There is a kind of exhaustion that does not come from doing one more load of laundry or packing one more lunch – it comes from being the person who knows everything that needs to happen before anyone else even thinks to ask. In this episode, I’m joined by Paige Connell, known online as @SheIsAPaigeTurner, for a conversation about the part of the mental load that feels the most frustrating to name out loud: why so many women are expected to manage the home, explain the standards, teach their partners how to participate, and then somehow not feel resentful about it. We talk about default parenting, invisible labor, willing partners, outsourcing, the difference between helping and owning, and what it actually takes to stop being the project manager of your family. Paige Connell is a content creator, writer, speaker, consultant, podcaster, and mom of four. Online, she is known as @SheIsAPaigeTurner, where she creates content about the mental load, equitable partnerships, motherhood, and what it means to build a home where both partners truly participate. Connect with Paige: IGTikTokWebsitePodcastsheisapaigeturner@select.co Resources mentioned: Paige’s Free Guide to the Mental Load ConversationStanford University study on divorce initiation In this episode, we cover: What the mental load looks like when it turns into resentmentWhy “just tell me what to do” still keeps women in chargeThe difference between a partner helping and a partner owning the workHow women end up becoming the default parent without ever agreeing to itWhy teaching a partner can feel unfair, even when the partner is willingHow to know whether you have a willing partner or just a passive oneWhy outsourcing buys back time but does not erase the mental loadThe role of standards, safety, research, and invisible decision-makingHow to talk about the workload before you are already angryWhat our children learn when equity is modeled, not just talked aboutHosted by Chancé Hindir-Lane, Selfish Parenting is the honest, empowering podcast that challenges the myth of self-sacrifice in motherhood. Each episode explores identity, partnership, and the balance between nurturing your family and yourself. Connect with Me: InstagramShop MyLTKYouTube - ChancèYouTube - Selfish ParentingTikTok
