 01:18:21 Limiting Cynicism 01:24:54 You Can’t Control Everything 01:34:29 The Human Narrative 01:43:15 Be Yourself Episode Resources: Andrew Huberman | Website Andrew Huberman | Instagram Andrew Huberman | Facebook Andrew Huberman | TikTok Andrew Huberman | YouTube Andrew Huberman | LinkedIn Protocols: An Operating Manual for the Human Body See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

1h 49m
JAN 6

Mel Robbins: How to Use the ‘Let Them Theory’ (A Life Changing Mindset Hack That 15 Million People Can’t Stop Talking About)

Have you ever let someone just be themselves? How do you remind yourself what’s in your control? Today, Jay sits down with best-selling author and motivational speaker Mel Robbins to discuss her revolutionary “Let Them Theory.” Mel introduces a powerful mindset tool designed to help listeners take control of their thoughts, actions, and emotions while letting go of what they cannot control. This conversation dives into the heart of personal growth, resilience, and building a life centered on peace and purpose. Mel begins by explaining the core of the “Let Them Theory,” which is about recognizing the limits of control. She emphasizes the importance of letting others be who they are, accepting situations as they unfold, and redirecting focus to what’s within your power. Through vivid examples, Mel demonstrates how this approach can reduce stress, strengthen relationships, and reclaim wasted energy. Jay and Mel also explore the emotional weight of unmet expectations and the difference between “Let It Go” and “Let Them.” Mel shares how this subtle shift in mindset fosters empowerment rather than passivity. They also discuss the complexities of adult friendships and how they evolve over time. Mel introduces the three pillars of adult friendship—proximity, timing, and energy—and explains how these factors influence the ebb and flow of connections. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Identify What You Can Control How to Handle Stressful Situations at Work How to Set Boundaries with Difficult People How to Let Go of Unmet Expectations How to Manage Toxic Relationships Effectively How to Build Meaningful Adult Friendships How to Reclaim Energy Wasted on Others Remember, you don’t need to have it all figured out. Start small. Say "let them" to release what’s draining you and "let me" to reclaim your energy and choices. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Visit https://jayshettyshop.com - 100% of Proceeds are donated to National Alliance on Mental Illness. NAMI is the nation’s largest grassroots mental health organization dedicated to building better lives for the millions of Americans affected by mental illness. What We Discuss: 01:47 What is the “Let Them” Theory 04:40 The Significant Difference Between “Let Them” and “Let Me” 06:49 Stop Obsessing Over Things You Can’t Control 14:03 People Only Change if They Want to 21:59 How Do You Let Difficult People Be 26:31 Learn to Value Your Time and Energy 35:10 Two Things that Truly Define Love 42:12 Let People Gossip About It 46:34 Don’t Expect Too Much From Others 58:22 You Aren’t Unlovable, Let Them 01:01:12 Let Them Lie to You, It’s Their Truth 01:04:17 Why is Adult Friendship Difficult? 01:12:35 The Hardest Way to Practice the “Let Them” Theory Episode Resources: Mel Robbins | Website Mel Robbins | Instagram Mel Robbins | YouTube Mel Robbins | TikTok The Mel Robbins Podcast The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can’t Stop Talking About See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

1h 25m
JUL 7

Dr. Orna Gurlanik: Struggling to Communicate With Your Partner? THIS One Habit Could Slowly Be Destroying Your Relationship! (Here’s How to Catch It Before It’s Too Late!)

Do you ever feel like you're having the same fight over and over again? Why is it so hard to be in a relationship with someone who is different from you? Today, Jay sits down with Dr. Orna Guralnik — the world-renowned clinical psychologist, psychoanalyst, and lead therapist on the hit series Couples Therapy. Known for helping couples navigate the complexities of intimacy, conflict, and emotional patterns, Orna shares the real reason relationships break down — and what it actually takes to build something that lasts. Jay and Orna explore why couples often blame communication as the root of all their problems, when what’s really breaking them down runs much deeper. They explore how differences in values, backgrounds, and even childhood wounds create invisible barriers in love—and how we often try to solve them by changing the other person instead of turning inward. Orna shares how blame, defensiveness, and scorekeeping keep us stuck in toxic patterns, and what it looks like to show up with more honesty, humility, and curiosity. Together Jay and Orna unpack the rise of therapy language online—terms like “gaslighting” and “narcissist”—and how misusing them can shut down the kind of open dialogue relationships truly need. They also explore how issues around money, time, and intimacy often point to deeper struggles with power, identity, and emotional safety. In this interview, you’ll learn: How to Stop Trying to “Fix” Your Partner How to Recognize the Real Issue Beneath the Argument How to Make Conflict a Source of Connection How to Move from Blame to Responsibility How to Stay Grounded When Your Values Clash How to Build a Relationship That Grows with You Real love doesn’t ask us to become someone else — it asks us to grow into our most honest, grounded self. This episode is a reminder that healthy relationships aren’t about avoiding differences, but about learning how to navigate them with compassion. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:06 Why Couples Really Fight: The Common Core Conflicts 04:02 Facing “Otherness”: What Happens When Your Partner Is Different 06:07 Embracing Differences Without Losing Yourself 10:21 Building a Partnership of Equals During Conflict 16:48 Holding On to Your Value in a Relationship 19:39 Conflicting Loyalties: When Family and Love Collide 25:18 The Art of Working Through Relationship Struggles 30:01 Digging Deeper: Finding the Root of Your Disagreements 33:26 Escaping the Blame Trap in Your Relationship 37:24 Self-Centeredness vs. Shared Growth 43:07 Creating Emotional Safety for Your Partner 49:57 Letting Love In: Are You Truly Ready for Partnership? 55:33 How Men and Women Tend to Navigate Relationships Differently 57:02 Why It’s So Hard for Men to Open Up Emotionally 01:00:59 Listen Closely—People Reveal More Than You Think 01:03:20 When Parental Baggage Shapes Your Relationship 01:06:57 Signs of a Strong and Healthy Relationship 01:13:35 What Really Makes Someone a Bad Partner? 01:18:35 Are You in Love with a Narcissist? 01:22:12 The Money Struggles Behind Relationship Conflict 01:28:46 Intimacy and Desire: What Keeps Love Alive 01:33:25 Orna on Final Five Episode Resources: Orna Guralnik | Website Orna Guralnik | Linkedin Orna Guralnik | Instagram Orna Guralnik | Tiktok See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

1h 43m
2023-05-29

Joe Dispenza ON: Why Stress and Overthinking Negatively Impacts Your Brain and Heart & How to Change Your Habits on Autopilot

Today, I am sitting down with Dr. Joe Dispenza to talk about the connection between our thoughts and our emotions. Joe explains the importance of paying attention to the things that will help us grow emotionally and mentally, the power of the brain and how it can trap us in the past if we allow it to, and how knowing proper breathwork can significantly help us relieve stress and overcome anxious thoughts. Joe Dispenza is an author, speaker, and researcher known for his work in the fields of neuroscience, epigenetics, and quantum physics. He is particularly recognized for his teachings on the mind-body connection and the potential for individuals to transform their lives through the power of their thoughts and emotions. Joe regularly conducts workshops and seminars worldwide, where he combines scientific knowledge, meditation practices, and practical exercises to help individuals tap into their potential and create a more fulfilling life. His teachings emphasize the idea that by changing our thoughts and emotions, we can create new neural pathways in the brain and ultimately transform our reality. You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 03:01 Why are repeating thoughts the most dangerous, and the most beneficial thoughts? 07:05 Change your thought patterns by becoming conscious of unconscious thoughts 15:27 “Where you place your attention is where you place your energy.” 18:35 Why our emotions are a record of the past 20:41 Why are we in a habits crisis? How do we change our habits? 26:49 The 3 important elements in your life that you should focus on when you’re stressed 35:50 What is meditation and can you start practicing it? 40:25 How our emotions can convince our body to change significantly 45:34 How does breathwork impact our heart rate variability? 52:21 What happens when you get emotionally stuck in the past? 01:01:45 “What is it about me that I still have to change in order to heal?” 01:08:21 The difference between meditation with and without breathwork 01:11:32 The basic practices to help build a community for our survival Episode Resources Joe Dispenza | Website Joe Dispenza | YouTube Joe Dispenza | Twitter Joe Dispenza | Facebook Joe Dispenza | Instagram Want to be a Jay Shetty Certified Life Coach? Get the Digital Guide and Workbook from Jay Shetty https://jayshettypurpose.com/fb-getting-started-as-a-life-coach-podcast/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

1h 18m
2022-12-12

Dr. Ramani ON: How to Spot a Narcissist & 3 Signs of Gaslighting in Any Relationship

You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon. Today, I am talking to Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a licensed clinical psychologist in Los Angeles, CA, Professor Emerita of Psychology at California State University, Los Angeles, and the Founder and CEO of LUNA Education, Training & Consulting. She is an author of several books including Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship with a Narcissist, and “Don’t You Know Who I Am?”: How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility. The focus of Dr. Durvasula’s clinical, academic and consultative work is the etiology and impact of narcissism and high-conflict, entitled, antagonistic personality styles on human relationships, mental health, and societal expectations. Dr. Ramani shares her studies about narcissism and our narcissistic tendencies. She and I talk about how our personalities define how we act with people and around people, why narcissists are resistant to change and to how deal with one, the truth about gaslighting and why it is so unhealthy to the person at the receiving end, and why we shouldn't misplace our hopes in others and instead place it on ourselves. What We Discuss: 00:00:00 Intro00:03:11 When did narcissism become a study of focus?00:07:06 Narcissism is a very quiet condition00:12:45 Awareness and discomfort00:19:37 How do people end up with a narcissistic personality?00:26:25 Narcissists can be very attractive00:33:26 The concept of multiple truths00:36:40 Love bombing00:41:08 The real meaning of gaslighting00:47:05 Dealing with a gaslighter00:53:35 “I can change this person.”01:00:07 Ultimate healing from a narcissistic relationship01:04:31 Setting healthy boundaries01:06:49 Adopting narcissistic patterns to be able to fight back01:09:20 Misplaced hopeEpisode Resources Dr. Ramani Durvasula | WebsiteDr. Ramani Durvasula | YouTubeDr. Ramani Durvasula | TwitterDr. Ramani Durvasula | InstagramDr. Ramani Durvasula | FacebookNavigating Narcissism with Dr. RamaniWant to be a Jay Shetty Certified Life Coach? Get the Digital Guide and Workbook from Jay Shetty https://jayshettypurpose.com/fb-getting-started-as-a-life-coach-podcast/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

1h 16m
2024-01-15

Esther Perel: The #1 Secret to Know if Your Chemistry Will Last & Why You’re Addicted to Your Ex

Do you want to know the secret to know if your chemistry will last? Are you wondering why you can't move on from your ex? If you have questions about love and relationships, this episode is for you. Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is back. Esther is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Esther’s TED Talks have garnered more than 40 million views and her bestselling books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, are global phenomena. Esther is also the host of the hit podcast Where Should We Begin? which is available on Apple Podcasts. If you've ever wondered when a relationship is worth saving or why we grieve after a breakup, Esther has incredible insights to share that you can apply to your own relationship. Let's discover the power of accountability in relationships and how it can trigger positive change. We discuss the art of turning conflict into connection. Also, we uncover the negative effects of losing curiosity and how it impacts our connections. The conversation also fearlessly tackles the topics of betrayal, lack of trust, and the intersection of relationships, technology, and mental health. Get ready for a fascinating exploration of the narratives that shape our relationships, the dynamics between rationalists and romantics, and what truly makes a real relationship. In this interview, you’ll learn: How to turn conflicts into genuine connection Why relationships often fail How to save your correct relationship What to do after a breakup How to boost trust and confidence in a relationship It is truly a thought-provoking and heartfelt journey into the essence of human connection. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Thank you to Soho Works 10 Jay in Dumbo for hosting us for this episode. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:12 When is a Relationship Worth Saving? 03:51 Why Do We Grieve After a Breakup? 05:14 Accountability in Relationships Can Trigger Change 10:00 How to Turn Conflict Into Connection 14:10 People Try to Overcome Fear by Gaining Control 17:14 The Negative Effects of the Loss of Curiosity 22:09 Blaming the Other Doesn’t Solve Anything 27:21 How to Make Your Partner Feel Important 29:10 Other Mediums to Express What You’re Unable to Say 36:01 Do New Things Together 38:08 There are Lingering Feelings that Stays Even After Breakup 41:53 We All Fear Betrayal and Lack of Trust 43:35 How to Value and Protect Your Relationship 50:50 The Real Story Before and After Betrayal 55:33 The Intersection of Relationships, Technology, and Mental Health 01:01:50 The False Relationship Narrative that Failed us 01:04:22 The Rationalists and the Romantics 01:06:23 What Makes for a Real Relationship? 01:10:04 Diversifying Long-Term Relationships 01:15:55 Your Partner’s Opinion Matters 01:21:11 The Real Definition of Self Confidence 01:24:59 We Are Drawn to People We Don’t Want to Become 01:28:03 Where Should We Begin A Game of Stories with Esther Perel Episode Resources: Esther Perel | Website Esther Perel | Twitter Esther Perel | Instagram Esther Perel | YouTube Esther Perel | Facebook Esther Perel | Books Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

1h 34m
2022-10-24

Dr. Gabor Maté ON: Understanding Your Trauma & How to Heal Emotional Wounds to Start Moving On From the Past Today

You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon. Today, I talk to Dr. Gabor Maté. A celebrated speaker and bestselling author, Dr. Gabor Maté is highly sought after for his expertise on a range of topics, such as addiction, stress, and childhood development. Dr. Maté has written several bestselling books, including the award-winning In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction; When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress; and Scattered Minds: The Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder. He is also the co-author of Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers. His works have been published internationally in more than thirty languages. Dr. Maté generously shares his deep understanding of childhood trauma, vulnerability, grief, and emotional distress. He explains what real trauma is and how time doesn’t necessarily lead to healing, how vulnerability is ingrained in us since we are young and the importance of these formative years to mold our emotional health, and the societal expectations we always try to meet but have never truly given us real fulfillment. We also exchange thoughts on dealing with grief, how we struggle to identify with the people we look up to, and how childhood experience varies for every child even when they are raised in a similar environment. Trauma is a wound that has not fully healed which can be triggered at any point in our life so it matters that we are able to find a common ground and stay firm in what can give us healing, emotional stability, and happiness. What We Discuss: 00:00:00 Intro00:03:12 How do you define trauma?00:06:32 How is healing defined?00:08:45 Time itself does not heal emotional wounds00:11:38 We are all born vulnerable00:13:55 The inherent expectations we all have00:20:00 The societal standards we try to live up to00:25:15 It’s not possible to love kids too much00:29:35 Grief is essential for life00:32:19 When the past dominates the present reactions00:35:16 There is no healthy identification00:42:11 Why are we set on things staying the same00:44:38 No two children have the same childhood00:50:19 The difference between loneliness and being alone00:53:54 How do you see human nature?01:02:24 Suffering has to be acknowledged01:06:27 Getting closure and start moving on01:10:04 Spirituality becomes commoditized01:15:56 Dr. Maté on Final Five:Episode Resources Gabor Maté | WebsiteGabor Maté | InstagramGabor Maté | TwitterGabor Maté | BooksThe Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic CultureDo you want to meditate daily with me? Go to go.calm.com/onpurpose to get 40% off a Calm Premium Membership. Experience the Daily Jay. Only on Calm Want to be a Jay Shetty Certified Life Coach? Get the Digital Guide and Workbook from Jay Shetty https://jayshettypurpose.com/fb-getting-started-as-a-life-coach-podcast/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

1h 21m
2021-11-08

Robert Greene ON: The Daily Laws of Mastery, Power, and Human Nature & How to Harness Your Dark Side For Good

Robert Greene sits down with Jay Shetty to talk about our inner power. How we react to situations, the emotions we pour in, and the amount of control we have over our reactions defines how much power we have over ourselves. When you’re out of control and not in tune with your reality, you become toxic and this toxicity feeds your greed which eventually destroys that raw power within you. Robert is the author of the New York Times bestsellers The 48 Laws of Power, The Art of Seduction, The 33 Strategies of War, The 50th Law, and Mastery. In his book, The Laws of Human Nature, he turns to the most important subject of all – understanding people’s drives and motivations, even when they are unconscious of them themselves. Achieve success in every area of your life with Jay Shetty’s Genius Community. Join over 10,000 members taking their holistic well-being to the next level today, at https://shetty.cc/OnPurposeGenius What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro02:47 Figuring people out is a form of power07:01 The misconception of having power10:55 Nobody thinks of power in a positive sense16:32 The person who talks less usually has the most influence20:24 The people without self control are often greedy23:51 Learn the art of insinuation and persuasion27:14 What does it mean to plan the end?36:51 How do you master the art of timing?42:25 The story of the checkered shirt47:46 Having empathy for others52:07 Zen Buddhism meditation55:29 What gets you what you want is your daily habits58:32 The most toxic people are of narcissistic characteristics01:08:15 It doesn’t to be a little bit wary of someone01:11:40 Inability to adapt to circumstances destroy our own power01:16:49 With success, you become conservative01:19:40 People’s mind is locked in the conventional view of the world01:25:00 Robert on Final Five Like this show? Please leave us a review here - even one sentence helps! Post a screenshot of you listening on Instagram & tag us so we can thank you personally! Episode Resources: Robert Greene | WebsiteRobert Greene | TwitterRobert Greene | BooksRobert Greene | InstagramSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

1h 29m